Family life is not an easy thing, sometimes it is not enough to satisfy your life needs, so you have to take a mistress. This may be condemned in society, but what can they know about mental wounds and lack of attention? Sometimes it happens that even the object of desire “on the side” leaves, leaving even more questions. How to get your lover back? How to return this muse of love? About this in our article.
“Well, why did she leave?”
When a man takes a mistress, he is almost one hundred percent sure that she will not escape from him. But he dismisses the fact that she is also a person and is capable of feeling and love. It is this fact that leads to bewilderment - how could she leave me? I did everything I could for her: fur coats, jewelry, restaurants, sex. “She simply has no right to leave me!” - this is what most self-confident men with Napoleon syndrome think. And she may well cut off everything connected with you, because she is a girl, not a thing.
It's likely that she might be tired of your company, or your arrogant attitude, or even being in the background. Anything is possible, but how to return what has already been lost?
According to some studies, only about 21% of women are ready to be in the “background”, playing the role of a mistress. This suggests that the weaker sex really loves attention to itself, or rather, the total capture of your attention. And it doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you had – whether it was a mistress from your wife, a girlfriend, your kept woman, or just a person with whom you periodically communicated when your wife got tired of you. Women are different from men by nature, and they need a lot more attention than the stronger sex thinks.
Will prayer help you get your lover back?
In order to return the woman you love, you will have to try hard and use all possible methods. Some men recommend using a prayer addressed to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker for these purposes. It sounds like this:
“The Wonderworker Nicholas, God's Pleasant. I believe in your relics, and fall in holy repentance. By the grace of the Almighty, bring my girl back, I love her with all my heart. Thy will be done. Amen."
But whatever course of action you choose, remember that you cannot command your heart.
Why do mistresses still exist?
Human psychology is designed in such a way that people cannot be content with little. It is unlikely that this is read by monks and ascetics who are accustomed to living on water and bread, while everyone else has the concept of “more and more of everything.” Yes, we do not live in the 14th century, when it was shameful to be a wench at the age of 17, and if a young man had not yet decided on his chosen one before he was 20, he was considered unlucky.
But even now these ossified concepts of morality and morality make themselves felt, and refer us to Noah’s Ark with the phrase “There are two for every creature.” But a person can be polygamous by nature and is not used to being content with little, especially as regards men.
Research has shown that more than 80% of men have had more than one sexual partner, which means that their number could grow exponentially. Some are stopped by starting a family, some are not, but the position of the mistresses themselves is more interesting here. They know that they are not in the foreground, they know that they play the role of a kind of “outlet,” but they still maintain a relationship with such a man. And there are three reasons: strong love, material gain and personal revenge.
If everything is clear with the first two by name, then the third is worth explaining. Vendetta can be committed against one’s own man, the woman’s “lover,” and even fate itself for some kind of grievance. Through such immoral behavior, from the point of view of society, mistresses take their revenge.
We begin the return of the lost3
First, you should realize that, after all, a mistress is not a thing, not a consolation for your problems and worries, but a living person. This may seem funny, but most men don't even think about it. According to statistics, only 40 out of 1000 women are ready to return to the men with whom they were mistresses. The most important thing will be to understand yourself - what you want from life and specifically from this person. If your goal is to walk, feed, drink and sleep, you are not on the right track.
If you call her by pronouns, you also took a wrong turn. If you read this text and found yourself in it, below are step-by-step instructions on how to get your lover back.
The husband left for his mistress - where to run for salvation
It is not for nothing that this question is immediately put in second place - the female psyche is so vulnerable that the strangest and stupidest methods can be used.
An offended, angry, depressed wife is ready to do anything to separate her husband from his mistress forever. Only a distorted perception of reality often leads her down the wrong path. Instead of starting to work on herself, she is actively looking for “wizards” who, with the help of words thrown on a candle, will instantly solve her problems. We are, of course, talking about magicians, sorcerers, psychics and other “helpers”. Oh, how we like to shift our problems onto other people we don’t know! And how they like to wave a broom over the water and get a decent amount of money for it!
Dear women, understand that only we are responsible for our lives! Only we have the power to change our own path! In search of a family shaman who promises to forever separate your husband from his hated mistress, you are missing out not only on finances, but also on the most precious thing - time, which no one can return to us!
If you just like to hear what you want to hear (and fortune tellers do just that), then don’t deceive yourself - you don’t need to reunite with your husband, since you feel great in the role of a victim!
For qualified help, it is better to contact a psychologist. This will help you understand yourself and your true desires. And the motives for returning a husband to the family are really different:
- a woman has lived with her husband all her life and simply does not know her existence without him;
- I want to punch my lover on the nose;
- return so as not to embarrass yourself in front of friends and relatives;
- wants to prove to her husband that she is better, to enjoy the fact of her superiority;
- because the child needs a father (even such a careless one);
- return to repay in the same coin;
- to improve your mental balance.
The motives are very destructive; the word “love” is not present in them. Therefore, a psychologist will help you sincerely answer the question: “Should I do this? And if so, why?” You haven’t even thought that by letting go of your husband, you can truly become a happy and free woman?
If you still have warm, deep feelings trembling in your soul, a psychologist will help you choose the path along which you will successfully reach the finish line as a winner.
So, if it is clear that no amount of prayers, twists, love spells and conspiracies can drive a husband away from his mistress - gather your courage, the time has come for serious transformations!
Bored with the supporting role6
If your relationship falls under the first option, namely that your lover is tired of being a supporting character, you can resort to easy lies. Call her to dinner, organize a romantic party and promise that you will improve and pay more attention than before. The situation is standard, but you need to know a few subtleties and secret weapons.
Well, firstly, it will be very difficult to convince her. So you should prepare more than one weighty argument. Tell her how wonderful she is and what a fool you were for letting yourself end this relationship. Then you can put a little pressure on pity, saying that life became gray and boring when she left it. Use more epithets and colorful words to re-interest your lover.
In the end, you can add that you are connected with your wife only by children (if you have any) and in general you are constantly looking for a reason to leave her. If you really need attention from this girl, get ready to use all your eloquence. Such ladies of “fine mental organization” are very fond of promises and willingly believe in them.
Finally, we can add that you are only connected with your wife by children (if you have any) and in general you are constantly looking for a reason to leave her. If you really need attention from this girl, get ready to use all your eloquence. Such ladies of “fine mental organization” are very fond of promises and willingly believe in them.
What should a wife do?
Just a few years ago, a young lady who had her eye on her husband could have his eyes clawed out and his hair pulled out by his legal wife. But is it possible to solve this issue in a more civilized way? How to convince a man to break up with his mistress? Experts in the field of family relationships are convinced: you should not throw hysterics and try to put pressure on conscience or pity. It is best to take care of your health and appearance. Entertainment will help get rid of a bad mood: a wife can sign up for a swimming pool or dancing, go to karaoke, and flirting with members of the opposite sex is not at all prohibited.
When talking about how to eliminate a competitor from your life's path, many psychologists recommend just waiting and pretending that nothing is happening. You must understand that a man will only have a short honeymoon with his mistress, after which he will be forced to shoulder the burden of her problems, which, of course, he does not need at all, because he has enough problems and responsibilities in the family.
There are other psychological tricks: for example, a wife can use the perfume that a man associates with the happy stages of life together, book a table in the restaurant where he proposed, go on a long journey, smile as often as possible, try to rekindle the fire of feelings and try sincerely forgive a man for having an affair on the side.
“We need more gold”7
If you are unlucky enough to fall into the description of the second scenario, you will have to either look for a second job or bring less money to the family. Such women can leave you without a penny for your soul, they will stretch everything to the last drop and still remain dissatisfied. However, if you have something to appreciate this lady for, it’s difficult to judge you. Here the “treatment” is quite simple - a huge bouquet of roses, a bunch of gifts, and maybe even a trip abroad and she will be yours again. The only subtlety is not to overdo it. When you shower her with gifts, you set the bar for the future "new old" relationship. Do everything wisely - slightly increase your stinginess indicator before breaking up, but don’t raise it too high.
If we simulate the situation, the wrong option would be this: she left you because you asked a couple of times to split the bill at a restaurant in half, and when you wanted to return her, you registered this restaurant in her name. This is exaggerated, but clearly reflects the problem - your mistress will want the same gifts in the future, but you already ran out of money when you bought the bar counter.
If you act wisely, it will look like this: the problem is the same bill paid in half, the solution is to invite her to “discuss the past” in a restaurant, pre-order a huge table with her favorite treats. It would also not be amiss to take your mistress from the restaurant to another establishment - for example, a club or straight to a hotel room, if “the bird is already in the cage.” Such a demonstration of the width of the wallet is then easier to jump off, especially if the subject did not graduate from Harvard, and initially does not set a high bar, like various kinds of gifts. The best choice is something abstract and, preferably, not something that can be measured in pieces.
She got someone else8
The third case, when your lady has found a “better option,” is not so easy to treat. Here you will have to not only think about how to get your lover back, but also understand yourself. It is important to understand the fine line - you did something wrong somewhere, or your protégé is really better than you in all respects. With the second case, practically nothing can be done, and if you can, then it is criminally punishable. But sorting out your mistakes and correcting yourself is quite an option. Reconsider your attitude towards the affair and perhaps make changes to it.
According to statistics, relationships between a man and a woman fall apart due to routine in 60% of cases. Relationships with her mistress are no exception - a rigid schedule of meetings and the monotony of entertainment can bore her, and she will begin to look for something new in another partner. Prevention of such cases can be changing the meeting place, spending leisure time not only at dinner, but also at different times of the day. Get a woman interested in the end.
Is it possible to restore a relationship with the help of a conspiracy?
This method cannot be called one hundred percent. However, in some situations, a conspiracy to return your mistress can help. One way is the dog leash spell. Step over it first forward and then back. Next, you need to hit the threshold with it and say the words, after which the leash needs to be hidden where it will not be found. The words should be as follows:
Just as they taught a dog to a leash and tamed it to its owner, so (name) came to my doorstep, so that she would stick to her house and not stray from her home. On Monday, so that (name) hugs me, on Tuesday, she has mercy, on Wednesday, she kisses, on Thursday, she doesn’t lag behind, on Friday, so that she looks after me, on Saturday, she looks after me, and on Sunday, so that she dies of love for me, a white light without me (name) ), haven't seen it. The key is the sky, the lock is the earth. Amen.
Rare reasons for a mistress leaving and how to get her back9
Sometimes cases occur that do not fall into these three categories. For example, you could lie to your mistress that you were lonely, and when she found out that you had a family, she immediately gave in. In this case, you need to, as they say, put it on your ears that it’s an arranged marriage and all that, but she is your ray of light in life and you really need her.
If the reason for the breakup was resentment of any kind, then turn on the gentleman and apologize with all your might, resorting to gifts and beautiful words. In general, psychologists say that women who tend to be mistresses forgive men quite easily due to their unscrupulousness. All you need is sincerity, or at least the illusion of it.
