What does it mean to “get a girl”
Before we get straight to the recommendations, let's understand the actual goal. By the expression “getting a girl,” guys can mean completely different things. For some, this means gaining access to the body, that is, seducing a lady for sex. For others, it is to obtain the girl’s consent to marriage.
Let's agree that we will stick to the “golden mean”. To get a girl means to get her sincere desire to enter into a relationship with you. Further we will proceed from this setting.
Signs that your ex is falling in love with you again
Now you know how to make a girl fall in love with you again after a breakup, all you have to do is put in a little effort and make the girl begin to feel a strong sexual attraction to you.
Here are signs that your efforts were not in vain:
- She doesn't drive you away and doesn't avoid meeting you.
With this she invites you back into her life.
- She does not enter into any relationship.
This means that she mentally considers you her boyfriend and continues to be faithful.
- She has time for you.
She is always ready to meet with you or chat on the phone.
- She shows her affection towards you in public.
You can't go back in time and change what you've already done, but you can rekindle the romance and give your relationship a complete reset.
To do this, you need to make enough efforts so that your ex forgets about the past and looks at you with completely different eyes.
As soon as you see signs that she really likes you, start building up the sexual tension between you.
Don't be afraid to flirt and show your interest.
Mini lifehacks
We've covered the main points. But there are a few more nuances that you need to know about. Try to take them all into account.
- Watch your appearance. At every meeting with a girl, you should look perfect. No sticky hair, no stains on clothes, no dirt under your nails. Don't forget about the smell. Wear a pleasant, unobtrusive perfume and freshen your breath with chewing gum.
- Let the girl feel that she is special, that you chose her out of thousands for a reason. Give exclusive compliments, note the qualities that distinguish her from other women.
- Gain her trust. Be sincere, open, friendly. Don't deceive her, don't try to manipulate her. Let her know that she can rely on you.
- Don't mess up. All mistakes reduce your importance to a girl and undermine her trust in you. You must behave nicely and consistently.
- Reinforce good behavior towards you. Every step a girl takes in your direction, even the smallest one, needs to be encouraged. I wrote first - tell me how pleased you are. You made an appointment yourself - give her a little surprise.
- But a bad attitude should never be reinforced. Otherwise, the girl will immediately understand that you are a wimp and will begin to wipe her feet on you. If, for example, she insults you out of nowhere, although you behaved perfectly, silently distance yourself and do not show up until she apologizes.
- Be gallant. Let the girl go ahead, open the door for her, offer your hand. She will definitely appreciate it - good manners are worth their weight in gold today.
- Show that you are serious about your intentions. The girl should see that you don’t just want to sleep with her, but are committed to a serious relationship. Then it will be easier for her to open her heart to you.
- Be natural. There is no need to try to intrigue a girl, pretend to be mysterious, or come up with cunning tricks to catch her attention.
- Try to make a good impression on her friends. Girls listen to each other's opinions. Your girlfriends' sympathy will certainly add a few points to you.
Some more tips
Regrets and happy memories should not unsettle you.
You have the power to change the situation for the better.
Here are some more effective tips on how to make your ex-girlfriend fall in love again.
1. Open up to her.
For her to love you, it is important to show your sincerity and openness.
2. Send her a gift.
Even a small box of chocolates in honor of some holiday is an expression of your sympathy.
The girl will know that you remember her.
3. Chat with her.
Shared company and fun get-togethers create new memories and erase old grievances.
4. Constantly admire her beauty.
For girls, it is a highly addictive drug.
They need constant confirmation of their own beauty and attractiveness.
5. Respect her choice.
Even if a girl decided to leave you, it means she had serious reasons for this.
Respect her decision.
6. Protect her.
She should know that in any situation you can help her, save her, protect her.
7. Help her become a better person.
Who wouldn't want a bright future?
If you help her achieve a certain goal, you will forever remain in her heart.
8. Talk about a bright future.
Your words and plans must be accompanied by confidence and certain actions in this direction.
9. Seriousness of intentions.
The girl must be sure that this is not just another affair for a few days, but something more serious and responsible.
10. Don't play with her feelings.
There is no need to get your ex back in order to somehow take revenge on her, hurt her, fall in love with her and leave her.
Girls don't forgive this.
You shouldn’t make an enemy in a woman who knows all your weaknesses.
What not to do
Now let's talk about what not to do. Otherwise, you risk nullifying all your previous efforts.
- Flirt with other girls. Do not try to make a girl jealous in this way and make her run after you. She will be disappointed in you and move away, and then you will have to run.
- Criticize her qualities and actions. If you start picking on a girl at a very early stage of communication, she will conclude that things will only get worse. Therefore, refrain from harsh statements, even if you don’t like something.
- Hide your true motives. If your goal is to sleep with her once, you shouldn't fool your head with empty promises. The relationship between a man and a woman is a game where everyone acts in their own interests. But you need to play honestly and according to the rules.
- Compare with past girls. Even if the comparison is in her favor, the very fact that you have such a rating in your head will disappoint your chosen one. It's better not to mention your past novels at all.
- React violently to refusal. If your attempts to win a girl are unsuccessful and she resolutely refuses you, do not give in to negative emotions. Anger, rage, despondency and despair are not appropriate in this situation. Tell yourself that she's just not your person. Sooner or later you will definitely meet your true love.
How to win over a friend or colleague
Will it be possible to start a relationship with someone you already know and are close to? In principle, yes, this is possible, and such a situation will have both its pros and cons. On the one hand, during the time you met, you probably managed to study the girl, which means that it will be much easier to choose techniques that are suitable specifically for a particular person. On the other hand, it will not be easy for any person to change warm, friendly feelings to more intimate ones.
That is, here all the ideas are the other way around: we do not end up in the friend zone from an early relationship, but from a previously established friend zone we try to enter into a relationship.
Not every girl will dare to take such a step, because if the relationship fails, your friendship will most likely also come to an end. But, if you have already set such a goal for yourself, then you can try one of the techniques that will help you in this matter:
- Give her hints that you like her. You should not immediately tell your chosen one about your feelings, this will scare her away. You have to start from afar. Try to give compliments, but they should not sound friendly. The girl must understand that you like her. Flirt and make advances to her at every opportunity. If she develops feelings and decides to have a relationship, you will feel it in her behavior.
- Try to be close. She should feel your presence next to her. And it doesn’t matter whether she’s good or bad, in any situation you should try to be close to the girl, physically or mentally. Your task is to become indispensable so that she gets used to you.
- Make her jealous. Girls tend to take guys, especially those who are in the status of friends, for granted. Therefore, if you want to win her heart, then you should make it clear to your chosen one that she may lose you. Did you manage to evoke feelings of jealousy? Consider it yours!
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A sense of humor, self-irony and small notes of sarcasm are a great thing to impress a woman. There is no need to tell well-known stories and jokes; humor should come from within. If it doesn’t work out, then it’s better not to try. You may end up on the lady’s “black list” of admirers. Of course, before showing off your skills, you should make sure that the woman herself understands humor.
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On first dates, it is important to find common topics of conversation, so it is better to talk about what is interesting to the woman. You should not bring up conversations about former partners, ask your companion about the reasons for the breakup and the qualities of your ex-boyfriend. The date should take place in real time and not concern the past in any way.
There is also no need to brag about your financial situation. An adequate lady will regard this as an opportunity to bribe her. A mercantile woman will immediately see a man as a bag of money. Therefore, topics for conversation should be light, pleasant and unobtrusive. It’s better to ask about the girl’s hobbies and her plans for the future. You can support her and say that the plans coincided. Granted, this is not entirely true. In general, you need to make the evening as comfortable as possible.
Compliments 14
Girls love pleasant words, but not hackneyed banal phrases. It is worth giving a real and sincere compliment, for example, about an exquisite perfume or a beautiful dress. About what really makes her stand out this evening. But you don’t need to overwhelm them all evening, as the girl may doubt the veracity of her companion’s words. We will advise and teach you how to give the best compliments to a girl in the article at the link.
Respect 4
Any adequate person with normal self-esteem wants to be respected. The same goes for girls. She wants her work, friends, and parents to be respected. And even if this job does not bring in much income, and the friend does not inspire trust at all.
Men quite often devalue women's activities or hobbies, considering them useless and meaningless. Especially if the partner’s work brings in much less income.
This principle of behavior makes a woman deeply unhappy, because her loved one does not support and does not share her interests and endeavors. Therefore, when entering into a relationship, you need to give your partner maximum respect and support for all her hobbies.
Reliability2
Probably, someone will think that material wealth or appearance will come first. But that's not true. No amount of beautiful appearance and impressive material wealth will make a lady happy if her partner is not reliable and faithful.
This behavior gives a woman confidence in the future, emotional strength, and protection. A man's wealth is not a guarantee of his adequate attitude towards his partner. Therefore, ladies with normal self-esteem and perception of the world choose a companion not only based on material wealth.
Male strength and reliability force a woman to be calm for herself and her children. And it is not necessary to have million-dollar bank accounts.
What women really want
To understand how to get the attention of an ex-girlfriend or someone you just like, it is necessary, first of all, to understand some aspects of female psychology. To be intimate with the opposite sex, they need an emotional connection, affection, and trust. A man can easily make contact with a companion he likes, but a girl needs to make sure that the stranger’s sympathy is not fake, but real.
This is why some female representatives behave coldly and secretively on first dates. But, of course, you shouldn’t rule out the fact that she may simply not like her partner. In such cases, it will be more difficult to win the lady’s favor. But there is no need to give up.
During communication, a woman always considers her partner as a potential companion, husband, father of her children. Even if she is now busy with her career, study or self-realization, one way or another, to create a relationship she needs to be sure that her partner will fit the roles described above. So, what does a woman need from a man?
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During meetings, you need to show your companion maximum interest in her. Don't miss the slightest detail. If she talked about upcoming plans or an idea, it’s worth asking her in more detail, showing interest, and supporting her. Even if this topic is completely uninteresting. This will make it clear that the fan is interested in the girl not only as a sexual object.
Naturally, during a date you don’t need to look at passing girls or cars outside the window, much less check your phone regularly. It is important to show your companion that this evening no things can distract the man from her.
