40 Words for Feelings You've Had But Couldn't Explain

Hello my smiling ones! Can you always name what you feel? Did you guess that it depends on how developed your emotional intelligence (EI) is?

Its first level or layer (basic) is responsible for the release of adrenaline, rage, and fear. These reactions are necessary for the survival and self-preservation of the body. When a child cries and screams, this is how basic EI manifests itself.

As we grow older, the next layer forms: we begin to treat emotions consciously. There comes an understanding that this is an important part of our lives. The highest level is the ability to both recognize emotions and manage them.

And so that you can improve these abilities, I am opening a new section for you.

Dictionary of feelings and emotions

For each letter, I will select two words for you and tell you more about them. Why two? One with a positive feeling, the second with an unpleasant one. In my opinion, there are no negative ones - after all, everything is necessary for a reason. But since it’s usually clearer this way, let’s stick to this option for now.

Although feelings are a subjective category, and each person will have their own nuances in their sensation, I still propose to compile a dictionary of the meanings of feelings and emotions that denote the states and experiences that are best known.

For what? In my more than 20 years of practice, I have noticed that it is often difficult for people to name what they feel. And this vagueness in understanding one’s condition interferes with awareness and movement forward.

When we deal with emotions and feelings, a new vision of the situation appears and ways to solve it open up. And this is one of the components of emotional intelligence: understanding emotions.

Anger is an emotion or feeling. Psychological profile of anger

• Anger is a reaction of disagreement with the situation in which we find ourselves, an internal protest against the course of events that do not correspond to our plans or expectations.
• Formed as a result of an unmet need.
• Those around him, as a rule, perceive male anger as something justified, something that is caused by external reasons. Women's anger is perceived as a manifestation of bad character. That is, men are usually expected to be firm and tough, and women are expected to be soft and merciful.
• Bodily reactions - clenched jaw (fear of expressing anger in words), red face, spasm in the chest, rapid breathing, muscles of the mouth, legs (desire to run) and arms (desire to hit) tense.
• Related concepts are anger, rage, irritation.
• Opposite feelings are joy, happiness.
• Psychosomatic diseases - possibly vaginitis, hemorrhoids, infections, weakened immunity, problems with the heart, liver and gall bladder, laryngitis.

So, the first letter is A!

We will consider two feelings: one with a “-” sign and the second with a “+” sign.

Excitement

Excitement in the dictionary is defined as: strong passion, enthusiasm, excessive ardor, passion, zeal.

Excitement is an emotional state of a person, which is characterized by a special kind of excitement: it combines exciting interest in a certain action and an irresistible desire to continue what has been started, risk with anticipation of success (sometimes even contrary to reality).

Often excitement is associated with chance, play, or danger. And the person engulfed by it believes that he will cope with the development of the situation and achieve what he wants. “Either master or disappear!” The greater the feeling of omnipotence in the experience, the greater the departure from adequacy and the distortion of the assessment of consequences.

Apathy

Apathy is a state of indifference and indifference to what is happening, suppressed emotions and a decrease or complete absence of interests and aspirations. In fact, it is quite difficult for a healthy person not to feel anything. Therefore, this happens rarely and does not last long.

A true state of indifference or apathy, when a person notices that he is indifferent to everything, is not interested in anything, does not care or is not happy, can be due to a disease, for example, endocrine pathology, traumatic brain injury, depression, or caused by psychological reasons.

And in this case, you need to contact specialists to find the cause and return the colors of life.

Fundamental Emotions

All human emotions can be distinguished by the quality of experience. This aspect of human emotional life is most clearly presented in the theory of differential emotions by the American psychologist K. Izard. He identified ten qualitatively different “fundamental” emotions: interest-excitement, joy, surprise, grief-suffering, anger-rage, disgust-disgust, contempt-disdain, fear-horror, shame-shyness, guilt-remorse. K. Izard classifies the first three emotions as positive, the remaining seven as negative. Each of the fundamental emotions underlies a whole spectrum of conditions that vary in degree of expression. For example, within the framework of such a unimodal emotion as joy, one can distinguish joy-satisfaction, joy-delight, joy-jubilation, joy-ecstasy and others. From the combination of fundamental emotions, all other, more complex, complex emotional states arise. For example, anxiety can combine fear, anger, guilt and interest.

1. Interest is a positive emotional state that promotes the development of skills and knowledge. Interest-excitement is a feeling of capture, curiosity.

2. Joy is a positive emotion associated with the opportunity to sufficiently fully satisfy an actual need, the probability of which was previously small or uncertain. Joy is accompanied by self-satisfaction and satisfaction with the world around us. Obstacles to self-realization are also obstacles to the emergence of joy.

3. Surprise - an emotional reaction to sudden circumstances that does not have a clearly defined positive or negative sign. Surprise inhibits all previous emotions, directing attention to a new object and can turn into interest.

4. Suffering (grief) is the most common negative emotional state associated with receiving reliable (or seeming) information about the impossibility of satisfying the most important needs, the achievement of which previously seemed more or less likely. Suffering has the character of an asthenic emotion and more often occurs in the form of emotional stress. The most severe form of suffering is grief associated with irretrievable loss.

5. Anger is a strong negative emotional state, often occurring in the form of affect; arises in response to an obstacle in achieving passionately desired goals. Anger has the character of a sthenic emotion.

6. Disgust is a negative emotional state caused by objects (objects, people, circumstances), contact with which (physical or communicative) comes into sharp conflict with the aesthetic, moral or ideological principles and attitudes of the subject. Disgust, when combined with anger, can motivate aggressive behavior in interpersonal relationships. Disgust, like anger, can be directed toward oneself, lowering self-esteem and causing self-judgment.

7. Contempt is a negative emotional state that arises in interpersonal relationships and is generated by a mismatch in the life positions, views and behavior of the subject with those of the object of feeling. The latter are presented to the subject as base, not corresponding to accepted moral standards and ethical criteria. A person is hostile to someone he despises.

8. Fear is a negative emotional state that appears when the subject receives information about possible damage to his life well-being, about a real or imaginary danger. In contrast to suffering caused by direct blocking of the most important needs, a person, experiencing the emotion of fear, has only a probabilistic forecast of possible trouble and acts on the basis of this forecast (often insufficiently reliable or exaggerated). The emotion of fear can be both sthenic and asthenic in nature and occur either in the form of stressful conditions, or in the form of a stable mood of depression and anxiety, or in the form of affect (horror).

9. Shame is a negative emotional state, expressed in the awareness of the inconsistency of one’s own thoughts, actions and appearance not only with the expectations of others, but also with one’s own ideas about appropriate behavior and appearance.

10. Guilt is a negative emotional state, expressed in the awareness of the unseemlyness of one’s own actions, thoughts or feelings and expressed in regret and repentance.

Letter B

It turned out to be difficult to choose two words from the many options.

Hopelessness

Hopelessness is a state where frustration has reached its peak. A person feels a whole range of feelings: powerlessness, helplessness and deep sadness - this is severe mental pain and it is difficult to distinguish between individual emotions.

With helplessness, it is understood that it is not humanly possible to change the situation, but there is a chance for chance or fate to intervene. With hopelessness, all expectations for change are lost.

Therefore, in such a difficult situation, it is important to seek help. When one person doesn't see a way out, maybe another can find one. Or it will help you accept something that seems impossible to come to terms with.

Gratitude

Gratitude is one of the most pleasant emotions that arises towards a person in response to his good deeds or gifts; it is joy along with pleasure and an expression of gratitude to the person.

Gratitude strengthens any relationship when the balance between “taking and giving” is maintained. This wonderful power opens and enlivens the heart of the one who gives thanks and evokes reciprocal gratitude.

There is a recommendation in positive psychology: keep a gratitude diary. It helps you feel psychological comfort and satisfaction with life. At the end of the day, you need to write down who and what you can be grateful for today. It can be the simplest things: a sunny day, a delicious lunch, someone's smile.

When this is done regularly, you can pay attention to even unnoticed things around you and shift your focus to pleasant moments, which ultimately leads to a positive outlook and allows you to feel happier.

Feelings in a person's life

Ellipsism

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The sadness is that you will never know how the story will turn out.

Kuebiko

A state of exhaustion caused by acts of senseless violence.

Lakesism

The desire to be a victim of a disaster - to survive a plane crash or to lose everything in a fire.

Exulansis

The tendency to refuse to talk about an experience because people are unable to understand it.

Adronitis

Frustration at how long it takes to get to know someone.

Rukkehroonruhe

The feeling of returning home after an immersive trip, only to realize that it quickly fades from your consciousness.

Nodus Tollens

The realization that the scenario of your life no longer makes sense to you.

Onism

The frustration of being forced into one body that only occupies one place in time.

Imagine being in front of a flight departures screen at an airport, with strange names of places flashing on it, like people's passports, each representing something else you'll never see until you die, all because , as the arrows on the map indicate, you are here.

Liberosis

The desire to worry about various things as little as possible.

As we get older, we have to take on more and more responsibility. We want to loosen our grip on life so we can stop looking back every few steps.
At the same time, we want to play our own life like a volleyball, which we want to easily hold in the air with just a few touches.
Altschmerz

Tired of the same problems you've always had, the same boring shortcomings and fears that have plagued you for years.

Occhiolism

Awareness of the tinyness of your prospects.

Dictionary of emotional characteristics

Dictionary of emotional characteristics

I. JOYFULLY

festive, ringing, sonorous, brilliantly cheerful, playful, lively, deft, dazzling, radiant, radiant, weightless.

II. SOLEMNLY

majestic, triumphant, victorious, inviting, majestic, magnificent, pompous, grandiose, significant, luxurious, spectacular, open, illuminated, cheerful.

1. VIGOROUSLY

courageously, decisively, bravely, strong, strong, proudly, confidently, with dignity, persistently, irresistibly, inexorably, bravely, marchingly, assertively, independently, rebelliously, selflessly.

1. POWERFUL

militant, stern, firm, minted, commanding, strong-willed, threatening, despotic, imperative, magical, messianic, powerful, commanding, unshakable, immutable, indisputable, irrefutable, oratorical, royal.

V. FOCUSED

restrained, measured, sedately, thoroughly, solidly, seriously, strictly, decorously, steadily.

VI. WIDE

large-scale, sweeping, full, voluminous, capacious, spacious, weighty, cosmic, huge, huge, endless, limitless, boundless, alarm.

VII. MONUMENTAL

heavy, weighty, heavy, cumbersome, massive, powerful, clumsy, tense, viscous, sad, rich, powerful, strained, awkward.

VIII. POETIC

sublime, dreamy, spiritual, heartfelt, sincere, intimate, reverent, melodious, inspired, heartfelt, captivating, sensitive, enchanting, lyrical, inspired, innocent, inexperienced, enchanted.

IX. GENTLY

affectionately, caressingly, lovingly, cordially, softly, nobly, touching, affably, unctuously, delicately, kindly, respectfully, pleasantly, chastely, purely, kindly, trustingly, sweetly.

X. CALM

peaceful, serene, good-natured, simple, artless, effortless, light, blissful, naive, ingenuous, transparent, relaxed, contemplative, benevolent, unperturbed, brightened, submissive.

XI. WISE

piously, reverently, confessionally, prayerfully, righteously, supramundanely, sanctified, repentantly, humbly, infallibly.

XII. Drowsy

drowsy, exhausted, sluggish, exhausted, lazy, relaxed, softened, weak-willed.

XIII. ASCETICALLY

abstract, rational, rational, reflective, insensitive, artificial, invented, contrived, detached, mechanical.

XIV. LANGUAGE

pampered, with desire, joyful, sentimental, sensual, lustful, erotic, melodramatic.

XV. CAREFUL

indifferent, dispassionate, indifferent, abstract, indifferent, empty, petrified, detached, aloof, absent-minded.

XVI. DUSKY

gloomy, cloudy, veiled, gloomy, gloomy, hidden, dull, dreary, muffled, faded, vague, frowning, impenetrable, leaden.

XVII.ROBKO

shy, embarrassed, bashful, meek, cautious, bashful, fearful, fearful, confused, painful, cowardly, infantile, childish.

XVIII.STRANGE

mysterious, insinuating, whimsical, fantastic, mysterious, detached, intriguing, illusory, irrational, ghostly, hidden, intricate, hidden, solitary, unconscious, infernal, mystical, witchcraft, implicit, deserted.

XIX.ELEGIC

thoughtfully, joylessly, mournfully, melancholy, pessimistic, dejected, despondent, sad, mournful, pitiful, melancholy, sorrowful, mournful, crying, sobbing, painful, martyr, with pain, funereal, suffering, inconsolable, dirge.

XX. GROZNO

tragic, dramatic, ominous, mournful, fatal, apocalyptic.

XXI. PASSIONATELY

bubbling, impetuous, rebellious, hot, ardent, passionate, stormy, ebullient, flaming, intoxicated, zealously, swiftly, passionately, impatiently, exalted, violent, burning, with heat, fiery, pathetic, selfless, fanatical, rebellious, intense.

XXII. EXCITED

worried, confused, anxious, aching, trembling, feverishly, with despair, repentant, restless, broken, exhausting.

1. ANNOYED

angrily, intemperately, sharply, rudely, angrily, furiously, furiously, cruelly, angrily, frenziedly, frantically, ferociously, devilishly, demonically, savagely, aggressively, uncontrollably, mercilessly, wildly, harshly, maliciously, hysterically, mercilessly, furiously, predatory, scary, terrible, merciless, evil, fierce, insane, frenzied, satanic.

1. WITH BRAVADA

recklessly, arrogantly, dashingly, pompously, arrogantly, graspingly, bitingly, arrogantly, boorishly, eccentrically, graspingly, primly, cockily, recklessly.

XXV CAUGHT

unceremoniously, shamelessly, defiantly, impudently, insolently, immodestly, importunately, intrusively, persistently, cheekily, loosely, annoyingly, lazily, frivolously, dissolutely, treacherously, arrogantly, awkwardly, hostilely, with reproach.

. XXVI ELEGANT

gracefully, gallantly, sophisticated, mannered, graceful, dancing, cutesy, sophisticated, lacy, delicate, exquisite, skillful, sophisticated, capricious, obstinate, capricious, ephemeral, extravagant, whimsical, plastic, charming, refined, filigree, fragile, scrupulous, pretentious, delicate, broken.

XXVII. JOKINGLY

intricate, childish, mocking, sassy, ​​piquant, ironic, sarcastic, clownish, arrogant, cunning, grotesque, amusing, clowning, mischievous, caustic, playful, humorous, eccentric, rough, tricky, frivolous, sly, cocky, sarcastic, blasphemous

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In life, concepts such as emotions and feelings are often confused, but these phenomena are different and reflect different meanings.

Emotions are not always realized...

Sometimes a person cannot quite clearly formulate what emotions he is experiencing, for example, people say “everything is boiling inside me,” what does this mean? What emotions? Anger? Fear? Despair? Anxiety? Annoyance?. A person cannot always identify a momentary emotion, but a person is almost always aware of a feeling: friendship, love, envy, hostility, happiness, pride.

Experts make a distinction between the concept of “ emotion”

” and the concepts of “
feeling
”, “
affect
”, “
mood
” and “
experience
”.

Unlike feelings, emotions do not have an object connection: they arise not in relation to someone or something, but in relation to the situation as a whole. " I'm scared

" is an emotion, and "
I'm afraid of this person
" is a feeling.

The feelings and emotions listed here do not exhaust the entire palette, the entire variety of human emotional states.
A comparison with the colors of the solar spectrum is appropriate here. There are 7 basic tones, but how many more intermediate colors do we know and how many shades can be obtained by mixing them! Positive
1. Pleasure 2. Joy.
3. Rejoicing. 4. Delight. 5. Pride. 6. Confidence. 7. Trust. 8. Sympathy. 9. Admiration. 10. Love (sexual). 11. Love (affection). 12. Respect. 13. Tenderness. 14. Gratitude (appreciation). 15. Tenderness. 16. Complacency. 17. Bliss 18. Schadenfreude. 19. Feeling of satisfied revenge. 20. Peace of mind. 21. Feeling of relief. 22. Feeling satisfied with yourself. 23. Feeling of security. 24. Anticipation. Neutral
25. Curiosity. 26. Surprise. 27. Amazement. 28. Indifference. 29. Calm and contemplative mood.[/td]

It is difficult to say how many different emotional states there may be - but, in any case, there are immeasurably more than 70. Emotional states are highly specific, even if, with modern crude assessment methods, they have the same name. There seem to be many shades of anger, joy, sadness and other feelings. Love for an older brother and love for a younger sister are similar, but far from identical feelings. The first is colored with admiration, pride, and sometimes envy; the second is a sense of self-superiority, a desire to provide patronage, sometimes pity and tenderness. A completely different feeling is love for parents, love for children. But to designate all these feelings we use one name.

The division of feelings into positive and negative is not done on ethical grounds, but solely on the basis of the pleasure or displeasure delivered. Therefore, gloating ended up in the column of positive feelings, and sympathy - in the negative feelings. There are, as you can see, much more negative ones than positive ones. Why? Several explanations can be offered. Sometimes the idea is expressed that there are simply many more words in the language that express unpleasant feelings, because in a good mood a person is generally less inclined to introspection. This explanation seems unsatisfactory to us. The initial biological role of emotions is signaling, of the “pleasant - unpleasant”, “safe - dangerous” type. Apparently, the signaling “dangerous” and “unpleasant” is more significant for the animal; it is vitally important, more relevant, because it directs its behavior in critical situations. It is clear that such information in the process of evolution should receive priority over information signaling “comfort”. But what has developed historically can change historically. When a person masters the laws of social development, this will change his emotional life, moving the center of gravity towards positive, pleasant feelings. Let's return to the list of feelings. If you carefully read all 70 names, you will notice that some of the listed feelings coincide in content and differ only in intensity. For example, surprise and amazement differ only in strength, that is, in degree of expression. The same is anger and rage, pleasure and bliss, etc. Therefore, some clarifications need to be made to the list. Typically, feelings come in five main forms:

1. 
   Actually a feeling.

2. Affect.
3. Passion.
4. Mood.
5. Experiences

The definition of feeling was given above. Affect

- this is a very strong short-term feeling associated with a motor reaction (or with complete immobility - numbness. But numbness is also a motor reaction).
Passion
is a strong and lasting feeling.
Mood
is the resultant of many feelings. This state is distinguished by a certain duration, stability and serves as the background against which all other elements of mental activity take place.

Under the worries

however, they usually understand exclusively the subjective mental side of emotional processes, without including physiological components. Thus, if we consider surprise a feeling, then amazement is the same feeling in content, but brought to the level of affect (remember the final silent scene of “The Inspector General”). Similarly, we call anger brought to the level of passion by rage, bliss is the affect of pleasure, delight is the affect of joy, despair is the affect of grief, horror is the affect of fear, adoration is love that has become passion in duration and strength, etc.

Displays of emotions

Emotional reactions are associated with nervous processes; they also manifest themselves in external movements, called “ expressive movements.”

Expressive movements are an important component of emotions, the external form of their existence. Expressions of emotions are universal, similar for all people, sets of expressive signs that reflect certain emotional states.

Towards expressive forms of emotions

include the following:

- gestures (hand movements),

- facial expressions (movements of facial muscles),

- pantomime (movements of the whole body) - see Body language: Gestures and facial expressions

,

- emotional components of speech (strength and timbre, voice intonation),

- vegetative changes (redness, paleness, sweating).

For more information about how emotions are expressed, you can read Body Language: Facial expressions, gaze, posture and gestures

The human face has the greatest ability to express various emotional shades (see Theory of Lies

).
And, of course, the mirror of emotions is often the eyes (see Eyes Don’t Lie...
)

Emotions and feelings are unique mental states that leave an imprint on a person’s life, activities, actions and behavior. If emotional states mainly determine the external side of behavior and mental activity, then feelings influence the content and internal essence of experiences caused by a person’s spiritual needs. Based on materials from openemo.com

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Dictionary of Positive Emotions

The coffee ran away, there was a stain on your dress, you got stuck in a traffic jam, you were late for a meeting... The day has not gone well since the very morning, and it seems that nothing good will happen. We offer ways from “a” to “z” on how to cheer yourself up.

A. Aromatic coffee. It almost acts like a drug. It’s good that law enforcement agencies do not regulate its circulation.

B. Blah blah blah (conversation with a friend). Talking it out is what you need now, sharing your sorrows; a friend will always cheer you up.

V. Jam. “Strawberry jam lifts our spirits. Instead of cabbage soup and semolina porridge, we will always eat it!” - is sung in a children's song. True words.

G. Horoscope. Positive forecasts set you in a positive mood and attract good luck.

D. Diary. Write without looking back, don't stop. Pour out all your suffering on paper.

E. Martial arts. Go in for sports and throw out the negativity in sparring or beat a punching bag to a pulp.

G. Pity (for yourself). This is not constructive. It is better to displace bad emotions with brighter ones. For example, take an extreme driving course. At the same time, you will deal with emergency situations on the road.

Z. Smell. Tireless British scientists have found that certain smells lift your spirits. You just need to know what to smell. Researchers insist on lemons, fresh bread and freshly laundered sheets.

I. Game. Remember the children's book "Polyanna" and play for joy. The rules are simple: in everything bad you need to find something good. Didn't make it to the meeting? But they were spared from this group nightmare.

J. Iodine and some other elements of the periodic table are needed by an organism weakened by stress.

K. Books. As Nadeja Jasminska says, “sometimes it’s very easy to be happy—you just have time to turn the pages.”

L. Love (for yourself). We have a lot of reasons to be happy: eye color, , a certain number of diplomas and certificates, a dozen cute skeletons in the closet...

M. Minus to minus. You may be surprised, but when we feel bad, we need to find someone who also needs help and support. Go to your old neighbor for tea, spend the day with the children from the orphanage. Their smiles of gratitude are real magic.

N. New hairstyle, or manicure, or massage, or cucumber mask. In any, even the most difficult, situation you need to remain beautiful.

A. You can find Olympic calm by doing art therapy. Without putting your hands, brushes and paints, paint whatever you want.

P. Travel. A change of scenery gives absolutely amazing experiences. And it doesn’t matter where you go: out of town for a picnic or to the ends of the world.

R. R-r-r (growl, roar, swear). By any means, pull yourself out of the swamp of despondency until you feel relief.

C. Event. Every day dozens of holidays are celebrated around the world. You can adopt a couple or create your own holiday dates: the twenty-fifth anniversary of the first kiss or Boxing Day for no reason.

T. Notebook. Write down everything that brings you joy (don't forget even the most trivial pleasures). In difficult moments, use the items from this list against a bad mood.

U. Unfortunately, we don’t always have to hope that someone will cheer us up. But we can do it ourselves. For example, on a rainy day, go outside in bright clothes with an umbrella of cheerful colors or release yellow and orange balloons into the sky - a symbol of the sun.

F. Flirting. Shoot with eyes, but take no prisoners. Feel beautiful, despite the unfortunate stain on your dress. Discovering that there was nothing to be upset about.

H. Hobby. Embroidery, knitting, skydiving or singing in the shower - all means are good in the fight for a positive mood.

C. Value. Appreciate every moment of your life and learn to enjoy the little things. If some trifle could ruin your mood, why can’t the same trifle lift it?

Ch. Man. Nothing calms you down like the touches and hugs of loved ones. Tactile contact with people dear to us - mother, loved one, child, friend - promotes the production of the hormone oxytocin, which reduces stress and anxiety. Sh. Pranks. The ability to retain a certain amount of childhood (where endorphins from eating chocolates usually accumulate) helps to easily endure “cloudy” days.

Click-click. Take photos of your loved ones whenever possible. And in moments of sadness, admire the photographs taken. By the way, photos of cats and pandas are already charged with the energy of positive emotions.

E. That's normal. This is the name of a well-known psychological technique. Repeat the phrase “This is normal” in the most unpleasant situations, which, of course, may not be normal at all. The world and we are not perfect, but this is not a reason to spoil your mood.

Yu. Humor. When your sense of humor and ability to laugh at an unpleasant situation fails, do not torment yourself, it is better to go to bed. Tomorrow will be a new day and a new phase in life. I am the happiest! Tell yourself this right now and smile at your reflection in the mirror. A smile suits everyone. Yes, just believe me.

E - on “e2” the reasons for joy are mostly unprintable. Also, the letters Y, ь and Ъ will not bring you a good mood. They are so “secret” that it is even difficult to hint at what they mean...