What to do if you are ignored online

Ignoring is one of the strongest types of emotional abuse, which, unfortunately, is very often used among the closest people - between parents and children, spouses, good friends. Many women wonder if a man can love and ignore at the same time? Why do parents choose to ignore their children's needs and problems? Why do close friends not give due importance to our words and simply ignore them? Let's take a closer look at why people ignore each other, why it is so painful, and what to do in a situation where you are ignored by the person you care about.

Loss of information

Online communication is incredibly convenient: it reduces the distance between people, speeds up communication and allows the use of different formats - audio, video, photo, text. But there is a significant disadvantage in digital interaction - without seeing the interlocutor, we lose 40-60% of the information that we usually read and decipher thanks to the person’s facial expressions, gestures and intonation.

Loss of information

It is often difficult to understand in what tone what is written is said, in what mood the interlocutor is, whether he is joking or not. It is even more difficult to correctly assess silence. What does it mean if a person is online and does not read the message? What if I read it and didn’t respond?

Tip 2. Communicate more with other people

Perhaps the main reason why you are so frozen by being ignored by a friend is that you are fixated on this relationship and do not want to communicate with other people.

Maybe you had such a close relationship with this friend that all other friendships in your life pale in comparison. This is often characteristic of introverts.

Universal advice from the field of self-development is quite applicable here. Communicate more with other people. Make yourself new friends. Step outside your comfort zone. And all that wonderful stuff.

Why is it important to communicate with other people?

In a sense, relationships with people are comparable to investments. If you invest too much of your resources in one project and then this project is canceled, naturally, you feel bad.

On the other hand, if you diversify your risks and invest in several assets, businesses or relationships at once, then if one of these assets or one relationship fails, you may be a little sad, but it is not the end of the world.

So it turns out that if you have more friends, contacts, connections, then you will 100% be less obsessed with one of these connections, no matter how chic it may be.

And if you are obsessed with one person, on the one hand, this promotes greater intimacy, but on the other hand, it carries the risk of developing a scarcity mentality, in which you no longer see anything beyond the framework of some relationship.

In short, go be friends with other people, the world is waiting for you and your love.

Finally, the third tip is in case the first two tips don’t work and the matter is rubbish.

Silence is a trigger

Not in every situation, silence on the other side causes a strong reaction. If this is work or a formal dialogue, you calmly tolerate being ignored, citing the addressee’s busyness and the lack of urgency of the question. But if this is personal correspondence or a call, then your feelings may be hurt if they are ignored. Anxious people immediately take everything personally: “there’s something wrong with me,” “I’m not interesting,” “I’m not important.”

Silence is a trigger

Such thoughts are typical of those who were wounded in childhood - by cold parents, cruel peers, unaccepting teachers. Then nothing could be done about it, and the situation was lived through, but in adulthood, the trigger for trauma is precisely the silence of the interlocutor.

What to do about his ignoring?

Fuck him even more?

Try to have a heart-to-heart talk?

Do you need to explain something to him?

Have a heart-to-heart talk?

Or maybe send him to hell?

When I know the situation, when I know the girl, her strengths and weaknesses, then I understand the male ignore. Sometimes a girl describes a situation to me and the HOW she describes it gives me an understanding of what is wrong with her. And the reason is clear to me. And I know WHAT to do.

Right now I don't know you or your situation. And I give a general picture of further behavior. I took this picture not from my head, but from all those situations that I had already gone through and achieved that the girl fell in love with the guy after ignoring him.

Therefore, this article can help many.

The likelihood that you will make a hole in his heart will increase significantly. If not, then I do not recommend that you despair and become a whiner and unhappy. There is an article for this, a very cool and effective article that works and I am convinced of this literally every day, since they constantly report to me about it.

We transfer it to the “Former” position and work according to THIS article.

But once again I want to emphasize - do not despair and do not hope. Only a cool head and actions will save you. This is exactly the recipe and no more! (Hope is evil. Just know you can do it. Knowledge is good.)

On the Internet you will find a bunch of articles and videos on the topic of why a man ignores a woman. There will be some reasons given, some of which will be encouraging.

And this hope will keep you captive to its stupidity. You will not change from these tips, but will simply continue to live rottenly and make a bunch of mistakes, further and further losing your young man.

For example, in one of the articles they wrote a list of why a man can ignore women.

The essence of this came down to the fact that everything is fine, it’s just a man playing with you. That he just most likely recently broke up with his girlfriend and needs time, that in general he is unsure of himself. Tough! It’s immediately obvious that the article was written by a woman! Who has no experience.

And such advice does terrible things. You get your hopes up, you don’t change a damn thing, and when there is no result, you start to get discouraged and lose both your man and your self-confidence.

And almost nowhere will you be given an answer to the question - what should you do to make him stop ignoring you? And the fragments will once again come to your aid.

Right to silence

Modern instant messengers allow you to see whether a message has been read or not, and if the message is opened but not answered, you get nervous. Adults with adequate self-esteem will never think that the problem is with them. Rather, they will accept someone else’s right not to pick up the phone, not to answer, not to read, if the person is not in the resource. You have this right too!

Right to silence

Perhaps the recipient is ill or angry, and will answer you later, when he has strength and mood. In silence, most often there is no intention: a person can go to the shower without closing the tab, leave the phone in the car, or doze off. And the reaction to being ignored is not about the one who ignores, but about you. If they didn’t answer you, then what are you? Bad, unnecessary, boring, annoying? Monitor these thoughts and think about how to neutralize them.

Why do people ignore each other

In general, ignoring is a psychological manipulation, usually aimed at achieving certain goals. However, by and large, the actions of someone who ignores you is a signal of his exorbitant pride and selfishness.

Depending on how exactly the ignored person behaves, the ignorer always receives some kind of bonus. Some people are fueled by the humiliation of others, others simply love increased attention to themselves. In any case, when thinking about how to ignore a person, it is very important to remember that ignoring comes back like a boomerang. Only now it will return not in the same form, but modified - as aggression, revenge, hatred.

In some cases, ignoring can serve as a salvation, and then it is completely justified. When it comes to hysterical and manipulative manifestations, then ignoring is the way to devalue the “tragedy.” However, it should be remembered that in this case, ignoring should be temporary and continue exactly until the opponent stops destructive actions directed in your direction.

Reasonable pause

If it is important for you to maintain contact regularly, discuss the situation with the person in advance, find out the time that is convenient for him and outline the hours that are comfortable for him to correspond with you.

Reasonable pause

When calling, always ask if it is convenient - without flattery, delicately, but confidently. Don't fuss and don't let the other person make you feel intrusive. Take a break and mind your own business.

Ignoring a man - flirting or indifference?

Now I propose to take a closer look at the reasons why a man ignores the woman he loves.

Because, if everything is very clear with the goal - to attract the attention of a particular representative of the fair sex, then the reasons can be very different

Some men resort to ignoring solely to amuse their vanity, without thinking about the feelings of the object of their selfish games.

Others, on the contrary, do this precisely in order to win over the girl (woman), and then take advantage of the moment and take the impregnable fortress called “A Woman’s Heart.”

Still others behave in a similar way, responding to the cold attitude towards themselves from the girl he is interested in. By coldness I mean indifference in terms of feelings - two people can communicate warmly in a friendly way or closely interact in the career field.

But a girl’s indifference to a man, as a member of the opposite sex, can force him to ignore her.

He can do this even unconsciously - as a defensive reaction (to minimize or completely avoid contact with the one he loves). Because unrequited feelings can plunge anyone into depression.

Perhaps, after reading my articles about the power of ignoring, another category of men (as well as women) will appear who will decide to try in practice the principle of operation of this miraculous method.

I want to say right away, my dear Hogwarts students, that it would be advisable for you to think in advance about the feelings of those with whom you are flirting (in case you are not going to develop the relationship further).

To write or not to write?

Now anyone can become the initiator of communication. But we are still ruled by stereotypes: “a girl doesn’t write first,” “I should be mysterious,” “if I text her, she’ll think I’m too interested.”

To write or not to write

Write if you feel it is appropriate. There's nothing wrong with reminding a guy of yourself. There is nothing shameful in writing to the director during working hours and clarifying urgent information, and if you are ignored, calling back.

How to act in such situations: solutions

There are several options for what a girl can do if her boyfriend or husband begins to ignore her. When looking for a suitable method of psychological influence and a way to improve relationships, you need to remember that you cannot act rashly. If you begin to notice that something is wrong, then try to first understand the possible nature of ignorance.

Of course, you are unlikely to be able to read your opponent’s thoughts. But you will be able to reconstruct the chronology of events in your head - after which the person began to avoid and ignore you. In this case, there is a chance that you yourself will understand the reason for such an attitude and, by eliminating it, you will be able to regain your opponent’s favor.

In other situations, the meaning of the word “ignore” may be completely justified, and your partner will deliberately try not to notice you, but for a reason unknown to you, you will have to bring him to a frank conversation. This is the surest way to find out what caused the disagreement.

If the relationship reaches a dead end or you had to break it off, it will be useful for you to know how to learn to ignore a person. Often ignoring and demonstrating indifference to a person helps to survive difficult situations in life. Author: Elena Suvorova

Let's analyze the problem. When should you ignore people?

Learning to ignore people who evoke only negative emotions is quite easy. However, there is no need to rush. Think about whether you will regret your decision, because there may not be a chance to take back your words. Reflect on the purpose of ignoring, be honest with yourself. Maybe you just want to attract the attention of certain people?

If you become the object of ridicule, try to react to them differently. Resist your embarrassment or anger and act as if the remark did not apply to you. There is another way: to calmly agree with all his barbs. In any case, don't show that you're hurt. The offender will probably stop and you won't have to ignore him.

Keep in mind: you need to ignore only when you want to completely free yourself from unpleasant people, as if you had never met.

Fear of a serious relationship

Representatives of the fair sex, consciously or unconsciously, in most cases are committed to a serious (that is, long-term and close in distance between partners) union. There is only a grain of humor in the joke that “he just opened the door for her, and she had already thought about what to name their children together.”

A man, when he meets, meets, falls in love, or simply desires a woman, does not make any plans. He is more likely to be in the “here and now” state. Therefore, realizing that the relationship can become close, and even more so, seeing that the woman expects “seriousness,” the man experiences sensations similar to hitting a wall with a running start. And - he moves away at least for a while.

What will be the result of his “disconnection” or “solitude” is unknown even to himself. Upbringing, character, parental attitudes, personal maturity are different for everyone. Where one person, taking a break, understands that “this is my woman, and I’m ready...”, another decides to “take a walk,” “postpone,” or even “see all options.”

When cooling is caused by precisely such fear, if a man temporarily ignores a woman, then she cannot influence the situation. The only reasonable behavior... take a break too!

Imagine there is an elastic band between you and your partner. The man pulled away, pulling it on. It’s unpleasant for you, you want to shorten the distance so that the tension becomes less. You get closer - he moves away again.

In fact, it’s worth being patient and, overcoming resistance, also moving away somewhat and doing other things. Tension will then arise for the man, testing his strength. The attraction to you or the partner’s character, his personal potential is weak - the elastic band will break. He needs you - the increased tension will make him fly to you with all the force of return.

To be fair, it should be noted that a conscious and well-mannered man will warn a woman that he needs a break, or will try to justify it somehow (being busy, leaving, solving problems in other areas). But sometimes the fear of getting too close (by your partner’s standards) is precisely what deprives you of awareness.

Warnings

Negativity, sometimes coming from others, can spoil your mood and become a precondition for stress. If you are constantly worried about the words and actions of acquaintances and strangers, learn to ignore unnecessary moments and situations.

Learn to catch yourself in depressing ideas and direct them in a different direction. At first you will have to constantly control your consciousness, but later you will notice that you think less about the bad. Reflections on your goals and methods for achieving them are suitable for replacement thoughts: memoirs about situations from which you emerged victorious, simply reflections on areas of self-development.

Try to talk less with people who love to complain and throw out their own negativity. For example, if your friend constantly criticizes life, burdens you with her problems and upsets you with this, do not keep up the conversation on her favorite topics, stop delving into problems that she only discusses without trying to solve. You will see that without your boundless compassion her ardor will cool down, and you will find new subjects to discuss. If not, think about whether this is a real friend.

Use the visualization method to learn to ignore ill-wishers. Whenever you are in a stressful situation, at the level of thoughts, protect yourself from the irritant. For example, if your boss is angry, and you do not want to start a conflict and put him in his place, imagine a wall that is between you. This fence prevents the manager from causing you any harm, and his negativity breaks against the fence before reaching you.

Think about why you are so hurt by other people’s criticism if you are constantly upset by it. Perhaps you partly agree with their view. Then the solution may be to strengthen your own weak properties, because of which you will not be able to achieve the desired level of success.

Don't try to please everyone. Have your own worldview, your own principles. Don't let others force their ideas on you and take advantage of your kindness. Don't compromise your interests for the sake of others. A strong, current position will not allow you to be distracted by external negativity and take unpleasant moments to heart.

Try to become aware of the people who tend to hurt you. Maybe they have severe difficulties with their health or family relationships. Naturally, this does not justify shameless behavior, but it allows you to find that their rage is not focused on you, but on their current incidents. Knowing this will make it easier for you to ignore other people's angry outbursts.

The level of the person or circumstances, as well as the method of punishing another person. The expression is often heard: “Ignoring is one of the oldest forms of emotional abuse.” Let's talk about this in more detail.

What to do if a man ignores you

And so, now I will give you a clear plan on what to do if a man ignores you. There is no need to make any adjustments, change or change it. Completed the first point - move on to the next. Remember, these are someone's experiences, not just made up words.

1. It is necessary to determine the reason for ignoring

Do not rush. Sit and think. Shove your virtues up your ass and soberly assess the situation. Perhaps you messed up badly and didn’t even realize it. In most cases, you will understand this reason if you turn off your emotions and leave a sober and cool mind.

2. Take a break, take your mind off the problem.

Maybe you have long wanted to go ice skating, or go to Kamchatka. Get involved with someone and go and live as savages in the forest, go to the mountains, see Lake Baikal, etc. Not only will you be distracted, but you will also have a chance to meet a person worthy of you. Maybe you will like to lead such a reckless lifestyle, and you will discover other facets and paths of development in yourself.

For some it really makes a difference. The person understands that all this time he has been living the wrong life and communicating with the wrong people. Then the problem if a man ignores you disappears by itself. Try it, maybe you really don’t live like that.

After this point, many men stop ignoring you and start looking for you. And at this time you post your photos on Instagram of yourself in the Himalayas, in Kamchatka in hot springs, on Lake Baikal, in Altai, etc. And suddenly he wonders. “I don’t understand, does she give a damn about me?!” There is a desire to understand your behavior, contacts are renewed. Well, then reconciliation is just a stone’s throw away.

3. Change

Change your appearance. No, really. Here I meet some of my friends, classmates. And that’s how they were and remain. Down to the same clothes and hairstyle. How the hell can you live like this?!!! Isn't it interesting to change yourself? Try new hairstyles, new clothing styles. In general, a complete change of image!

By the way, I have one such girl, we studied at university together. She was like a ruffly, inconspicuous sparrow. Whether it's a boy or a girl, you can't tell. And then I met her a few years later and didn’t recognize her. It was a LADY! Yes, with a capital letter. A complete change of image and lifestyle. Like in the movie "Office Romance". And as a result, a rich life, an excellent husband, good children. Like this. And it was not the other way around, as you probably already thought. That's exactly it. First, a complete change of image and lifestyle, and then, husband, money, wealth.

Change internally. It is equally important to change your inner world. Realize that it is not rags, pouting lips, tits and asses that are important, but your spiritual world. Men feel this very well. Get all the crap out of your head. Contrived and instilled empty values.

There's crap in your head right now. Do not believe? But answer yourself honestly. What do you want in a situation if a man ignores you? Yes, you are ready to tear your ass with your manicured fingers, but to ensure that this brute lies at your feet and asks for forgiveness for ignoring you. And after that I was a slave and loved you madly. So? No? Yes, yes, yes.

Become visible.

As a rule, few people reach this point. However, as before the next one. Either it’s already enough and everything has fallen into place as you need, or they simply ignore it.

One of the reasons why a man ignores you is that he has become uninterested in you. I'm tired of it in short. He stopped being interested in you completely. He doesn’t visit your page, doesn’t follow your story updates, well, in general, you understand, you don’t exist for him. And how will he find out about you? Right. Only when you become noticeable to many people.

Only then will he notice you, start watching you and oh... how you have become. After all, your goal is to make him think about you again, and the more often the better. What to do?

You need to make sure that people around you, friends, girlfriends, acquaintances, subscribers and any people in general start talking about you. How can this be achieved? This is where the most difficult thing begins for you - to think, to use brains that you didn’t have before (just kidding, no offense). Well, okay, you have an advanced girl like me who will help you solve the problem if a man ignores you. And so start thinking.

You need to do something to surprise his friends. They should definitely tell him about you. Something like: “Listen Bro. Yesterday I saw your ex-chick, it’s crazy, I didn’t recognize her, really Bro. She really became cooler, I would blow her myself.” I brought this limited vocabulary of Zimbabwean macaques specifically for your better understanding of what you need to do.
Think about how to get some of his work colleagues to become interested in your page and send him a link: “Dear manager, look how your ex is having a blast!”
Make his new chick jealous of you. Well, think for yourself.
Make his friends tell him about you.
Change your social profile. networks so that he gasps when he sees it.
Make his friend dumbfound him with the phrase: Listening, I can’t go with you today because... I’m dating... (you).”

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What are the threats of being ignored?

It is necessary to determine the dangers of this feeling themselves. Why does ignoring require special psychological treatment? If neglected, this feeling can lead to low self-esteem, stress and even deep depression. This means that there is a risk of developing a feeling of abandonment, which is reinforced by the darkest assumptions in the absence of the exact reasons for being ignored.

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Moreover, this condition is not limited in its consequences to psychological problems. Emotional pain often leads to disturbances in the digestive system, headaches and exacerbations of chronic diseases.