Internal core: is it possible to develop it and how to do it

In this article we will tell you:

What is a person’s inner support?
Features of female and male internal support
Signs of lack of internal support in a person
Creating and strengthening internal support
9 tips for developing support within yourself

A person’s internal support is a core that personifies self-confidence, understanding of one’s own actions, correct thoughts and emotions. If a person has this power, then he does not need approval from others, reacts normally to criticism and has a clearly structured value system.

The strength of our internal supports determines our entire worldview and even our place in life. In order not to waste time aimlessly fighting complexes, you should not initially allow yourself to become overgrown with them. It is important to focus on your principles and form a core within yourself. Today we will tell you how to do this.

What is an inner core?

The inner core of a person is the strength of his personality. The concept includes a set of moral principles, perseverance, the ability to manage one’s own emotions and act sensibly and productively in any, even critical, circumstances. Such people know how to overcome difficulties and move on with their lives.

They are not unsettled by life's ups and downs. This is clearly illustrated by a quote from Spiritual Economics: “If a man falls, he gets up, and if he goes the wrong way, he turns and goes back” (WBTC, Jer. 8:4). Those around them feel the strength of character of these people and understand that they can always be relied upon, which cannot but attract them.

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What does it consist of

The components of the internal core of personality include the following character traits:

determination – the ability to correctly set goals, as well as form and implement strategies for achieving them;
will – the ability to do what is necessary, even if you really don’t want to;
fidelity to guidelines - actions in accordance with one’s own system of spiritual and moral values, demanding of oneself, lack of self-justification;
the ability to take responsibility for one’s own actions and one’s life in general;
constant self-development - by learning something new, we become not only more interesting and professional, but also gain confidence and develop flexibility of thinking.

It is noteworthy that everyone, if desired, can develop an inner core. Of course, many personality traits are inherited, and character traits are laid down and nurtured at an early age. But an adult sane person, having set a goal, is able to find an inner core. To do this, it is important to be in the correct resource state. Our “Bird” practice will help you enter it. It teaches you to achieve harmony with yourself, without which it is impossible to form an inner core.

Lack of self-reliance: main signs

The inability to support oneself affects all areas of life - work, family, study

Before considering the manifestations of internal resilience, let us pay attention to the main signs that signal the absence of an internal core

Conflicting desires. A person himself does not understand what he wants;
Addictions (alcohol and drug addiction, gambling addiction, unhealthy emotional attachment);
A person is doing something he doesn't like. Work is not fun;
He strives to please others - even if this behavior harms himself;
A feeling of fear of authorities - officials, managers;
The desire to find an assistant, a kind of “Teacher” who would suggest the right path in life;
Striving to be perfect in everything.

It also needs to be emphasized that the lack of self-support skills is always accompanied by dissatisfaction with the current life situation. The main emotions are fear and anger, irritation and bitterness, melancholy and resentment.

What is the internal rod for?

Having an inner core means being able to withstand the challenges of fate and make informed, consistent decisions. People with strong character have adequate self-esteem. They have no complexes, the destructive feeling of guilt is alien to them, so it is impossible to manipulate such individuals. Practice “How to remove self-doubt from your head. And in just 14 days, believe in yourself” helps to gain an inner core. After all, only confident people have the strength that gives them the opportunity to move towards their goals and defend their opinions.

The inner core is what helps you achieve your plans.

Women with a strong character remain caring, gentle and soft in appearance, but in certain situations they know how to pull themselves together and act as circumstances require: tough, decisive, fearless.

Men with will are the masters of their destiny. They do not follow the desires of others, but systematically move towards their goals. And, as a rule, they achieve a lot in this life.

People without an inner core are like a dry leaf that floats wherever the current takes it. They are usually completely devoid of charisma and often become victims of manipulators. They tend to give up when trouble arises. Such individuals avoid responsibility at all costs. They tend to blame “circumstances” and “those around them” for their troubles and, accordingly, are unable to change their own lives for the better.

This is why developing your inner core is so important.

Self-restraint

First of all, for this, a man must be capable of self-restraint. How to cultivate it in yourself? Unfortunately, an accomplished person is unlikely to be able to change anything without outside help. You'll have to turn to psychologists.

Very young children are able to educate themselves independently. Teenage relationships allow you to take examples from celebrities who have been able to achieve success in life and become role models. Advice on how to pump up the male core is expressed and written by peers from monitor screens; these problems are discussed in sports clubs and at friendly parties.

Development of the inner core

Developing an inner core is a systematic, sequential process that requires constant work on oneself, attention to detail, and revision of a number of settings. If you want to develop strong personality traits, pay attention to the following points.

Mastering the skill of self-control

This is not the suppression of emotions and feelings, but the ability to manage them, the ability to act despite experiences and fears. Those who have self-control always finish what they start and do not give up when the slightest problem arises.

This quality can be developed by following some recommendations daily:

act to achieve your goals even despite the discomfort;
create a daily routine for yourself and stick to it;
make it a rule to do exercises at a certain time;
always make your bed immediately after waking up;
identify the habits that interfere with your productivity and begin to eradicate them;
learn to understand your emotions and recognize which ones overwhelm you at one time or another.

Understand: it is you who are responsible for the implementation of certain events in your life. Do not expect help and support from anyone, act based on your own internal resources. But also learn to cooperate.

Revealing true desires

Often aspirations are imposed on us by society, relatives, and friends. This prevents you from setting true goals and, accordingly, does not contribute to the development of your inner core. If you know exactly what you want, you won’t, like a weather vane in the wind, turn towards someone else’s opinion.

There are many practices that allow you to identify real desires. For example, imagine that you only have a few years to live. How are you using your free time? Or imagine yourself at your own centenary, surrounded by your descendants. What achievements of your life would you like to tell them about? Everything that comes to mind is your desires, based on which you need to set goals.

Exploring lived experience

Before panic and despair take over, analyze your own experience. Every person has experienced situations in life when he managed to cope with difficulties, overcome himself, or help someone else get out of a difficult situation. Concentrating on such moments increases self-confidence and gives inner strength to deal with current difficulties.

There is appropriate wisdom in Spiritual Economics: “I am glad that I walked the path of suffering, I learned a lesson” (WBTC, Ps. 119:71). This means that everyone makes mistakes. But for a person without an inner core, they become an obstacle that forces him to fold his arms. And people with strong character learn from them valuable experience to become even wiser and more effective.

Getting rid of negativity

Negative emotions and experiences tend to accumulate. They are capable of breaking even a strong will if you do not “reboot” in time. Excess negativity depletes internal resources. Everyone chooses their own way of getting rid of permanent stress. Usually these are sports, favorite hobbies, some hobbies.

Ability to refuse

If a person agrees with others to the detriment of his own guidelines and desires, this means that he lacks an inner core. Individuals who are afraid of losing the favor of others due to refusal are easy to manipulate.

Practice saying “no” in front of the mirror, prepare soft wording in advance that is unlikely to offend the petitioner. Learn to competently enter into conflict, because this is not something uniquely negative, but just a natural moment of conflict of interests.

Question No. 1. What do I really want?

Without desires, aspirations, and goals, a person cannot move forward; a stupor begins: “What to do and how to be?” If you are lost in this world of new opportunities, you are tormented by mental doubts about what to do with yourself in order to achieve success, for example. You just need to decide for yourself and clearly answer the question posed: “What do I really, absolutely want, wish with all my soul and body?” The answer will not come to you easily and simply; to get it, you have to work hard, observe yourself and your thoughts, or use additional auxiliary methods.

The first effective way to find your desire and intention is unconscious drawing, which, with the help of associations, can be interpreted as the desire of your inner “I”. Take a comfortable position, on the sofa, at the table, on the floor. Take pencils or markers and a piece of paper (A4). Concentrate, close your eyes and mentally scroll through the question: “What do I want?” and, opening your eyes, begin to draw, turning off your consciousness for a while, succumb to the magical flow of thought. Let go of your hand, let it decide for itself what to depict on a piece of paper.

To unravel the image, concentrate on the shapes, the integrity of the picture, on the figures. Build cause-and-effect relationships to find out what contributed to this train of thought. The drawing will help you dig deeper and find out what your consciousness wants, find out your true desires and intentions. This kind of solving will help you determine the answer to the question posed.

Desires are directly related to fantasy and imagination. What is the nature of desire, how does the feeling arise when you want something, strive for something. A person tends to fantasize and imagine the value of such fantasies. Use the second method to find answers to your questions. Try this procedure, which is a little like meditation. Take a comfortable position, close your eyes and fantasize, internally asking yourself the same question: “What do I really want?” – the answer will come by itself if you let go of efforts and allow the images to stand in rows and complete pictures.

Inner core: a misconception

Pumping up your inner core does not mean becoming an inflexible person who fanatically defends his opinion to everyone. Personal strength lies in flexibility, the ability to hear and accept someone else’s point of view and navigate changing circumstances. But all this should not run counter to one’s own goals and ideals.

Often, men and women, trying to demonstrate strength of character, deliberately get into trouble: they argue, impose their point of view, prove that they are right. But truly strong individuals do not waste resources - they know how to identify what is most important for themselves and concentrate on achieving goals, and not on conflicts with others.

There is an important quote in Spiritual Economics: “God is against the proud, but gives grace to the humble” (EVR, James 4:6). Any, even the strongest inner core can break under the influence of external negative factors if it lacks reasonable flexibility.

Few people are immediately born with a strong will and strong character. These qualities are cultivated and come with experience if a person knows how to draw the right conclusions.

Be responsible for the actions

The need to answer, first of all to friends, for failure to fulfill any promises made in a common company, forces the young man to tense up or even limit himself in some way. A habit is developed of not allowing words to differ from deeds.

Growing up and the emergence of a natural attraction to the opposite sex allows another beacon to appear, which is not always easy to get to. Some people have to resort to improving their own appearance. And only then the object of adoration becomes accessible. And the habit of forcing yourself not to lie down under the covers in the morning, but to run around the park, is also not easy.

A way to strengthen willpower is to adhere to an unusual or unloved way of eating. Diet helps a lot not only to make your body attractive, but also makes you think differently. But all this applies to a person who has not yet become ossified and, under the influence of surrounding people and circumstances, can develop a masculine core on his own.

How to develop willpower in a child?

A child's willpower is formed by overcoming difficulties. In other words, parents - the child's first teachers and the first school of life - should not protect the child from the natural and real conditions of life. The world is full of both joy and sadness, both life and death, both work and rest, both entertainment and necessary work. Parents must live real life and introduce the child to all its sides, not protect him from problems, difficulties and needs.

At each age, a child must be given certain tasks, prohibitions and restrictions that are accepted in society. It’s important to take into account the child’s age and set feasible tasks for him! Do not demand from him what he cannot yet do or understand. Punish only for failure to do the required work, failure to keep one's word, or deception.