When a person with fresh energy embarks on a new project, passion, or takes up some kind of hobby, he feels inspired, he is happy, and feels an unprecedented uplift.
But it also happens that a moment comes when, for some reason, emotions begin to dull, the sense of novelty disappears, passion disappears, and His Majesty the muse no longer visits. A person understands that he is very bored, but he does not find the true reasons for this state, and even more so does not know what to do about it.
So, what to do when a period of disappointment, apathy sets in, when life is boring, when everything around is dull and insipid? We will give a number of useful recommendations. They will help you cope with depression, life will sparkle with bright colors again, incentive will appear and new horizons will open.
Causes of boredom and apathy
Before giving advice on how to regain enthusiasm, it is worth finding out the reasons why it disappeared.
- Monotony . When yesterday is similar to today, when everything resembles the movie “Groundhog Day” and nothing is of interest.
- No goal . Yes she was. For example, pass a test, save up for a new phone, find an interesting job, etc. But now all the wishes have come true and it is not clear what to do next. It seemed like just yesterday there was a spiritual impulse, but today there are no ideas, no aspiration, no desire to do anything, to move on.
- Lots of free time . This happens when a person first studied, worked part-time at the same time, and also had to find time for his personal life. My whole life was planned out several months in advance.
But time has passed - school is over, personal life has improved, or it doesn’t exist at all, and work is not interesting and routine. So the enthusiasm disappeared. Everything became somehow boring, tedious, and even the things that used to bring positive emotions stopped making me happy.
These are the main sources for which a person can frankly admit to himself - I’ve become bored with life! But everything can be solved, follow simple and simple rules, and you won’t be bored anymore.
So, we’ve figured out the reasons, now we’re trying to fill our free time, lift our spirits and answer the most pressing question - I’m bored with my life, what should I do?
Eve's story
Eva grew up in a chaotic family. In her youth, when she first met with a psychoanalyst, she seemed to worry about nothing, ending almost every sentence with “whatever” and rolling her eyes. This form of protection protected Eve from emotional discomfort. But it also disconnected her from the energy and vitality that living emotions bring.
She suffered from boredom, a feeling she described as “deadness” and which she occasionally quelled with alcohol. For Eve to feel better, it was necessary to understand the protective purpose of boredom. Dr. Handel used a method in which the patient was asked to imagine parts of herself that contained sad beliefs and emotions so that the therapist could help her transform.
Let's start a personal diary
But it’s not easy to describe in it the events that happened during the day, but we try to highlight every day all the good things that happened to you. For example, they invited you to visit, invited you on a date, raised your salary, etc.
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At the end of the day, try to analyze pleasant events and look for positive moments in them, understanding that life does not stand still, that it cannot be boring and dreary, when there are so many new and interesting things around, look for it, and do not focus on one thing. This is a fairly effective way to regain enthusiasm and take a step towards new horizons.
Get your body in order
Even if you are slim as a gazelle now, things can change over the years. You need to start taking care of yourself from a young age. Like anything you do for yourself, it is very exciting. Gyms, fitness, aerobics, swimming pool are waiting for you. Dancing stands apart, as it is both art and gymnastics. Latin American dances create a holiday in your soul that stays with you for a long time.
There is a type where only women are allowed to enter - oriental dancing. Contrast with the male world. Belly dancing teaches you to use gestures to either offer yourself or push away. Which corresponds to the recommendations of modern manuals for attracting men.
Let's start traveling
If you are still sad, then the best way to forget about melancholy is travel. You don’t have to go far, you can go for a walk in the forest, go out of town, to a friend’s dacha, take a train ride, or go on an excursion to another city on the weekend.
People who will meet along the way, new places, will bring a feeling of novelty. If you wish, you can invite friends with you, they will brighten up moments of loneliness, they will be able to cheer you up and will not let you get bogged down in the whirlpool of your own negative emotions. Create vivid memories for yourself and passion for something new will take out any apathy and depression.
How to overcome lack of sensations
We tried to completely immerse ourselves in boredom: watched TV series, ate chips. What's next? Oh, psychologists know what to do if you're bored. First, let's go through the basic checklist. If you are a little bored for the first time, you can:
- do cleaning (wash windows under Rammstein);
- disassemble the cabinets (give away unnecessary things, throw away trash);
- sort photos on your computer, then print out the best ones;
- cook homemade shawarma and invite friends for a glass of hibiscus;
- have a movie night;
- talk on the phone for several hours;
- meet the dawn;
- assemble a huge puzzle;
- walk all night;
- go out into nature;
- sow goodness (leave reviews of products you like, write nice comments);
- buy a painting by numbers;
- make a list of wishes and goals;
- make repairs;
- plant a vegetable garden in your country house or on your balcony;
- get a houseplant and give it a name;
- check when the last tetanus vaccination was given (it must be renewed every ten years);
- bring a friend lunch to work;
- go to museums, shops, theaters;
- go extreme (skydiving, virtual reality, rope jumping);
- send someone a package;
- write a letter.
When the blues conquer more and more territories
Then we set out on the warpath against boredom. Here you can:
Go study
The light version is all sorts of online courses and classes with a teacher after work. English, clay modeling, academic drawing, shooting, Latin... By the way, you can finally get your license. All the things that would be fun to try, but it’s always somehow not time for it.
Have you ever been attracted to easy paths? Go to university! Choose a specialty, take the Unified State Exam, submit documents. If you do, you won’t be bored for the next five years.
Sport
What are the benefits of physical exercise? I ran 5-10 kilometers and one thought remains: “How can I get home?” You can’t think about boredom, and you don’t have the strength to experience it. Swimming, martial arts, fly yoga and dancing are waiting for you!
Find a community
Meeting new people is refreshing. Spend time in different companies. Friends and colleagues are great. But you can also go for rides around the city on bicycles, join hiking enthusiasts, or go to conversation or literary clubs.
Don't be afraid to go for the first time: the main goal is to overcome boredom, not to win a medal, right?
Ending relationships that have outlived their usefulness
Quite often, the reason for the lack of enthusiasm can be a protracted relationship with a partner. When a guy or girl hasn’t brought anything into your life, a person causes irritation or there are no emotions at all, you should get rid of the ballast or take a break.
If you become bored, you need to break up, even under the fear of causing pain. Love life is meant to be fun, not frustrating.
After all, when there is a burning inside, when there is a serious passion, only then does that same spark appear that gives an incentive to live and rejoice, enthusiasm appears.
Personal care
Looking well-groomed is a duty to others who are forced to look at us. Taking care of yourself is a sign of respect for others. There are few lucky people who always look attractive. This is usually painstaking work every day.
The cosmetics industry offers such a wide range that purchasing such products is a matter of choice, not search. Properly applied makeup can make a girl with any natural characteristics attractive.
On the shelves of cosmetics and perfumery stores you can see almost equal amounts of products intended for women and men. This must be taken into account when purchasing.
Men have rougher skin, so the ingredients in creams intended for them are in a more concentrated form.
Now imagine how you stand thoughtfully in front of a product that can transform you, and mentally try it on for yourself. Are you bored now?
Don't forget to visit the hairdresser regularly.
New acquaintances
Sometimes it happens that the influence of friends fades away and you become bored with them. Perhaps no one is to blame for this. They just stopped giving a feeling of novelty. Therefore, it is necessary to look for a new circle of acquaintances and friends.
These could be friends on social networks; this option is especially suitable for shy, uncommunicative people who find it difficult to make new acquaintances.
Sign up for a gym, you will definitely find a couple of enthusiasts there with overflowing energy. It is important that there is an opportunity to learn something new from a new circle of friends, so that an inspiring idea appears on how to change and return the taste for life.
No other half
I have a hobby, the computer doesn’t let me get bored, but I don’t have a girlfriend. The world is black and white, but should be in color. Use dating sites. Even studying them is a very exciting activity. If you are a guy, you can feel like a padishah who, with an important air, chooses his concubine. Girls will like increased attention to their person from guys.
If there is a problem with finding new acquaintances, you should mention it no matter who you talk to. There will be some friend of yours or a friend of your mother who has a sister/brother, girlfriend/friend, also without a couple. Try to meet and go to a cafe. Even if you get bored with your prospective partner, it doesn’t matter, even if you drank delicious coffee.
Be yourself
Quite often, the suggestion and strong energy of other people involuntarily forces a person to imitate others, especially for young people. Guys are incredibly impressionable, often do not have their own opinions, and their will is easy to suppress.
So they try to imitate others, while losing their individuality. Therefore, it is necessary to learn to be yourself, not to think about what others will say, because it is not interesting not to be someone when you yourself are an individual.
People are characterized by depression, loss of enthusiasm, when they cannot express themselves and hide their Self deep inside. Laugh, listen to loud music, do rash things, dress up brightly and then inspiration will certainly come, followed by the desire to be yourself.
What leads to a boring life?
Routine, responsibilities and a constant measured lifestyle can cause boredom. But it is worth noting that many, wanting to quickly fill their lives with bright colors, resort to drastic and often rash actions - engaging in extreme sports, using tobacco or alcohol products, or even drugs. These are extreme measures from which you should try to abstract yourself.
Few people look for truly useful activities and thus make their life more interesting.
A boring, monotonous life can cause:
- nervous tension and depression;
- desire to work constantly without breaks for rest;
- overstrain as a result of constant active work of the brain;
- aggression and irritability;
- addiction to tobacco and alcohol, other bad habits;
- lack of ability to concentrate.
I will name 3 main reasons that stimulate boredom:
- Deceptive stability. Many people do not change anything in their own lives for years, not wanting to part with the sense of stability that they impose on themselves. In the minds of such people, any change can destroy their usual way of life.
- Laziness is the most common cause of boredom. It is the reluctance to act, do something and change your life that leads to boredom. It is easier for a person to do nothing and constantly be where he is.
- Lack of self-confidence. The reluctance to concentrate the attention of others on themselves, the fear of criticism and gossip force many to lead a routine, monotonous lifestyle.
Learning to love yourself
Believe me, nothing will happen without self-love. When a person is happy with himself, he likes his reflection in the mirror, even if he doesn’t look like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
When he is confident in himself, despondency and apathy come to him much less often. Everyone has shortcomings, but this is not a reason to despair, become depressed and lose enthusiasm. Admire yourself, sing, dance with or without music, be creative, create, then your interest in life will awaken, but do not forget to love and praise yourself.
So, if everything around you is expressionless, has become bland and gray, your enthusiasm is zero, use our tips and everything will work out. The most important thing is to admit this to yourself, fight for every happy minute and always be in search of new ideas. Have fun, learn, connect with people and be positive.
Go on a trip
Visiting other places is a radical change of scenery. Your eyes will see different landscapes, your ears will hear different sounds. There is something to do with other senses as well. You shouldn't spend your holidays the same way every year.
There are a lot of possibilities, you won't be able to explore them all. But we must strive for this. Now there is an opportunity to visit almost any country. And they are all so different.
Watch your body
When I was bored, I usually preferred to relieve stress by eating a pan of biscuits. I noticed that it made me feel better, but it was bad for my body. Consequently, I realized that candy and junk food could play havoc with my mental as well as physical well-being and I decided to give up this terrible habit. I started working on ridding my mind of negative emotions and thoughts. Now I am proud of myself because I have successfully achieved my goal. I want you to know that this annoying habit is a vampire's true passion. Try replacing eating unhealthy foods with exercise every day.
Ask your loved ones about your best qualities
Nowadays, people are often depressed due to their boring and busy lives. Accordingly, it is very easy to lose confidence in your strengths and abilities. This mental state creates uncertainty, fear and contradictions in your mind. You feel doubt that you could change anything for the better. If you realize that you cannot overcome this condition alone, then interview people you know well and who can name your best qualities. It is very rewarding to listen to other people praising you and mentioning your strengths. This will boost your self-esteem and help you feel more confident.
Lack of time
It may seem strange, but some people may find life boring because they believe that they do not have enough free time. Firstly, as stated above, they can try to enjoy what they spend most of their time doing.
You can try to arrange a day for yourself without the Internet and TV. This will help you notice how much time is actually wasted. But they could be devoted to something actually interesting: learning a new language, a hobby, communicating with loved ones.
Create a dream journal
Why not start keeping a dream journal and writing down at least one dream every day? When you dream, you imagine your desired reality and experience positive feelings and emotions. Psychologists say that dreams are a direct connection with your desires and passions. I am sure that every person, especially big dreamers, sees a huge number of dreams and easily forgets about them. I suggest taking paper and writing down your dreams. Later, you will have a list of dreams and desires so that you know what you want and how to achieve these goals and cherished ideas.
Difficult conversations need to happen.
If you are suffering from something and you cannot take the time to confront the problem and deal with the situation, you will become bored, exhausted and idle for ages. No matter how uncomfortable it may seem, you must muster up your courage to have an unpleasant conversation and stand your ground. Hidden negative emotions are like a cancer that is slowly killing you from the inside. Make it a habit to find an opportunity to say everything you don't like. This approach will help you maintain and improve your mental and physical well-being.
