The world sometimes dictates strict rules of life to women: earn money, negotiate, defend themselves and bear responsibility at work and at home, while still managing to raise children, walk the dog and cook vegetable stew on weekends.
How, in these circumstances, can one preserve women’s softness and flexibility, learn to be more tolerant and kinder, and sometimes give the reins into the hands of the men we love? Why is it useful to chat with your friends about manicures, take a vow of silence and improve your relationship with your mother?
I will tell you why it is important to accept the Woman within you, how to develop femininity and sexuality, and what exercises to use for this.
Feminine energy: what is it like?
What kind of woman is she? After all, it’s clearly not only Aphrodite with her hair flowing and her dress blowing in the wind? Being a woman means being on friendly terms with yourself, loving life and the people around you, being able to create comfort and warmth in your home, taking care of your body and feelings, and enjoying motherhood.
On the other hand, it means being strong, ready to defend yourself and bear responsibility for your loved ones and relatives, without preventing a man from expressing himself.
To be a woman means to attract and experience the world through desires and pleasure.
It's not enough to just be sexy
One of my good friends, still recovering from a painful divorce, started an affair with a professional stripper.
Yes, she was really sexy. For months, old Tony had been in awe of such a passionate woman. I often met him in popular nightclubs, where he would watch Cindy perform and then enjoy her attention. But after some time, I found out that my friend was again looking for a girl, but for a serious relationship.
Tony admitted to me that his affair with the dancer was “the best and the worst at the same time.” Apparently Cindy's unhealthy lifestyle of sleepless nights, drugs, alcohol and strange encounters was starting to drive my poor friend crazy. In this relationship, passion, jealousy, excitement, fear and chaos were strangely mixed.
Tony liked the positives, but found it increasingly difficult to cope with the growing negatives of the relationship. The main reason for the breakup was that he could never bring Cindy to his parents' house and "meet Mommy." This means that he did not take this connection seriously.
I am sure that for a stripper, parting with my friend was by no means painless. After all, she was as sexy and attractive as a woman could be. But this relationship satisfied only one emotional need of my friend - excitement - and did not meet all the others.
They say that too good is also not good. If a partner is attracted to only one side, and besides, he is not able to offer anything more, over time such communication may become boring. The main secret of happy love is that the relationship combines stability and variety at the same time.
How to develop feminine energy: practical tips
Femininity is not just an outer shell. Loose hair, long dresses, fresh manicure and matching lipstick are good, but the core is completely different. It is in your sense of self. Agree, there are women who are elegant and attractive even in a wide sweatshirt, jeans and a ponytail. And there are those who are not helped by a dress from the latest collection, a clutch handbag and a luxurious hairstyle. Without a live look, the shell loses value.
How to develop femininity and sexuality within yourself so that these sensations do not depend on external circumstances?
Meet well-groomed friends
And relax over a glass of red semi-sweet, and share women’s secrets, and get enough of each other’s energy... Meetings with friends allow women to adopt each other’s useful qualities and behavior, notice sexual notes and bring them into their lives.
Conversations about lipstick colors, terry robes and famous food bloggers... Why not? Sometimes a conversation about nothing heals better than any psychologist!
Dance
Developing femininity through dance is a very good choice! Learning to express sexuality in your movements is a valuable skill for both seducing men and developing your body. Thanks to dance practices, the feeling that the body is “wooden” and tight disappears, and a feeling of flexibility, pliability and plasticity appears. The movements are more relaxed, and with them the sense of self.
Experiment and focus on your feelings: what movements “turn me on” and make me feel sexy?
Take care of yourself
Make face and hair masks, go for manicures and massages, buy beautiful lingerie and accessories. Visit doctors regularly, get basic tests, and get an ultrasound. The feeling of health and fullness is directly related to femininity!
Don’t forget about the “internal” content: watch good films, read books, listen to lectures and take master classes on personal development.
Make time for yourself
Excessive social activity, continuous communication and work issues... If you spin in this whirlpool, you can lose energy and feel like a broken vase, and not a fulfilled woman.
So, take a mini-vacation from time to time. You don't have to go to the Maldives... Go to the spa, take a walk in nature, turn off your phone, try practicing a vow of silence and just be alone with yourself.
It is in moments without fuss that feminine nature awakens!
How to become a more feminine and well-groomed girl
It is impossible to become feminine without taking care of grooming. How to achieve it?
- Daily shower
. Is this point surprising? Many women neglect him. Maintain personal hygiene at all times. Choose suitable shower products - shampoo, gel, soap. It is important that they have a pleasant, unobtrusive aroma. - Skin care
. Remember about moisturizer and body lotion. Smooth, pleasant to the touch skin is associated with femininity. Apply care products to your body and face. Choose creams according to your skin type. There is no point in using a cream that leaves your skin peeling or causing acne - choose the right products. - Nail care
. Many women ignore nail care, believing that men do not pay attention to it. This is mistake. The interlocutor pays attention to your hands, just as you pay attention to him. Fingers should be well-groomed. This doesn't mean you should grow your nails long and paint them a bright color. They can be short and colorless - a clear varnish or a good manicure set is enough. Manicure is not about bright colors, but about well-groomed nails. Try to match your nail polish to your entire look. Clear varnish is often a safe bet. - Hair Styling
. Pay attention to this daily. Comb your hair thoroughly and massage your scalp with a massage brush for better hair growth. Remember about styling. They don't have to be fancy - that's even unnecessary. Go for simple yet elegant hairstyles. Forget about bright elastic bands and hair clips if you have already graduated from school. Do you notice by the end of the day that your hair becomes greasy at the roots? You cannot ignore untidiness - if necessary, wash your hair every day, use dry shampoo. The oiliness of the roots is noticeable to you, which means it is also noticeable to those around you. - Experiment with hairstyles
: braids, ponytails, elegant buns. This will help you become more feminine and well-groomed. Don't know how to do hair? Videos on the Internet will help you. - Remember about perfume, deodorant
. An important point for a person who wants to become feminine. A pleasant, alluring, unobtrusive smell can attract a man to you, even if his back is to you. You think you don't need it and you smell good without it. This is often the opinion of people who do not feel their smell (this is natural), or who are embarrassed to tell about it. - Deodorant must be used daily; you can choose a fragrance-free option
. It's minimum. It would be a good idea to choose a perfume that others will associate with you. Choose a pleasant and unobtrusive scent. Go to the store and “get to know” different scents. An important rule: perfume cannot be a substitute for soul; with this approach, disaster awaits you - do not think that others will not notice your “trick”. Perfume is applied exclusively to clean body or clothing in small quantities. How to apply? On pulse points: wrists, neck, area behind the ears. The subtle aroma of perfume should be noticeable to the interlocutor only when he is directly next to you. Surely, you have heard the rule: if you smell a pronounced aroma of perfume on yourself in the evening, then others have already managed to suffocate. - Makeup
. Many women want to be “natural”, so they ignore decorative cosmetics. This is not always a plus. A little makeup is enough to significantly improve your appearance. In addition, decorative cosmetics have a protective function. If you have expressionless eyebrows, eyelashes, or uneven complexion, then at least a light CC cream, mascara and eyebrow pencil will save the situation. Practice applying light, weightless makeup. If you are ready to go beyond the listed cosmetic set, then choose a shade of blush, eye shadow and lipstick that suits your color type. If you do not want to look like a clown or evoke other undesirable associations, maintain moderation in applying cosmetics. - Language of the body
. Freeze right now! Evaluate your posture from the outside? Can we call her graceful, elegant, feminine? It is important to maintain posture and grace. A woman who walks with a straight back, does not slouch, does not mince when walking, does not keep her hands in her pockets, does not constantly look at the floor, makes an appropriate impression. Do you know how to present yourself correctly, move beautifully, or are you constrained and constrained? - Learn to control your own body and attract men with grace
. Is the lifeless statue about you? Give up this image! Gesture, forget about static. Work on your gait and your usual postures, analyze how you look from the outside.
Develop femininity with your beloved man
For a man, a woman is the personification of softness, tenderness, kindness and care. And these qualities are manifested in everything: from gestures and voice to actions and views. But it is impossible to express yourself as a woman if you do not accept the masculinity of your partner. Don't try to play his role.
Let him open a can of food, choose a restaurant for dinner, pay for your dress, solve problems with buying a closet.
Sexuality has nothing to do with sex
Actually it does, but sex is only a small part of sexuality. Firstly, sexuality is not about a way to attract a man, but about an internal state in general.
Human sexuality is based on libido. What it is?
It follows from this that a sexual person, first of all, enjoys himself and his life. Even if there is no sex in it.
Secondly, your sexuality is felt not only by men, but by everyone around you.
Thirdly, sexuality is a way of life, it is something that you feel every minute, and not just at certain moments.
Thus, you will become sexy if you love yourself, enjoy yourself and enjoy life. How to achieve this?
"Mom" technique
The first woman you meet in the world is your mother. She shows care and love, sets an example of attitude towards men and life, gives a feeling of self-confidence and trust in the world.
But what if the mother was busy: she worked two jobs, did household chores, raised three children, did not respect men?... Perhaps she did not have the time and energy to pass on to her daughter the skills to be soft, flexible, feminine, sexy. This does not mean that you need to be angry with your mother for leaving such a burden and layer to work on yourself.
The first step to gain the skills of womanhood is to accept your mother. With its shortcomings, fears, shortcomings. Then you will be able to let in the energy of love that connects you with Rod
Relationship test with mother
Answer the questions “yes” or “no”:
- Do you fully accept and love your body?
- Do you enjoy life and know what you want?
- Do you easily realize your desires?
- Are you healthy on the female side?
- Do you feel like a queen in a relationship with a man?
If you answered “Yes” to all the questions, then I am glad to congratulate you, wish you happiness and ask you to share your secrets of femininity.
If you can’t answer all the questions in the affirmative, then there is something to work on. Start with your relationship with your mother and feminine gender. How? Through meditation and exercise. If mom is alive, improve the quality of communication, talk about intimate topics, hug her more and take care of her. You can ask about her personal experience, share your worries and fears, and ask for advice.
If your mother is no longer alive, ask her forgiveness for all conscious and unconscious grievances and disappointments, forgive her and yourself for not being able to build a harmonious relationship.
Mom gave you life, the opportunity to visit this world, develop and express yourself. Say thank you to the most valuable woman in your life!
How to become a nice girl: appearance and character
What features of appearance and character characterize a feminine girl.
Let's consider these features in separate paragraphs
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- Clothes that suit you
. Buy clothes that fit you well. If you're tall, you don't have to put up with sweaters whose sleeves are short, constantly pulling them up to your wrists. And if it’s low, don’t wear jeans that drag slightly on the ground. That is, choose clothes in accordance with your height and figure. For example, if you know that you have several folds in the waist area or a tummy that is seriously annoying you, then do not choose tight dresses. The point is not even that the thing will emphasize these features and make a negative impression. It is possible that a man will not pay attention to the “flaws”, but he will probably notice your gloomy mood or lack of self-confidence. Don't wear something that doesn't make you feel 100 percent attractive. - The character of a feminine girl contains restraint, accuracy, and self-discipline
. Keep a diary that contains plans for the week or month, adjust it regularly, and stay organized. - Feminine girls are characterized by politeness and friendliness
. Treat the people you interact with kindly. Don’t take out your bad mood or dissatisfaction on them. - Eliminate swear words or rude, hysterical intonations from your conversation
. They don't make you look good.
Discover the beauty within you
I bring to your attention some tips on how to become sexier in the eyes of men. Don't forget that sexuality is not just external attractiveness, but rather internal confidence and the ability to present yourself from the best side. Look through this list and determine what you can add to your look. Remember that the “sexual ingredients” that awaken initial desire in men are also necessary to revive their fading interest.
- Expand your horizons.
- Take care of your skin using various cosmetics.
- Choose a hairstyle that is fashionable and attractive for men.
- Perform regular procedures to improve skin condition.
- Be proud of your accomplishments and who you have become.
- Develop a healthy sense of humor.
- Be mysterious - keep your secrets.
- Learn to enjoy his touch more.
- Maintain a high level of personal hygiene.
- Perfect the art of kissing.
- Go to the cinema to watch romantic films.
- Learn to talk about intimate things.
- Enjoy a bubble bath, candles, scented oils and flowers.
- Buy sexy lingerie and sleep naked from time to time.
- Be aware of the difference between sexy and vulgar.
- A sexy body is a healthy body, so exercise, eat right and get enough sleep.
- Raise your health standards.
- Take good care of your teeth so that you won’t be ashamed to smile widely.
- Get rid of complexes in sex.
- Wear clothes made from soft, natural fabrics.
- Dress fashionably and emphasize your sexuality.
- Listen to music that makes you feel good.
- Look people in the eyes more often.
- Have clothes in your closet that make men wonder what's underneath.
- Buy clothes for sex games.
- Develop your ability to flirt through body language.
- Learn to dance so you can move with more grace.
- Avoid harsh manners, poses, and gestures.
You can't become attractive by neglecting self-care
My childhood friend is not alone in her delusions.
Many girls believe that if they have a problem body, skin, hair, nails, if their appearance has some flaws (often invented), then they can completely forget about taking care of themselves.
If you managed to get married, then in five years of marriage you can put on 20 kilograms, stop looking in the mirror and not try to improve your feminine attractiveness at all.
I am horrified by the phrase: “I’m already married, so I can eat what I want / stop watching my figure / don’t spend money on beauty salons, etc.”
And then, when the husband, tired of the unkempt elephant next to him, runs away to an attractive woman, these aunts begin to tear out their hair and curse everyone and everything for their unhappy lot.
Yes, share has absolutely nothing to do with it, you yourself are ruining your chances of personal happiness: instead of becoming attractive, you turn into a terrible thing that is simply impossible to love.
And there is no point in blaming nature, there is no point in hating other women.
Their attractiveness is the result of hard work, time and money. Who is stopping you from adhering to the basic commandments of self-care.
Let's talk about mistakes
Excessive efforts, obsession and loss of individuality are the main mistakes in the pursuit of attractiveness. It is also important to avoid:
- Manipulation. Attempts to please reveal an insecure personality, which is often used by manipulators and tyrants. As soon as psychological discomfort arises, communication should be stopped. It is almost impossible to convince or change toxic people, which is why it is dangerous to marry them.
- Excessive gullibility. This quality touches interlocutors, but rarely inspires respect. Openness and naivety attract toxic personalities and deceivers.
- Use of harmful beauty practices. Hunger strikes, figure-shaping drugs and other painful and dangerous procedures are an unjustified sacrifice. Women who restore their beauty after pregnancy especially often risk their health.
- Illusions. Inflated expectations and invented love can hurt and worsen self-esteem.
When trying to attract guys, it is important to appreciate your uniqueness and not overstep your own feelings. You can create personal 10 commandments for success, the goal of which is to achieve comfort, improve your health, become sociable and self-sufficient. Such profound changes will attract both lover and friends.
