Many women are worried that they may lose attractiveness in the eyes of their chosen one, they are afraid that he will cheat on someone else, they are afraid of losing him. You always want to remain desired and loved by your husband.
Elena Gamayun, psychologist-tarot reader
I recently received a letter from my client. Olga wrote: “I don’t know how I can understand my husband! We have been married for 15 years, I feel that I am no longer interested in him as a woman. I know that being interesting to my husband is a certain amount of work. But I'm tired at work. Domestic problems and quarrels arise at home. My husband never says kind words to me. I have no desire to do anything for him, he doesn’t appreciate it anyway. What should we do, how can we get our relationship back?”
To love and be loved, you must have the strength and energy to do so. If your time and life are not organized correctly, then you get tired and lose energy. It is important to remember yourself and learn to love yourself!
What to do so that your husband never cheats
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Sincerely love – 1
Many representatives of the fair sex think that a man will not go “left” if he has enough sex at home. But in practice, husbands also cheat on their reliable wives.
A fact is a fact - if partners only sleep in the marital bed, then sooner or later the beloved will be drawn to someone else's bedroom. Therefore, it is very important for a woman to enjoy intimacy with her chosen one.
As a rule, men have a much higher libido than women, and it is the stronger sex who initiates sexual pleasures. Women prioritize the pleasure of their husband so that he does not go on the side. However, men are not as selfish as most women believe. The more you want your partner, the more he only wants you.
Trust - 2
Do not hesitate, if your spouse wants to change, he will definitely change. Even if you keep it under total control. Any man will confirm that constant checks are humiliating. You want a real man with a capital M next to you, right?
Stop controlling him and tell him honestly about your concerns. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. And if adultery has already occurred, then open access to his phone and social networks will help restore trust.
Stay true to yourself - 3
Alas, they cheat even on those who love deeply and trust endlessly. Sometimes it happens that a man gets bored with his wife. But are we always comfortable with ourselves? Are you satisfied with your own life and work?
Undoubtedly, you are raising children, trying to keep your home clean and tidy, and create comfort. Do you think you are an interesting person and conversationalist?
It is very important to devote time to self-development, set and achieve goals, and grow as a person. Then the man will truly feel like a knight who needs to win the hand and heart of his beloved.
Share responsibilities with your husband - 4
Don't put everything on yourself. If the wife is constantly busy with household chores, what can the husband do? A tortured and tired wife has no time for lovemaking. Moreover, if the wife is in control, then what is the function of the man in the house? And it’s humiliating for men if his missus copes even with men’s affairs. Don’t be shy about asking your husband for help with household chores, raising children, or choosing new wallpaper.
Talk to your loved one - 5
Even if your partner isn't a big talker, there are ways to find common ground. After all, when you made the decision to marry him, you were interested in him. Even after talking about an abstract topic, you can feel unity with your other half.
Moreover, there is no need to remain silent about your fears. One day they will turn into suspicions. As long as there is mutual understanding with your spouse, do not be afraid to tell him about your worries.
Work on your mistakes - 6
If your intuition tells you that the inevitable will happen soon, you should under no circumstances panic. Try to analyze at what point everything went wrong. Then there is every chance to prevent betrayal.
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The myth of male polygamy
You can often hear the statement that all men are polygamous by nature. It's partly true. However, before you cut all men with the same brush, you should figure out why many people talk about natural polygamy of the strong half of humanity.
We need to plunge into history and remember how our ancestors lived. Sexual competition has previously been observed in male behavior, especially in polygamous societies. From history we know about frequent cases of polygamy in tribal communities. This social structure was the norm. In this environment, the stakes were high for men. The “winners of the competition” received the best women, and their chances of having large offspring increased. Losing men risked genetic destruction due to their failure to gain the status and resources needed to attract sexual partners.
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Influential men had a great sexual advantage, but those lower in the hierarchy could not have this. This is where the misconception that men still believe today came from: “The more polygamous you are, the higher your status.” This opinion should not be judged strictly, because we must not forget about human genetic memory.
Monogamy appeared relatively later in history. Men reconsidered their views on sexual relationships with women and came to the conclusion that their social status does not depend on the number of partners.
It's hard to believe, but the connection between male polygamy and general global social issues is extremely close. Modern society gravitates towards monogamy. It does not force constant reproduction for the purpose of survival of humans as a species, which cannot be said about antiquity.
Modern men themselves determine their level of polygamy. But if we think from a psychological point of view, the only thing that can affect him is genetic memory. If a guy is in a serious relationship with a girl, then he decides for himself whether to cheat or not. The responsibility for the choice falls only on his shoulders.
What kind of women don't want to cheat?
Representatives of the fair sex need to make efforts so that their life partner does not want to go to the left. How to behave so that a man does not cheat:
- care and attention;
- satisfy sexual needs and fantasies;
- do not limit personal space;
- understand your loved one;
- be in good shape.
All of the above points play a big role for a man. Only the presence of all these factors will make him happy, and he will not want to look for adventures on the side.
Mom or wife3
If there are children in the family, everything becomes even more complicated. The wife begins to pay all her attention to the kids, sometimes forgetting about her husband and his needs. Being jealous of your child on a subconscious level, your husband will become offended and complain about the lack of attention.
Therefore, no matter how great your maternal instinct is, do not forget about the role of wife and mistress. By not being overly protective of your children, you will not only avoid the danger of raising selfish people, but also free up time for yourself and your beloved husband. It’s not for nothing that they say that if a woman has two children and a husband, then she has three children.
The main reasons for going to the left
I wrote a separate article on this topic - Why men cheat. I will briefly summarize its content below.
Women like to claim that all men are polygamous because it is their physical need. Undoubtedly, some representatives of the stronger sex find it difficult to remain faithful to one woman, but this is not an excuse. Here a lot depends on the wife's reaction. Some will swallow the insult, while others will be categorical in their desire to get a divorce.
A spouse may devote a lot of time to her work and not have time to do household chores. In this case, the man needs to help her, at least a little, and the woman should accept his help with gratitude. But the opposite happens: she doesn’t like the way her husband vacuumed the floors or peeled potatoes. The husband becomes offended, he gives up and he no longer wants to do anything around the house. There is a desire to find a new passion who will appreciate his efforts.
Another reason why the husband goes to the left is the desire to diversify his sex life. The wife refuses to experiment in bed and try something new. Then the man goes in search of someone who will agree to fulfill his desire.
Cheating also often occurs under the influence of alcoholic beverages. Alcohol has a relaxing effect, blurs boundaries and leads to a loss of self-control. When there is a woman nearby who doesn’t mind having fun, he will most likely not deny himself the pleasure. This option also has no justification. After all, there are still some men who, while intoxicated, remain faithful to their chosen ones. Take the test and find out what your chances are of getting your husband back
Magic against betrayal
Of course, it also happens that the wife does everything right, but the husband still stares at other people’s women. In this case, you can use the advice of magicians. They are quite simple and effective. The main thing is that when performing magical rituals, you must believe in their power:
- At night, when everyone in the household is asleep, you need to take a pair of your husband’s shoes with laces, and move the laces from one shoe to another. At the same time, you don’t need to pronounce conspiracies, you don’t need to think about anything.
- Buy the smallest padlock and place it open under the mat at the front door. When the husband steps over the threshold, the lock must be quietly taken out and closed with the key, saying the following words: “Here is your house, your threshold, your wife. Amen". You should always carry the key with you, and hide the lock in a secluded place, away from prying eyes.
- Place the scissors discreetly under the mattress with the tip pointing toward the pillow. At the same time, one should say: “On all women with a blunt ring, and on me, the wife (your name), with a sharp end. Amen".
- If you notice that your husband has begun to behave suspiciously, then you can do the following ritual: put his favorite mug of water on the threshold. Next, pronounce the spell: “Servant of God (name, patronymic), here is your threshold, your water, run away from the road so as not to leave. Amen". After the conspiracy, you must try to let him drink this water.
- Take yours and his worn, washed underpants, fold them front to back, roll them into a tube and wrap them in a red scarf, then sew the bundle up with red thread. Try to hide the bundle in the bed so that no one finds it.
- Cut some hair from the horse's mane, then sew it into the husband's clothes. At the same time, the following words should be said 3 times: “The gelding does not want a single mare, even the most beautiful one. He is not interested in anyone - neither a smart girl, nor a beauty, he only likes his wife. Amen".
What to do to make your husband stop cheating
Many wives believe that mistresses who seduced someone else's husband, but not themselves, are to blame for the betrayal of their other halves. If a woman can understand why her husband started an affair, then it is necessary to immediately change the situation so that the man no longer wants to seek comfort in someone else’s bed.
Set common goals - 1
Common goals bring us closer and unite. Achieving them requires joint efforts and the same attitude. Don't let physiological processes get the best of you.
As a rule, after 40 years a man begins a new stage in life. The children have already grown up, begun to live their own lives, and parents have more time and the opportunity to live as active a life as before the birth of children.
Only at this time does a woman experience a period when she loses her reproductive ability. Then the man has an instinct to find a new, younger partner.
At this moment, the wife also needs to begin a new stage, similar to the one before marriage. By refreshing feelings in a relationship, a woman will be able to keep her husband’s instincts under control.
Stop humiliating your spouse - 2
Today, many women prefer to be self-sufficient and independent, blaming their life partners for insolvency.
Such spouses are dissatisfied with everything that their other halves do and reproach them for not paying them enough attention and not giving them gifts. The chosen one begins to get angry, because nagging from the woman he loves irritates and completely kills the desire to please her.
It is necessary to change tactics so that a man does not want to look for adventures on the side. For example, show yourself weak so that he wants to help you. Then he will feel strong, needed and significant.
Allow him to see his friends - 3
It is very important that your husband has time to meet with his friends. He, just like you, wants to share his impressions and emotions with someone. Having shared his pain with friends, he will not look for a new passion.
Become more mature - 4
Adultery can be prevented not only through physical pleasure. Close emotional and spiritual relationships also play an important role.
Don't be jealous - 5
Tracking messages and monitoring social networks, monitoring incoming and outgoing calls, demands, surveillance, complaints, have a humiliating and offensive effect on men. If the spouse maintains strict control, he has a desire to do something contrary. Trust each other, learn to build a dialogue in which you can discuss and solve all problems.
Diversify your intimate life - 6
It often happens that after several years of married life in a couple, a moment comes when everything becomes boring. Refresh your relationship, make your sex life more varied. Don't be afraid to try new positions, make love in unusual places, buy new sexy lingerie. Take the test and find out what your chances are of getting your husband back
Appearance2
As soon as the coveted stamp appears in the passport, the woman for some reason decides that she can no longer apply makeup, do her hair, or dress beautifully. And really, why, if he is already ringed and belongs entirely to her alone. Perhaps this metamorphosis with the wife does not occur in the first months of family life, but after a year, this is definitely what happens.
And so, one day a man comes home, and instead of the beauty he fell in love with a year ago, he is greeted by an unmade-up, unkempt Baba Yaga in an old robe and worn-out slippers. And he wonders where the sexy lady he married went to.
And at the same time, he comes to his mistress, and she already meets him from the doorway, all dressed up, in stockings, and with makeup, and with her hair done. Willy-nilly, a man will be drawn to beauty, where they are preparing for his arrival, as if they were celebrating the New Year.
Or here’s another example of a wife’s unfaithful behavior. Without being embarrassed by her husband, or even bringing him as a witness, she calmly announces a new pimple on her face or cellulite on her thighs. Some even manage to ask their spouse to help squeeze out a pimple under their armpit. However, you must admit that there is somehow little romance and sexuality in such moments. But the psychology of a mistress is that even on pain of death she will not admit to having an extra kilogram, a callus on her heel or a broken nail.
Of course, many may argue that there are no children there, there is no need to cook, clean, wash and iron, and therefore there is time for oneself. But, dear women, admit that if you wish, you can find 15-20 minutes to put your head or nails in order. Well, no husband likes to rub against his wife’s prickly, unshaven legs or kiss her hands with shabby manicure.
Therefore, in order not to give some woman a chance to take your husband away from you, watch yourself. Don’t let your body become swollen with fat, and if this happens, don’t complain to your husband about the appearance of your belly, it’s better to get rid of it quickly. It is not necessary to meet him from work in a silk peignoir, but at least not in a robe or old sweatpants. Remember, a woman’s appearance is one of the best qualities of a mistress, which they use to their full potential.
Rules of conduct for a wise wife
Simple tips will help a wife prevent her husband from cheating:
- Cheating is not the main problem, but only a consequence . Dig deeper and you will understand why the faithful decided to take this step. A man will never cheat if he is respected and expected at home.
- To prevent your spouse from going looking for adventure, it is important to develop yourself and keep yourself in shape .
- No need to nag a man . If you need something from him, find other leverage.
- Respect your loved one's interests.
Renew your wedding vows every 7 years.
I heard one story that is quite similar to the truth. The man and woman had been married for 57 years when their family and friends threw them a party to celebrate their longevity of love.
After the holiday, the woman said to her husband: “It was very great. But one question has bothered me for many years: why don’t you ever say you love me?”
The man looked at his wife in surprise: “Why, I told you that I love you the day we got married. If I changed my mind, I would let you know."
Too many people take their relationships for granted once they're already married. But that's not true. My wife and I have been married for 31 years. This is the third marriage for each of us. Every 7 years we renew our vows and again promise to love and be there for each other. Besides this, we just often say to each other: “I love you.”
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Sometimes, to understand why a man did this, you need to look at the situation objectively. Is it possible that infidelity was the result of moral experiences or difficulties? If the spouse wants to sincerely help her chosen one, she will be able to find the strength in herself and prevent subsequent infidelities.
