The problem of infantility in women: causes, getting rid of the problem

Today there is a widespread stereotype that all women are naturally infantile. In the eyes of a man, an infantile woman is a little girl who needs to be taken care of and protected from everything. A man relaxes with a lady infanta; she is easy to communicate with and comfortable - she is easy to deceive. She is naive, and this conquers a man.

Infantile girl

It is beneficial for a woman to be like this in the eyes of a man - she wants a man’s reverent and caring attitude, and she gets it. In turn, a man likes such a partner because she does not plan to have children and does not think about marriage. Ideal as a lover . Women with childishness attract sympathy from men.

Interesting. Psychologists consider infantilism as a persistent violation of the emotional-volitional sphere.

Who is an infantile woman

Infantility in women - that this is a personality trait in which a lady demonstrates a childish model of behavior in her behavior, she is called infantile. Such persons do not like to take responsibility and make fateful decisions on their own. Psychologists define infantilism as a personality trait with delayed social development.

Sometimes infantilism is a conscious trait. The weaker sex resorts to this model, wanting to avoid anger from a man. An infantile person is stuck in childhood, following the cult of endless youth and entertainment. The infant does not consider his behavior a problem. An infantile girl does not understand why she cannot live guided by momentary desires; constancy and seriousness of intentions are unknown to her. Infants do not keep their promises and may forget about their responsibilities.

Interesting fact. An infantile girl will not be able to live with an infantile man. For a full-fledged family and a sense of harmony, she needs a strong and independent man.

Woman and man infanta

Is infantility a problem or can you live with it?

Self-respecting psychologists do not justify infantilism. They consider this not a problem of a separate lifestyle, not a different worldview, and moreover, not belonging to another subculture. This problem is associated with the inability to independently achieve goals and realize oneself in social society.

However, given all this, such people can be creative. Unlike most people, their right hemisphere works more, they do not set limits for themselves and can create without limiting themselves. They dream and fantasize. With these qualities they will become great artists and musicians.

The main signs of a female infanta

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Signs of female infantilism are:

Fear of responsibility. The Infant does not like to be asked to say the decisive word when the development of the situation depends on him;
Inability to accept criticism with dignity;
Selfishness;
Inability to defend one's opinion and unwillingness to prove something to someone. The infantas adhere to the point of view of the majority;
Due to gullibility, infantile individuals become victims of scammers;
Fear of loneliness. Infants feel the need to always be close to a strong personality. They dissolve in the team and do not strive to become leaders. In addition, infantile young ladies are financially dependent on their gentleman;
Emotionality and spontaneity, weak self-control and self-regulation, spontaneity and tactlessness, demonstrative behavior;
Infants do not know how to foresee the development of a situation and assume a person’s possible reaction to a particular situation;
Ladies infantas are superficial and inconsistent in their judgments, and are not inclined to philosophize. Their understanding of situations is immature;
The mood of infantile girls is changeable, they are capricious.

Attention! The signs of natural infantilism and infantilism as a conscious model of behavior are the same.

Signs

Social consciousness

In many ways, public opinion itself influences the processes of infantilization. Imagine for a second being introduced to a 16-year-old person. What will your attitude be? Will you regard him as a child or as an adult? Or neither?

Modern teenager

Not so long ago - back in the era of Shakespeare - people were already getting married at the age of 14. Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin called his heroine of the story “Blizzard” middle-aged. The problem is that “she was in her 20s.” The age of the old woman-pawnbroker from “Crime and Punishment” by F. M. Dostoevsky was 42 years old.

For many centuries, the duration of human life was about 20-35 years. Only at the dawn of the twentieth century did the average duration increase to 50 years. Food has become better; medicine has reached another level.

All this does not mean that there were no infantiles before. Undoubtedly they were; but due to the fact that they died even earlier, we know nothing about them.

Causes of infantilism

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The main reason for female infantilism is the convenience of this model of behavior for her. An infantile woman likes this means of winning a man's affections. In addition, there are other reasons:

Family. As a rule, in single-parent or conflict families, ideal conditions are created for the formation of infantility. Overprotection in upbringing creates an infant.
A prolonged crisis of adolescence is a common cause of infantilism in girls under 25 years of age. The girl uses a childish model of behavior to compensate for the attention deficit in adolescence.

It is interesting that men do not know about these causes of infantilism in women.

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How to get rid of infantilism

The main difficulty on the path to overcoming infantilism is that the infant himself is not aware of his problems. It’s easier to answer how men can get rid of immaturity—for example, military service or a change of job helps with this.

Infantile women tend to believe that representatives of the fairer sex behave this way, this is normal. To take decisive action, you need to recognize the fact that there is a problem.

To leave infantilism in the past, you need to radically change the psychology of thinking. It will take several months to fight infantilism. For the fight against infantilism to be successful, it is necessary that the girl is interested in the result. She needs to put herself in conditions of independent decision-making and full responsibility for her actions.

The ideal way to destroy infantilism is to move to another city or country, where you need to survive without the help of relatives and friends.

Sometimes the impetus for the fight against infantilism is the financial difficulties of a girl and her family or the death of her parents.

Having a child cures infantilism. This event awakens in the mother responsibility not only for him, but also for her own life. She becomes the main strong figure for the child.

Important! Complete victory over infantilism is possible only if you work on yourself every day. For guaranteed success, the help of a psychologist is required.

Ways to overcome immaturity for an adult

There are not many self-critical people among infantiles. But if an immature person realizes that something is wrong with him, this is commendable. You can start the path to an adult and responsible life with the following steps.

Make independent decisions

There is no need to wait for your mom or spouse to approve your plans. Make your own choice, trying to correctly assess the possible benefits and potential risks.

Physically separate from parents

Many people believe that if finances are tight, then living with your parents at 30 is normal. We hasten to disappoint you: this is by no means true. Starting to live your own life means taking a step into the unknown. But those young people who still decide to make changes do not regret the money spent.

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Having moved away from their parents, they begin to understand: financial well-being depends only on themselves. And they often make better career decisions than those who continue to live in their parents’ nest for decades.

Arrange your life to your liking

Hearing your own desires and following them is not as simple a task as it seems at first glance. Infants have a weak psyche, often filled with introjects - ideas once learned from other people.

For example, a child often hears from a school teacher that it is impossible to earn a lot in an honest way. In adulthood, he may forget about these words, but the idea itself (introject) will continue to exist in his unconscious.

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Separating introjects from personal desires often requires regular and high-quality psychotherapy. But it’s quite possible to do something yourself. You can start listening to yourself in small things: what movie would you like to watch? What would you like to choose for dinner - sushi or noodles? Then you can move on to more serious and fateful decisions.

Learn to stand your ground

Not only capricious young ladies or young men, but also quiet modest ones are infantiles. Such people are a real “gold mine” for employers. They will not say a word against you, even if they are asked for the tenth time to stay late at work without additional pay.

Slack at work

You should not assume that only people of narrow minds argue. This is actually true - but only when it comes to unimportant things. When it comes to your life and personal comfort, insisting on your own means demonstrating a mature position.

The “inner child” lives in every adult; and manifestations of infantilism can also occur in quite mature and respectable people. But in any case, it is important not to succumb to the influence of childishness, feeling like a constantly dissatisfied and disappointed child. After all, the quality of our life, as well as the ability to be psychologically mature, is always in our hands.

What does infantilism lead to?

Infantile women tend to blame men, not themselves, for their unsuccessful personal lives. The infant describes another unsuccessful romance to her friend as follows: “He didn’t want to do anything for me! He ignored me! Why do I need such a man?

Infantilism in a woman entails difficulties in relationships with the opposite sex. The initial stage of a relationship with an infant is usually romantic and spurs the man on, but he does not seek to develop it. This does not mean that he will leave the lady, he just definitely won’t ask her to marry her. As a result, in love, the role of a mistress is the lot of infants.

The role of a mistress entails the following two problems in the infant’s female life: either she will not become a mother, or she will become a single mother. Both options cannot be called successful for a woman to realize her natural destiny.

The desire to overcome infantilism

Something to remember! A person has the fate that he deserves. Awareness of your shortcomings is the right path to self-improvement. Having a goal and determination to achieve it are the conditions for overcoming not only infantilism, but also other personal problems.

Consequences

Psychotherapist and psychoanalyst Vadim Musnikov gives the following definition of this phenomenon:

Mental infantilism is a lag in psychological development, a discrepancy between behavior and a person’s age. A teenager can behave like a child in kindergarten, and an adult like a teenager.
Relatives or the closest circle of the infantile come to us with this problem, because he gives them many problems. But, unfortunately, faced with such a case, we do not have a recommended treatment plan

Mentally immature women behave in such a way that problems inevitably begin in relationships with men, friends, and work colleagues.

Love relationship

Infantile women are waiting for a prince on a white horse. Psychologically immature women, as a rule, occupy the role of mistresses or abandoned women, single mothers. This happens because they cannot feel sincere love for their partner, constantly doubt the right choice, and do not know how to show care for their partner and children. It’s easier for them not to be responsible for anyone, including themselves.

Relationships with others

Infantile women do not have their own opinions. They are also extremely dependent on the assessment of others. In order not to impose any obligations on themselves, such persons ask for the opinions of others and act as the majority thinks. They have few friends, since they demand excessive attention and care, but cannot show it in return.

Career

The ideal situation in the life of an infant is to be fully supported by a man. Lack of ambition and desire to take on responsibilities closes many doors in front of them. As a rule, such individuals occupy positions in companies where the manifestation of character and ingenuity, leaving the comfort zone and making efforts are not required. They do not dream of achieving heights in their careers, so none of their colleagues take them seriously.

Family relationships

They say about such people that “you can’t cook porridge with them.” If a woman with an immature personality does get married, the marriage does not last long. The first serious problem will reveal the true character of a person: the inability to make decisions and the unwillingness to see the problem.

Infantile women often fall for scammers. They are very naive and gullible, they are easy to win over to their side: invest their savings in a dubious campaign, turn to psychics, buy unnecessary goods at an inflated price.