How to behave with a man so that he is interested in me and is afraid of losing me?

There is an opinion that everyday life kills love and, if not love itself, then it certainly cools the reverent and sensitive attitude of a man that he demonstrated during courtship and the honeymoon. The moral standards of modern consumer society inexorably state: in marriage, love is not born, but dies. Let's talk about how to behave with your husband so that he is afraid of losing you. Advice from a psychologist at all stages of development of marital relationships.

It is very important to talk about your feelings to the one you love because you never know when you might lose them or when they will lose you. One Tree Hill

How to behave with a man so that he is afraid of losing?

So let's start with the fact that men think differently. When does a woman become afraid of losing? Then, when her emotional connection has strengthened, and she sees a man as the meaning of her life. That is, at the peak of love, in marriage, etc. How to behave with a man so that he is afraid of losing? For men, such thoughts come only when he loses. And this is the secret of 90% of broken marriages and relationships.

A woman feels that a man treats her coldly, but a man sees stability in this. A woman expects bright confessions every day, but for a man it’s boring. And then the woman crosses the last line and breaks up with the man so that “he understands who he is losing.” But what does a man see? His “airy and beautiful lady” turned into a vixen, demanding, screaming, dissatisfied, and as a result left. She left, thank God. Because the last months have been simply unbearable. Will he want her back? No and no.

The correct thing to do is:

We restrain our emotions;
We say how much we love our man, and how much we miss his confessions;
Praise, thank, purr (according to the situation), every time a man gives you recognition and compliments (thus encouraging you to do more);
We find a compelling and plausible reason for a possible imminent separation (they offer a business trip at work, you need to go to help a relative in another city, internship abroad, etc.);
We inform about possible departure and separation, and then act according to the situation.

It is important to remember the goal - to plant the thought in a man’s head that you are not a monolith, and your life is dynamic. But if you don’t see bright emotions on the part of a man, you shouldn’t have an emotional showdown about the importance of your relationship. This is a clear taboo for women who want to learn to behave in such a way that a man is afraid of losing and appreciates.

Slow down is the golden rule of being a luxurious, desirable woman.

When does it make sense to fight for a relationship?

There cannot be a single correct answer here; each case is individual. We can only say that it is not worth fighting for a relationship in which there is physical and emotional abuse. All other options are up to the couple. If both partners believe that they need to fight for the relationship, we can only wish them a speedy victory and the least losses. And most importantly, let this struggle be specifically for relationships, but not turn into a struggle with each other or with yourself! And to make it easier to achieve victory, you can take note of several useful “fighting techniques”; we list the main 5.

How to behave with a man in order to be interesting and attractive in the first stages of a relationship?

So, let's consider how to behave with a man in the first stages of a relationship, so that he is interested, and you attract him like a magnet. The first and main rule is - under no circumstances fall in love with a man at first sight, dialogue, evening. A difficult skill for impulsive girls, but mastering it is vital.
The reason is simple - as soon as you fall in love, you will begin to “catch” the man and take the initiative. As a result, you will scare off the man and deprive him of initiative in the relationship. After all, a man is usually a player, a conqueror. And you deprive your natural instincts, which leads to loss of interest.
Girls love to talk and don’t always understand when to start listening. So, in a relationship with a man, adopt the 1/3 rule, where you talk only 30% of the time, including the active listening technique. This way, you can get to know your partner better and assess how suitable he is for you. And also give the leadership position at the very initial stage.

Dating is the perfect time to build a harmonious relationship and win his attention

Do not plan anything (do not make decisions for two, but you can and should offer ideas) unless the man asks for it. A man likes to be the leader in a relationship, to show himself as strong, decisive, smart, etc. And at the same time see the enthusiastic eyes of his beloved. But it’s impossible to sincerely enjoy a picnic on the roof if you have a plan in your head to go to an elite restaurant. No matter how hard you try, a man will see disappointment in his eyes. But if you treat every date as a surprise with an unknown outcome, that’s a different matter.
It is absolutely forbidden to provoke open jealousy. But a man must see that his lady is also interesting to other men who create healthy competition. To do this, you need to sincerely smile at other men, communicate, be interested in their lives and, of course, look impressive. It is acceptable to play with your eyes, flirtatiously straighten your hair, and casually run your hands over yourself during a dialogue with another man. It is unacceptable to openly flirt, admire the achievements of another man while belittling “one of your own,” burst into laughter at another man’s compliments, and make or accept slippery jokes in the form of compliments.
Don't sleep on the first, second or even fifth date. A man stops developing and conquering the moment he first finds himself with you without clothes. This is his maximum in relation to you. The longer you wait, the better for you. In addition, you thereby ensure a worthy opinion of yourself.
Keep your distance, give yourself personal space and time for other things, and be respectful of his personal time and space. Spontaneous ideas are only good as suggestions, not as ultimatums. For example, you can call and offer to go on a boat ride “in an hour”, despite the fact that you did not have a prior agreement. But if a man says he’s busy, you should be able to easily maneuver with time if he offers to reschedule or go with a girlfriend if the man refuses. Later, cheerful photos sent to him in personal messages will intrigue him, and as an option he will agree to the next adventurous outing.
Ask about his life, hobbies and plans for life, but don’t forget to tell him about your preferences. Don't be afraid to have casual conversations about family and your idea of it. If you plan to have 10 children, and he has only one child, then it is better to find out on the first dates, and not when you both become emotionally attached to each other. And worst of all, one of you will be ready to make concessions for the sake of the other, and after a few years of family life he will begin to reproach and distance himself from the family.
Be a versatile person and develop yourself. No, the lower your partner's IQ, the less demanding he will be of you. But the higher the level of a man courting you, the more interesting and versatile you should be. But be sincere. Otherwise, you will show a man your artificial self, and when he meets the real you, he will be disappointed and bored.
Tell us about your emotions, impressions, don’t be afraid to be a feminine flirt. A man is attracted to what he does not have himself. Food, everyday life, laundry - a modern man can easily do without it. Femininity is another matter. A man can only get this from a girl. Focus on this.

How to behave with a man in order to be interesting and attractive before marriage?

A little time has passed, and you are already preparing for marriage, or living in the same territory. The man gets used to it, and his interest gradually subsides. What to do and how to behave with a man in order to be interesting and attractive before marriage? Do not dissolve in it, in everyday life, and under no circumstances become its shadow. All of the above continues to work, and also adds:

Leave yourself a personal territory and time in which you deal exclusively with yourself, and also meet with girlfriends, go to fitness, beauty salons, etc. This is an important point in order not to dissolve in your man;
A man really loves cleanliness and comfort, but he really doesn’t like doing it himself, or seeing his “hackneyed” chosen one. At the beginning of the relationship, resolve both technical issues (if the budget does not allow you to immediately buy a vacuum cleaner, washing machine, dishwasher, etc., discuss the timing and how you and he share the management of these matters until the purchase of equipment, and what will happen then). If you and your partner are willing to pay, organize cleaning so often that the house is always clean;
Cooking in our latitudes is traditionally a woman's job. Yes, you can order delivery, or your man agrees to cook the food himself. But prepare meals so often and so deliciously that your man feels surrounded by your femininity in relation to food;
Wisdom. Never attack your man with responsibilities when he has just crossed the threshold. A kiss, a fresh towel and a bubble bath or a sparkling clean shower, as well as a plate of delicious dinner and your favorite drink are the best way to start the evening. Ask him how his day is, and then tell him about your day. And enter responsibilities and requests as a separate item, unless it’s a broken window in the middle of winter or a flood on the neighbors;
Do I really have to pull everything? No and no. On a day off, or in the evening, when your man is not tired, discuss household chores, ask what he is ready to take on, and also voice what you will do. Afterwards, if the forces are distributed unequally, ask for a few more things and only then come to a general consensus. No quarrels or reproaches, only dialogue in a positive way;
The man earns money, the woman plans her leisure time. A golden rule that should be established from the first day of living together, and you will never suffer. But when planning, take into account his desires and dreams. If he loves skiing, and you love sun loungers, first you go to a ski resort to relax, then to the hot beaches. You rest as he wants, he will gladly rest with you;
Discuss with a man topics that are potentially interesting to him , and omit topics that carry exclusively feminine overtones. For example, movies - yes, soap series - with a friend. A trip to the dentist, yes, a trip to the manicurist - with a friend. Solar eclipse - with her man, Kim Kardashian - with her friends;
And, of course, do not forget to take care of yourself and develop comprehensively. Read books, watch educational videos, learn new things. A constantly growing and developing woman will always be interesting to her man. And don’t confuse self-development and going to work;
Discuss future marriage, but don't make it the only goal in your life. Don’t say that all you dream about is going on maternity leave as soon as possible. Family, your beloved man is amazing, but it is only 20% of your life. Remember this and do not withdraw yourself from life.

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How to behave with a man in order to be interesting and attractive in marriage?

And the most difficult moment came. It's easy to keep your man's attention for a short time, but marriage is a lifelong marathon. And here it is important to preserve the most important aspect - the love and interest of your man.

Are you interested in how to behave with a man in order to be interesting and attractive in marriage? There are several aspects that need to be taken into account and worked out so that throughout your life your man thinks only about you and is afraid of losing him from sight.

Physical attraction:

Life, pregnancy, age, etc. often lead to physical changes in the parameters and quality of a woman’s figure. Men understand and are aware of this, but they want the same slender, magical fairy that they had at the beginning of the relationship. If you want to be desired, do fitness, massage, masks, body wraps, etc. to make your body desirable;
Manicure, pedicure, depilation, haircut and coloring are an important parameter for a desirable woman. You can only launch yourself if a global cataclysm has occurred, or you are in a coma. Everything else is laziness;
Cloth. Style is not important, but always look at yourself in the mirror and evaluate - you would rip off this outfit and have sex in an instant. No? Go and change your clothes. At home, for a walk or to the office for work - always choose beautiful, visually sexually attractive clothes. The husband should know that his wife is always sexy, and men are “staring” at her. This is what gives rise to healthy competition and the husband’s passionate animal attraction.

Intellectual and emotional connection:

You may not work, but if you cannot talk to your husband about topics that interest him, you will be replaced. Maybe a lover, or maybe a company of like-minded people. Depends on the man. But he will easily replace you with a more interesting life;
Your interests should be development, learning new things, etc. Driving, world news, sports, new technology, etc. Your husband should see that you are interested in different areas of life, and even if you are not aware of his interests, he will tell you about them with interest. If your husband sees you as childish, he will have no desire to talk about the events of his day;
Remember, what you fill your consciousness with is “flowing” from you. Of course, many girls are interested in soap operas and incredible novels, but don’t forget about business literature, as well as narrow-profile areas of personal development;
No one returns from a trip the same as when they left. Remember that the best way to explore the world and yourself is on the road. Regardless of your budget, do not forget to travel and have a lot of pleasant emotions with your spouse;
Do you have children? Remember that 30% or more of the time you spend with your spouse should be without the presence of children. Yes, they are your continuation and most valuable. But you shouldn’t lose yourself in your children or put them above your relationship with your husband;
Tell your husband about your emotions and experiences. Praise him for his virtues and good deeds for you, and show your disappointment when he behaves unworthy. Don’t say phrases - you disgust me, say - your state (behavior) is unpleasant to me, I’m upset and don’t want to spend the evening (weekend) like that, etc.

Sexual component:

Develop yourself, learn new things, watch educational videos. There are more than 100 sexual positions, and more than 30 oral sex techniques. Men love novelty, and for this you need to develop in the intimate sphere;
If your man loves experiments, feel free to choose beautiful playful lingerie, sex toys and everything that comes to mind for your married couple;
Change places, rent hotels, try in the car - change is always good;
Don’t forget that your intimate life is pleasure, not passing an exam, play, have fun, but don’t rush in an attempt to “complete the five-year goal in a year”;
Don’t refuse a man if you don’t want sex, tell him that you need to relax and tune in. This changes everything!

A wedding is the beginning of a long journey. Move forward with your husband and he will always value your relationship.

Remember, a man needs to be admired and loved sincerely. In any other case, the man will feel the lack of “chemistry” and will lose interest over time, turning his attention to other aspects of life. And a properly built relationship is like a drug that you want to return to again and again.

How to behave so that a man is attracted to you?

Do you know how to behave with a man so that he reaches out and catches every glance? Do you want this kind of relationship? Then read the detailed instructions:

Be cheerful and sociable, have a comfortable social circle. Remember that if a woman is not interesting to society, she will not be interesting to her man either;
When talking to him, lower your tone slightly and say his name gently;
Keep your man's attention, it's captivating;
Give a compliment once a day. But sincerely and from the heart;
Do not dissolve in a man and set aside time that you will devote exclusively to yourself;
Mirror his gestures, thereby he will sense your relationship, and as soon as you turn away to communicate with other people, he will seek your attention and affection;
Touch him, smile, flirt, and then pull away;
Plan a delightful time for him to look forward to, and next time make adjustments and make spontaneous outings. This intrigues and attracts even more;
Initiate the man to talk about himself. Listen using the active listening technique;
Talk about your plans, desires, goals in life. A man thirsts and reaches out not for a dummy, but for a person.

Notice how spouses become similar to each other after years of marriage. It's all mirror behavior

Cheap manipulation

On the Internet you can find mind-blowing recommendations for regaining the attention and respect of a “cold husband.” They are associated with trips to fortune tellers, techniques for inciting jealousy and, in essence, are cheap manipulations over the will of another person.

A manipulator is a flawed, neurotic person who achieves his goals with flattery, helpfulness, the desire to cause jealousy, vigilant control, power suppression, in a word, anything but patience and respect for the feelings of another person.

It is much more honest, although more difficult, to talk about everything honestly and, if necessary, distance yourself for a while.

If you love a man, how should you behave so that he would be interested in me?

Love is a wonderful state, but girls tend to lose their heads and dissolve in a man. As a result, instead of reciprocal feelings, she sees that the man is starting to get bored with her and take steps back. And sometimes he hears that there is too much of her in his life. Wondering how to behave with a man so that he would be interested in me? Let's learn:

What were you doing before your love appeared? You must not leave any of your activities. On the contrary, a girl is interesting to a man when she grows and develops. Look for new hobbies and ways to develop;
As you get to know each other, look for common ground and develop in this direction. For example, you like one genre of cinema. See selections, announcements and offer your man new options for movie nights;
Do not try to cut your loved one off from his “unworthy” social circle. On the contrary, find common ground with them and maintain communication. If you like this man, then you will like his social circle. No? Think about whether you are drawing it out in your fantasies;
Do you want to write to your man? Call? Call your friends back two out of three times. For girls, the need to communicate with the object of love is much higher, and if you do not use this rule, the man will become bored with you;
Continue to take care of yourself and watch your figure. A man should see the dynamics of improvement visually, and not deterioration, as often happens when people come together under one roof;
Don't give up meeting friends, going to salons, etc. for the sake of meeting a man. But don’t come up with far-fetched meetings to keep your distance from a man. Remember, relationships are fun;
If you don’t like a man’s behavior, point it out to him. Build boundaries from the first days, calmly pointing out what you are delighted about and what you are indignant about. This is better than pouring negativity on your man after a while;
Ask what your man would like. Does he like everything in the relationship? Listen to his wishes, and you will see how the man becomes attached to you.

All these rules do not oblige you to be cheerful and happy 100% of the time, but remember that 90% of the time a man should see you happy, cheerful, satisfied with life. A man is looking for femininity, relaxation, and comfort in you. Give him this and you will see results not only in the short term, but also in the long term.

Not getting lost in love is an important skill for girls and women

Be a "mystery woman"

This phenomenon is best illustrated by the phrase of the unfaithful husband from the movie “The Bat”: “A wife is a read book. It can be stored, protected, bound, but reading it is no longer interesting...” As sad as it is, it’s true – men don’t last long near “read books”...

If there is always something left unspoken, unspoken and under-proven in a woman, then a man will be kept close to her by curiosity - what else will she discover, and what else will surprise her? Simple, “at home” and completely understandable girls are convenient for men, but... sooner or later men start to get bored.

Sometimes surprise your man with something new about yourself. Of course, not a new cutlet recipe! And, for example, the fact that you decided to go to salsa. Or you read some interesting book and want to discuss it. Or painted it purple. Or you bought a tent and are going to the mountains.

This can be done in a less radical way. For example, invite him to go shopping, and take him away for the weekend to a country house, with fishing, barbecue and a swimming pool.

In general, sometimes break the predictability of your actions and desires! More improvisation, imagination and positivity - this is what will keep your relationship afloat for many years!

How to return a man's attention so that you can be interesting to him again?

Yes, most often we begin to think that we are doing something wrong after we have made a number of mistakes. We have collected some tips on how to regain a man’s attention and how to behave with a man so that he is interested in me:

Distance yourself from the man by changing the focus of attention to yourself;
You are left alone with yourself, a mirror and a piece of paper. On one side of the sheet there are two columns - your strengths and weaknesses in appearance. Next - how to emphasize even more advantages, and how to eliminate or minimize disadvantages. For example, your man likes long hair, but you have had short hair for a long time. Do you want his attention? Let go of beauty. Sunken buttocks - a set of exercises, short legs - how to make them as slender and well-groomed as possible, while you cannot remove the nuance of short legs, but you will make them more attractive. So work through each of the points, with the proviso that you take into account the man’s wishes, but clearly follow your desires;
On the reverse side of the sheet is your intellectual and emotional life. Work, hobbies, travel, relaxation, reading, etc. Analysis - search for a solution. The goal is self-improvement;
As soon as the issue with yourself is resolved, and this, by the way, is the most difficult thing, you can move on to resolving and working through your relationship. Look for options for general recreation, entertainment, and topics for conversation. Don’t put pressure on a man, dose him;
After a month, analyze the situation. Do you become happy and cheerful around him? Does this relationship give you inspiration and the desire to continue? Has your man started treating you better? Yes - continue, no - perhaps the relationship has outlived its usefulness and you are just holding on to the past?

Even if you made thousands of mistakes, there is a chance to build a harmonious relationship so that a man is afraid of losing and aims at you

Psychologist's advice

Experts are sure: even if a spouse has completely devalued the relationship, he will try to avoid situations that threaten divorce. But there is one “but”: he does this on a subconscious level, unconsciously. Therefore, when a professional is asked the question of how to make a husband afraid of losing his wife, the psychologist’s advice sounds like this: tell him about it directly. Don’t give any ultimatums - men don’t like them. Just say that your feelings begin to cool when they are not warmed up. This will hit his pride and the man will be scared.

Psychologists also give two more important pieces of advice. First, give him the right to your territory. Let him meet with friends, go to football games and go fishing. There is no need to intrusively control and poke your nose into all men's affairs. Second, share his hobbies. No, you don't have to go to the stadium. But you need to give him the opportunity to watch the match at home by giving up his favorite TV series. A man will appreciate this and be afraid of losing such an intelligent and understanding wife.

How to behave with a man so that he is interested in me and is afraid of losing me: reviews

Daria : I, like any other married woman, disappeared into the house and everyday life. I came to my senses when my husband took a mistress and openly announced it. He refused to leave the family because the children were growing up. After crying, I came to my senses, but not even for the sake of my husband, I realized that the way I had become was not interesting even to myself, and even less so to another man. She moved to another room, declaring herself free, but remaining married. Sports, a new haircut, a change of job, I went on vacation with my sons several times without my husband. The men began showering us with compliments, there were several options for a new relationship, and at the same time, my husband began to come home earlier and earlier, flowers began to appear on the table, and for the last time my husband wanted to go on vacation with us. Another evening on the beach, the rutted husband asked for forgiveness and begged to be given a chance. Now he is courting again, catching every glance. But do I need it? I did not decide yet. Don’t push yourself to such an extent that you lose a man’s interest, and then it’s so hard to get him back.

Nina : athletes and Komsomol members also lose the attention of their lover. This happened to me too. I got used to it, got bored, got bored with my high bar, apparently. I began to notice that meetings were less frequent, and even the enthusiasm for preparing for the wedding had subsided (we decided to slowly prepare throughout the year). I took sex education courses, as well as what I dreamed of - skydiving. I was at home less often, a lot of new impressions and interests. My man was transformed before my eyes, again in good shape and catching my every move. Girls, advice - no matter what you are, always move forward!

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