Important principles of civil society and any democratic state include the protection of the rights and interests of man and citizen. Human rights should be understood as a set of universal rules that are aimed at ensuring the freedom and dignity of any person.
While it is not difficult to understand the concept of “freedom,” the answer to the question related to the definition of “personal dignity” largely remains open. What “personal dignity” is, what its role is in the structure of human rights and freedoms, as well as the mechanisms for its protection will be discussed further in this article.
A little about the concept
The term can be characterized not only from a legal, but also from a moral point of view. As the latter, it is a complex of moral characteristics inherent in the individual. As a legal aspect, this is a benefit that is intangible. It belongs to all people. It cannot be inherited or taken away.
You can often come across the word “self-dignity.” Then we are talking about the individual’s desire for self-respect, coupled with the presence of conscious principles of morality and ethics.
But it must be noted that the concept is not synonymous with narcissism. Indeed, in the first case, we are talking about respect directed at us and helping to build positive relationships with members of society and at the same time fight for our rights and defend our point of view.
Narcissistic people put themselves first. For them, moral values are unlikely to matter, especially when they do not correspond to the goals and plans they have set.
A worthy person respects not only his own person, but also all participants in society. This is characterized by his behavior, where the priority is politeness, delicacy, intelligence and truthfulness. Such individuals have developed willpower and excellent spiritual traits. They do not criticize others or gossip, but at the same time they are capable of sober assessment of personality and awareness of their importance. Therefore, they do not accept outside opinions, if they differ from theirs, as reliable.
When a person values himself, he is free from stereotypical opinions and social prejudices, he is truly independent and will achieve success both personally and professionally. This is what dignity means.
What is human dignity
It is common in society to see a well-dressed person and say that he looks decent. But does dignity manifest itself only externally? Shouldn't it touch a person's heart and influence his actions? Let's figure out what human dignity is.
The dignity of a person is his respect for himself, a sense of the importance of himself as an individual, the ability to get out of any situation without overstepping his principles.
The dignity of a person is his respect for himself.
The owl was always proud of herself and respected herself. And there was a reason for it. She always came first in mouse catching competitions. True, once, completely by accident and by mistake, she grabbed Vinny, tearing out a large clump of fur from his back, well, this doesn’t happen to anyone.
But the Owl realized that she was mistaken. She immediately apologized. She smeared brilliant green all over her back and flew away. Satisfied as hell. And on the way she caught 5 more mice - she had to play poker with someone. And mice, as everyone knows, are excellent players.
Be that as it may, Owl understood: She’s great! And Winnie cured, and managed to throw a party for the mice, and played poker herself.
This is the ability to interact with the world without compromising one’s principles, without making concessions to base desires and bad deeds.
Self-esteem is an individual’s awareness of his own importance and value, and adherence to certain rules of behavior based on self-esteem.
It is inherent in everyone from birth. The dignity of a person allows him to realize the importance of not only himself, but also those around him. A person has to form it, educate and train it in himself.
People who have this quality are respectful towards others. Dignity gives a person a sense of self-confidence and self-confidence. The higher we value ourselves, the more potential opportunities open to us.
Probably everyone in their life has found themselves in such situations when you experience a feeling of lack of self-esteem and worthlessness. It happens that people do not feel worthy and believe that there is nothing to respect them for. This usually happens when a person commits one or another act for which he subsequently feels remorse. In such cases they say that honor and dignity are lost.
As a rule, after some time a person makes amends, improves his reputation and again earns respect. He ceases to consider himself a loser and insignificance and removes this definition from himself. At the same time, honor and dignity return to the person.
To live means not only to satisfy the material needs of the body, but mainly to be aware of one’s human dignity. Jules Verne
The strong are not the best, but the honest ones. Honor and self-esteem are the strongest. Fedor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky
What does the concept include?
This is an internal moral category meaning self-respect. This is an integral, innate property, inherent from birth - to treat yourself with respect, regardless of the opinions of society and others.
The term is very closely related to “morality”, which determines the value of any of us. It is this characteristic that allows you to feel useful and necessary for society, even if the circumstances in life are not the best.
The trait is particularly significant for everyone and at the same time it is individual and cannot be taught. But if it is poorly developed, then it can be educated, since a deficiency leads to a decrease in living standards.
But in addition to personal belonging, the feeling also has social significance. It is important because a person respects others too. And the totality of worthy people is the ideal to which any state strives.
It is dignity that allows an individual to be confident in himself and his capabilities, as well as in his actions and activities. The result of this is the internal harmony of one’s own “I” with a positive assessment of society. And this, in turn, gives a feeling of happiness and completeness.
This state can inspire, motivate for new exploits and achieve success in all endeavors. Therefore, it can be called fundamental for personal growth.
Everyone’s self-respect also manifests itself in public life. Such people will not tarnish their honor, will responsibly complete their assigned tasks and will maintain their duty to their homeland, parents and offspring. In extreme situations, it will help you act quickly and competently to save yourself and others.
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A worthy person adheres to established laws and moral principles, because this is the essence of honoring others. Thanks to this feeling, she will help the poor and needy, and will not refuse support to those who really need it.
The main features included in this definition:
- sincerity;
- honesty;
- activity;
- strength of will;
- sociability;
- attentiveness;
- determination;
- kindness;
- responsibility;
- ability to quickly adapt;
- discipline.
By the way, it is these characteristics that employers pay attention to. Thanks to numerous studies, psychologists have developed special tests to determine an individual's advantages. These are the ones you should make your strengths when communicating with bosses, relatives or new acquaintances.
But if specific features are good for some, will they be as useful for others? For example, if courage and perseverance are important to gentlemen, would they be equally valuable to all girls?
What is integrity
Decency and honesty are too expensive gifts. And you shouldn’t expect them from cheap people. Woody Allen
There is also such a thing as decency .
Decency is honesty, inability to engage in low, immoral, antisocial acts.
Integrity is when a person is honest and does not intentionally harm others.
If a person is truthful and simply makes sure not to harm other people, he can be considered decent. If he does something, but these actions do not intentionally cause unpleasant consequences for others, then such actions cannot characterize a person as dishonest.
In Ancient Greece, the word integrity was defined as “sincerity of character combined with the right way of thinking; honesty of character."
Decency is spiritual cleanliness.
Decency is when, despite one’s own interests, a person will act according to his conscience, “as he should.”
One of the richest men in the world, Warren Buffett, said: “When I hire people, I look for three qualities. The first is decency, the second is intelligence and the third is high energy. But if the first one is missing, the other two will kill you!”
Vinnie was a very decent bear. And he simply could not touch Piglet’s pot of honey until he allowed him to do so. And that’s why he played the console with Pyatochka until the night, because at the end there was a real PRIZE waiting for him! Ha, but Pyatochek doesn’t even suspect it!
By the way, there is such a thing as sincerity. Sincerity is the absence of contradictions between what a person says and what he really wants or feels. Sincerity is the ability to refuse deception and speak as it is. Sincerely means “truthfully” and “frankly”.
Examples of the concept of human dignity
Due to the presence of gender differences, the property is also expressed differently. Therefore, when cultivating this characteristic in yourself, this fact should be taken into account. But if you don’t know where to start and how to improve the quality of your life, then in personal consultations I will help you cope with these difficulties and draw up the right action plan.
Male representatives
The most striking example of manifestation is the performance of military duty in difficult times for the state or the protection of the country due to professional affiliation.
In all eras, the military was considered the ideal of male dignity. After all, these individuals have a concept of duty. They are ready to give their lives to protect family, friends and even strangers.
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The term about the honor of a warrior includes not only protection of his homeland, but also respect for the state flag, strict execution of orders regardless of the circumstances.
Another option is endurance and strength competitions. After all, defeating an opponent of equal or superior strength is also a manifestation of the characteristic under discussion.
In a similar way, the gentleman wants to prove his merit in respect and recognition. In addition, the competition strictly follows the principles of fairness and parity.
Even if a man does not work as a rescuer, it is he who will rush to provide assistance in an extreme situation. Actions such as rescuing people from a fire or rescuing a drowning person indicate that a gentleman is capable of being responsible and can help those in need at any time.
Women
Since ancient times, it has been believed that the main advantage of female representatives is the ability to be a gentle and caring wife and mother. How well she manages to support the family hearth gives the girls a sense of their own worth and worth.
If a woman has self-respect and clearly knows her needs, then she will always have a worthy companion with her. After all, these qualities help her achieve balance in her relationship with her lover.
In the case when she knows how to value not only herself and her choice, the man will feel supported and caring. And this will inspire him to new exploits and make him want to be the best for his chosen one.
For children, this definition of dignity is a serious life guide. As a rule, in such families a child grows up who subsequently follows the same attitudes and retains only positive character traits.
A decent woman will not gossip, judge or criticize. Since she respects her personality, wasting her resources on negative conversations is not for her. In her speech she does not use profanity or rudeness, and her gestures and facial expressions will not seem vulgar to anyone.
Such a person is capable of showing respect for someone else's appearance, views and actions. At the same time, she takes care of herself, tries to be well-groomed and beautiful. After all, wrinkled clothes, disheveled hair, a bad smell are things that often cause hostility. Love and self-respect are manifested precisely in taking care of yourself and your appearance. And this is the first thing that catches the eye of others.
Human strengths and weaknesses: their impact on personality development
Can a person who knows nothing about mathematics teach a child to solve problems? Of course not. Likewise, parents who did not receive proper upbringing in childhood will not be able to properly influence their child. Consequently, the education of adults is no less important than the development of children.
Each person has advantages and disadvantages, through the prism of which character and behavior are formed. This truth is a positive fact. After all, the path of life is interesting because it consists of the search for an ideal, attempts to get closer to perfection.
The question is how a person relates to his own shortcomings. There are three possible scenarios here:
- “I was born this way, that’s why I’m interesting. And whoever doesn’t like it should not communicate with me”;
- “I'm the worst! I don’t know how to restrain my emotions, so I will never achieve a promotion, a good salary, etc.”;
- “I, like everyone else, have shortcomings. I know about them and will do everything to get rid of negative manifestations or minimize them.”
People who adhere to the third principle are able to turn their advantages and disadvantages into advantages, as they are constantly improving and working on themselves.
The virtues of people of the 21st century
Public education condemns a person’s desire to emphasize his merits. It is more correct to show them in action, performing noble deeds.
There are hundreds of advantages that are inherent in a well-mannered person. It is not possible to list them all. However, it is possible to identify typical personal characteristics that are inherent in most cultural and developing people.
First of all, I would like to note that the education of adults is aimed at teaching a person to harmoniously combine advantages and disadvantages, turning them into advantages.
Developing and improving, a person must find that golden mean that will help not only preserve his individuality and not blend in with the crowd, but also gain public recognition.
Let us list the advantages inherent in a person who educates himself throughout his life’s journey:
- The ability to compassion, which manifests itself in the desire to help any living being. The ability to support a loved one in moments of joy or grief is an important quality that is not so easy to learn.
- It is impossible to develop alone. The ability to communicate with people you know and don't know improves communication skills, which will help with intellectual and social development.
- The desire to noble, selflessly help people is the highest manifestation of moral qualities.
- Devotion and loyalty are qualities that are becoming rare in modern society.
- The ability to notice details and “read between the lines” will help you not to get lost in the abundance of information and highlight the main thing.
- Foresight and insight can not only help in the development of personal qualities, but also prevent mistakes in choosing the path of self-improvement.
Nurturing these moral and volitional qualities will be an ideal complement to a person’s individual positive character traits. Moreover, they will help control the negative emotions that accompany every person, provoking him to actions that are not consistent with a well-mannered personality.
"Chronic illness" character
You can develop many positive qualities in yourself, but they will not bear fruitful fruit if you do not eradicate your shortcomings.
Psychologists have identified the following negative character traits that interfere with successful personality development:
- Narcissism and fixation on one's own interests.
- The desire to please everyone, the inability to refuse a request. These negative character traits not only interfere with the development of a harmonious personality, but also lead to mental exhaustion and depression.
- Lack of independence, need for outside help and support.
- Valuing life values with money. Mercantile interest is the main source of personal degradation.
- A lie in any form can distort all the best endeavors of an individual.
- Cowardice and cowardice do not provide opportunities for the development of strong-willed qualities. And they are the main assistants in improving and nurturing the best character traits.
- Deeply unhappy people prefer to put on a mask of cynicism, masking loneliness and the inability to cope with their complexes. However, cynicism can play a cruel joke on its adherents: a person will never be able to find harmony with himself and will be doomed to loneliness.
Whatever the character, you need to remember that advantages and disadvantages are an indicator of the uniqueness and individuality of the individual. His ability for self-development depends on how a person learns to control negative character traits and develop positive ones.
When embarking on the path of development and self-improvement, you need to learn to analyze actions, thoughts and words, and control emotional manifestations. After some time, the need for these actions will disappear, since a kind of barrier will be developed that will not allow shortcomings to manifest themselves uncontrollably.
Another important factor that influences the success of raising a harmonious personality is the ability to love and accept oneself, recognizing shortcomings as a natural manifestation of human essence.
Development of will
Nurturing strong-willed qualities is a necessary condition for personal self-improvement. This process is individual, it is associated with the specifics of a person’s psychological and physical development.
The basis for the development of volitional qualities is the period of childhood and adolescence, when the foundations of moral and social concepts are laid.
There are several fundamental principles due to which intensive and correct development of the will occurs.
- A clearly defined life goal and position. If a child understands from childhood that everything in life must be achieved independently, putting a lot of effort into it, then in adulthood the person will consciously set goals for himself and persistently achieve his goals.
- Feel like the master of your own life. Be aware of responsibility for decisions made.
- The symbiosis of determination and confidence will allow you to independently cope with life's difficulties. The desired goal can be achieved by overcoming fears and vices.
- The realization that strength of spirit is determined not by the number of successful decisions, but by how many difficulties were overcome along the way of these decisions.
- Volitional qualities develop in the same way as muscles: they need constant training. The ability to overcome life's adversities is the main sign of victory over one's own shortcomings.
- The ability to replace desires and dreams with actions at the right moment.
- Do not allow the social environment to control life and the principles underlying the personal attitude.
- The right to choose a way out of any life situation should become the determining factor in life. It is the ability to make decisions independently that allows you to receive satisfaction from the work done and overcoming difficulties.
The harmonious development of the will occurs only if the personality is capable of self-restraint. However, these concepts cannot be identified. Restrictions are accepted by a person if something interferes with achieving the goal. However, you should not include feelings among them, because only with the help of positive emotions does a person feel happiness from the years he has lived.
So, in order to successfully cultivate strong-willed qualities in yourself, you must adhere to the following recommendations:
- Recognize the presence of strengths and weaknesses in character;
- Understand what you want to achieve in life;
- Set clear goals and objectives to achieve results;
- Realize that you cannot achieve everything at once. Achieving big goals happens through step-by-step work;
- It is necessary to always finish what you start;
- Be able to limit your needs if necessary;
- Try to be better tomorrow than today.
To develop such an important quality as willpower, it is important to have a role model. Choose a standard to strive for.
Development of the spirit through education of the body
The strength of mind and strong-willed qualities of a person, which were mentioned above, cannot be developed without physical activity.
Fostering a culture of health is one of the important elements of indicators of a person’s general education.
Desires to improve the body and lead a healthy lifestyle are laid down in childhood, when, following the example of their parents, children adopt their habits and copy their actions.
However, not all people grew up in families where parents promoted sports. This does not prevent them from starting physical education in adulthood.
After all, physical exercise not only builds mental strength. They promote a healthy lifestyle, which helps maintain health for many years and helps give up bad habits.
The formation of a healthy lifestyle also includes the issue of proper nutrition. Often a person who finds himself in a stressful situation tries to “seize” the problems. At the same time, the foods he eats do not at all fit the definition of a healthy diet.
Moreover, a person begins to think about his health only when he develops certain diseases.
Such an attitude towards one’s own body is unacceptable, therefore the development of personal virtues should begin through overcoming the shortcomings associated with a permissive attitude towards physical health.
Social influence
The development of better personal qualities cannot occur in isolation from social influence.
Public education provides for such personal development that will allow a person to live in harmonious relationships with society. This takes into account the responsibility of the individual to society and the positive influence of the environment on the formation of personal qualities.
Public education is carried out not only by direct interaction between people, but by organizations specially created for these purposes.
There is a special branch of pedagogy that studies social relations. Social pedagogy deals with the study of the social potential that can have an educational and educational impact on personal development throughout a person’s life. She explores the influence of family relationships, information influence, religious associations, youth and social groups.
Of particular interest to pedagogical science are people from lower social strata. These are individuals who, due to some life circumstances, began to lead an asocial lifestyle (people without a fixed place of residence, those serving sentences in prison, drug addicts, alcoholics, prostitutes).
Social pedagogy deals with the study of the specifics of the upbringing of adults, the conditions for their development in connection with changes in the economic situation and social environment. The problems of women's development and the specifics of personal changes in the sphere of professional activity are relevant for her.
Recently, pedagogy in this direction has begun to actively cooperate with church organizations in order to enrich the moral qualities of a person.
In practical activities, public education is a professional field called social work.
Let us list the areas of activity of public education and the specifics of their manifestation.
- Family relationships.
The practical impact of social education on the sphere of family relations occurs for psychological support and material assistance to large and young families, people with low incomes. Particular attention is paid to parents who have addictions. Social workers conduct explanatory conversations to help parents learn about their rights and responsibilities and expand their understanding of the possibilities provided for by law.
- Helping minors and people with mental disabilities.
In our country, this area of social assistance is in its infancy. However, special services and hotlines have already been created where you can turn for help in difficult life situations.
- Healthcare area.
Work to provide psychological and material assistance to people with serious illnesses is still at the level of volunteer movements.
- People of retirement age.
The work of social services is aimed at helping lonely and sick pensioners and is manifested in the purchase of medicines and food.
- Correctional facilities.
Social education of people who have crossed the line of the law consists of conversations aimed at reviving socially correct behavior and adaptation in society after release.
So, public education is aimed at developing proper interaction between society and the individual under the control of special social services that will help in difficult periods of life.
Improve yourself with pleasure
In conclusion, I would like to note that any education of personal virtues should begin with positive thinking. Belief in your own strength is the basis for working on yourself.
When experiencing stressful situations associated with troubles at work, in the family or financial difficulties, a person experiences despair, and, of course, at these moments he does not want to improve at all.
Don't panic or become depressed. Perhaps the scale of the tragedy is not as great as it might seem at first glance.
You must remain optimistic in any situation and remember that only you can ensure your happy future.
Think positively, and then even your shortcomings will help increase all your advantages.
Meaning
This property pushes a person to make the right decisions, to demonstrate nobility in both actions and behavior, and also contributes to the recognition of the individual by society and the achievement of success not only in his career, but also in his personal life.
At all times, decent character has been highly valued in society. Especially when it took place in critical cases. This concept is important for a social system in the sense that the more such people there are in it, the more perfect it is.
We should talk not only about the moral side of the issue, but also about the legal one. The article on the protection of honor and dignity is prescribed in the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation (Article 152). It provides all Russian citizens with the prerogative to protect their own interests in court.
Let me give you an example. From time to time, the media publish articles that defame media personalities. Publications of an offensive nature may be recognized in court as a violation of the law, provided that the falsehood of the information is proven.
A person who has been publicly defamed may demand the publication of a refutation, as well as compensation for moral damages or damages.
But the Criminal Code also touches on this issue. These types of crimes include situations where people are kidnapped or illegally deprived of their liberty, sold into slavery, slandered or hospitalized without their consent.
How is it protected by the Russian state?
The right to personal dignity in the Russian Federation, as well as other rights of a citizen and a person, are subject to protection and protection by the state. The state has very specific mechanisms aimed at suppressing violations of basic rights and freedoms.
Before talking about these mechanisms, which are regulated by various branches of law, the concept of humiliation of personal dignity should be mentioned. It should be understood as the dissemination of false information about a person, which belittles or puts in an unfavorable light his actions, deeds, as well as moral and intellectual qualities. Humiliation of personal qualities is unacceptable, and various forms of responsibility are provided for the commission of corresponding actions.
Thus, from the point of view of civil legislation, personal dignity refers to intangible benefits, which, in addition to the concept under consideration, include:
- life and health;
- good name;
- business reputation;
- privacy;
- authorship.
This list is not exhaustive.
In accordance with Article 150 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, intangible benefits are protected by law. Thus, in relation to the subject discussed in the article, a person has the right to use various methods of protecting his civil rights, including intangible benefits that are inalienable from the moment of birth.
The list of methods for protecting civil rights is contained in Article 12 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, which, among other things, includes:
- recognition of law;
- invalidation of acts of state bodies;
- restoration of the situation that existed before the violation of the right;
- compensation for moral damage.
So, for example, a citizen whose dignity has been humiliated has the right to go to court to demand that information discrediting him be declared unreliable, as well as to receive financial compensation from those responsible. Humiliation of dignity in a gross form is inherently illegal.
Attention! Insult, that is, an act expressed in humiliating a citizen in an indecent form, is an administrative offense (Article 5.61 of the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation), for which a monetary fine is imposed.
A more serious offense is the public dissemination of information discrediting a citizen or his actions. This is considered as slander, for which criminal liability is assumed (Article 128.1 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation).
How does it relate to self-esteem?
These two concepts are closely related, but also have some differences. Thus, respect for a person is an attitude towards oneself as an individual who has a specific set of personal characteristics and properties, as well as, albeit subjective, an assessment of one’s significance. It is how an individual perceives the inner self.
Self-esteem is the acceptance of good moral traits that influence an individual’s behavior in society and contact with others. That is, the orientation here occurs towards the external environment. A worthy person will respect himself, and non-acceptance entails a devaluation of moral qualities.
How does it manifest itself?
To make it clearer, let's look at specific examples of signs that a person has a well-developed heart rate:
- Adequate stable self-esteem. A person realistically assesses his capabilities and his influence on other people: he does not exaggerate or minimize them.
- Independence from other people's opinions. He calmly accepts both praise and criticism without experiencing wavering self-esteem. Remember: PSD cannot be combined with dependence and increased attention to the opinions of others.
- Self confidence. A person with self-respect believes in his own abilities and sets ambitious goals. His confidence is backed by experience of real achievements in the past.
- Self-sufficiency. He himself is able to satisfy his own needs and does not pull anything from others.
- Respect for other people. This is the recognition of each person’s own will, the refusal to violate boundaries.
- Inner harmony. Lack of psychological defenses, internal conflicts, complexes. Honesty to yourself.
- Courage. A person with self-esteem is able to confront his fears.
- Reliability. He is responsible for every word spoken, fulfills all his promises and obligations to other people.
- Loyalty to one's own principles and beliefs. A person with CSD clearly follows his principles, even if for the sake of this he has to give up some benefits.
Self-esteem is often confused with self-confidence. To clearly distinguish between these two concepts, I advise you to read our article on what overconfidence is.
Respect for human dignity is
Any citizen has the right to be valued by the state, its individual bodies and structures, as well as members of society.
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The article of the Constitution of the Russian Federation states that this property of a person is protected by state power and there are no grounds to diminish it. This law implies that everyone has the following privileges:
- Protection from violent, tortured and humiliating acts directed at them, as well as from cruelty.
- The opportunity to voluntarily refuse experiments, both medical and scientific.
- Freedoms are available regardless of gender, age, financial status, beliefs in religion and politics.
- Own defense in court if these norms have been violated.
How to talk about your weaknesses
When answering the question about negative qualities, you do not need to name abstract or “good” flaws. Your task is to show that you are aware of your shortcomings, know how to deal with them and work with them. Such a presentation can make a positive impression on the employer more than a list of your achievements.
How to do it:
1. Turn negatives into positives.
“I am meticulous and scrupulous. Many people consider this my shortcoming. But for me, as an analyst, it is important to check all the data down to the smallest detail, to analyze all the details. I won't rest until I do this. In my practice, there was a case... (give an example when your meticulousness helped to detect some error).”
2. Indicate that you are working with shortcomings. Admit it, yes, you have negative qualities, but you are doing everything to correct them.
“I'm a bad speaker. When I have to speak in front of a large number of people, I get lost. I understand that this is a very big drawback for a journalist, so I’ve been taking public speaking courses for a month now. I’m still far from Cicero, but I’m making progress.”
3. Compensate for negative qualities if you understand that they cannot be turned into a plus, and it is useless to fight them.
"I am an owl. I like to sleep longer. So I might be late for work. But I don't mind staying late at the office to complete all the tasks planned for the day. I’m most productive in the afternoon, so I usually get everything done and never miss a deadline.”
How can you develop this trait?
The formation of quality occurs in childhood under the influence, first of all, of the family. And already in adulthood this category can be called formed, but it is not yet stable. Therefore, it is possible to both lose a feeling (for example, when frustration is felt for a long time) and improve it.
Dignity manifests itself in a positive attitude towards oneself, so work must begin from this moment. To begin with, it is advisable to assess your own personality as honestly and objectively as possible. It may be worth seeking help from loved ones who will point out your positive and negative characteristics.
This point is important because during it a person determines who he really is, moving away from the imposed opinions of society and taking this assessment under internal control. When an individual takes upon himself the courage to recognize and accept himself with all his shortcomings, it gives a powerful charge of energy and sets him on the path of change. The main thing is that the desire for them is determined by personal needs, and not for the convenience of others.
I recommend keeping a notebook where you can write down all your successes, victories and good qualities. Re-read your notes to improve your self-esteem.
Resist the urge to compare yourself to others. It’s better to do this with yourself: between who you were and who you have become now. You can work in several directions:
- turn off news on social networks, where there are photos of people’s success;
- review such information in order to extract your own needs and wants from negative feelings.
By the way, you should listen to your “wants”. And try to implement them as often as possible. If you start postponing happiness for the sake of others, this will slow down the process of developing dignity. After all, it turns out that they deserve joy more than you. And this is not at all true.
Often parents teach their children modesty and hiding their achievements and plans. But such tactics of action lead to the fact that a person begins to value himself much less. He seems to shrink himself in size, telling about his success only to his close circle. And this is wrong, because self-esteem is a sincere story about your victories and acceptance of praise. How you present yourself to society determines how it will treat you.
Human integrity
The meaning of the word “integrity”, according to the explanatory dictionary: one that is whole, monolithic, indestructible, strong, united.
We can talk about the integrity of a person, meaning the harmonious unity of her physical, mental, spiritual and moral life. If a person teaches a healthy lifestyle and high moral values during the day, and at night and until the morning “buzzes” in a nightclub, picking up girls of easy virtue, then it is difficult to talk about the integrity of such a person.
The integrity of a person is the harmonious unity of her physical, mental, spiritual and moral life.
Vinnie looked at the tree and thought: if I don’t climb it and take some honey from the hive, then I’m not a real bear. A real bear should not miss a single hive!
But there are bees there, and they bite. And the Owl considers this tree his own and will be extremely dissatisfied.
So Vinnie sat in front of the tree for the third day and thought, thought, thought. He was just cracking! He was pulled in all directions.
Vinnie is tired of it. He came to an agreement with himself: he is a bear! He must devastate all the hives on his way! And they always come to an agreement with Owl.
Now Vinny no longer hesitated. He acted. And today he will have honey!
A holistic personality can be compared to ready-made borscht - take it and eat it, unlike meat, cabbage, potatoes and beets. Personal integrity presupposes the correspondence of the content of a person’s inner life and his external activities.
Speaking about the internal integrity of a person, we mean a person’s ability in critical situations to maintain his life strategy, to remain committed to his life positions and value orientations.
Personal integrity is spoken of when a person has the courage to look at things realistically, draw their own conclusions and, if necessary, speak up about it, including resisting external pressure. This is a person who has a stable worldview and value system. This is a person who is not tormented by contradictions, who has peace and confidence inside.
It's not scary when the world collapses around you - it's scary when it collapses inside you Vlad Deckert
All guilt is a state of being lost in the past; all anxiety is a state of being lost in the future. Ken Wilber
