Is a person of weak character forever or can he improve?

What does "weak character" mean?

The problem must be solved with open eyes. And this means that you need to deal with the phenomenon that prevents you from developing in your personal life, business and other areas.

It is believed that a weak character is:

timid;
indecisive;
modest;
fearful.

In fact, this is not entirely true. Even timid, quiet individuals are capable of action. And what a one! A quiet husband, for example, is able to fight for his betrothed with any rival, showing miracles of perseverance and perseverance. Weakness lies in the inability to develop one's own opinion and follow it. Probably the best synonym for this word is the term “slave.” And this allows you to look at the problem from a different perspective.

What weaknesses do girls have in relation to guys?

Women's main weaknesses in sex are romance and tenderness.

For example, beautiful, sensual foreplay is liked by the vast majority of beautiful ladies. Another female weakness in bed is compliments, enthusiastic epithets with which a man describes her appearance. Many young ladies literally melt when they hear how seductive, exciting, and desirable they are.

In a man's appearance

An extremely common female weakness is strong male arms with clearly defined veins. Seeing them, the girl already imagines herself in the strong arms of a guy. In addition to hands, female weaknesses and popular triggers in male appearance are: a clearly defined strong-willed chin, strong abs, elastic buttocks and broad male shoulders.

In everyday life

On an everyday level, women are attracted to men's ability to quickly solve problems that arise. Let me give you an example: your kettle burned down. While the girl sits and worries about the breakdown, the guy will already google several successful replacement models and find out the addresses of stores where they can be bought.

Signs of a weak character

Unfortunately, lack of will does not depend on gender, age or race. Men and women can have this characteristic equally. Signs of weakness include the following:

Inability to make decisions.
Uncontrollability of emotions.
Inability to hold the interlocutor's attention.
Timidity.
Tendency to complain.
Envy.
Lack of personal opinion on important issues.
Blind imitation of authority.

We have provided only the most superficial characteristics. Moreover, a man more often masks an internal problem with external brutality. For example, he is rude if a wave of shyness rises inside. A woman tends to accept her shortcomings as they are.

Why are men attracted to feminine weakness?

Women's weaknesses that attract men are a certain helplessness, confusion in the face of complex problems. Seeing that the girl cannot cope with difficulties on her own and needs his help, the man will feel like a protector who can provide the woman with peace and comfort. Believe me, such awareness is very flattering.

The inner meaning of weakness

So far we have determined how this quality manifests itself in society. But for the development of personality, it is more important why a person behaves in this particular way. If a weak will had a positive impact on life, no one would wonder how to strengthen it and strengthen character. To find a way to solve a problem, you need to understand what is happening in a person’s soul.

Weakness is often congenital. A person is born with a predetermined set of qualities. They are given to the individual for development. For example, every newborn is not capable of counting, writing, driving, or preparing food for her husband and children. This needs to be learned. This is how a citizen develops. Along with learning skills and rules of behavior, we simultaneously develop the soul. That is, we improve an innate set of qualities.
Some people are given talent, it should be identified and developed. Others receive from the Lord (the Higher Powers or the Universe) the ability to teach, draw batik, build sand castles, and so on. And each of us must understand where to move and then begin to develop. Moreover, the more problems along this path, the stronger the personality becomes, if it does not break, of course.
In this sense, weak character is a huge gift. Its presence means that a person is endowed with great potential for development. There is also bad news for such people: you cannot leave the problem without a solution. Otherwise you will never understand the true meaning of happiness.
The task of a weak-willed person is to overcome the problem and become strong. By the way, if a lady has a weak husband, she needs to help him. After all, a man’s condition depends on female energy. But the opposite is not true. The husband is not able to cope with the weak will of his wife. She will have to work on her own.

Strong-Weak Woman

Let's first figure it out - who is a weak and strong woman?

What is your opinion about a weak woman?

This is a woman who can’t do anything herself, who sits on the neck of a man and her parents, who, with the symptoms of ARVI, sniffles painfully under the blanket, and in general she is always tired, her mood is changeable - between capricious and melancholic, unsure of herself and absolutely irresponsible .

Dear ones, this is the definition of an infantile girl, and it has nothing to do with a weak woman.

Most women in our country, and probably in the world, consider themselves strong.

Why? Because in moments of despair, they do not snot, but gather all their will into a fist and go to work.

And in those moments when their beloved man is going through a crisis, they remember the “women’s duty” to support the man and rush to a second job.

And she’s also a strong woman who’s Swedish, and a reaper, and a trumpet player... that is, she thrives at work, and she has a “hobby” that definitely brings her income, and she manages everything at home, and she always takes care of the children herself. .

But this interpretation of the definition of a “strong woman” is fundamentally incorrect. After all, anyone can proudly declare “I can do everything myself”...

Both terms are perceived and lived by women contrary to their true meanings. But when a woman goes against her nature, she will not encounter anything good on her path; on the contrary, illness and mental anguish will become her faithful companions.

Women who follow the path of a “weak, infantile girl” will constantly destroy their man, and in the best case scenario for him, he will simply leave because of the instinct of self-preservation. And throughout her life she will be unable to bear responsibility for herself, constantly looking for new men who will agree to take on this “responsibility,” but the truth of life is that all that shines for her is the role of a mistress and minor handouts, which are actually payment for sex. And it will all end in dementia.

Praise be to the Almighty, there are few such women.

Because everyone unanimously decided to become “strong” and independent - war and fashion did their job.

What's wrong with a “strong, independent woman”?

A woman who decided to be in time for everything and everywhere forgot that she is physically different from a man. In Vedic texts, a woman is identified with a cow - a leisurely and calm creature, but if the cow gets angry, it will not seem like much to anyone. How many times have you seen wild cows in your life? Therefore, all actions that must be performed by a woman must be invisible. With her energetic behavior, she will set the man up to increase his income, and in the same way, the responsibility for the children will also fall on his shoulders. But it is much more pleasant for a woman to be a horse. What is “energetic invisible behavior” and, in general, “how to sit still when your whole life is falling apart”? “Plowing” is another matter - here everything is clear, how you worked, how you ate, or rather, how the family ate.

And now, dammit... Men: tyrants, gigolos, hangers-on, misers, lazy people, alcoholics, gambling addicts. What did you think? Does like attract like? Does a hard-working, purposeful, responsible woman have the same man? But this is not female nature, so for the sake of balance - get it, sign it... Health: gynecology, back, legs, blood pressure, oncology... Remember your independent mothers and their illnesses!

What is the correct definition of a strong and weak woman?

A woman cannot be either strong or weak, because she is whole. And its strength lies in the ability to show its weakness.

In the ability to approach a man in difficult times and say, “Darling, I believe in you, I depend only on you and I know that you will cope with this situation in the name of our love.” In the same way, a strong woman will never be ashamed to tell her husband: “I’m tired, I need rest, today you feed the baby and change the diapers.” And let him go to school meetings too, because a woman will never be an authority among other women, therefore, the mental safety of children is at risk.

It’s very easy to do everything yourself, but it’s very difficult to trust when “your whole life is falling apart.” But only boundless faith in her man will allow a woman to return to her rightful place as a Woman.

And only by becoming a Woman, the one who is meant to be by birth, and not the one imposed by fashion and conditions, will she meet a worthy, responsible Man, in their life there will be a stable income, mutual understanding, respect, health and happy children.

How to overcome yourself?

At first it will seem that it is impossible to get rid of timidity, envy and other qualities listed above. If you limit yourself to one or two days, then really nothing will come of it.

You should be prepared to work for a long time. And first of all, understand that no one will do it for you. The husband or wife in this case is not a support. Relatives can only provide moral encouragement at the first stage.

There are several points to pay attention to. Weakness is a special quality. It does not always manifest itself in the manner described above. Its most important characteristics:

lack of opinion;
statement.

These qualities manifest themselves in various ways. For example, if the husband suggests going on a hike and describes the delights of hiking, the wife happily agrees. She simply does not understand what difficulties lie ahead. She can’t decide whether she wants to walk in the mountains. But this is not weak character yet. Now, if the husband cools down, when the girl has already purchased equipment and chosen the route, comes up with a different plan, and she again follows his lead - it’s worth thinking about. This is a clear manifestation of a lack of personal opinion.

How to stop being soft and strengthen your character

It makes no sense to deny the benefits of tough behavior, but not every person is able to develop this trait. Many representatives of society are distinguished by softness and compliance, which can serve poorly in situations that require the ability to defend one’s point of view and make the right decisions.

In order to achieve real success in developing internal rigidity, you should pay attention to the recommendations of specialists.

Awareness of the need. Before you begin to develop strength of character, you need to clearly accept the fact that natural meekness is the cause of many different problems in everyday life. A great way to weigh the pros and cons is to list in writing all the possible consequences. For example: “Colleagues are accustomed to using my reliability to solve the most unpleasant tasks.”

An example to follow. When working on yourself, it won’t hurt to have before your eyes an example of a person who fully corresponds to the concept of a standard. Perhaps among your friends there is a person who successfully combines all the desired traits. Pay attention to his manner of keeping himself in company, facial expressions and vocabulary. But be sure to remember that each character is a unique and very complex combination of various traits, the thoughtless copying of which can lead you to lose yourself.
Gradual changes. Don't think that you can turn into a completely different person in a matter of days. In fact, the entire process of forming rigidity can take more than one month. Take your time, start small and over time you will achieve significant results. Otherwise, those around you may consider your changes to be some kind of whim that they should simply endure, or they will begin to actively try to return you to the “true path.”
The art of refusing. Learn to say a calm and firm “no” to people. This skill can be called one of the main signs of a strong character. If your colleagues are used to chasing you around with small errands or turning to you for help, knowing that you never refuse anyone, then be prepared to disappoint them. Your attempts to stop being a “pack horse” will only cause reproachful glances and pursed lips from them. But don’t even think about giving up and backing down. Don’t show weakness and remember why you started all this in the first place.
Work on gaze and gestures. Everyone knows very well that a tough person can be distinguished even in a noisy, noisy crowd. He is given away by his behavior, namely, verbal and non-verbal signs. The gaze should be direct and confident, the posture should always be straight, the gestures should be rather stingy. Particular attention should be paid to the intonation of the voice. A confident person always has an even and calm voice. A tough person is distinguished by the ability to eloquently remain silent. With his entire appearance, he can show his attitude to a particular situation; he does not need to raise his voice to defend his position.
Sports activities. Sport helps achieve amazing and sometimes stunning results in character building. And it doesn’t matter what kind of sport you are going to do. Regular exercise will not only help you improve your fitness, but will also become the basis on which discipline and determination will subsequently develop. The right motivation and positive changes in appearance will significantly increase your self-confidence.

Important

Remember that you cannot become tough in a couple of days. But with a strong incentive and a clear understanding of the need, you have every chance of achieving your goal.

Developing a plan

It is proposed to work in stages:

The first step is the most important one. It is necessary to analyze your reactions, then write down manifestations of a weak character. You can focus on the above signs. However, it should be understood that manifestations are not limited to them.
The second stage is more difficult. It's a good idea to ask your friends to tell you how they perceive your personality. At this step it is worth relying on loved ones. A woman should listen to what her husband thinks about this and vice versa. Based on the results of your work, adjust the list of manifestations.
The third stage is the actual development of an action plan. Each shortcoming will have to be dealt with separately. Below are the methods recommended by psychologists, as well as those suggested by the experience of people involved in solving such problems.
The last stage is work. Don't limit your time. Also, don't stress. Do “exercises” by playing like children. Take failures and successes lightly. Know that every person came into this world to be happy. This applies to the weak-willed too. Decide to develop, put happiness at the forefront. Willpower will come if you don't give up. It is important to understand that a woman is also given a husband for internal work on creating happiness. If his will is at zero, he needs to be encouraged and guided. But the husband is not able to help his wife.

Five Research Questions

We do not like ourselves to be weak and powerless. At these moments we become disgusted with ourselves. But let's try to look our weakness in the face as an experiment. Find out more about her. Without this, we cannot understand how to get along with her.

To make your work more effective, answer questions one at a time, without looking ahead. Answers can be written down in a notepad.

Imagine a typical situation of weakness for you. A colleague forced extra work on you, but you couldn’t refuse. A friend forced you to sacrifice your interests in her favor, and you were unable to say “no” in time. Mom called at the wrong time, and you didn’t have the courage to interrupt her.

You trudge home sadly, think about hot tea and feel like a wuss. “Why am I so weak? - you ask yourself. – Was it really impossible to show character? A rag, a coward, weak-willed!

Wait, let's take a break. Try to understand how you feel when you tell yourself these unpleasant things about you. Anger, anger, humiliation, sadness - this is what my clients usually say.

Imagine using these words to scold a small child in front of you. The child cries and covers his face. He is hurt and offended. What would you say to the offender? How would you console a child?

Why do you think you treat yourself so harshly, why do you scold the child who lives inside you and sometimes makes mistakes?

Whose face appears before your eyes when you imagine yourself in the place of this child? From whom did you hear these derogatory accusations?

How fair do you think these accusations were? How fair are the accusations that you make against yourself? How would you defend yourself if you were your own lawyer?

Take your time and complete the experiment. Support yourself. Tell yourself that you are good and deserve warmth and love.