How to make your husband respect you and be afraid of losing you? To be an ideal wife, lover, as recommended by numerous articles in magazines?
But let’s be honest, all the tips for improving yourself specifically for men don’t work!
As a result, a man simply sits on your neck and rides on you for the rest of his life, and you suffocate in the desire to be perfect. Maybe that's enough? Is it time to think about yourself first?
I suggest we immediately discuss some details - there will be no trick, there will be no lifehack, I will tell you how to make your husband respect you and be afraid of losing you, but this will take time and your efforts.
Ready? Then, let's go!
What can I do to make my husband afraid of losing?
Remember the expression, be careful what you wish for, they may come true?
So it is with wishes that the husband be afraid of losing.
What meaning do you put into this thought?
I’ll ask you a few questions, and you can think about it at your leisure...
It is possible that right now, you somehow feel or know that your husband does not value you and could leave you at any moment.
Fantasy…
Imagine that your husband is afraid of losing you, really catastrophically afraid.
- How will this fear manifest itself?
- How do you know that your husband is going through, experiencing incredible torment from the thought that at any moment he will be left without you?
- What actions, words, attitudes will show you this fear?
These are not idle questions, because when we go towards a goal, we must know what this goal will look like, how will I know that the goal has been achieved and how will I feel?
- Will your husband constantly tell you about his love?
- Kneel in front of you and talk about how his life will be ruined if you leave him?
- As soon as he sees you, he immediately begins to tell you about your value, importance, and that he cannot live without you?
Of course, now I have written a cartoon version, this simply cannot happen in life.
If a man constantly admits to some kind of fear, then it is difficult to call him a man, because he is looking for protection and patronage from you. Do you want to be the woman of a weak man, and be his support and protection? I think not.
Actions, deeds, attitude towards you - these are the main indicators that a man values and respects you. And the fear of losing is about addiction and codependency.
If you are loved and your opinion is taken into account, then this is a direct indication that your husband is satisfied with everything, and he does not plan to leave you.
But if they cheat on you, make constant claims, blow your mind, etc., then it turns out that he should suddenly change his attitude towards you, eliminate all his discontent that has accumulated, radically change his character and become white and fluffy?
Unattainable.
I think that your husband’s fear of losing you has been dealt with.
Just think about what is really behind such a desire?
Method 1. Love your own “I”
The wife will not respect a husband who disdains his own person.
Husbands who please their wives in everything need to change their strategy. Do you buy expensive things and perfume for your loved one, but wear faded jeans? Be careful, girls quickly get used to good things. Perhaps this is why your wife stopped respecting you; she got the impression that your husband is unworthy of more.
Don't let yourself be humiliated. Refuse tasteless food if this is actually the case. You are an adult, worthy man who needs high-quality and healthy food. Watch your figure, eat right, join the gym. Ladies love sculpted abs and broad shoulders.
Did your spouse buy a T-shirt on sale that looks terrible on you? Make her a doormat.
A girl dresses in expensive boutiques, spends half her salary on shoes from Botticelli, and at the same time buys her husband cheap T-shirts with crooked prints? Stop allocating money to whims, making it clear that you are the “leader of the pack.”
The situations described are a drop in the ocean of humiliation of male pride. Stand up for your point of view even in petty situations, love yourself and don’t let your wife suppress your man’s ego. Go to a good store, buy an expensive watch and beautiful shoes, after all, the budget is shared.
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How to make your husband respect and fear losing?
How to earn the respect of a man, especially a man who knows you well, lives in the same house with you, and essentially knows all your weaknesses and strengths.
But first, let's go a little deeper into male psychology, what does it mean when a man respects someone?
It’s a good question, because in men’s heads there is a clear line between their feelings and their assessment of who is in front of him - a man or a woman, right?
And this happens completely unconsciously, information and attitudes towards different sexes are stored and processed in different parts of the brain; one might say, each sex has its own data cell.
From the cell, information is obtained, verified with what is happening in the here and now, and this or that action or attitude is performed.
So let's take the cell with information about men.
First of all, your man is male and was raised as a man, which means this cell is filled to the top with information. Will a man respect a weak man who does not reach some standard in the generally accepted male world?
Naturally, every man has his own beliefs and values, what a man should be and what his achievements can be, and it is these values that men are guided by.
Men respect equals or more worthy, in this case, they strive to achieve new goals and become better, richer, stronger, etc.
And remember that now we are talking about how a man’s respect for other men is formed. Of course, some men, instead of respect, are simply jealous, but this is not the point now.
Now, let's take up respect for women.
You see, everything is completely different here. Information about women is stored in another cell, and naturally, there is much less information there than in men's. Men understand perfectly well that women are not like them, they are different, therefore, there is always a gap in information.
But regardless of this, any man knows that a woman is physically weaker, this already changes everything, because a man cannot treat a woman as an equal.
If a man respects only an equal or more powerful man, then he can respect a woman only when she requires the protection of a man.
Why? Because by providing her with protection, taking care of her, he feels his strength. And this is the most important thing for a man - to feel his masculinity, his strength.
Not necessarily, it should only be physical strength, it is also protection from any adversity, when a woman makes it clear that she wants a man to protect her from life’s troubles.
Method 4. Become an attentive lover
You can often hear the phrases from women: “My husband and I have boring and monotonous sex!” or “My husband doesn’t satisfy me!” Become an attentive lover so that your wife will look forward to you coming home from work in the evenings.
Sex for married people often loses its spark and becomes routine. Watch an erotic film together, flirt on the phone, discuss secret fantasies. For every talented lover there is a more experienced male, improve your skills and experiment. Light the wish candle again!
What can you do to make your husband respect you and be afraid of losing you?
You have already realized that you can’t force someone to respect a person, just like you can’t force them to love you. Therefore, if now you think that your husband does not respect you, then automatically at this moment, respect will not appear. It takes time for him to change his mind and reload all the information about you in his head.
In order for your husband to treat you more respectfully, let's go through the main steps that need to be taken:
- Treat yourself more respectfully. Do not allow your husband to insult you, call you names, humiliate you and commit all other actions towards you that damage your self-esteem.
- Strengthen your self-esteem - in this case, you know exactly what you are doing and what you will not accept?
- Think about your claims and demands on your husband - do they infringe on his self-esteem? And at this point it’s not worth immediately remembering all his sins and mistakes, now, we are not sorting out the relationship with your husband.
- Learn to show your feminine weakness, ask your husband for help more often. This way, he will feel more masculine because he cares about you.
- Forget the motto “I do it myself,” shift some of the household chores to your husband, and let him feel responsible for anything in the family.
- Don't be a mommy for your husband, but be a beloved woman.
- Do not insult or humiliate him, do not remember your old grievances against him. It is impossible to respect a person who confuses you with dirt.
- Don’t create situations to sort things out, be wiser, use feminine tricks to get what you want.
- Study male psychology to understand what's going on in your husband's head?
- Moderate your expectations about your relationship, think about how realistic your expectations are for your husband? Unreal relationships create tension and the ground for constant conflicts.
- Control less, trust more.
- Don’t be jealous and don’t be afraid of losing him, don’t worry about the fact that he might leave you, find someone else and you’ll be left alone.
- Raise your own self-esteem so that you can convey your value to those around you. If close friends tell your husband how interesting and smart you are, then your value in your husband’s eyes will increase several times.
- Increase your intelligence, develop, learn new things - don’t stand still. Not all husbands, of course, want to have an intelligent wife, but to increase your self-esteem, the feeling of self-development will add a significant plus to your own value.
- Learn to control your emotions, learn not to create conflict situations.
- Pay attention to your appearance, how well-groomed are you, do you take care of yourself? Don't forget that men love with their eyes.
- Remember that the main basic need of a man is a feeling of being needed and in demand. Talk about how important he is to you, mention in your conversation with him the idea that without him you would not be able to cope with some life situation, etc.
- Praise him more often for real actions, do not make his efforts to support his family commonplace. (even if you earn more)
- Do not compare with other men; by comparing, you humiliate him, and thereby do not make him any better, even with the best intentions.
- Don't criticize in public, don't tease him, don't argue with him - by doing all this, it's like you're sticking a knife in his back.
- Don't insult or discuss his relatives, especially his mother. Even if he himself sometimes speaks unflatteringly about his relatives, it will be unpleasant for him to hear some nasty things from your lips.
The list turned out to be long, although I have not yet voiced all the points 
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You can say, and again, everything should be done by a woman! Not fair!
But the question sounded like what should I do to make my husband respect him and be afraid of losing him?
I can give you one piece of advice, if this list scares you, and you are offended that you have to do everything yourself, then accept one simple thought: everything you do, you will do for YOURSELF!
And only for myself.
Remember the fairy tale about how a man sold a cow?
- You need such a cow yourself!
So, if you raise your self-esteem and know exactly what you want, then you will stop doubting yourself, become more confident, and quite possibly decide that you DO NOT NEED this husband who treats you bestially!
This list contains advice regarding a man - do not scold, do not be offended, do not make claims, talk about his masculinity, etc. If you learn this wisdom, proper communication with the male sex, you will become a wise woman who knows how to conquer her emotions. And wisdom, that is wisdom, is useful in any relationship.
And if you implement at least half of the points from the list above, then your husband will be afraid of losing you, because such a treasure does not lie on the road.
And if he’s afraid of losing, it means he values and respects you.
With this, I finish and hope that I was able to answer the question “how to make your husband respect you and be afraid of losing you.
If you don’t know where to start to change your relationship with your husband, then sign up for a consultation with me. I work online through any messenger - Skype, WhatsApp, Viber. Sign up for a consultation using this link.
Be loved and happy!
Sincerely, psychologist Natalia Gnezdilova.
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The author of the article is Natalia Gnezdilova , a family psychologist with 15 years of experience. I help women 35+ regain love, respect and trust in relationships with men. I consult online in any of the messengers - Skype, WhatsApp, Viber. Subscribe: my Instagram YouTube channel VK page
Method 2: Become self-sufficient
Constantly look for options for additional income. Don't live off your salary and struggle to make ends meet. Most women blame their husbands for material poverty, as a result of which they cease to respect them. It's logical. There are no such ladies eager to marry a man sitting at home watching TV with a bottle of beer in his hand instead of doing business.
The question arises about a small salary? Convince the woman that you are trying to provide for your family. She made a vow at the altar to be with her husband in sorrow and in joy, in wealth and in poverty; reproaches here are extremely inappropriate. However, the advice about additional income remains relevant.
Get rid of laziness, read literature, develop yourself and lead your loved one. The man is the guiding line, the wife is the guided one. Take the initiative and don’t shy away from funny ideas; women love an unconventional approach.
Method 5: Leave room for a riddle
You earn good money, occupy a high position, but your wife has lost respect for you? Stop spoiling her. It is clear that you are ready to fulfill any whims, but in everything you need to know when to stop. It’s not for nothing that Pushkin wrote “The more we love a woman, the less she likes us...”. Don’t run forward to fulfill all your beloved’s wishes, leave room for some mystery, you are not an open book. Let the lady ask for a favor, showing her need. This way you can gradually remove the crown from her.
Did your spouse give you a beautiful (totally unnecessary) writing pen for your birthday? Reciprocate.
Is the girl in no hurry to share family stories? And you shouldn't amuse her with stories about the events that happened last weekend.
As a rule, wives stop respecting their husbands because of their own considerations. Some are dissatisfied with the lack of attention to their person, others want to live like queens, and others do everything themselves without outside support. Identify the true motives of behavior and begin to act. Where the carrot is powerless, try the stick.
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Respect or submission?
The above recommendations should not be taken literally. This does not mean that a girl should be soft, submissive, gentle and not contradict her husband in anything. We are talking about normal men who are ready to build respectful relationships. If you live with a gigolo or a womanizer, then the listed rules do not apply to them. Also, you shouldn’t go to extremes, forgive a man everything, look into a man’s mouth and fulfill his whims. Learn to distinguish between you: respect or humility? Let's list the reasons when you should run away from a man:
Raises his hand to the girl. The proverb “hitting means loving” is not true. It all starts with a harmless incident, a man simply pours negativity on his beloved. Then she asks for an apology, explaining that she simply fell under the hot hand. Next time he'll let you hit me. After a couple of years, this behavior will become a habit. There will be no more apologies, but only further reproaches and complaints. There will never be respect in the described scenario.
Rudeness and humiliation. Appears among friends or acquaintances. The guy makes fun of you, gives you offensive nicknames, tells stories where you don’t look in the best light. This behavior is typical for many men. Some do this deliberately, asserting themselves at the expense of the girl, others do not understand that they are hurting their beloved. Talk to the young man, describe how you feel and ask him to stop such attacks. If a man has apologized and is trying to improve, then there is a future in your relationship. I ignored your words, then there will be no more respect, don’t waste your time on a rude person.
Respect is the foundation of any relationship. Love fades, passion passes, interests change. Work on the foundation from the moment the relationship begins, laying brick by brick. Its strength determines how long and happy the relationship will be between a couple, husband and wife. If time is lost, then use the recommendations given to make a man respect himself.
