I liked the girl. You find yourself returning to her in your thoughts every now and then. But it’s unclear how she feels about you. Or it’s just understandable, but this is not at all what we would like. Or even the same thing, but not enough. I would like to learn how to do something to evoke sympathy, feelings, attraction in her, so that I can also be in her thoughts.
To understand how to make a girl think about you, want to meet with you, communicate and, in the future, have a relationship, it is first useful to find out what she generally needs, what can hook her.
No magic - pure psychology!
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How can you tell if she likes you, or maybe even loves you? Did the girl remember your name? Does he respond to your messages, or do you sometimes go on dates?
All this, of course, is good and looks promising, but nothing ignites feelings and makes them stronger than the fact that she continues to think about you while you are not together and is looking forward to seeing you again.
And although the process of the emergence of sympathy and the chemistry that stands behind it still remains a miracle for people that cannot be reproduced artificially, but if that very “spark” flashed between you, then you are quite capable of “keep the fire going” and try to force the one you like miss you especially.
By the way, we have seven tricks to help you.
What women constantly need
You can answer this question for many hours and dozens of pages. Let's focus on several points that are important in the context of the topic raised:
- Attention
- Validation of feelings
- Calm
- New impressions
Attention is your interest in a woman. This is a demonstration that not only does she think about you and mean it, but you do the same to her. It is not difficult to manifest it. It could be anything:
- A bouquet of flowers, buying her favorite candies, fulfilling a wish she once talked about, fulfilling her requests, taking into account her interests.
- Even just remembering that you were going to go shopping with her over the weekend and adjusting your plans taking this into account is also attention.
- Remember that she loves animals and invite her to the petting zoo - attention.
- Remembering that she is allergic to citrus fruits and carrying honey and tablets rather than oranges when she is sick is attention.
It doesn't matter what exactly you do. It is important that this will be a gesture addressed specifically to her, taking into account her needs and characteristics.
Confirmation of feelings is evidence of its significance.
American psychologist Gary Chapman wrote that love has five languages: words, deeds (or help), gifts, time and tactile contact.
He was right in his assumption and helped improve the relationships of many couples by finding out how and through what each specific man and woman perceives love. Find out this about your chosen one.
What does she value more: compliments and affectionate addresses, help in matters that she herself cannot cope with, bouquets and decorations, joint evening walks or hugs and other touches?
Find out what you value more. Sharing this information will surely take the relationship to the next level, your feelings will be constantly validated through a form that you are comfortable with.
Calmness is confidence in your partner and relationship. This is her knowledge that you are faithful and will not go anywhere, that there are no secrets between you, that you trust her and that she can trust you. This knowledge is based on your behavior and position in the relationship.
New experiences are experiences that you gain together. It can be completely different: from an innocent trip to an amusement park or lunch with someone's parents to travel, moving and other drastic changes. Without such experience, relationships risk breaking on the merciless rocks of everyday life and boredom.
Give her forget-me-nots
Our first way to make someone miss you is a double bottom. Firstly, if you decide to give her a bouquet, then forget-me-nots will be a more original and unexpected gift than classic roses.
And secondly, even if the girl is not an expert in flower language, she will certainly decipher the subtle subtext of such a gift: “Don’t forget me.” To be even more faithful, you can also add a note to the bouquet with some sweet or romantic phrase (Google will help you).
Give her a useful gift
Let's face it: people love gifts. But the question is - what can you give a girl so that she remembers you as often as possible and misses you? And if you think that it must be something expensive/beautiful/romantic, then the answer is wrong.
Your gift will make her think of you involuntarily if she uses it instead of just putting it on a shelf. But this does not mean that the best present is a pack of powder or a six-month supply of toothpaste. Although... if a girl has a good sense of humor and you have been dating for a long time, she may be pleased with such a gift too (there are all kinds of relationships).
However, we advise you to opt for something more neutral and personal. Did she mention in conversation that she keeps losing pens or her keyboard broke? We hope you always listen to your girlfriend and can easily remember some nuance that will help you make the right choice. And then she will first be pleasantly surprised by your sensitivity and attentiveness, and then she will remember you every time she uses this item.
When is it better NOT to use the “no contact period” method?
If many months have passed since the separation
If you broke up a long time ago (say, six months ago), then using a no-contact strategy will not be very effective. Yes, if all this time after the breakup you were actively communicating with your ex, then you should try to ignore her for about 30 days as soon as possible. But if you communicated sporadically or did not talk at all after breaking up, then you most likely , it's better not to experiment.
When you live with your ex
This is a very popular course of events. Your ex broke up with you, or you just broke up, but still live together or share a living space and physically cannot avoid contact with her. Such cases happen quite often, so I dedicated a whole section about this in my program “The Ex Factor”.
So if you are faced with such a situation, then my program will help you understand what to do if you are separated, but at the same time live under the same roof. In such cases, it may be helpful to reduce non-essential contact with your ex. But make sure she doesn’t understand that you’re avoiding her on purpose.
There is no need to sneak to the refrigerator at 3 a.m. to eat, or hide from her behind the door. Don't show that you ignore her, but just subtly avoid her in some situations.
When you communicate with your ex, it is very important to pretend to be completely happy. Be positive, lively and friendly. Don't show your emotions
Do not show that you are angry, you are sad, and under no circumstances try to start a quarrel.
Just be friendly and polite while trying to end your conversation quickly. If necessary, say that you are sorry, but you have a meeting with friends now and will talk to her later. End the conversation as soon as possible and limit it to a few sentences with inside jokes and funny stories. No serious topics
And, most importantly, show that you are happy and enjoying your freedom!
When you work or study with your ex
If you see her every day at school or at work, use the same techniques I just talked about. Limit contact as much as possible. Make sure that all your conversations are friendly and positive, ending them as early as possible (if possible). And let her know that things are going just fine for you after the end of your relationship with her.
If you have children together with your ex
Yes, it is impossible to avoid conversations with your ex-girlfriend or wife if you have children together. But in this case, you need to reduce communication to a minimum and talk only about children.
For example, who will take them to school, how the dance competition went, when is the next dance class, etc. But you need to do this with a smile on your face and a positive attitude.
Politely cut off all conversations not related to your children or important household matters. And show your ex that you don’t hold a grudge against her, but are just busy right now and can’t talk for a long time.
If you are in a situation where everything is heading towards divorce, then you must understand that there is a possibility that the relationship will not be able to improve. Establishing such a relationship is much more difficult than establishing a relationship with, say, a girl with whom you do not have common children or marriage in the past.
When your ex won't leave you alone
If you are trying to live 30 days, following the rules of the “no contact period”, and she continues to inundate you with calls and texts, then a completely natural question will arise:
In such a situation, a non-contact method is usually even more important! It is very important to let her know that now you will not constantly support her emotionally, or distract her from loneliness and negative emotions, like the consequences of a breakup.
She must understand that she will have to choose between being in a romantic relationship with you or not communicating at all. And there is no middle ground. This is how the “non-contact period” works brutally.
Become a synonym for pleasant emotions for her.
One of the easiest tricks to make a girl miss you and look forward to meeting you is to always have something new and exciting in stock for your dates.
So keep an eye out for cool new places opening, free events, or take her on a weekend getaway to one of the nearby cities you've both never been to (who said you can only take girls to Paris and Bali?).
Because when you invite a girl somewhere (especially if it's her first time), then this place can forever become associated with you in her mind, which will make her miss you every time she passes by, or thinks about it. how you were there together.
Secrets of psychologists2
Psychologists have studied this issue and suggested how to make a girl think about herself constantly. But before doing this, a man must work on himself. He must understand what qualities he himself possesses: objectively evaluate his appearance and his spiritual values. Highlight your positive traits, and if there are none, then acquire them by working on yourself. After all the above actions, you can step by step apply the advice of psychologists on how to make a girl think about herself constantly.
Make sure there aren't too many of you
American inventor Thomas Edison once said: “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
. What happens when you spend all your time and effort trying to get a girl to like you? You become too available and she doesn't have time to miss you. Or she may even begin to get a little tired of you and dream of a break.
So take a break from 24/7 texting or take some time off your next date. However, this does not mean at all
, that it is worth playing a game with a mysterious disappearance for several days, which some pick-up artists advise to practice to “100% attach a girl.”
Firstly, it’s cruel (she doesn’t know the reason for your disappearance and may start to worry whether you’re alive), and secondly, this practice is as old as time, and girls are aware of it. And it's somehow...cheap.
How to make a wife appreciate her husband and be afraid of losing him
Second, share his hobbies.
Important This happens when a man realizes that he cannot realize himself as a father, lover, protector, and is not able to provide for his family.
Important point! Representatives of the stronger sex are painfully aware of their inadequacy, therefore, trying to find an excuse, to defend themselves, they begin to look for shortcomings in the chosen one according to the principle: attack is a way of defense. Accordingly, the wife will not accept an accusatory position, which is fraught with constant scandals.
It happens that a man turns into a despot if his wife does not show her claws.
This behavior of her husband is the reason for her complexes.
Sad statistics 2-3 years after marriage, the husband quickly loses interest and looks at other women. It happens that he stops: The wife’s ability to look excellent is not a panacea. A conspiracy comes to the rescue. That if he does not do anything that his wife would like from him, then she will find herself a better man, or simply go free, proudly slamming the door.
Send her a letter by regular mail
We know, we know... this is the 21st century, and no one, except government agencies and stores with their advertising, sends mail in envelopes anymore. But did you know that it is precisely because of the effect of surprise that this trick can serve you very well?
Firstly, imagine how surprised she will be (especially if you live in the same city, although this technique is very good for long-distance relationships), and secondly, she will probably appreciate your creativity and time spent (one visit to the post office is already seems like a feat).
How to make a wife respect her husband: advice from a psychologist
Contents of the article Modern representatives of the fair half of humanity are no longer the weaker sex, as they once thought. Wives try to rise above their husbands, trying to infringe and humiliate them.
Some ladies openly cheat on their husbands, showing disrespect and causing pain.
Will such persons treat their spouse with due respect? Perhaps, but a man needs to try hard.
This is interesting. The sensational story of a wife’s disdain for her betrothed made the male population rejoice.
The Egyptian lady showed her husband dissatisfaction with his salary and the constant lack of money in the family.
The country's authorities have introduced a law that states that a husband has the right to file for divorce if his wife accuses him of insolvency.
The Supreme Judge supported the decision in every possible way, considering such a harsh statement groundless. The wife will not respect a husband who disdains his own person.
Husbands who please their wives in everything need to change their strategy.
Do you buy expensive things and perfume for your loved one, but wear faded jeans? Be careful, girls quickly get used to good things. Perhaps this is why your wife stopped respecting you; she got the impression that your husband is unworthy of more. Don't let yourself be humiliated. Refuse tasteless food if this is actually the case.
You are an adult, worthy man who needs high-quality and healthy food. Watch your figure, eat right, join the gym. Ladies love sculpted abs and broad shoulders.
Did your spouse buy a T-shirt on sale that looks terrible on you? Make her a doormat.
A girl dresses in expensive boutiques, spends half her salary on shoes from Botticelli, and at the same time buys her husband cheap T-shirts with crooked prints? Stop allocating money to whims, making it clear that you are the “leader of the pack.”
The situations described are a drop in the ocean of humiliation of male pride. Stand up for your point of view even in petty situations, love yourself and don’t let your wife suppress your man’s ego. Go to a good store, buy an expensive watch and beautiful shoes, after all, the budget is shared.
Constantly look for options for additional income. Don't live off your salary and struggle to make ends meet.
Most women blame their husbands for material poverty, as a result of which they cease to respect them. It's logical. There are no such ladies eager to marry a man sitting at home watching TV with a bottle of beer in his hand instead of doing business.
The question arises about a small salary?
Convince the woman that you are trying to provide for your family. She made a vow at the altar to be with her husband in sorrow and in joy, in wealth and in poverty; reproaches here are extremely inappropriate. However, the advice about additional income remains relevant.
Get rid of laziness, read literature, develop yourself and lead your loved one. The man is the guiding line, the wife is the guided one.
Take the initiative and don’t shy away from funny ideas; women love an unconventional approach. It is generally accepted that a man does not need to complain about his wife and about the car, they say, he chose it himself. But what to do when the situation gets out of control?
That's right, re-educate. Tied the knot with an eccentric lady?
You'll have to sweat a lot. Temperamental girls are difficult to “train”; they have already developed a certain character and, by and large, such girls do not want to change anything.
Men who praise their women should reconsider their position. Stop indulging her, learn to say “No!” when a controversial issue arises.
Pay attention to what exactly your spouse is unhappy with, then try to convey your own point of view in a calm voice. Is your wife complaining about your constant absence due to work?
Make it clear that making money while at home is quite difficult. If the arguments are unconvincing, invite the girl to start working while sitting on the couch next to you. Are you quarreling with your wife because, in her opinion, you are not paying enough attention to your child? Make a compromise, show the qualities of a caring father.
Show that even when you are tired, you care about your family. You can often hear the phrases from women: “My husband and I have boring and monotonous sex!” or “My husband doesn’t satisfy me!”
Become an attentive lover so that your wife will look forward to you coming home from work in the evenings. Sex for married people often loses its spark and becomes routine.
Watch an erotic film together, flirt on the phone, discuss secret fantasies. For every talented lover there is a more experienced male, improve your skills and experiment. Light the wish candle again! You earn good money, occupy a high position, but your wife has lost respect for you?
Stop spoiling her. It is clear that you are ready to fulfill any whims, but in everything you need to know when to stop. No wonder Pushkin wrote
“The more we love a woman, the less she likes us...”
. Don’t run forward to fulfill all your beloved’s wishes, leave room for some mystery, you are not an open book.
Let the lady ask for a favor, showing her need.
This way you can gradually remove the crown from her.
Did your spouse give you a beautiful (totally unnecessary) writing pen for your birthday?
Reciprocate. Is the girl in no hurry to share family stories? And you shouldn't amuse her with stories about the events that happened last weekend. As a rule, wives stop respecting their husbands because of their own considerations.
Some are dissatisfied with the lack of attention to their person, others want to live like queens, and others do everything themselves without outside support. Identify the true motives of behavior and begin to act.
Where the carrot is powerless, try the stick.
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Work on your touch
Body language is no less eloquent and important in a relationship than the messages you write to her and the gifts you give her (obvious, right?). Here's how it works: If you're in the early stages of a relationship, a strong, cozy hug can make her feel safe in your arms.
Over time, as things get more serious, your arms will become one of her happiest places... and when she's sad or lonely, the only thing she'll want to do is cuddle with you. Therefore, pay attention to how exactly you touch her, and maybe even master the massage technique (this will be a combo effect).
Make her feel like she's special
Sometimes girls go crazy about fatal and mysterious or “bad” guys, but more often they still miss those with whom they had fun and pleasure, comfortably and... in a special way.
By remembering what she says and then using it in conversation, being caring and attentive, and not being afraid to admit yourself that you missed her, you will most likely not only make her think about you, but also make her think about you even more. valuable feelings - respect and trust. Sudden disappearances and attempts to play on jealousy will definitely not cope with this task.
- Author: Maria Minaeva
What you shouldn’t write to a girl: the most common fatal mistakes
There are many options for what to write to get a girl to respond, but for some reason, guys often choose the most banal and strange ones. It’s not clear in what circles and sections they teach you to make advances like this, but the message is doomed to failure. There are several taboo topics that a normal girl will immediately pass by:
- Humor below the belt and similar tackles are taboo for the first appeal. They are “spiritual persons”, and not just lustful animals. Then she will show all her passion and feminine essence, but for now she will have to act tactfully.
- Platitudes like “You’re beautiful, let’s chat.” At best, she will decide that you are a bot, and at worst, she will think that you are so narrow-minded that you didn’t even think to look for a more original tackle on the Internet.
- Slang and obscenity are not for cute and sophisticated girls. And even if on the first date she will throw two and three-story obscenities after she is thrown with mud by a passing car, but for now she will play the role of a well-mannered and chaste girl.
- Lots of grammatical errors. Traditionally, everyone rubs each other’s noses for typos and mistakes on the Internet, so even a C student at school will not want to communicate with an “ignoramus.”
- Deception: you can’t pretend to be another person, post a photo in Ikea or in front of someone else’s Ferrari. Respect and appreciate yourself. Working as a mechanic or plumber is no reason to be shy at all. There are many girls who will appreciate a “male profession”, and besides, in the photo you can present your employment in such a way that the ladies will salivate.
