If you are not aware of certain unspoken rules for hugging members of the opposite sex, the tips below will help you shed some light on the question of how to hug a girl.
Think about it: a man approaching a girl with his arms wide open can either be perceived as a sign of affection if done correctly, or as a form of sexual harassment if done in a thoughtless manner.
Therefore, before the girl ends up in your arms, it is advisable to clarify some things for yourself if you do not want the romantic act you are planning to be interpreted as something indecent.
What are hugs like?
Every guy hugs a girl in several ways:
- Friendly - pulls the partner to his chest for a few seconds and then immediately pulls away. Most often, this is how old friends meet or say goodbye. This hug can be accompanied by a pat on the back. The advantage of friendly contact is that there is no need to conduct a conversation or establish an eye contract before it. Guys can easily start communicating with girls with this type of interaction.
- Lovers - this type is appropriate when partners are already dating and contact has been established between them.
- Comforting - he hugs the girl to calm her down, holding her like a friend. Keep your hands on her back, hug the girl gently and tightly to show that her sadness is not indifferent to you.
In any situation, a response from a woman is a sign of her trust. She hugs back when she feels safe and happy.
There are several ways to hug the girl you love:
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"From the back" | Hands do not fall below the waist, crossed on the back. You make the lady feel protected. |
"Flying" | At the moment of the hug, the girl needs to be lifted so that her feet come off the ground. There are options - the chosen one sits on a support in front of her partner or is simply held suspended. By this, the man wants to show that she is the most precious thing to him. |
"Pickpocket" | This type is used when a couple is walking together. Their hands are placed in each other's back pockets, crossing at the elbows. This gesture means that there is still passion in the relationship. |
Visual | In this case, it does not matter how the partners’ bodies will be positioned. The main thing is that the couple's eyes are located opposite each other. Visual contact allows you to get closer and feel emotions. |
"Lock" | The contact of bodies is maximum; such an embrace is used in a fit of passion. It is appropriate for couples who have a strong emotional connection. |
Hugs are a means of expressing feelings
Which hugs are flirting? Between members of the same sex, hugging is an expression of friendship and support. But reducing the distance between a man and a woman is almost always a hint of a desire for something more.
What emotions can you express by holding another person close to you?
- Inspiration.
- Support.
- Protection.
- Tenderness.
- Joy.
- Proximity.
Often people hug from an excess of feelings when they cannot find verbal expression for their experiences. And, of course, touching can be flirting. How to hug to hint at sex? Hold the girl to your chest, turn her face towards you, look straight into her eyes. If the relationship between you is quite close, you can lower your hand below the waist, stroke the back, hips. Such hugs can become an important part of foreplay and excite your partner.
Signs that a woman is not ready for a hug
Hugs are innocent physical contact. You will understand how to hug correctly if you learn to determine when a girl is expecting such a manifestation of feelings. Signs of this are:
- she stays close to the guy;
- preens himself, straightening his hair and clothes;
- she maintains direct visual contact for a long time;
- her mood improves from the meeting, she flirts, laughs;
- gives signals for rapprochement in different situations, including telling a sad story.
Sometimes the girl herself avoids hugs, but this has nothing to do with the guy himself. Reasons: she is tired, not ready to have physical contact with the opposite sex, not confident in herself. Sometimes the excuse is trivial - I didn’t have time to take a shower and go through other hygiene procedures after playing sports or hard work.
How to make a man want you
1. Make him anticipate
Not only men have an active role in relationships. The ability to create intensity of feelings is very important if you want to increase desire. Even if you are very close, there are several secrets to enhance the sensations in a couple.
It is a certain amount of tension that subsequently increases the satisfaction from your intimacy significantly. When you tease a man, you give space to the man's imagination, which in turn creates the desired intensity.
Immediate satisfaction of needs is also good, but constantly increasing tension in the right amount makes him want you even more. Let him watch you, painting a picture in his mind before he gets what he wants.
Try a change of scenery and leave the city for a few days. This will give you the opportunity to be apart for some time. At the same time, you can call each other and write messages to each other without the ability to touch each other.
Wear your favorite perfume
There is something captivating about women's perfumes that attracts many men. A seductive perfume can turn your head and remain in your memory for a long time. The most stimulating women's perfumes are those that contain vanilla and musk.
But even the process of applying perfume can be very seductive. Spray the perfume onto your wrist and then slowly and gently run your hand over your neck and chest. This action can be truly mesmerizing.
Send an unexpected message
Exchanging intimate messages is a great way to make a man look forward to meeting you. You can send him a few naughty messages in the middle of the day or afternoon, accompanied by relevant photos, to let him know what's really on your mind.
Whatever he is doing at this moment, it will be difficult for him to drive away thoughts of you. This creates sexual tension that he will want to release when he meets you.
Just remember that the message should seduce and hint, without unnecessary vulgarity.
4. Give him attention and compliments
Men are proud creatures, and the right approach to his ego can move mountains. There is no more powerful aphrodisiac than the attention you pay to a man.
Focus on what he says when you're together, respond to his jokes, and remember details he's shared before so he can see that you care.
Give compliments, especially on things that are important to him. Does he go to the gym? Talk about his physical fitness and ask about his activities. If he is a musician, ask him to play something or go to his concert.
There are many ways to flirt, but being genuinely interested in him is what really turns him on.
Touch it lightly
Teasing isn't just about wordplay or good-natured banter—touch is a powerful flirting weapon.
However, remember that before you bring things to physical contact, you need to achieve a certain level of emotional intimacy. Even if you are not yet ready to move on to bed, you need to make sure that the man has nothing against touching and physical contact.
Light tickling, pinching and whispering in the ear are great ways to help you test the waters. This way you demonstrate your playfulness with a hint of something more, without going too far or crossing a line that you are not yet ready to go beyond.
Make your body talk
Body language is very important in both everyday and more intimate relationships. Remember that most men primarily perceive information with their eyes. They read the signals you give them and rely on your gestures and facial expressions to understand how to act next.
A smile is the easiest way to show your interest to a man.
During a conversation, try to make sure that your body is directed in his direction, reduce the distance between you a little and tilt your head so that he understands that communicating with him gives you pleasure.
Try not to cross your arms or look around when he's talking to you. This signals a lack of interest and kills the desire to pursue a more serious relationship with you.
Maintain eye contact, maybe lightly bite your lips and occasionally touch his arm during conversation or lightly brush him when you walk by or reach for a drink.
Show a little bit at a time
Men are turned on by what they see. What they see can ignite their desire, and often it doesn't take much. Sometimes you don’t even need to dress in a revealing outfit to get him interested.
A slightly exposed shoulder can sometimes work wonders. By the way, this tactic is not new. Japan's famous geisha often left the back of their necks exposed to tease a man - some exposed skin promised a little more under a thick and heavy layer of clothing.
Tie your hair into a bun to show off your neck and shoulders, or bend your skirt slightly to show off some of your dainty legs.
Secretly tease him in front of people
For this game you need to have enough courage and confidence, and also know whether he is ready for this kind of flirting.
If a man knows you as a fairly modest girl, then he is unlikely to expect anything obscene from you. Taking him by surprise will definitely increase his desire.
For example, during dinner at a restaurant, start flirting by touching his leg under the table. Don't overdo it, it's still about teasing him. It should be a hint of what's to come, enough to turn up the heat, but within the bounds of decency.
Place your hand on his thigh and move closer to him in the elevator. There are many ways to tease a man with your body, but you need to make sure that the right opportunity arises.
An unexpected kiss
Come closer and kiss him quickly and passionately. Such an unexpected move will instantly increase his excitement, since he is not expecting it.
Imagine his face when, during lunch, you suddenly lean towards him and kiss him passionately, and then continue to calmly eat. Even if he has not thought about intimacy with you, now it will be extremely difficult for him to drive away this thought.
Take a long look at him
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You can tell a lot more with your eyes than with words. Learn the art of the provocative look.
Look him in the eyes with confidence, and try to do this more often. There should be no request or uncertainty in your gaze. Look with approval and at the same time quite decisively.
11. Talk about what you're wearing.
Men are quite receptive to messages that hint at closer communication. They are easily aroused by the various obscenities you say.
You can use this tactic with the clothes you wear. It is very seductive when beautiful lace lingerie peeks out from under a strict business suit.
You can also tell us over the phone what kind of underwear you are wearing today or, on the contrary, you forgot to wear. This will make him want more and when you are finally alone, you will be in for a fireworks display of emotions.
Accidentally drop something
Another way to tease a man, which is used by many representatives of the fairer sex, is to accidentally drop some object on the floor, and then bend over so that the man can enjoy all your delights.
You can use a pencil, a hairpin, lipstick, whatever. The main thing is to make it enticing and not look like you did it on purpose.
Be independent
It takes a lot more effort to impress an independent woman. Even if you had a mind-blowing night with a man, try to keep your cool and not act like you're crazy with happiness.
He will want to try even harder to please you. Constant attempts to conquer and try even more will bring a man closer to you.
Make him touch you
Touch is perhaps the most effective way to create desire in your man. If you don't want to seem too pushy, find a reason to get him to touch you.
For example, your back itches and you cannot reach this place with your hand, or you feel tension in your neck. If you're at the beach, ask him to put some cream on your back.
Play with your hands
You will need to use your imagination and pick up an object that is within reach.
If you are holding a glass of wine, slowly run your fingertips across the glass and slowly take a sip of the wine while looking into his eyes. Your hands and eyes should speak for themselves.
Believe me, any man will understand what you want to tell him.
Toss your hair back slightly
This method of flirting has been used since ancient times. Although some women do this subconsciously when they are next to the man they like, many are well aware of the effect they have on the stronger sex.
Beautiful hair really has a fascinating effect on men. Throw your hair back easily and effortlessly. At this moment, you don’t need to look the man in the eyes so that this action doesn’t look fake.
Play with your lips
Lips are considered one of the most attractive female features. When you're flirting, try lightly biting your bottom lip, licking your lips with your tongue, or wrapping your lips around a juice straw.
You shouldn’t put on a serious face or be too zealous. Everything should look natural.
Send him a photo
Men primarily perceive information visually, and you need to take this into account as often as possible. Send him some playful and racy photos throughout the day.
Not only will this be a surprise for him and show him that you trust him, but it will also make him want something more. By the end of the day, his impatience will reach such a point that it will be difficult for him to control himself.
Confess something to him
Remember that the most powerful stimulating factor is our imagination. A man cannot help but draw pictures in his head regarding the woman he likes.
You can talk about how you used to do something crazy bold or revealing (but not too revealing) to spark his curiosity and make him think about you.
20. Tell me what you want to do
Make sure that the message will come to him personally and will be hidden from prying eyes. Perhaps a revelation sent during working hours will be inappropriate.
Write to him what you would like him to do to you. The more detailed you describe what is happening, the better. You can even send him a voicemail, making sure that your message won't create an awkward situation.
How to hug a girl for the first time
The first tactile contact usually occurs on a date. It is important to take into account the circumstances and move on to actions in accordance with them. The first hug is short and friendly. It should be tender, but not very strong.
These tips will tell you how to hug a girl correctly without scaring her:
- Move smoothly: do not press, but pick it up. Even in a fit of passion, you need to control yourself and not cause discomfort.
- The contact should be short - just a few seconds are enough to please the girl.
- Psychology experts recommend that guys who have just started dating girls should not give in. Do not touch your chosen one on the lower back or buttocks. Such actions are acceptable in an intimate setting. In public, it is appropriate to lightly hug her shoulders.
- At the beginning of a relationship, avoid hugging from behind. Only those who have been dating a guy for a long time will like this. If your partner is cold, it is better to give her your jacket and limit yourself to a friendly hug.
Hugs, if you follow these rules, will help take your relationship to the next level. They will not scare away or push away the girl.
It’s worth moving on to more tender manifestations of feelings if the girl doesn’t try to pull away and reciprocates. Watch her behavior, whether she gives you signals to get closer. Try not to scare the girl with excessive persistence.
Why is it so important for girls to hug their man often?
Many girls believe that hugs give them a certain feeling of security. Moreover, representatives greatly value hugs that do not necessarily lead to intimacy. With their help, they are confirmed in the idea that their partner needs more than “just one thing” from them, and he really wants to show care, attention and affection “without consequences.”
Many women have a craving for hugs since childhood. As little girls, they notice that they are usually hugged by very close people who love them and who treat them well. They understand that a stranger will not hug them - only someone they can trust does this. This understanding is fixed somewhere at the subconscious level, and now it can only play into your hands.
For many girls, hugging their partner is of great importance - during a conversation, while watching a movie, after intimacy, and so on. In their understanding, this gesture is one of the indicators of good attitude towards them, care and love. If such physical contact is important for a girl, and a man does not take it seriously, then serious problems may arise in the couple’s relationship. Don’t forget to give hugs to your other half if it is meaningful to her - such gestures will benefit you and will only strengthen your union.
Rules for hugging girls when meeting
A greeting hug lasts no more than 3 seconds. With it, the guy’s hands should not fall below the partner’s shoulder blades; do not press the girl to you too tightly. The movements should be:
- not intrusive;
- delicate;
- calm;
- leisurely.
Remember, if you squeeze a girl too much, she will feel uncomfortable. If you feel like cuddling, wait until the meeting is over. When breaking up, contact may last longer if you say something during the process. You can tell the girl how nice it was to talk to her, see her, or take a walk.
Do you feel the slightest tension or reluctance from a woman to continue tactile contact? Step back.
Subtleties
- Hold her for yourself. Because you want it and like it. Don't hug to please her. Otherwise your hugs will lose all their power.
- Hug without sudden jerky movements, smoothly . Don't try to do it too hard, don't choke or squeeze it in a vice.
- After a hug, you can maintain a close position of the girl’s body , not let her go, and continue to communicate face to face, cheek to cheek. IMPORTANT: you do this unless there is resistance on her part; if there is, let her go.
- All hugs are, first of all, an emotional expression of yourself , your feelings for the girl.
How to make someone like a hug
To make a girl feel good, you need to know the technology of hugs and choose the time for contact. Psychologists give the following recommendations on how to hug correctly:
- A short hug sets a positive tone for a date. They should be discreet, not too intimate.
- Longer hugs are allowed if the girl herself shows interest in tactile contact. Gradually reduce the distance, rather than pressing your whole body. Proceed delicately.
- Before parting, you can increase the hug time, but you need to monitor the situation. If a girl shows interest in you, you can hug her and say a few nice words.
- If there is mutual sympathy, you can hug longer. There is no need to squeeze the girl or cause her discomfort.
If the girl likes you mutually, hugs will be pleasant. She will feel protected and a pleasant feeling of warmth will appear. The person she will allow into her personal space is not just an acquaintance or friend. This comes from childhood, when only close and dear people expressed feelings with hugs.
conclusions
Proper hugs bring partners closer to each other, allow you to overcome embarrassment, feel closeness and security. During “hugs,” people’s stress levels decrease and the hormone of happiness and pleasure is produced. Don't neglect touch, it helps build close, trusting relationships.
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How to hug a woman around the waist and other places
You are ready to move on to a passionate embrace and you understand that the girl is also ready, pay attention to the meaning of your gestures.
- a young man hugs a girl from behind - he shows that he is able to give her protection, he is ready to take on all the blows of fate;
- is facing her - to show interest in his beloved.
It’s best to look into the girl’s eyes while hugging her around the waist. This will show that you mean business. A woman’s facial expressions and reaction to tactile contact will tell you what to do next.
How to hug a guy correctly if you've been together for a long time
This is actually the easiest way. After all, you already know the person well enough, and it won’t be difficult for you to snuggle up to him. But the most interesting thing is that it is advisable to find new ways of hugging. One interesting option is the following: gently grab the guy by the neck, placing your forearms on his shoulders. Do it very nicely by pressing your forehead against his and gently stroking the back of his head with your hands. This romantic hug can last about 20-30 seconds or more. Depending on how long your relationship lasts.
Test the waters, take your time
How to hug a guy? First, you should think and decide for yourself this: is the chosen one really so close as to show your feelings towards him openly. After all, if the relationship has not yet given reason to think that its degree is deep, then the guy may be wary and even turn away at such an obvious manifestation of intimate and passionate feelings.
How to hug a guy for the first time? We must not forget that all close relationships begin with the intersection of views. It is in them that you can catch the nuances that will make it clear how close the guy and the girl are.
Convenient moments
But still, you shouldn’t start hugging yet. It’s better not to get hung up on how to hug a guy, but to wait a little and seize the most appropriate moment. Taking advantage of his positive reaction to touch, you can continue these actions, thereby forcing the guy to take decisive action himself. By snuggling close to him, you can hint that it has become cold or scary. This will make the young man care and give a hug.
You can also go to watch the match and, taking advantage of the moment of general excitement and the manifestation of all emotions in public, hug the guy as a sign of solidarity with his joy.