While some guys seduce unapproachable beauties, others do not know how to win an ordinary girl. It seems that you have everything, both your appearance and your character, but you can’t flirt and seduce. So what’s the matter: incorrect presentation, behavior or embarrassment? Yes, it happens that just a girl is a tough nut to crack, but usually it all depends on the man and his ability to seduce. Learn to pick up and conquer from the first meeting!
Is it worth trying to seduce an unavailable girl?
From my point of view, there is no need to try hard to seduce an unavailable girl. There are several reasons for this:
- Seducing such a woman requires a lot of time, which you could spend with other girls who initially react well to you.
- Trying hard to get an unapproachable lady, you spend a lot of time and effort on this, as a result of which you deplete your resource and become dependent on the desire of the object of your passions.
- A girl must like you for who you are if you want to be yourself and feel comfortable in a relationship.
- It's humiliating, being a normal guy, to be too obsessed with a girl who doesn't care about you.
- No one guarantees you that you will achieve her, and even if you achieve her, you will be able to build a normal relationship with her.
Therefore, the first and main advice: date only those girls who like you initially, and do not waste your time on those whom you need to woo.
A girl who likes you will pursue you herself. And it will be much easier to sleep or build a happy, harmonious relationship with her than with someone who is indifferent to you. The more interesting you are as a guy, the more women will like you. In fact, your task is only to diversify your personality and choose women from those who like you. And the more interesting you become, the more girls you can choose from.
But the paradox is that we often ignore those who like us and try to get those who don’t care about us. Often we are not interested in the woman we achieved without much effort. On the contrary, we are attracted to a girl who has yet to be conquered. This is especially acute in adolescence, although mature men also often leave their families in order to win an unapproachable beauty.
Why are girls unavailable
Understand that your attraction to a girl and her to you will rarely be the same. Usually the man is the interested party, because we want sex an order of magnitude more than they do. In addition, a woman is drilled into her head from childhood that she should be modest, that it is indecent to write and call a guy first, etc. Moreover, such behavior is inherent in her at the instinctive level by nature itself. After all, her task is to filter out hundreds of unnecessary males who will make their way to her in the hope of getting sex, and to choose among them only the best ones, to whom she will be ready to surrender.
A woman is the continuer of the human race. If she gave to all men in a row, weak in body and spirit, our species would soon become extinct, because such offspring would be unsuitable for survival. Therefore, a woman is forced to be inaccessible to most men, so that only the strongest, cunning and brave of them can get her.
Let's get to the point
Remember, if a girl is unavailable to you, she is unavailable to you PERSONALLY. Imagine if Leonardo DiCaprio were in your place, the girl would probably behave a little differently with him. In the same way, and vice versa, if you managed to quickly and easily seduce a girl, this does not mean that she is an indecent woman. This means that she is available to you because she is interested in you as a man. But for another, less interesting one, it will no longer be available.
Therefore, if it is difficult for you to achieve this or that girl, most likely you are not yet captivating her like a man. This means that in order to get her, you need to become interesting in the eyes of this girl. This may require changing your behavior, appearance, communication style, etc.
It also happens that a girl is just playing hard to get, because she knows that such women turn on more guys than those who are ready for anything right away. Usually, such a game is difficult not to notice: the girl tries to seem unapproachable, but as soon as the guy’s attention wanes, she herself tries to establish contact. From here it becomes clear what to do with such a girl - just don’t react to her whims. First, play along a little, show yourself to be a wonderful guy, try to seduce her, and then disappear. With a high degree of probability, she herself will then make contact and begin to seduce you. If not, you will need to repeat everything until you achieve your goal. Well, now let’s move on to the question of how to woo an unavailable girl who initially reacts poorly to you.
Confidence
How to win a woman? To do this, a man should be confident in himself. The manifestation of this should be words, and even better - actions. A woman should hear confidence in a man’s voice, see it in his eyes, feel it in all his movements. She will understand his intention to achieve the lady of his heart immediately, without words.
When winning the lady of your heart, you should not allow yourself to concentrate on the thought that you can lose her. You just need to make sure that she has no desire to look for someone else for herself. If a man suffers from jealousy and suffers from insecurity, then this will push the woman away. This behavior will significantly reduce the chances of building a healthy relationship. That is why you should not worry about another man appearing in a young lady’s life, because there can always be someone more successful, smarter and more beautiful. If a young man thinks about this constantly, it will not give him confidence at all. It should be remembered that a man who is dissatisfied with himself does not experience happiness himself and is not able to give it to his lady of the heart.
Unavailable girl and how to deal with it
An unavailable girl is exactly the same woman as everyone else. She just doesn't like you yet. Don't be upset, this can be fixed. As I said above, in order to please an unapproachable girl, you need to become the kind of man who will captivate her. From my point of view, changing yourself in order to get one single young lady, when you can be yourself and have dozens and hundreds of others, is stupid. But it's up to you, maybe you need it for something.
If you decide to win an unavailable girl, you will have to change yourself. Moreover, to change not so as to fit into her fantasy of an ideal guy, which is often unrealistic and delusional in itself, but in principle. That is, you need to become a more interesting man that most girls, and she in particular, would like. Ideally, you become interesting as a person, adjusted for her personal fantasies. For example, if the girl is an out-and-out rocker, and you are a nerd, you can become an interesting man, plus add something rocker to your appearance, but this change should look natural in her eyes. Although this is not at all necessary. It’s enough just to become an interesting man, then the girl herself will adapt to you to a certain extent if you do everything right. I don’t guarantee that this will help build a relationship with her, since it’s difficult for people with different worldviews to get along together, but you can sleep with her.
I will say right away that getting an unavailable girl can take quite a lot of time. Often guys can’t stand it and in the process of their changes they find another woman much better than the first one, who likes them for who they are. Many people stop there. In any case, both the first and second results are worth starting to change, and now we will talk about how to do this.
Showing persistence
How to conquer a woman? In order to increase the chance of getting the desired result, it is worth remembering that representatives of the fairer sex, by nature, take a long time to decide on one or another action. Because of this, guys sometimes simply don’t have the patience to win the sympathy or fall in love of the girl he’s interested in.
A man must win a woman using interesting and very unusual methods of attracting attention. Which ones? Everything will depend on the person you like. After all, if a bouquet of flowers is enough for one lady, then the other will begin to show sympathy only after she is invited to an original date.
A man must win a woman with his persistence, giving her unusual gifts. In this case, it does not matter at all what the state of his finances is. You don't need to spend a lot of money on the purchase. Donated items must be creative and chosen with soul.
How to change to win an unapproachable beauty
Women meet and love different men, but there is a universal type of guy who, all other things being equal, is liked by the absolute majority of girls an order of magnitude more than others. These guys have the following qualities: confidence, masculinity, willingness to take risks, calmness, a sense of humor, an interesting lifestyle, health and external attractiveness, material security, the ability and desire to communicate with women, and are respected by other people.
If you initially do not have one, several or all of these qualities, it is quite possible to develop them in yourself to a good level from scratch in a few months. To do this, you only need to do a couple of specific things, which I will list below.
Do some sports
This is the first and most important thing. Sport will give you health, self-confidence, beautiful appearance. It’s best to sign up for contact martial arts – they build a man’s character. If not, then any sport from tennis to football will do. The main advantage of sports is that you can do it right away and thus change your life. If you can’t find a job or you don’t have money for new clothes, just start going to the horizontal bars in the yard or doing 100 push-ups every day, and you will already change in many ways and become attractive to women.
Your appearance
This is the second thing that can be changed quickly. Take a shower every day, use men's cosmetics and personal hygiene products. Buy good clothes that suit you and wear them. If you don’t know what suits you, ask a person who knows about it. Focus on the classics; they can then be worn for years, despite changing fashion trends. Nails and hair should be neatly trimmed. Shave your beard if it doesn't suit you or doesn't grow well. If your face, on the contrary, looks youthful, try growing a beard and take care of it.
Material security
You can already earn twice as much as you do now. Even if you are a student. People simply don’t want to work and are lazy, or they immediately want to be bosses, successful entrepreneurs or directors, but that doesn’t happen. If you can't make a lot of money from one job, find 2-3. Often the main job allows you to do some other activities in parallel. You can, for example, work at your main job during the day, and in the evening write term papers or articles for websites, you can breed dogs or make dumplings. In general, there would be a desire. Of course, you don’t need to work your butt off all your life, because you won’t have time and energy left for bright impressions and seducing new women, so gradually strive to open your own business or, at the same time, look for a job that will provide you with the same income as you You can get it from 2-3 regular jobs, but you will spend much less time on it.
Some guys don't understand why they need to work hard and make a lot of money. Believe me, if you have a car and your own house, seducing women will be much easier. And what kind of beauties can you pick up in expensive clubs or at famous resorts in the south. And in general, money provides a lot of opportunities, makes life easier and more interesting, so if you are wondering whether you need a lot of money, my answer is definitely yes!
Talk to women a lot
Preferably not as a friend, but in a sexual context. The more experience you have with girls, the fewer unavailable women you will meet along the way. Over time, you will begin to intuitively understand how to behave with this or that young lady in order to get what you need from her. No books or articles on pickup will give you even a fraction of what personal experience will give you, and you can only walk this path yourself. The purpose of trainings, books and articles (not all of them) is to make this path as easy as possible for you. But it doesn’t happen that you read a book and immediately began to successfully seduce women. You can't learn boxing from books either. So experience is everything.
If you have a particular unapproachable girl you want to seduce and don't know how to do it, leave her for a while and try seducing other women. Even if you like them less and only need her alone, force yourself to do it by force of will. Having seduced a dozen other women, you will understand how to seduce your beloved or realize that you don’t need her, because there are many women better than her. Plus, no one has canceled such a feeling as jealousy. If you start communicating with other girls and neglect your beloved, perhaps jealousy and a sense of ownership will arise in her, and she will begin to pursue you, and not you.
Become an interesting person
This is the key that will help you win the heart of an unapproachable girl, or anyone else. Women are attracted to interesting men. If you play sports, look good, are financially secure and are constantly surrounded by many ladies, you are already becoming interesting to any ordinary girl. You can increase this interest if you have something else to stand out from the rest of the crowd of men. For example, you will have a hobby that is your true passion and in which you will understand better than many others. For example, you can beautifully play the guitar, write poetry, do acrobatic tricks, be simply smart and educated, understand a lot of things, and speak beautifully. Such guys are very attractive to women.
In order to become an interesting person, you must be interested in something else besides work or study, or do something interesting in life. For example, if your work is related to travel, creativity or inventive activity, then you don’t need a hobby.
An interesting personality is a personality that is harmoniously and diversified. Therefore, develop physically and intellectually. Enrich your knowledge with new experiences, reading fiction and specialized literature, watching masterpieces of cinema and scientific and educational films. At the same time, train your body and communicate with other women, and in a couple of months you will appear before your inaccessible beauty as a completely different person with whom you can’t help but fall in love.
Take care of her: win the heart of your beloved girl
Ask what she did during those 24 hours. This is the simplest way to show interest in what she does and prove that her whole life is important to you, not just her. This is real care for her. How to win the heart of your beloved girl correctly:
- When she speaks, give her your full attention.
- Look her in the eye and, most importantly, don't change the subject.
- Asking questions about the topic she's talking about will show that you're really listening.
Also, as mentioned above, remember to always offer her your help when needed.
How to behave with an unapproachable girl in order to seduce her
By changing as a person, you can already take concrete steps to seduce an unavailable girl:
- Get lost for a while. The longer you communicated, the longer the period of time you should disappear for. Don't worry if the girl starts dating someone at this time. You can even take him away from the family later if you really need it. During your absence, your old image in her head will be somewhat erased and it will be easier for you to appear before her as a different person;
- Treat an unavailable girl the same way you treat all other women. Girls have a keen sense of when a guy likes them. And a guy, trying to please the woman of his dreams, often begins to behave like an ass. Therefore, if you want to seduce an unapproachable girl, communicate with her in the same way as with that girl with whom you just want to sleep, but who is generally indifferent to you;
- Siege it in waves. A drop wears away the stone and after a long siege any fortress surrenders. It is important not to waste all your strength at once, but to be prepared for a long-term impact. Seducing an unavailable girl is not a sprint, but a marathon. It is not the fastest who wins, but the most enduring and patient. Therefore, if you want to achieve such a woman, seduce her gradually but confidently. One day you show a little attention, then two days you ignore it. These terms are very arbitrary - it all depends on the specific situation. If all you do is constantly show signs of attention, you will quickly tire of her. But even if you ignore it for a long time, she may not understand your intentions. In general, when you are around her, be persistent. Often this helps to change her no to yes, but if the young lady clearly protests against your pressure, show flexibility and take a step back;
- Let her do something for you. Unobtrusively put her in such conditions that she willy-nilly show you signs of attention, let her confess her love to you, as if as a joke, or say that she likes you. These very words and actions can make her reconsider her attitude towards you.
Trigger your instincts
And the last thing you need to do to make a girl fall in love with you is to have great sex with her. To do this, it is necessary to evoke animal instincts in her through kinesthetics or, more simply, through touch. Do you remember how you spanked your school and college girlfriends on the ass? So it was your mistake! There is no need to rush headlong into the quarry! Everything needs to be done gradually.
Touch
You need to start with those touches that are acceptable from the point of view of society and culture. They are called socially acceptable touching.
Shake hands when meeting.
Give your hand from the transport.
Take it by the arm while walking.
Kiss on the cheek when meeting or parting.
For such touches, look for a socially acceptable excuse. For example, an interesting ring on her finger - he took her hand in his, touched the ring, and let go. Or, with an approaching drunk, you can take her by the shoulders and bring her closer to you, as if fencing her off from danger.
Kiss tenderly
Next you need to move on to more serious touches.
Touching the girl’s hands, knees, back.
Light massage of fingers, forearms, shoulders, neck, back.
Kisses on the shoulders, neck, lips, etc.
Give her good sex
If you really want to make a girl fall in love with you, then you should have sex with her. Learn one thing. Real relationships begin after sex. All that is “BEFORE” is friendship. She can be your friend 1000 times over. Chat on different topics, go to the movies with you, do common things, etc. And at this time he can sleep with other guys. Here you need to know a little biology. During sex, a hormone called oxytocin is released. It forms attachment to a sexual partner. It is thanks to its development that partners remain faithful to each other and do not notice representatives of the opposite sex.
This is a whole separate topic that I will not touch on here. But sex is a powerful drug. And you need to give her such a dose that she cannot exist without you. Give her so much pleasure that she wants more. And don’t forget about yourself and your feelings at the same time. You yourself must get a buzz from the process so that this feeling is also conveyed to her. I'll repeat it again. Everything before sex is sympathy, which should not be taken so seriously.
So, I have listed the most effective ways to make a girl fall in love with you. You need to work on them and make them work on autopilot. But! There are moments when a girl can fall in love with you, as if without your participation. And here you need to understand how a girl who is already in love behaves, otherwise you can slow down for a long time and in the end just ruin everything.
Aroma2
The way the world works is that any living creature chooses a partner based on smell. The concept that a man should be “powerful, smelly and hairy” has long been outdated, and a girl will never look at a guy who gives off a bad spirit.
Each person is endowed by nature with his own smell, and it is this that becomes the decisive factor when falling in love occurs. And this smell is simply impossible to recognize from someone who has not washed for weeks. It is very important to take a shower every day, even more than once.
If a guy lacks natural pheromones, this can always be corrected with aromatic perfume. But you can’t pour cologne on yourself; the smell should be pleasant and light, slightly noticeable, and not suffocating. The girl should have a desire to come closer in order to better feel the aroma emanating from the guy, and not the desire to run away, just to hide from the flow of a pleasant, but too intrusive smell.
