In this article we will tell you:
- The meaning of the phrase “to woo a man”
- Tips for winning over men
- Pros and cons of women's initiative
- 5 feminine tricks to win over men
- 7 reasons to pass the initiative into male hands
It is generally accepted that the man initiates the relationship. An invitation to a date, courtship, a cherished declaration of love, a marriage proposal - he must be responsible for all this. But what should girls do if the long-awaited prince is not on the horizon or he is not active? Of course, take the initiative into your own hands.
Women are naturally endowed with the ability to seduce and know many tricks to attract attention and win favor. It’s just that many people don’t know whether it’s worth pursuing a man, because sympathy may not be mutual. Our article will help you understand the intricacies of relationships.
Did you like the guy
Games of being a hard-to-get woman have long lost their relevance. You don’t have to wait passively for a man to notice you and approach you first. The fact that you are able to start a conversation yourself does not make you more approachable and certainly does not diminish your dignity.
If we want to live in a world of gender equality, we need to abandon the idea that the leading role in relationships belongs exclusively to men. He is not the hunter, and you are not the prey - you are just two people who liked each other. You'd be surprised how many guys love girls who can put their foot down and not wait for someone to win them over.
A little useful theory
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The term “initiative” came into use in the dictionary from the Latin language. Literally, initium is translated as an apt designation - beginning. How many times have we already told you that in order to master any road, you need to take the first step.
So, it is usually committed by proactive individuals, ready for the emerging consequences, even if they are still completely unpredictable.
Initiators, the kind of women who light up the team, become the engines of corporate progress.
Desperate scientists, including ladies of the fairer sex, make important discoveries, which are later used with pleasure by humanity that is lazier and slower in active affairs. Advanced parents, following the instructions of child psychologists, try to develop in their children a tendency towards spirited enterprise with elements of play, so that later in life they do not forever trail behind the crowd.
By and large, it doesn’t matter what gender the initiator, the mover, the “arsonist” of other people’s hearts and souls will be, if his endeavors will definitely serve the benefit of those around him. It’s a completely different story when a woman needs to take the initiative in a relationship with her loved one, and from the fear of such a prospect, cold sweat appears on her forehead, her arms and legs tremble, and all the prepared words instantly disappear from her head, as if they were never there .
The ability to take the initiative into your own hands is a sign of spiritual maturity; the main thing here is not to overdo it with methods of influencing your life partner, friend, lover, potential gentleman and boyfriend. Otherwise, you will sit “on the heap” of doubts, you will turn into a “princess on beans”, for whom nothing hot and romantic shines in the love sphere.
Yes, some initiative will probably entail leaving your comfort zone, responsibility, friendship with courage and determination, but take our word for it, it’s worth it.
If you are ready to conduct an experiment on your own “skin”, which is trembling from thoughts about the proposed actions, we are nearby, we will fully support and approve of you, and you won’t have to do anything supernatural. Judge for yourself, the guide list is already waiting for you ready.
Do you want to take your relationship to the next level?
Playing games, weaving intrigues, dropping hints is a difficult, time-consuming and not the most promising way to push a guy to make a commitment. If you see that you can have a serious relationship, and not a short affair, tell your partner about your feelings. If you want to take your relationship to a new level, for example, start living together, say so.
You can't force a guy to commit, but you can let him know that you want to move forward and not wait for him to figure it out on his own.
Offer sex!
Women's initiative in sex definitely turns men on! It works flawlessly if you follow the correct dosage.
But remember an important nuance. If you take all the initiative upon yourself, a logical question will arise: “He doesn’t want me?”
Bring an element of surprise and slight intrigue into your sex life, but nothing more. And don’t forget to take into account his wishes and preferences.
You don't have fun in bed
Despite our superficial similarities, our bodies are designed and work differently, so there is no one-size-fits-all way for all women to enjoy sex. If you don't get an orgasm, you can only fix it together with your partner, so he should know about your problem. Remember that sex is not a way to satisfy a partner, but a mutual action, and the pleasure from it should also be mutual. A man does not read your thoughts, and besides, many of them are not even able to determine whether their partner has achieved orgasm or not. Don't be afraid to say you need more stimulation or suggest trying new positions. We have already told you what to do if a guy does not respond to your requests for sex.
Meet first?
If you read my articles and watch videos, you probably know my opinion.
Therefore, I advise my students to do this - to approach the man first and say: “Hello. I like you. I will be glad to our communication.”
Better yet, standing on the other side of the street, with a smile, wave your hand to the man you like. And watch his reaction.
This is one of the training practices as part of my author's online course The Way of a Woman. Try it and write about the results in the comments. I'm very interested to know what you can do.
Remember, men are very quick to recognize nonverbal cues. And only your radiant smile can already say that you are happy, open to new acquaintances and interested in him.
Do you want to reduce the distance between you?
The MeToo era has changed the way people approach dating and dating, making it more comfortable, safer, but also more difficult. A respectful guy will look for clear signals before he decides to cross physical boundaries with a girl, which is why it's important for us not to be passive. If you like the attention of a man, you can take the first step towards getting closer: move, touch, directly say that you want to kiss him. This will give him confidence that he correctly understands your reaction.
Prejudice
The relationship between a couple is formed during acquaintance. And this is where most women fall into the trap.
The old social attitude works: the first step is humiliating. You need to wait until the man matures. In the same way, stereotypes whisper in his ear that he MUST take the first step himself.
While you are in standby mode, for every worthy man there will be 10 proactive girls who will be able to attract his attention. And one of them will definitely take a vacant place in his life.
Is it possible to wait until old age?
Female view: completely for male initiative, but...
I’ll say right away that I am completely for the male initiative. Probably, the educational instructions of my mother are strong in me, who taught me to be a lady down to the tips of my nails and not to meet a guy first.
Even if he showed the activity characteristic of real men and gave his phone number when meeting, you should use it no earlier than two or three days, then almost from the first seconds of the conversation you can understand whether he was expecting a call, whether he liked you and whether it is worth continuing communication . But being an impeccable lady a la blue bloods is now oh so difficult! Let me explain why.
Firstly, the profession requires you to be hyper-communicative with both women and men.
Secondly, my passion for photography has completely destroyed the stereotype “a girl doesn’t write (call) first”: among my models there are many young men, and just walking up to a nice guy on the street and asking to take his photo is no longer a problem for me.
Thirdly, the age of gallant knights, alas, has practically passed, and to expect mercy from the stronger sex means to expect practically nothing. Accordingly, I often take risks and play all-in.
During my school years, I was quite recognizable in my native city village, and the guys did not dare to meet such a famous girl. All the slow dancing at discos had to be done near the wall, but I wanted to be on the dance floor. Even then I understood well the price of popularity. At the same time, I came to the conclusion that attractive appearance and success in any field do not guarantee crowds of fans. Secret ones, maybe, but definitely not obvious ones.
And the main personal conclusion: if you want to invite a boy you like, invite him. It’s not a fact that in ten years he will seem just as special to you, but you will definitely remember that dance with him at the disco.
I often hear from men that ladies are too proud, make unreasonably high demands on them, and begin to imagine themselves as real queens with modest physical, financial and, let’s be honest, mental capabilities. And you can’t approach anyone without getting rejected.
As a rule, a couple of cases of unsuccessful acquaintance are enough for a young man to draw his own conclusion about women in general. In fairness, it should be noted that complaints often come from those who themselves are not able to give anything to a woman and believe that she demands too much from him. Perhaps even initiative will not help such a subject, because he is initially determined to defeat.
Experts have come to the conclusion that people are to some extent afraid of beautiful
According to the results of one sociological study, experts came to the conclusion that people are to some extent afraid of beautiful people: they don’t sit next to them in transport, don’t talk to them on the street, and in a large company they try to stay away from the most attractive ones.
It's all about comparing yourself to someone else's appearance. Many people cannot withstand such competition. As a result, beautiful men and women remain either alone or with those who do not care at all about conventions and the results of social research. And there are very few recent examples in life.
Men, if in a cafe, on the street or in a store an attractive girl holds her gaze at you a little longer than just fleetingly and smiles welcomingly - go ahead and get acquainted boldly! It’s not scary to get a refusal, because a stranger may simply get scared and blurt out something out of place out of surprise. Turn it all into a joke, or even better, start communication with it.
They say laughter brings people together best
They say laughter brings people together best. In addition, this is a chance to see sincere emotions on the girl’s face and convince her of your good intentions.
If a woman’s initiative when meeting people is not always appropriate, then in order to continue communication, I think it is simply necessary.
After all, it’s difficult for a man to always lead a lady, and her indifference even scares him off. Call a guy for a walk in the evening, ask him to accompany you to a movie or at a party with friends - there are plenty of plausible excuses for meetings, without the girl seeming intrusive or too bold. But, dear ladies, we sometimes have a lot of courage, because not only a man, but the whole world can be in our tender hands.
Alesya PUSHNYAKOVA.
