Qualities of a man - bad and good character traits, what to cultivate in yourself

They say that appearances are deceiving.

I would add that the inner world of any person does not always tell the truth.

In any case, not all at once and not all of it.

Sometimes it takes years to understand a loved one, but what can we say if we have known him for only a few weeks or months.

On the other hand, there are character traits that manifest themselves in behavior that can tell us a lot, a lot. The main thing here is not to rush to conclusions and not to mess things up.

In one of the previous articles, I described the character traits of a woman, especially not loved by men.

In this article I will talk about the character traits of men that most often end up on blacklists of female attention.

I don’t think that I will write much new here; countless words have already been said and written on this topic.

However, it is worth talking about. After all, the character traits and personality traits listed here and in the previous article most often become a stumbling block in relations between the sexes. Although, for some reason, they are the ones who are overlooked at the very beginning of this relationship.

And again, I note that the problem is not the presence or absence of negative traits in a man’s character, but the degree of their expression. The more pronounced the trait, the more it repels a woman.

Many men well compensate for the presence of one or even several negative traits included in this “black list” by developing positive qualities in themselves that attract women. Thus, they weaken the negative manifestations of their character.

It is very good if at the same time a man knows how to control his negative traits, making them almost invisible to others, then his problems with women are reduced to a minimum.

So the presence of the traits listed below in a man’s personality is not a death sentence, otherwise he is guaranteed to have chronic problems in relationships with the opposite sex.

And here is the “black list” itself:

Who is the ideal man

The phrases “ideal man” and “dream man” are found so often that they are no longer given much meaning. No one knows exactly what this ideal looks like, what its character is, and what qualities it possesses. Everyone puts their own meaning into these words.

For any woman, the standard qualities of an ideal man include high intelligence, wit and respect. Everyone dreams of seeing next to her a handsome and fit chosen one who will give gifts, preferably with his own apartment and car. He must have beautiful eyes and a charming appearance. All this looks like a description of a prince from a fairy tale, but not a description of a real man.

According to family psychologists, the main qualities of a man should include:

• Kindness is the first quality that all girls talk about when describing their ideal. A kind person will come to the rescue, love his children and value his family;
• Reliability. This can be called a person who will not change his opinion and will do what he promised;
• Ability to care. Everyone wants to see a chosen one next to her who will take care of her and say pleasant words;
• Responsibility. A man must realize that he is the head of the family, the woman and his children depend on him;
• Loyalty. Every woman wants to be sure that her husband will not leave her or exchange her for another.

Note! All girls are partly right when they describe real masculine qualities in their character, but many of them are exaggerated. For example, having a car is an absolute plus, but if a guy with a car turns out to be an infantile egoist, he can hardly be called an ideal.

Why can’t you meet with your brother or relative?

• Both the Laws of the Russian Federation and the Laws of God do not allow marriages between relatives in the direct line of kinship. Marriage between first cousins ​​is also impossible. In addition, unwritten human laws also remain not at all on the side of incest, since it is like going against nature itself.
• That’s why you can’t meet close relatives, because such relationships won’t end in marriage anyway. Under no circumstances should you have offspring, since incest is almost 100% guaranteed to result in a child being born with a whole set of genetic abnormalities.
• This is what the Word of God says regarding incest: “... whoever does all these abominations, the souls of those who do these things will be cut off from their people . And if entire nations live in such filth, then the earth will “overthrow them” for their iniquity. That is, they are all doomed to complete extinction.
• In addition, the girl will constantly have to feel uncomfortable under the gaze and whispers of all the neighbors and people who know about the relationship. And the understanding that you are doing something wrong will constantly depress your psyche. And that means goodbye, good mood and pleasure from every day you live!

Bad character traits

Negative character traits - how to find and correct negative qualities

A man’s bad qualities may not appear immediately; a woman may notice his bad traits when the relationship has already gone far. The first few months of a relationship, or the “candy-bouquet” period, the girl is in a state of love and does not want to see anything bad. She may be fascinated by appearance, facial features or voice. Later, faced with everyday life, she notices that her chosen one is far from ideal.

Egoist against the background of the wall

According to women, the main negative traits of a man’s character are:

• Arrogance and selfishness. Self-obsessed individuals who try in every possible way to show their importance do not endear them to themselves;
• Uncertainty. Girls do not like weak men who are afraid to make decisions; they do not feel safe next to them;
• Infidelity and hypocrisy. Lies and betrayals are what destroy any relationship. A girl will not want to connect her life with such a person;
• Bad manners and bad manners. A rude man who uses obscene language and obscene expressions belongs to the lower social class;
• Lack of initiative and ambition, inability to complete a task;
• Hot temper and aggressiveness. Next to such a person, the girl feels in danger. If aggression is directed at strangers, and a man is kind and affectionate with his chosen one, there is no guarantee that he will not lose his temper later;
• Inattention to a woman. Such a man may not notice problems, forget about requests;
• Laziness. Slackers who like to spend their free time on the couch or in front of the computer are not attractive to women;
• Phlegm. Girls do not like it when men react coldly and cannot sincerely rejoice or empathize.

Aggressiveness2

Rudeness, anger, insults and even assault are faithful companions of marginal families, and sure signs of the imminent destruction of relationships. An adequate modern woman will never believe in the monstrous myth “hitting means loving.” A man who shows aggression towards a woman will always look like a loser, compensating for his shortcomings on the weak and defenseless. Women do not stay in relationships with such people for long.

How to treat: find another way to express aggression. Punching bag, contact sports, violent computer games, after all. Beat your woman in Mortal Kombat and feel like a winner in life, if that doesn't make you laugh already. If so, then congratulations, you are on the road to recovery!

Positive traits

Positive character traits of a person - what applies to them

Every girl has her own opinion about what the character of a real man should be. Despite this, everyone agrees that a real man should have the following qualities:

• Masculinity;
• The ability to be there and help out in difficult times;
• Neatness and neatness;
• Independence, having your own opinion;
• Diligence and determination;
• Honesty;
• The ability and desire to earn money.

Note! The husband’s desire to provide for his wife does not mean that his chosen one should not do anything.

What women value most in men

Human character traits - what they are, their description and characteristics

Girls love men who care about them and who make them feel confident around them. Everyone wants her chosen one to be attentive to detail and behave like a gentleman. Such small actions as opening the door or giving a hand mean a lot to women; they form their impression based on them.

Hugs a girl

What qualities should you value in your man:

• Decency, the ability to restrain your emotions and be reasonable. Such a person will not allow himself to insult or humiliate a woman;
• Courage, ability to take responsibility;
• The ability to love and show emotions. Such a man will make a good family man and father;
• Attractiveness. A real man has charm, a girl unconsciously reaches out to him and can trust him;
• A sense of humor is an important character trait. Girls like witty guys who can lighten the mood.

Note! The qualities that women value also extend to appearance. Representatives of the stronger sex take care of themselves and take care of themselves, this is right, but some are too passionate about their appearance. Not every woman appreciates hours-long visits to the hairdresser for the perfect hairstyle.

Jealousy3

Just another form of self-doubt. In most happy couples, this feeling does not even arise, because the partners trust each other and do not look for reasons to doubt their beloved simply because she started talking to another man. Some couples believe that a healthy dose of jealousy will not harm, but on the contrary, will make the relationship interesting, but even they will agree that if a man is jealous of a woman at every post, there is nothing good about it.

How to treat: if every man seems like a competitor to you, capable of taking your beloved away with a snap of his fingers, then there is one of two things. Or they all seem more successful, smarter, more interesting and funnier than you, and then it’s time for you to work on your self-esteem. Or you don’t trust the girl you’re trying to build a relationship with at all, and then you need to find out if there is a reason for this mistrust. Perhaps you just came up with this reason out of the most common fear of losing such a wonderful girl? Awareness of this fear is already halfway to solving the problem.

How to develop good masculine qualities in yourself

To develop positive character traits, you must first determine what qualities are currently lacking. How to cultivate a real masculine character:

• Develop physical. Sports should become an integral part of life;
• Develop spiritually. Read developmental literature, including about relationships;
• Leave your comfort zone more often, fight your laziness every day;
• Achieve success. There is no need to set unattainable goals for yourself; it is better to start small. For example, set a goal to complete work faster than usual;
• Communicate with your chosen one, listen to her and talk to her. In communicating with his woman, a man will understand how best to act, what she and he lack.

What is meant by masculinity

Masculinity is a generally accepted character trait that everyone of the stronger sex should have. Everyone talks about this character trait, but no one knows exactly what it means.

On a gray background

Social science says that masculinity is not a separate quality, but a set of all the qualities that a real man should have. These include courage, confidence, determination and all other strong character traits.

Modern "tankers"3

Men who fight for a long time in front of computer monitors and shout tactical instructions to the whole house through headphones drive both young girls and adult women, whose other half has discovered the wonderful world of modern online games, to white heat. The state of affairs can be innocent in nature and be an alternative to alcohol and cigarettes, or it can be a daily ritual of a father and husband disappearing from the monitor until late at night.

You can try to negotiate a solution to the issue and highlight certain days or conditions during which the man plays his favorite strategies. Taking away your favorite toys by force is tantamount to taking sweet candy from a two-year-old child. Only in the case of my husband, the scream will be longer and louder.

Is it possible to overcome negative aspects of character?

Throughout your life you need to fight your shortcomings and make yourself better. Difficulties can arise if negative traits developed from childhood and managed to take root in the character. At first such a person will not understand why he is being condemned, and why the woman does not like his behavior.

You can overcome any negative character trait, the main thing is personal interest and desire. First you need to identify your weaknesses and begin to gradually get rid of them. For example, fight laziness, suppress aggression, and take initiative more often.

Every girl has her own ideal man and a list of qualities he should have. Everyone wants the best and kindest person nearby. Girls who are carried away by their appearance begin to forget about what an ideal chosen one should be like. Responsibility, reliability and loyalty are the qualities of a strong-willed man who will not cheat on his woman.