Under and without a mask: is it always necessary to tell the truth?
To be honest, we lie not only to those around us, but also to ourselves. We can't do it any other way. It’s much more pleasant to feel like a superhero than a worthless person, which is why people come up with a mask for themselves. Take off your mask and you are completely vulnerable. Anyone can hit you, knowing that it will cause you pain. What if they think badly of us, reject us, misunderstand us? It's actually scary.
It often happens that we have one mask for people, and another for ourselves. Self-deception, according to psychologists, is needed to protect self-esteem. But it can interfere when you need an active life position and the ability to move forward despite obstacles. We see ourselves in our own way and consider this the only truth.
Meanwhile, other people may see us and our actions in a completely different light, and one day they will want to tell us the truth, which we will not like.
So what is better: the bitter truth or the sweet lie?
It is very difficult to answer this question unambiguously.
Of course, the answer suggests itself that the truth is better, whatever it may be. The ability to speak the truth, not to lie, not to change one’s moral principles - this is characteristic only of a strong, morally pure person. After all, not everyone likes the truth. Especially if a person’s opinion goes against generally accepted views and foundations. History knows how many examples when people sacrificed their lives, but did not betray their views. It is worth remembering the famous D. Bruno, who died at the stake for claiming that the earth was round, who dared to express a theory that ran counter to the canons of the church. From time immemorial, people have gone to the chopping block for their ideas, for the truth.
And yet a person must tell the truth. Living according to conscience is difficult, but also easy at the same time. There is no need to dodge, invent something that doesn’t exist, or adapt to the opinion of your interlocutor. A truthful person lives with a clear conscience and does not fall into the web of his own lies. It is truthful people who move history, they are the initiators of the greatest deeds, they are the color of any country, any people. It is no coincidence that truthfulness, as psychologists say, is one of the first places among the positive qualities that people highlight.
Honesty - self-acceptance
Sigmund Freud argued that the need to tell the truth is very strong in people. The reason for this is that a person wants to be understood by others. But often he himself does not understand and does not accept himself. He puts on one mask, exchanges it for another, but cannot even imagine that he can live without them.
The better a person understands himself, the more difficult it is for him to lie to himself and others.
People lie to appear in a favorable light to others, but their inner voice tells them that the meaning of our existence lies in something completely different. The better a person understands and accepts himself, the more honest he becomes.
Russian accent
“God is not in power, but in truth,” “the world is held together by truth,” “do not live by lies.” Even without knowing these formulas, our children, growing up in the Russian cultural tradition, perceive truth as one of the highest values. During the Soviet era, the idea of truth was essentially turned inside out. The authorities assumed a monopoly on it, denunciations were encouraged as the highest manifestation of truthfulness, “confessing frankly” during interrogation actually meant incriminating oneself and others, at a party meeting anyone was obliged to tell “the whole truth” about himself, down to intimate details.
Whether we think about it or not, this legacy influences our complex attitude towards the concept of truth: our desire for it in spite of everything, and the fear of opening up, and intolerance towards the truth of another person.
White lie
However, there are situations in life when lying is necessary. Sometimes you have to tell a lie so as not to offend a person. If a friend's dress, in our opinion, is tasteless, most often we will praise it. I don’t want to spoil a person’s mood, and besides, it’s his choice that needs to be respected.
But there are situations when the truth can hurt a person or harm him. Before telling a person about a serious illness or betrayal, you need to think ten times whether the truth will be too heavy a blow for him.
But perhaps it will be easier for him to find out the truth than to constantly rush from hope to doubt and back.
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Between lies and truth
We do not always speak the truth when we think we are saying it. Such an example can be “false memories”, when children, already as adults, talk about situations that did not happen, their parents simply made them up.
Or let's take another example. Spouses quarrel and, in irritation, tell each other the “truth.” In this case, everyone has their own truth, since everyone sees the current situation in their own way, only from their own side. He does not understand that his partner also perceives his actions and actions from a different point of view. But when they feel that they love and begin to reach out to each other again, the path to another person, to the true truth, opens before them.
From one extreme to another
Another reason why a person lies is that he is a pathological liar. That is, he does not benefit from lying, but is trying to impress or is simply accustomed to lying. Sometimes such people lie so much that they begin to believe their lies: it becomes the truth for them.
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But there are also individuals who always tell the truth. Even if they weren't asked to speak. Even people they don't know.
They are usually called boors. To tell the truth, sometimes you need to have the courage to offend others. But boors do not need any courage, because they do not care about the feelings of others. For example, you just met a person, and he already managed to tell you how ugly your eyebrows are, and it wouldn’t hurt you to lose weight. You might have gained a couple of pounds during the holidays, but have been grooming your eyebrows every day in an attempt to achieve that Hollywood shape. But the boor thinks so and thinks that he is obliged to say about it.
These types of lies and truths are useless and meaningless, they spoil the mood, and phrases often linger in people’s souls.
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Truth and conscience
The truth of any person is what he himself considers to be the truth, but it is always subjective. But he must listen to other people's opinions so as not to feel that he is “always right.” Each of us has a conscience, and if it torments us, it means that the truth is not on our side.
The voice of conscience, no matter how we try to drown it out, will “knock” at us again and again, like a postman bringing an important letter. Then there will be nothing left to do but open the door and let in the truth that we don’t want to know.
Reasons for lying
Why some people choose to lie or why they do it:
- it is more profitable to lie, or the authority of the person who conceals the truth remains intact;
- hearing the truth will make a person nervous or upset;
- lying makes the situation safer or helps avoid a scandal;
- a person is in trouble, that is, he needs strength to cope with it, but the truth will only make everything worse;
- facts will offend someone;
- I want to tell an interesting story or keep up a conversation, but I can’t remember anything relevant.
The latter is perhaps the most harmless reason for lying. Often such stories are very easy to recognize. But if you tell a person that he is lying, he will either be offended or will not agree that he is lying.
How to get a person to tell the truth
To tell the truth, we must learn to separate our “I” from our own thoughts and emotions, then they will no longer be able to control us. When a person deceives himself, he constantly justifies his actions, believes that anyone is to blame for his actions, but not himself.
You need to learn to take responsibility and evaluate your actions differently. When a person begins to understand that he himself is to blame for his failures, he will stop lying to himself and others. You can try to evaluate yourself by looking at your actions from a different angle. This is not only advice from psychologists. Metropolitan Anthony of Boryspil argues that you need to “shift your ego from the center of life and look at yourself from a different perspective.” Only in this case can we see the real state of affairs.
We experience an identity crisis, not wanting to know the truth about ourselves and not admitting it to ourselves or others. We are driven by fear, self-doubt, and the desire to appear better to ourselves and our surroundings than we really are. Due to envy, complexes and ambitions, a person often takes the path of lies, and then it is difficult for him to return to the truth. He begins to blame his family, boss, and parents for his failures. But it’s enough to just tell yourself that we are far from being as “white and fluffy” as we want to seem to ourselves. And it’s not “life is like this,” but we are far from ideal.
Unfortunately, in the modern world, where everything is aimed only at success and achieving goals by any means, it is very difficult to be honest with yourself and other people.
In a society where competition is at the forefront, lying is considered normal and necessary for survival. But what do we have? Disunity, hatred, unwillingness to understand another person and take a step towards him. What do we get in return? Difficult relationships in teams, high rates of divorce, depression. Having false priorities, we arrive at false goals.
Topic “Why you need to tell the truth”: arguments for an essay
Arguments for essay:
- L.N. In his autobiographical trilogy, Tolstoy describes the intense suffering of the boy Nikolenka, who is embarrassed by deceptions and reproaches himself for them. Even at night his sleep is disturbed because he did not confess to the priest, concealing his deceptions.
- Victor Dragunsky in Deniskin's Stories shows the experiences, shame and repentance of a woman and her son, because of whose deception a man suffered.
- “At the Depths” by Maxim Gorky is the most striking example of the fact that a white lie does not always help, make it easier or save. Luka was convinced that his lie was justified, but Satin remained unshaken and fought for the truth to the last.
Structure of the essay
In the essay you can also use one or more statements and aphorisms about truth and lies:
- Only that person enjoys respect and trust who always tells the truth.
- “It’s not easy to decide to tell the truth, but it’s easier to live with it than with lies.”
- “A lie always gives rise to new lies, even more sophisticated and terrible.”
- “Every person deserves to know the truth and not be deceived.”
- “Lying is for cowards.”
- “Speaking the truth is not easy, it takes courage.”
- “Truth is the god of a free man.”
- “You won’t be able to lie all the time; the truth will always do its job.”
- “The naked truth is more beautiful than a disguised lie.”
- “The only good thing is what’s honest.” (Cicero)
- “Live the truth, that’s the best sermon.” (Miguel Cervantes de Saavedra)
How to write an essay on the topic “Why you need to tell the truth”
How to tell the truth to people
In the modern world, branding, including personal branding, is very important. But the fact is that by creating it, we also lie, therefore, we fall into the pit of lies. To avoid falling, you will have to tell the truth.
People don't really like honesty very much. Who would like it when they tell him that the highly paid job he chose is not his, the woman he loves does not love him, etc.? Really, no one. So yesterday's friends can migrate to the category of enemies.
But in fact, even a personal brand can be built on honesty. There is no need to post beautiful photos, talk about how cool you are and how great everything is with you. Everyone is used to this. Let's try to go the other way and tell people the truth, that is, what you think and what other people are like in your eyes. You will have to go through several stages.
Stage 1. They won’t want to communicate with you.
You will become free
And the last, most pleasant stage - you will become free from your golden cage of your own brand and build yourself a new brand that will have no boundaries. If before, you didn’t say what you really liked or what you really thought about this or that issue because you were afraid of not pleasing someone or losing friends, now you can safely say what you really think. Because there will be people around who like you precisely because of their personal preferences, and not because you agree with them just to please.
And it will definitely become easier for you, because now you won’t have to keep track of what you wrote, or what you wore, or who you now appear with in photographs. You are you. And there are those people next to you who love you, value you and trust you precisely because of this.
Honesty should not be confused with outright rudeness and rudeness. This freedom does not mean that you can say nasty things left and right. This freedom means that you can now build your personal brand on trust, make yourself better, and learn to be responsible for what you say.
What you can't ask cards about
For cards to tell the truth, they must be treated with respect. It's like a connection with the Universe. But any fortune telling for the future starts an irreversible process. This is a sacrament for a reason. If every person knew his future, then in principle there would be no need to live, nothing to strive for. After all, life is meant to make mistakes, experience ups and downs, fall in love, be happy, be disappointed, grow old and die. Therefore, there are questions that you should not ask cards and moments in which it is better not to touch them:
- you cannot ask when you or another person will die;
- It is not advisable to make layouts for yourself;
- You can’t ask for cards by force: at a time when the cards don’t want to talk;
- since everything is based on an energy message, you cannot tell fortunes in an unstable mood, in upset feelings, or, conversely, in an overexcited state: the state of the soul at the moment of fortune telling must be stable, and the mind must be calm and clear;
- It is forbidden to tell fortunes on major Orthodox holidays and anniversaries of the death of close relatives;
- You can’t tell fortunes to people who don’t trust the cards and are afraid of their answer.
