It is no secret that every woman dreams of meeting a real man in her life who will provide her with protection, support and a reliable rear. But if you look at it, this is such an ephemeral concept in the female understanding! Just ask the fair sex, what meaning do they put into the concept of “a real man”? There can be a huge number of answers: smart, strong, successful, economical, etc.
“So that you don’t drink, don’t smoke, and always give flowers,” was sung in a famous song. However, in life you can find many examples where an intelligent and successful man behaves in an unworthy manner, building his life with the help of flattery, intrigue and slander, while a strong man achieves everything with his fists. But everything is not as bad as it might seem at first glance. There are real men. And, despite the fact that there is nothing absolute in the world, this concept still exists. So, how to become a real man?
Qualities of a strong
What qualities does a strong man have?
- He must be strong not only physically, but also spiritually. Such a man has an inner core. He is firm and stubborn in the fight against any problems in life.
- Regardless of age, a representative of the stronger sex must have an adult understanding of life, that is, be psychologically mature and be able to make important decisions.
- A real man is characterized by such qualities as nobility and courage. They are manifested in his ability to protect, to be true to his ideals and life principles. Such a man builds his relationship with a woman solely on trust and does not care about how to become a man. After all, that's what he is.
- The ability to take responsibility for one’s words, actions and deeds is an equally important trait of a man.
- Strong in spirit, he sets goals for himself and achieves them, persistently paving the way to them.
- A true representative of this sex must be honest, first of all, with himself and his conscience.
- A man does not give up at the first setbacks, but resolutely copes with them. He learns and matures spiritually not from victories, but from his defeats and mistakes.
To become a man, you don’t need to be anything special, adapt to other people’s requirements and follow social stereotypes. It's enough to just be yourself. And also move forward and constantly improve. When working on yourself, you should pay special attention to your thoughts, actions and appearance.
Fuel categories and pilot experience
The first is something relatively primitive, the need for food, water, and some basic knowledge about the world around us. Everything we need to survive in this difficult life, and often we consume it unconsciously, intuitively. The second category of fuel is our internal powerful core, what a person relies on - this is our insides.
If we take any powerful sports car, for example, a Lamborghini, Ferrari or McLaren, and put an inexperienced driver in it, for example, a guy who just got his license, then, most likely, he will simply crash into rubbish on the track. An experienced pilot will be able to get the most out of this car and show off a cool track. But to become an experienced pilot, both knowledge and development are important.
For a person, so that he can have goals, strive and achieve what he wants for himself, our consciousness is a kind of “pilot”, and the body is a “car”. And, of course, we need an experienced pilot and good fuel to get the most out of life.
Positive thoughts are half the battle
As you know, thoughts have the ability to attract corresponding life events. And if you constantly think negatively, then like will attract like. We often see people who radiate so much positivity that we get the impression that everything in life is simple and easy for them. In fact, this is far from the case. They simply learned to fight back against their problems with the power of optimism. To learn from their experience and learn how to become a man, you should change your thinking to a positive one. As a rule, an optimist is a person who is confident in himself and his abilities. He tries to look at the world in a positive way and suppress all negative emotions in himself in every possible way. Be optimistic - and soon the whole world will bow to you!
Don't doubt your own abilities
Stop doubting yourself! How many years are you willing to spend doubting, inaction, and then regretting lost opportunities?
People are already accustomed to doubting themselves, instead of simply acting and deciding along the way where they are wrong, where they are successful, and where they need to improve themselves. Modern methods of raising children force parents to constantly develop in their children a sense of doubt in their own abilities. Perhaps, from childhood, your parents and teachers also taught you that it is better to do nothing than to do something and make a mistake. They constantly doubted your abilities and capabilities. Maybe even someone mocked your attempts to jump above your head. You remembered this, which led to the habit of not taking action or constantly doubting yourself.
While you doubt your own abilities, you remain inactive. Until you do nothing, you achieve neither good nor bad. As a result, you don’t know whether something would have worked out for you or not, what you are capable of and what you need to do to make your dreams come true.
Do you want to waste your life? Do you understand that your life is finite? What will you think of yourself when you realize that life is coming to an end and all you have done throughout your entire existence is doubt yourself? Won't it be a shame that life has not brought you or other people anything useful?
Say no to self-doubt. Some significant people once doubted your abilities, stopped you, slowed you down. You have a deep trauma in your subconscious when something didn’t work out, and a close and dear person said: “I told you so. It would be better to do nothing than to do it and disgrace everyone.” You are now slowing yourself down! Now it’s not someone, but you, who is preventing yourself from achieving success because you don’t believe. But if someone didn't believe in you, then why do you repeat after that person like a parrot? Don't you believe it either? Do you consider yourself a failure? Do you agree with the person who did you no good with his doubts and ridicule? Was the other person right?
Stop doubting yourself. You're just wasting time. If you want yourself to be happy, then stop feeling sorry for yourself. Just take action. You will make mistakes, failures will overtake you. It's part of life. This is an experience. You can fix everything easily. You will be able to achieve your goals. All this is possible if you stop listening to people who clearly do you no good, and also say “no” to doubts in your own abilities.
Work on yourself
In the process of becoming a real man, first of all, working on yourself is important. Therefore you should:
- Learn to control your emotions, not show people your grievances and disappointments.
- Try to take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
- Learn to make decisions independently, firmly aware of your choice.
You should not be afraid of life's difficulties - take them as a chance to discover something new. In any situation, even a difficult one, look for positive moments. And don't forget that negative thoughts lead to actions that often make your situation worse. And don’t worry about how to become a strong man, just become one.
An effective approach: turning your attention inward
We clearly understand for ourselves that she has left, she has her own life and we draw a line, draw boundaries, separate our lives. We understand that there is only “me” here, there is “me” here, and I need to help myself.
First of all, understand how I got into this situation, what led me to this, and what to do now to get out of this situation and never get into this again.
In order for us not to have similar problems in the future, we need a resource, and in its development this resource begins precisely from the moment when we forget about our ex and begin to look inside ourselves.
Words or actions?
Famous actress Tatyana Arntgolts said: “An action is the main thing a man can do for a woman. Appreciating this act is the main thing a woman can do for a man.” I think you will agree that words are less important for the fair half than actions. Unfortunately, there are many strong men in the world who do not want and do not do the simplest, most banal things that please the ladies. Therefore, when choosing between someone who can sing sweetly and beautifully and someone who is ready to do things for her, a woman most often focuses her attention on the second.
Don't ask for pity
Do you want to be pitied? Now think about whether a strong and self-confident person wants to be pitied. There is no need to do or act in such a way that people feel sorry for you. Undoubtedly, it is pleasant when you are sympathized with, surrounded by warmth, care and love. But they feel sorry for you, considering you a frightened, defenseless and helpless person. Is this how you want to appear in the eyes of others?
Pity does not suit a strong man. Moreover, whether you evoke pity or not, this is a clear indicator of whether you have become an independent person or not. An adult does not evoke pity for himself. He tries to cope with his emotions, problems and questions himself, since only in this way can he achieve mature responsibility, understanding of the situation and experience, which will allow him to more easily and quickly resolve any controversial situations in the future.
Pity does not suit a strong man. You are either weak, which makes you feel sorry for you, or strong, which cannot in any way cause pity, but only admiration or envy. Therefore, choose how you want to appear in the eyes of others. After all, depending on your behavior, people treat you differently. People communicate with a strong person on equal terms, ask for his help, advice, they respect and appreciate him. No one listens to the person who needs to be pitied (after all, he himself needs help), they try to communicate as little as possible (so as not to waste energy on sympathy again), and sometimes they hate him (because he demands, but does not give anything in return). Accordingly, it’s up to you to choose, and then reap the benefits of the results to which all your efforts were directed.
How to become a man: some tips
A man doesn’t have to do crazy things to prove to a woman that she matters to his heart. It is enough to follow a few simple rules.
- Learn to care for a woman. Show your concern for her, say nice compliments, and don’t be rude.
- Always be a leader, an initiator of ideas, be able to attract others with you.
- Remember that gossip and intrigue are characteristic of female psychology, so refrain from discussing and evaluating other people.
- Improve yourself, develop the will, move up the career ladder.
- How to become a strong-willed man? It's not all that complicated! In any life situation, remain calm and balanced, creating the image of a courageous person. Don’t scream, don’t fuss or panic – leave this line of behavior to the woman.
We sorted out thoughts and actions. It's time to talk about appearance, because, as popular wisdom says, people are greeted by their clothes.
Help people
A person becomes strong when he helps other people. Firstly, he tries his hand and understands what he is capable of. Secondly, it makes the world a better place, which gives even more enthusiasm and strength.
Help your loved ones. Remember those situations when you helped out your friends, loved ones and relatives. What feelings overwhelmed you? How did other people react to your help? A smile is a worthy price to pay for doing a good deed. If you know that your help will benefit someone else, then go for it. And you will be pleased that you turned out to be a useful person, and other people will be pleased that someone cares about them.
Don't be lazy. Help and please. There are moments when you don't want to do anything, although you understand that the other person needs your help. But think for yourself, what would you think if you knew that they were refusing to help you just because they were lazy? You may not be offended, but you will no longer have any pleasant thoughts or impulses towards those people who extol their laziness above helping their neighbor.
Your help makes the person you help happy. Your help is especially useful when you are 100% sure that you are doing the right thing. For example, you were asked for help or you know that a person cannot do without something, so you want to eliminate his discomfort. Help and please. You yourself will be pleased that you not only make someone happy, but are simply a useful person. Moreover, people remember your help, so they are happy to help you when they see that you need something.
A little prettier than a monkey
Paradoxical as it may seem, the appearance of men comes last for most women. Apparently, this is due to the tendency of frequent infidelity on the part of overly beautiful representatives of the stronger sex. Remember the proverb: “A man should be a little more handsome than a monkey.” This means that a real man does not have to look like a macho man from the cover of a glossy magazine. The main thing about him is character, intelligence, determination and will. However, this doesn't mean you should give up on your appearance. No matter what positive qualities a real man has, his unkempt appearance, rumpled suit and dirty shoes are unlikely to win over a woman.
Therefore, you should remember some recommendations:
- Always dress neatly. Try not to wear dirty, unironed, torn clothes.
- Keep your shoes clean.
- Create your own unique clothing style.
- Watch your figure. If necessary, play sports.
But what is it like to be a real man? What should he be able to do and how to become one?
At the beginning, it is important to say that everyone needs guidance and support from a real... person.
In an individual of the human species capable of organizing, rebuilding, creating, doing, implementing, helping, punishing, solving their problems and, out of love, kindness, extending their power and abilities to a family, a group of people... a region, homeland, continent, humanity.
It so happens that the most suitable organism for the implementation of these functions is a man. Unlike a woman, he is not burdened with bearing, feeding, raising children - internal issues. And due to mobility and physical strength, it is suitable for defending external interests.
Therefore, evolutionarily, a man became the owner of the titles of lighthouse, leader and leader of the nation.
What resources are there: 12 types
• Image – how you look and how you position yourself in society;
• Economics – how you handle finances;
• Study – gaining new knowledge;
• Family – your parental family and position in it;
• Art – your creative development;
• Health – your health status;
• Love – do you feel loved and wanted, your relationships, your family;
• Sex is an intimate resource;
• Altruism – do you help people around you;
• Work is your self-realization;
• Friendship – your environment and interactions with people around;
• Trance – the ability to relax and enjoy life alone.
Basic rules of a “bad” guy2
First of all, you need to change your behavior. If you are used to bending under others to the detriment of yourself, you should urgently change tactics. Yes, this will not be easy to do. People who are used to you being “good” will not be at all happy about your changes, but you shouldn’t pay attention to them. To make it easier for you to transform from a wimp into a real man, follow a few important rules:
conclusions
It turns out that in order to become the best for a girl, there is no need to split hairs, since everyone loves attention, everyone wants to be the only one, loved, needed, understood, etc. But you should understand that if you decide to rush into such a battle, then you will have to hold back your own desires and focus on her personal interests and preferences, which may sometimes run counter to yours.
That is, you actually, wanting to become the best for a girl, sign up to be her personal knight and the fulfiller of all her desires.
That is, a pleaser.
Not the most pleasant role, which in some formats and situations morally humiliates a man. After all, in this case, you allow her to fully use you, and for her sake, when communicating with a girl, you do only actions that she likes, omitting and forgetting about yourself. Sign up for my trainings
