A person with a difficult character often suffers from the qualities that he developed during his life. He does not understand why people avoid him, and communication brings neither pleasure nor benefit. A complex character is manifested in sarcasm, conflict, envy and other traits. However, even such people, after working hard on themselves, will be able to achieve spiritual harmony.
The child has grown up
Although, from a psychological point of view, a tyrant mother is a rather difficult person to perceive information and desires of a child, but there is still an opportunity to be heard. There is no need to try to immediately eradicate maternal intrusiveness and guardianship. At first, it is enough to make it clear that her child has already grown up and has his own “I” and opinion. Try to weaken the tyranny of the mother. If you cannot cope on your own, you can resort to the services of a psychologist. And there are positive results, normal relationships between mother and child are established. The situation is much more complicated when there is an elderly tyrant mother and an adult daughter. There's practically only one way out here. Live separately from mother.
Sarcasticity
This trait of a difficult character is aimed at hurting other people, touching on their shortcomings. Moreover, this is always done in the most sophisticated expressions and often in front of everyone. Pleasant jokes can never ruin your mood. As for sarcasm, it causes only negative emotions. This phenomenon is a socially acceptable type of aggression. If a person cannot express to another everything that he thinks about him, that makes him a target for his sarcastic statements.
Often the reason for sarcasm is the desire to attract the attention of others. Psychologists have found that this trait is characteristic of people who come from large families.
It also affects those in whose families parents and other adults were not ashamed to communicate with each other through ridicule.
To overcome the craving for acute slander, you need to think - why utter offensive words and what is their ultimate goal? After all, in order to attract the attention of society, there are many more positive ways. If the statement of a colleague or relative seems completely stupid and makes you want to tell a cruel joke, it is useful to ask your interlocutor a few clarifying questions instead
For example: “Why do you think so?”, “Do you think things could be different?” This will help you show yourself as a delicate and attentive person. This will allow the interlocutor to maintain a sense of self-esteem.
Tendency to dramatize events, anxiety, depression
These qualities of people with difficult characters spoil the lives of both themselves and those around them. After all, they also have to constantly listen to complaints and whining about how bad everything is. Your neighbors have an expensive car, your friend has a more beautiful wife, and your friend’s child managed to get into a prestigious university. The quality of life in the country is deteriorating, and wages are not growing; and the weather is kind of bad every day. These people think approximately this way, infecting those around them with their pessimism.
To get rid of the habit of seeing everything in a dark light, it is useful to work on yourself. You need to develop the habit of seeing things in more positive terms. Also, such a person needs to do everything in his power to make his life pleasant and comfortable, and bring joy.
Relationship between mother and daughter
Such relationships have the strongest impact on daughters. The mother does not understand that children have personal boundaries and does not accept their independence. She believes that children are her continuation, and therefore her reward. Women love children only if they meet the mother's standards of quality and do everything to satisfy her needs.
The narcissistic mother skillfully alternates affection and tolerance with emotional blackmail and boycott. Because of this, children do not feel protected and are constantly in limbo.
In adult life, such children behave as follows:
They earn love and attention in a variety of ways. They strive for a standard, because otherwise no one will love them or communicate with them
They choose a person whom they begin to overprotect. This could be a spouse, a friend, or just a friend. They believe they don't deserve what others get. After all, they are worthless and unworthy.
As you can see, there are enough problems in adult life. As soon as the daughters of narcissistic mothers begin to build their relationships, all the complexes and resentments instilled in childhood immediately appear. Girls try with all their might to keep a man near them, begging for love. They suffer from low self-esteem and an inferiority complex.
Often there is narcissistic seduction by the mother of her daughter's admirers. This comes from the notorious sense of competition. And this is done not because she likes the young man, but out of a desire to prove that she is better.
If there is more than one child in the family, then there is no friendship between the brothers and sisters. They communicate with each other simply because they have to. And most often this happens through the mother. This is her main goal - to control not only her life, but also the lives of her children. Narcissistic mothers divide their children into loved ones and unloved ones. And then one child gets everything, while the other gets only the mother’s problems and obligations towards her.
It seems that there is no way out, and in order to arrange your life, you will have to flee to another city. But not everyone can do this. Some are stopped by obligations towards their parents, others by material problems, and still others are already so broken that they cannot take a single step without their mother’s order.
Ghost mother - lack of contact with the child
Characteristics of a ghost mother - the main signs of the type Psychological type of mothers who are not capable of establishing an emotional connection with their children. This category includes both physically absent and “emotionally closed” mothers. These women are not cruel to their children, but they also do not pay attention to their needs. They completely eliminate any possibility of close contact.
- Ghost mothers very often leave the child alone, thereby moving away from him.
- Often such women experience difficulties in their personal lives. They are absorbed in solving their problems.
- “Heart-to-heart conversations” with them are excluded.
- The child does not have the opportunity to share his thoughts, problems and experiences with his mother.
- The ghost mother controls not only her own emotions, but also the emotions of the child.
- Children lack spiritual warmth, they constantly feel a feeling of loneliness, which leaves a negative imprint on their entire future life. They cannot find contact with the people around them, it is difficult for them to express their feelings.
Interaction of a complex personality with the world
It is not easy to deal with a person who has a difficult character. Such people often offend others and spoil their mood. They often begin to be avoided, since communication with them rarely brings joy. If you had to deal with such a person, the simplest solution is to enter into communication with him as little as possible. The main signs of a severe nature, signaling the need to reduce the number of contacts, are:
- Reluctance to listen to the interlocutor.
- A sense of rightness even in situations where there is no reason for it.
- Aggressiveness, conflict, quarrelsomeness.
- Tendency to criticize and find fault.
- Depressiveness, tendency to dramatize.
If it seems that only such people are around, this is a reason to think: perhaps personal problems are not characteristic of them, but of the person himself.
Manage emotions
But admitting your shortcomings is only the beginning of the fight against a difficult character. Often people get stuck halfway and invent all sorts of excuses for themselves. “Nothing can be done, because this is my character,” they say. Such an excuse becomes universal for them. They use it in any conflict situation or to justify their own weaknesses.
In reality, a difficult character is not a death sentence. It is formed throughout a person’s life. It depends only on the individual himself where he will direct his natural inclinations. For example, everyone knows that people with choleric temperament are often unrestrained and irritable. But even they are quite capable of controlling their own outbursts of aggression.
If anger makes you unable to think clearly, you should not try to express it as quickly as possible. On the contrary, you first need to reduce the intensity of emotions a little. To do this, it is useful to use relaxation techniques and deep breathing. Sports and fitness activities help get rid of excess adrenaline. Oriental martial arts are especially effective in this regard.
Selecting a profitable match for your child
As the child grows up, the mother tries to find him a profitable match. And if the child’s choice falls on an ordinary hard worker, he will be received with hostility. The mother will try in every possible way to eliminate him from the life of her child. According to the mother, she knows better which batch the child needs. That he will be more comfortable with a wealthy soulmate (and most often this is due to the motivation that the mother herself will not be deprived of funds after the wedding). And there are also such tyrants that they do not allow children to go into adulthood, a separate life. Not only do they not allow you to meet the opposite sex, but they also stop all communication.
Pessimist
It is difficult for a pessimist to live. He is similar to a whiner in some ways. Only the complainer (whiner) does not try to change the situation. Goes with the flow and whines.
A pessimist is distinguished by the fact that everything should be according to his will. If you start offering him reasonable options for solving the problem, you will get a destructive wave of protest. And it seems to give very logical arguments.
A typical example. A colleague constantly complains about her mother-in-law. Some colleagues, tired of everyday whining, advise her to rent an apartment with her husband and live separately. To which they receive the answer: there is not enough money, the eldest child is in school, the youngest is in kindergarten. The costs are exorbitant. Where can we pay for housing? And my mother-in-law is not very healthy. Even though she’s a reptile, her conscience won’t allow her to quit.
Seems like completely logical arguments. And everything is always bad, in all areas.
How to help yourself
The main thing to remember is that parental burnout is not a myth and can happen to any mother. So don't try to "be strong." It makes more sense to admit that you feel bad and need help.
Simplify your life as much as possible. Whatever can wait, let it wait. Everything that cannot be delegated
It doesn’t matter what you use: a slow cooker, a nanny, or washing the floor just once a week - there should be an order of magnitude less to do than there was. Precisely brush aside unimportant tasks (for example, ironing diapers or reading books to your baby at night)
They are not of vital importance, but they may worsen your condition. Ask for help. People around us do not know how (and should not!) read our thoughts. Understand what your main source of stress is. Let's say the house is a mess. Then ask someone (husband, parents) to walk with the child, and at this time you will little by little restore the order that you need so much. Don't neglect your medications. Go to a therapist and tell us about your condition. Maybe you just don’t have enough iron, and the problem with fatigue will be solved in no time if you start taking it? If the therapist deems it necessary, he will refer you to a neurologist who will prescribe his supportive treatment, if necessary. Organize your sleep. If it is not possible to sleep 8 hours a day, then at least “don’t hang out” on the Internet while lying in bed. And use your child's naps to get some sleep yourself. Talk to a psychologist. It is quite possible to correct a shaken mental balance. There are many opportunities now. You can work on Skype and find a specialist in any price category, and even get free help from the psychological assistance service for the population. Give yourself little joys. During the day, do at least a couple of things that make you feel good. Listen to your favorite music, drink tea or coffee that you like. Take 15 minutes to read a book or magazine. Slow down to see what is happening around you. Ask yourself questions - how do I feel now, what do I need, what do I want? Praise yourself. Notice everything you do, all your achievements and learn to make mistakes. There are no people who are perfect in everything. You are definitely great at something that makes your friends jealous. And your “imperfections” may seem huge to you and be completely invisible to others. Try to accept them as part of yourself, as a given, in which you are, nevertheless, beautiful. Find people like you. There are support groups online for parents (most often mothers resort to their support), where you can simply complain and receive your portion of attention and sympathy.
Remember the period when you felt bad and emotionally burned out. What contributed to it? What did you feel, what were the harbingers? Remember this state so that you can track it in the future and not reach a critical point.
How should a victim daughter act? Recommendations
What to do if your mother is a tyrant? Unfortunately, such a mother is no less dangerous than a tyrant man. She can cause much more harm to the child’s psyche than the same father. And if this is the case, then first you need to soberly assess the situation. Don’t try to immediately run away from home and rush to get married. Since the other half may turn out to be much worse than the tyrant mother. After all, you know the latter from birth. And you can already predict all her actions in advance. But the actions of the husband/wife cannot be predicted. If possible, you can enroll in full-time study, with the provision of a place in a dormitory. You can also find a job with housing (provided to employees). Or simply rent an apartment with your lover, but without formalizing the marriage. After all, you need to take a closer look at the chosen one.
Only the mother makes all decisions
The mother makes all decisions for the child, no matter how old he is. This may concern what to wear, what to eat, where he can go, and where it is strictly forbidden. The mother decides whether the child needs to attend music and singing lessons or not. If she believes that this is necessary, he will only have to obey. And it does not take into account that the child is completely indifferent to music, but is interested in, for example, modern dancing. While he lives with his mother, her word becomes the last
And the child’s wishes are practically not taken into account. Mom selects his social circle, friends
This is the best case scenario. Most often, mothers believe that after birth a child is simply obliged to devote his entire life to his mother.
Type: Critical
In the case of a critical person, you can immediately tell by his or her reaction that he or she does not agree with you. They may openly comment on your decision or simply give you a disapproving look. Criticism becomes noticeable when a person not only evaluates, but expresses a negative opinion.
How to cope?
The best strategy may be to create distance between you and your “self-appointed judge.”
. Critical people are a combination of two personality traits: grumpiness and a lack of openness to other experiences.
In other words, “if you don’t do it my way, you’re wrong.” We can warn you right away: you will not change such a person. If you can't back down, reduce the number of joint actions and decisions
or try to become thick-skinned.
How to get rid of stereotypes inherent in childhood - advice from psychologists
What should those who, being in adulthood, discover the negative influence of their mother in themselves and do not want to pass on this “burden” to their child, should do?
We would like to congratulate you right away, because if you have thought about this question, it means that the first step in the right direction has already been taken. You are characterized by self-criticism, you know how to analyze - and this is great. A thinking person perceives information more deeply. What do psychologists advise?
Undoubtedly, many psychological problems and complexes come from childhood. How to live with them and not repeat parental mistakes?
Psychologists say that 80% of psychological trauma in childhood is caused by parents. How to work on errors and get rid of negative programs?
To get rid of stereotypes laid down in childhood you need to:
- Mentally remember the history of your relationship with your mother and, after analyzing them, identify the main causes of the problems. Then, try to understand how much you follow your mother's instructions. What role does the mother's life script play in your relationship with your child?
- At the second stage of working on errors, start “erasing” the program that has a negative impact on you.
Exercises that really help get rid of stereotypes
Exercise No. 1
The point of this exercise is to “re-experience” the mother’s actions. Closing your eyes, you need to imagine your mother in those situations when she (in your opinion) behaved incorrectly. Then you need to analyze how you behaved in similar situations? If your behavior was similar, forgive yourself and try to “erase” someone else’s program. Understand that an imposed style of behavior will not bring happiness to either you or your child. When experiencing certain situations, behave as your soul requires.
Exercise No. 2
Try to abstract yourself from the “mother” program. Convince yourself that this program no longer works. This method is less traumatic psychologically. Try to start your own program that will work for the benefit of your child.
These exercises must be performed regularly.
If you cannot get rid of the negative influence of the parental program on your own and model a new model of behavior with your child, you need to seek help from an experienced psychologist. In this case, the main thing is not to hide your head in the sand and not run away from the problem. After all, you love your child and want him to be happy. We are sure that you will definitely succeed!
Irritability
Excessive irritability is one of the main signs of a difficult character. One person will behave calmly while in a traffic jam. Another will honk his horn furiously and curse everyone around him - both drivers and pedestrians. If something doesn’t happen according to plan - someone steps on someone’s foot, or a child gets a bad grade from school, it can turn into a real Apocalypse for such a person. Psychologists believe that irritability as an innate character trait is inherent in only 0.1% of the entire population. In other cases, this quality is a consequence of psychological problems acquired during life.
Accentuation of character
Accentuation of character is a character trait that is within the clinical norm, in which individual character traits are excessively enhanced, as a result of which selective vulnerability to certain psychogenic influences is revealed while maintaining good resistance to others.
The definition of accentuation may seem a little complicated to you, but in fact it is quite simple.
The word “accentuation” itself (from the Latin accentus - emphasis) means a pronounced emphasis on something.
In other words, this feature consists in the fact that some character traits are unusually developed, which causes the inferiority of other, less developed traits.
Simple ways to improve your relationship with your son
If contact with the child has been lost, and parents dream of regaining their former trust and mutual understanding, you need to remember simple ways that will help a lot:
- Try not to interfere in the child’s personal life, give him the opportunity to make his own choices.
- Give advice when the child asks for it.
- Talk more often about how much you love your child and how much you miss him.
- Send family photos if you are at a distance, or look through family albums if you live nearby.
- Don't call many times a day, but make one call that will replace hours of useless conversations.
- Don't yell at your adult son: the psychology of relationships is not so simple.
- Pay more attention to your grandchildren.
- Communicate with your son’s beloved woman, accept her as your daughter, and not your main enemy.
- Invite your children to your dacha to harvest crops, renovate a house, or go fishing together.
- Tell your child that everything will work out, just try to wait a while and you will get the result.
If you follow at least some of these recommendations, the atmosphere in the house is guaranteed to change, and all scandals will stop forever.
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Mother is a “porcelain doll”: how do tantrums and instability affect the child?
Signs of a porcelain doll mother - characteristics of the type This type of woman does not know how to cope with even a minor problem. At the slightest trouble, they easily “fight”, do not restrain their emotions - they cry, scream, and become hysterical. They are unable to control their emotions. Such mothers love their children, but any strong manifestation of feelings on the part of the child makes them angry. For example, if a child gets scared, the “porcelain” mother immediately begins to express her own fears. The child began to cry - the mother’s “uncontrollable self” comes to the fore, and she falls into hysterics. Any strong childhood emotions can “break” the porcelain “I” of the doll. Mother dolls are not ready for motherhood; they are not adapted to life in the adult world. Negative emotional manifestations of the child (anger, fear, aggression) cause confusion and panic in such women. Therefore, they try in every possible way to restrain and control children's emotions. They may punish their children for being too emotional.
- The consequences of such upbringing lead to the fact that grown children, in need of spiritual intimacy, reject it. They condemn the manifestations of any emotions.
- A person raised by a “porcelain” doll often withdraws into himself, criticizes and avoids emotional (from his point of view) people, is afraid of falling into any dependence and does not trust feelings.
- Such people, most often, try to take refuge in the sphere of pure intellect. They do not risk “opening up” to anyone; they do not know how to accept love.
- Porcelain mothers raise emotionally unbalanced children.
Snail (silent)
This type of difficult people includes comrades who are always silent. They withdraw into themselves, showing with all their appearance how dissatisfied they are with the world around them. And they don’t say what exactly they don’t like.
Those around him have to guess: either they angered the silent man, or he himself found a reason for resentment and upset feelings, without the participation of those around him.
And if you start putting pressure on him when the cup of anger is overflowing, you will get such a fountain of poison that you wouldn’t wish it on your enemy. It is very difficult with silent people. They seem to hide everything within themselves, but they explode with enviable regularity.
Second rule
Energy is not an empty phrase. It seems that there is no person who has not heard anything about energy vampires. Nevertheless, we continue to respond to provocations and give them our energy. You need to enjoy communicating with a person, and not to be emotionally drained.
There are several techniques that will help protect yourself from energy vampires. Among them:
Crossing your arms over your chest. This position closes the person and does not allow influence on him. Avoidance of gaze. It is eye to eye that exchanges emotions and energy, so try to get away from the vampire's gaze. If you can’t do this, then simply leave the room under some pretext. If the interlocutor is irritated and looking for a reason to scold, then do not give in. You can try to bring the conversation to a neutral topic, or you can just end the conversation
No matter how stupid it may sound, pay attention to amulets and all kinds of talismans. Wear jewelry with stones that have protective properties
You can try to cool the energy vampire. To do this, you need to write his name on a piece of paper. Then roll the sheet into a tube, put it in a bottle and put it in the freezer. If you believe, then perform a ritual of moving away from home. Write the name of the energy vampire on a piece of paper and place it under the cactus pot. Naturally, this pot should be located as far as possible from your home.
Whiner on the horizon
When difficult people are around, life becomes darker. We already don’t have many reasons to rejoice, and here we have the complainer crying in our ear. What to do with him? Already annoying with his whining.
Such a comrade can only be accepted with humor. Jokes with him, encourage him, and kindly mock him for his ability to see life in gray tones. Dragging out his mournful song? And you stop him right away with a joke.
Soon the complainant will understand that you do not plan to be his victim. Silence and make fun of people. What's the point of complaining to a person you can't beat? Your whiner will stop itching above your ear like an autumn fly.
Other cases of severe people
The same applies to those cases when a male boss has a complex character. After all, constant interaction with such a person at work is no better than having to endure your husband’s antics at home. Therefore, those who want to maintain psychological balance are also recommended to minimize communication with those people who have a difficult character, no matter in what field of activity they have to deal with.
If the difficult person is a relative, the problem here requires a more detailed consideration. It may be necessary to undergo joint psychotherapy to find common ground and make communication softer. But one thing needs to be remembered: if a person himself does not want to take into account the interests of loved ones, then it is unlikely that he can be influenced by persuasion.
If the soul refuses to accept this person with his terrifying shortcomings, this is a signal that it is time to change his environment. Unfortunately, such people often have to be erased from life, since they themselves change extremely rarely.
Pickiness
Often people with a difficult character believe that the truth is born in a dispute, but it still won’t be possible to live in peace with other people. On the one hand, constructive criticism helps you improve and is beneficial. But such people forget that it is not only what is said that is important, but also how this information is presented.
By the way, phrases like “He’s a complete idiot if he doesn’t understand that” or “Her hands don’t grow from there” are insults, not criticism. It is useful to remember this for people with a difficult character.
The reason for such pickiness is often the peculiarities of upbringing in early childhood. A child who has had to listen to criticism from his parents for any action gets used to this behavior. Often, in order to correct this character trait, one cannot do without long-term work with a psychotherapist.
Meditation
If you are not ready for such extreme measures, then turn your attention to meditation. Some techniques really work, but some are a kind of placebo, which means they also help
- During an unpleasant conversation, mentally build a wall between yourself and the interlocutor and think about something pleasant.
- Imagine a mirror soap bubble. When the conversation becomes unpleasant or they begin to insult you, then enter this ball and all the words spoken by the interlocutor will be returned to him.
- Since ancient times, white fire has protected from negative energy. So take advantage of this. Create a fiery white wall in your head between yourself and the vampire and calmly continue talking.
- They say that all the wishes to those around you will come back several times stronger. So wish your interlocutor love and happiness.
- Purple and lilac colors protect against bad energy. Wear these clothes more often.
Many will think that these are very harsh measures towards the mother. This may be true for some, but you can always find an alternative.
For example, live separately and call each other infrequently. Ideally, change your city of residence. If a woman is lonely, then find her a man. She will switch to him and stop asserting herself at your expense, at least for a while.
When there is no opportunity to move, try to keep communication to a minimum. Start talking to her when she is passionate about something. This way the mother will not waste time on scandals.
If a person uses any information against you, then try not to tell her anything. You understand that everything you say will later result in another showdown.
Don't give advice or ask to give up something. A woman with narcissist syndrome will not perceive words adequately. She will see them as hidden criticism and insult.
Don't react to her words. After all, she is just waiting for you to begin to prove that you are right. Better sit, meditate and smile.
Give her compliments, then she will stop perceiving you as a competitor and will be less suppressive.
You should not communicate with relatives through it. It is better to try to establish direct contact yourself, but do not dissuade the mother that she is still in control of the situation.
Don't feel sorry for her. Narcissistic mothers want to ruin their children's lives, even if not always consciously. That's why she tries in every possible way, including pity, to tie you to her.
Active aggressor
If you have such a guy next to you, you are completely “lucky”. And it’s good when you don’t have to contact him around the clock. At home, an active defensive aggressor is a disaster for the family. And the situation at work is not much better.
What is this difficult person to communicate with? He doesn't like anything. And never. He expresses his protests violently. Screams, angry abuse, showdowns and insults are guaranteed. Things may even come to blows.
What is the aggressor finding fault with? For every little thing. He doesn't like your way of speaking, behaving, or dressing. You put the sugar bowl on the table incorrectly, you cooked the porridge incorrectly. A severe storm will immediately break out.
This type of difficult person expresses their importance and strength by putting others down.
If your lover is a complex person
A man’s difficult character is a difficult test for every lady. At the beginning of a relationship, usually the shortcomings of the stronger sex do not appear as clearly as after the end of the candy-bouquet period. When a gentleman realizes that he no longer needs to court a girl in order to gain her favor, he gradually begins to show his true colors.
In any couple, people eventually begin to learn about each other's shortcomings. But ordinary relationships are characterized by the fact that these shortcomings, with due effort on the part of the man and woman, can be overcome and leveled out. For example, if a husband constantly throws socks around, this is not critical for family life. The wife can put the box in another corner of the room and invite her husband to play volleyball with the help of socks, trying to throw them exactly at the target.
But if the spouse is stubborn and has a difficult character, constantly provokes conflicts, God forbid, raises a hand against his wife - here you should seriously think about the advisability of continuing the relationship and the possible risks to health and life.
Child's weaknesses
Mothers also take advantage of their weaknesses to steer any situation in the direction they want. For example, this woman knows that the child is worried about her health, and she will manipulate him. At first, don’t let her into the disco under the guise that she has high blood pressure. Then, when the child grows up and moves out to live on his own, he will call and ask to buy medicine. Night calls will not be uncommon.
Quite a common occurrence: mother is a tyrant, daughter is a victim. The signs listed above will help a girl determine her mother’s attitude towards her. And if most of them are suitable, then you will need to try to get rid of the tyranny of the mother.
Why did you become a tyrant?
Sometimes the question arises: why do many mothers behave as expected, give all their love to their children and do not demand anything in return? And some mothers simply do not allow their children to live in peace. Here we can highlight three main reasons why the mother became a tyrant mother (we looked at the signs above). So, there are the following options:
- Tyrant from birth. She herself was raised in such a way and taught that by any other method of upbringing, children would simply be disobedient and ungrateful. And here all the signs of tyranny are already appearing. Here, most likely, there will be only one way out for the child. Make every effort and move away from such a parent. Since what was instilled in childhood is extremely difficult to eradicate. Although you can try to put your mother in her place, remind her of her childhood, because she also did not like being under constant, creepy control. Everything will depend on how old the tyrant mother is. Since, if the child is late and the mother is already about 60 years old, then conversations here will most likely be powerless.
- Mother was raised to be selfish. And from an early age she loves to command, so that everything is done in her opinion. It’s just as hard to fight with such women. Although you can reach them. After all, selfish people love it when everything is good for them. This means they love it when everything is fine with their children. If you find an approach to such a person, the right words and actions, then she can later turn out to be an ideal mother and grandmother.
- A woman can become a tyrant mother when she herself has not been able to establish herself in life. If in childhood I experienced severe humiliation, I grew up as an insecure child. At the birth of a baby, she tries to at least become the main one and an example in life for him. For children, her word is law, and one cannot contradict it. In this case, it is also possible to change the tyrant's behavior. But the main thing is that you don’t need to put too much pressure psychologically. Because, having lost control even over her own child, a woman can completely withdraw into herself and consider herself a complete failure in life.
Genius of wonderful beauty
It is difficult to understand a person - an unrecognized genius. An invisible mantle simply trails behind him. A non-existent crown is worn on his head. His outfit is beautiful, but it looks like something out of a fairy tale about a naked king. Those around him do not see the luxurious attire; it seems to them that the king is naked.
So it is in the case of an unrecognized genius. He is the creator of beauty, he knows better how to live and what to do. You can't envy those around a genius. For the “creator of beauty” considers himself much higher than others. He loves to teach everyone about life, he is boring to the point of nausea. Boring, harmful, very intrusive. And you can’t contradict him. Once he is convicted of being wrong, he will defend his point of view with a face twisted with anger. He will lose his voice, but he will prove that he is right. And you little fools don’t understand anything in this life. Listen to me, only I know the truth.
