How to make peace with a guy after a quarrel: six steps towards reconciliation

Things are not always smooth in relationships between loved ones. There are often quarrels and scandals. Therefore, you need to be able not only to blame your partner, but also to be able to put up with him. More on this later.

During the candy-bouquet period, young people always have ideal relationships. However, after it passes, disagreements and even quarrels may occur in a couple. After scandals, loving people often experience great difficulty in reconciliation. Especially if the couple is two people who are not used to giving in.

To reconcile in such cases, you will definitely have to give in to someone and look for ways to solve the problem. A prerequisite for ending the conflict is the manifestation of sincerity and the ability to find a common language. Next, we’ll find out how a girl can make peace with her lover after a strong quarrel.

How many days after a breakup or quarrel is it better to start making peace?

Naturally, after the scandal there remains an unpleasant aftertaste in the soul. Therefore, psychologists do not advise immediately starting to look for ways of reconciliation. Both loving hearts must first be given time to think about what happened. Wait for the emotional state to improve and for all grievances to settle. At a minimum, four hours is enough for this; in some situations, even a day is not enough.

If a girl wants to end the conflict as quickly as possible, then she needs to take action when her loved one cools down. But first, think about why the guy behaved this way. It doesn’t hurt to put yourself in his place to understand the essence of the quarrel. It makes no sense to find out who is right and who is wrong - this will only make the situation worse.

In order not to provoke a new quarrel, do not start reconciliation with the words:

  • Even though you were wrong, I agree to make peace with you
  • Okay, don’t sulk already, you yourself started this quarrel.


Reconciliation with a guy after a fight

IMPORTANT : Think about everything several times before you start reconciliation. Maybe after another scandal you shouldn’t even put up with it if your relationship is strained.

Quarrels as an indicator of relationships

In general, quarrels are an integral part of any relationship. The question is what nature these quarrels are and how often they happen to you. If these are minor clashes on everyday grounds or an overly emotional exchange of opinions on a topic that is not fundamental and decisive in your relationship, then nothing terrible will happen even if you have disagreements.

However, if the quarrels are strong, repeated frequently, protracted, accompanied by insults and spread to various aspects of your relationship, then you should seriously think about whether this is the right relationship. Does it make sense to put up for them?

How to make peace with a guy beautifully, effectively and quickly: general tips

It's hard to take the first step when pride prevents you from saying even simple phrases for a truce. Moreover, if you have never done this before, but you really want to restore the relationship. And yet you need to overcome yourself and call, write, meet with the young man, have a heart-to-heart talk, otherwise you can lose him forever.

You can also do the following:

  1. Give a gift to your boyfriend with a postcard, where you write that you miss him and want to see him at least with one eye.
  2. It’s good when a girl is one of those people who don’t take scandals to heart. And within a few minutes they are ready to agree to a truce. You can make peace quickly thanks to good sex.
  3. Some couples can even quarrel and within an hour they are eating pie and drinking tea together in the kitchen without any emotions.
  4. Kisses and hugs are also suitable for a truce. Many men are ready to forgive all insults if a girl shows him attention in this way. Although there are exceptions here, a guy does not react to such actions when the offense is strong or he simply does not love you.


How to establish a good relationship with your loved one?

Nonverbal additions to an apology

The likelihood of successful reconciliation will increase if the girl, in addition to words, performs a number of simple actions:

  • Gently take the guy by the hand . It is best to do this approximately in the middle of his speech, when he has already realized that everything is heading towards an apology. Touching enhances the perception of information and adds sensuality to words;
  • Will look the guy in the eye . This really can be difficult, especially if the girl feels very guilty and ashamed. But eye contact is subconsciously perceived by a person as a desire to open up and tell the truth;
  • At the end of his speech he will stand closer to the guy . This is a good hint of hugs, which in themselves already mean reconciliation.

How to understand that a guy wants to make peace?

Young people, in order to show their sympathy to a girl, try to pay her as much attention as possible. They often show interest in a person in different ways. They communicate with mutual acquaintances in order to find out as much information as possible about the object of their sympathy, offer the girl their help in solving everyday problems, and spend their time solving all sorts of problems. The same thing happens when a man is ready to get closer after another quarrel. He begins to pay a lot of attention to the girl.

The guy is ready to forgive his beloved even when she was not entirely right. If he misses her, he writes his beloved SMS, calls, and looks for meetings. The young man again wins his girlfriend, he is ready even for the sake of his beloved to change his habits, give gifts, pamper.


How to get your loved one back?

You need to be careful if your man cheated on you, but after a while he tries to get back to you again. After all, such an individual, after a while, can again leave you for another who has captivated him. Don’t ruin your life by communicating with him, so as not to end up lonely.

There are proud young people who find it difficult to take the first step. But the thought that you could be with someone else makes them feel out of control. Therefore, such young people will also try to meet you and try to remind you of themselves as often as possible.

How to choose the right phrase

Some phrases carry positive energy and can be used after a conflict situation to reconcile two loving people. The choice of the necessary phrase depends on how strong the quarrel was and what lay at its basis. Additionally, your personal knowledge of your partner's character can help you make the right choice. There is no need to use these phrases verbatim, they are just an example of what to rely on when trying to make peace. In order to achieve better results, modify and combine them.

How to make peace with a guy or a man after a breakup: advice from a psychologist

After a heated quarrel, the young man does not make himself known for a long time, but your life is not going well, you cannot imagine how to live without him. In this case, you need to take action. Perhaps he is also bored, but he believes that you are the culprit of the quarrel and cannot come to terms with it.

For reconciliation, use more than just actions. Surprise him with something new, change your hairstyle, get a beautiful manicure, don’t show that you are a victim, that you are suffering greatly because of the scandal. Appearance plays an important role in solving problems. Thanks to your impeccable appearance, a man may have a great desire to communicate with you again. In some situations, men think that you have new admirers and outbursts of jealousy will cause a truce.

Young people love discreet girls more than violent brawlers. Keeping your emotions under lock and key attracts guys. Few people like a whiny girl with constant problems, who can throw a tantrum out of the blue. It is difficult to build relationships with such ladies.

So, for a truce you will need:

  1. Give your partner time to think and realize that you are very dear to him. Don't start making peace immediately after mutual accusations. Otherwise, you can again say too much. Don’t bother him constantly, let him think about what happened a little for a few days, give him freedom.
  2. It also wouldn’t hurt for you to think about and digest everything that was said, and draw conclusions from it. It is good to think over ways of a truce. Sincerely admit what is your fault and what is his. If you think that he is wrong, then simply speaking about forgiveness will not sound convincing. Therefore, the young man will only pretend that he has forgiven you, but in reality there will be a residue in his soul that will torment both him and you.
  3. There are times when a woman forgets about her lover because of problems at work. He complains about constant fatigue and takes out all his negativity on him. As a rule, a man endures for some time, but when his patience comes to an end, he makes a scandal and leaves. Because I can't live like this. Only after breaking up does she realize that she was wrong. If it's not too late, then everything can be fixed. Change your lifestyle and get your loved one back. Moreover, the young man will draw conclusions about further cohabitation not only based on your words, but also on your actions.
  4. When she is ready to forgive him after a quarrel, even if he is the only one to blame, then there is no need to remind him of his misdeeds. No matter how difficult it may be, we must forgive and move on, each time without reproaching him for what he did. Otherwise, living together can only turn into a miserable existence and which will lead to separation in the future.


Difficulties in relationships
It is possible to get a man back after a breakup if he has not yet firmly decided to leave you forever. Remember how you won his heart before. Try to stir up his feelings again. Again, pay attention to your appearance, take care of your figure, and become desirable to him again. Throw away all the years you lived with him, feel young again, arrange a romantic candy-bouquet period, or go on a trip to warm lands by the sea with him. Remember how good it was for you before with him.

If you don't understand what's going on

Sometimes it happens that there was no quarrel as such, but you feel that a cat ran between you. As a rule, both are to blame for the problem. However, this does not mean at all that you cannot take responsibility for the situation and try to find a way out.

Pay attention to what signs your partner gives you. He may be trying his best to let you know that he is unhappy. The expression “touchy man” is no longer an oxymoron. If previously it was believed that pouting lips and maintaining an insulted silence was behavior characteristic exclusively of women, today representatives of the stronger sex often behave this way. What to do? Try to analyze the situation and think about what your partner might be offended by. According to psychologists, among the most common reasons are the following:

  • You make comments to him in the presence of third parties. Whatever your motives, such criticism is nothing more than humiliation of a man.
  • You set other males as an example for him. For a guy, being told that he is somehow inferior to another male is a real blow to the gut.
  • You make fun of his hobbies or treat them with disdain. Any man would prefer that his chosen one, if not share his interests, then at least show respect for them.
  • You don't trust your significant other. It's a rare guy who likes to be controlled, tested and constantly suspected of treachery.
  • For you, hysterics are a common way to “relieve” stress. For men, the hysterical behavior of women exhausts and devastates them.
  • You give reasons for jealousy: you flirt with other guys, regularly correspond on social networks with male friends and acquaintances, go to parties without a partner.
  • You disrespect his family or friends.

If you suspect that a guy is avoiding contact because he is angry with you, try to clarify the situation. What seems harmless and insignificant to you may cause pain to another person. In your case, a heart-to-heart conversation will help save the relationship, during which you together try to find a compromise and eliminate differences.

How to make peace with a guy or a man after a strong quarrel if I am to blame?

A loving man can forgive his woman a lot. But for this it is necessary to make every effort, because there are different offenses and some may be remembered by him for the rest of his life.

Unfortunately, feelings of guilt often prevent the fair sex from finding the right path to reconciliation. Women begin to justify their actions, thereby only aggravating the situation, and sometimes the other half is accused that all this happened because of his wrong behavior. This fact makes the man even more angry. Therefore, it is better for a woman not to argue in such cases, especially if her guilt is proven. You must show that you repent of what you have done and ask for forgiveness using all possible methods listed above.

If you offended me greatly

Sincere repentance, a little romance and perseverance will help you.

♥ ♥ ♥

I cannot come to terms with the fact that because of my mistake we will not be together, we will not build a house, we will not raise common children, we will not experience moments of happiness side by side, we will not grow old enjoying our grandchildren. Please don't destroy my main dream. I want to live all this only with you.

♥ ♥ ♥

Tell me what I should do so that you forgive me. Ready for anything.

♥ ♥ ♥

For me, you are the most important person in the world. Can you forgive me for my stupid act? I understand that my behavior is far from ideal. I hope you forgive me. I'm ready to change for you.

How to make peace with a guy, a man, if he doesn’t make contact?

The resentment is lodged too deeply in the heart of the man he loves, and he is in no hurry to put up with you and does not even want to communicate with you. Then don’t rush to remind him of yourself. Each person has their own level of easygoingness.

Don't take this behavior as personal hostility. Be patient. You'll really need it. Try not to enter into conversations with him, otherwise there may be a quarrel again, and even worse, you may hear insults addressed to you. When the time comes to make peace, you will see for yourself, perhaps you won’t even need extra words for this, communication will improve by itself.

If this does not happen. And your young man does not respond to SMS, ignores you, then under no circumstances stoop to the following actions:

  • Don't you dare chase him
  • Don't ask for forgiveness in front of everyone
  • Don't be in his sight all the time.

Young people cannot stand intrusive girls, it only pushes them away.

The only thing you can do is call him to a frank conversation. Just don't choose public places for this. A girl who publicly asks for forgiveness from a person for not wanting to talk to him looks pathetic.


Establishing relationships with loved ones after conflict

If he has feelings for you, he will make contact himself after a while, just don’t be intrusive. You could alternatively try to set up a date with him to return his things to him, somewhere in your favorite place where you have always liked to spend time. Perhaps this will serve as a reason for reconciliation. When such a date ends unsuccessfully, then you should no longer continue communication. He has already decided everything for himself.

Goodbye and don't promise anything

What to write to a man in an SMS after a quarrel, every woman decides for herself, but if she sees that the relationship is ending or her chosen one has greatly disappointed her, then it’s worth making a bold point and writing the following SMS:

  1. I just wasted my time with you.
  2. You will never change, and I don’t need you like that.
  3. You can continue to walk and have fun, I’ll let you go.
  4. I didn’t tolerate you, I’m a woman.
  5. Couldn't understand anything? Another one will explain.
  6. I don't want any relationship with you anymore.
  7. The faith in you has ended, and hope has gone somewhere.
  8. The Indian age is short, I’m afraid I’ll miss my destiny while I’m babysitting you - bye!
  9. We met strangely and will part strangely – in English.
  10. You are not my person.
  11. You are good, but we are different.
  12. Let's not be sad and say goodbye.
  13. There is no more patience and courage.
  14. I wish to meet someone who will understand that you are incorrigible and will endure all this.
  15. Thank you for everything that happened, but our future is different.
  16. It is necessary to tear sharply, quickly and without regret. Agree?
  17. I don’t want to be a mommy anymore, I want to be a woman.
  18. I'm tired, tired, sorry.
  19. I don't see any prospects for further meetings.
  20. I leave without regret, and you won’t regret anything.
  21. Let everything work out according to your scenario, just without me.
  22. It seemed to me that our love would change everything, but it just went somewhere.
  23. There is no need to lie to each other anymore - we didn’t love each other.
  24. I'm tired of entering the same water 100 times, I'm getting out of it.
  25. Don't even try to fix a broken cup.
  26. Eh, we are different people...
  27. But I don’t want the fire to flare up...
  28. Don't pull me towards you by the ears - it's useless.
  29. I believed in love, now I believe in dislike, thank you.
  30. Thank you for the time we spent together, don't waste it on me anymore.
  31. You were just a passenger in my compartment car, get out - your station.
  32. We are definitely not on the same path anymore, go your own way.
  33. There is no need for mutual reproaches - just say goodbye and be happy.
  34. Thank you for the school of life, I will never make that mistake again.
  35. All our castles were made of sand and crumbled at the first setbacks.
  36. I will overcome my feelings, don’t worry, but you simply cannot have them.
  37. Walk through someone else's fate in your dirty heavy boots.
  38. I won’t cry and bring you back - everything is for the better.
  39. If you are expecting some action from me, you don’t have to wait any longer.
  40. I don’t want to deceive your hopes, although you have already deceived mine, but I will be honest - goodbye.
  41. Only now I realized that I’m better without you than with you.

What should I write or say to a guy or a man in order to make peace by correspondence or telephone?

It is advisable not to use this method of reconciliation, but when your loved one is far away, it will not work any other way. It is possible to make peace in this way, but it’s better to start the conversation from afar. Tell him about some common problems, share news about your mutual friends, or even better, tell him something important. So that it doesn't look like you're forcing yourself on him. Surely you know what interests him and you will find something interesting to hook the guy with so that the conversation drags on for a long time.

  • Flirt with him periodically if you see that he is in a good mood.
  • Take an interest in his life, try to support him in difficult situations.
  • Remind yourself sometimes when he forgets to write to you, get him used to your writing so that he gets bored without you.
  • From time to time, when he gets used to it, don’t respond to his SMS so that he gets worried and wants to meet you.


SMS text for reconciliation with your loved one

Attempt at reconciliation: keeping ourselves right

Even if you are an unsurpassed dramatic actress at heart, do not rush to show your talent. Sobbing and wringing your hands is unlikely to speed up reconciliation with your boyfriend. This behavior will make him feel uncomfortable, which will not be conducive to an open and constructive conversation. In addition, some guys consider women's tears to be insidious manipulation. You don’t want to turn a man against you from the very beginning of an important conversation?

Staying cold and distant is also a bad option. The guy may think that the separation did not affect you in any way, that you are not really worried about the fate of your relationship.

During the conversation, try to clarify the situation: ask questions to know for sure why your partner did what he did, how you offended him, what doesn’t suit him in your relationship. Don't try to think for a man. Your assumptions and conjectures may have nothing to do with reality. The result is quarrels out of nowhere.

Don't interrupt the guy when he begins to describe his own vision of the problem, even if you are 100% sure that he is wrong. Firstly, it is possible that you do not have all the information. Secondly, he gave you the opportunity to speak out - now it’s your turn to let him speak out.

Do not use the phrases “you always”, “you always”, “you always” during a conversation. Discuss the current situation, not the guy's character.

Don't underestimate the importance of tactile contact. Gentle touches and hugs are proven helpers in restoring romantic relationships. They will “speak out” what has not been said out loud.

Best words and phrases of reconciliation: list

Oddly enough, there are words that can melt away grievances. Psychologists say that if you use kind words during a quarrel (cat, little bunny, little fox), then the quarrel will subside over time by itself. But insults only make scandals worse.

Some phrases that can extinguish the fire of emotions of loving hearts during proceedings:

  • It's just funny - we love each other, all couples fight, let's start again.
  • I feel bad without you!
  • If I were naked, you wouldn’t argue with me like that...
  • Let's make peace... before we forget what we quarreled about
  • I feel very bad when we quarrel.

Sorry, I was wrong

Women are often more emotional, impressionable and like to make mountains out of molehills. But then they quickly leave, but they’ve already made a mess... And they have to write SMS to their loved one after a quarrel in their own words, with apologies and hints that everything is still fine, choose what you need:

  1. Sorry, but call me.
  2. I was wrong, but I’m not hysterical.
  3. Why didn't you stop me in my fit of anger?
  4. Listen, I was thinking... Don't be offended.
  5. I hope you didn't take my words seriously. She just lost her temper.
  6. You're not an idiot or a cretin, that's who I am.
  7. Can I take everything I said back? I don't think so.
  8. There is no one better than you - I was wrong.
  9. Of course, I offended you, but you also offended me. I have already forgiven you, and you?
  10. We shouldn't break up because of a stupid quarrel, let's make peace.
  11. Put up, put up... otherwise I’ll bite.
  12. I know who is to blame for our quarrel - my unrestrained character. Agree?
  13. Without you, everything falls out of hand, I'll come now.
  14. I feel bad without you.
  15. I miss you.
  16. I shouldn't have drizzled yesterday...
  17. Don't be offended, my beloved.
  18. Forgive me, you sinful fool.
  19. Or maybe we should do it again?..
  20. I’m ready to start all over again – without hysterics and reproaches.
  21. I don’t want to be left without you, you are my soul mate. How will I be half?
  22. I promise - not a single scandal again.
  23. You are not a fool, you are my little mustache.
  24. Well, I said too much, that now - execution cannot be pardoned?
  25. Don’t turn away from me because of yesterday, I really didn’t know what I was doing.
  26. Without you, my house is empty.
  27. Sorry and come.
  28. I solemnly promise - no more quarrels!
  29. I realized everything, I understood, I repent, I apologize, I strike with my forehead, my lord...

Conspiracy, prayer to make peace between a girl, a woman and a guy, a man: text

If scandals in the house are too frequent, then a woman can from the bottom of her heart ask a higher power to stop them. For the prayer to work, take:

  • three candles in the church
  • buy an icon of the Blessed Virgin Mary and an icon of Jesus Christ

Pray from your heart by reading the Lord's Prayer three times. And after that, read the plea for a truce:

Lord Jesus Christ, son of God.

Descend to us who ask, and forgive all sinful acts.

Have mercy and defeat the enmity between your servants (names of the warring ones).

Cleanse their souls from filth and the power of the devil, protect them from evil people and envious eyes.

May Your will be done now, and forever, and forever and ever. Amen.

All words spoken must leave a mark on the heart. People's thoughts are powerful energy. Thanks to them, the world is changing.


Prayer for reconciliation

A person who prays to God not only asks him for something, he learns and tries to understand himself and his desires. If someone thinks about reconciliation, his thoughts will be sincere, then the prayer for reconciliation between the warring parties will certainly be heard.

In what cases is reconciliation possible after a quarrel?

Of course, you need to go for reconciliation when your relationship is quite strong and serious, and the quarrel is not related to something serious like betrayal or betrayal. There are unforgivable situations - and they really should not be forgiven, since in this case they are likely to be repeated in the future. But in any normal relationship, people sometimes quarrel due to differences in character and outlook on life, so these kinds of petty quarrels should not ruin your relationship.

If mutual feelings, sympathy and affection remain

In cases where your situation was difficult and the quarrel was based on a serious problem, but there are still mutual feelings and love between you, you should definitely give each other a chance. It is possible that you just need to talk in detail and together come to the most correct solution to the problem in order to patch up the quarrel and avoid negative consequences. Even if you need to wait and be alone for some time before reconciliation, this is normal. The main thing is that then you can tell each other everything openly and return your feelings to relevance.

The quarrel was not serious

There are also moments when a quarrel occurred out of nowhere. For example, a young man had a difficult day at work and, amid a bad mood, he lost his temper and yelled at the girl. You need to be able to forgive and forget such moments, because these quarrels are not too serious and are not worth it for you and your boyfriend to waste your time, energy and nerves on them.

Other situations

There are other possible situations when it is simply important to make peace and it is worth it. For example, if you quarreled because you haven’t seen each other for a long time and were bored too much. Sometimes this also leads to a quarrel. It is important to correctly assess the seriousness of the situation, weigh the pros and cons in order to make an informed decision about the need to make peace and continue the relationship.

Is it possible to make peace with a guy after my betrayal?

Not everyone is ready to forgive such an offense, especially guys. Therefore, before you take the first steps of a truce, think carefully about whether you need it. After all, this will stand between you all the time. The guy will reproach you in the future. It’s even worse when he cheats on you out of spite, openly with other women.

But if your decision is firm, you want to return your loved one, then you can use all the techniques of psychologists to achieve his favor. It's a shame that it doesn't work the same for everyone. Still worth a try. Try to sincerely repent, ask for forgiveness and make amends with reconciliatory sex.


After reconciliation

There are no identical techniques for renewing relationships with loved ones. After all, people always feel that they are being deceived and that they are being manipulated. Therefore, if you want a real relationship, be sincere, value each other, and do not allow insults. Try to respect each other, then there will be no need for reconciliation.

If the culprit of the quarrel is a woman

Do you feel guilty? Congratulations! You are one of those rare women who know how to admit that they are wrong. All that remains is to apologize. Believe me, for most men it is enough to hear a laconic “Sorry” from a friend in order to forget about the offense forever.

If we are talking about resolving a conflict after a strong ugly quarrel, then it would be useful to show creativity and make amends with the help of a pleasant surprise. Bake your guy a cake with the inscription “Sorry, please!”, Give him a funny card with poems of your own composition, in which you admit that you got carried away. A man probably won't resist if you buy tickets and invite him to a concert of a band he's crazy about, or to a game with his favorite football team if he's a football fan.

Do you know that a guy at work constantly has Europe+, Russian Radio or another popular radio station playing in the background? What if you ask for forgiveness live? The DJ will select the necessary phrases, the effect of which will enhance the romantic composition.

Another option is to send the young person a letter by regular mail or email. In addition to the apology, the message should include beautiful and heartfelt words about how dear he is to you, what feelings you have for him, how much you miss him. Your heart will tell you exactly what to write to a guy in order to make peace and show him your love.

Psychology2

Before you understand how to make peace after a quarrel, it is worth remembering that female and male psychology are different. Screaming and throwing out emotions is normal and familiar for a woman, because her mood changes many times a day. For a man, such a phenomenon is something unusual and unusual for him. After all, his emotional state is much more stable than that of his companion.

Therefore, a woman quickly moves away from scandals and is ready to tune in to the wave of normal communication again. Psychologists advise giving a man time to comprehend the conflict in his head. You shouldn’t immediately try to hang yourself, talk about your mistakes and ask to start all over again. A man needs to think about what happened, weigh all the words spoken. Therefore, the best solution is to give him time to rest.

He can go to a friend’s house, go out for a walk with the dog, or just sit silently at his laptop before work. You shouldn’t approach him with suspicion and try to convict him of something. A man just wants to rest after a conflict, relax and relieve tension.

As a sign of reconciliation, you can invite him to dinner in a calm voice and talk during the meal. Psychologists advise not to make a festive show out of the reconciliation process, for which dozens of luxurious dishes are prepared. This is unacceptable and stupid. After all, a quarrel is a common everyday phenomenon, and reconciliation should be the same.

If offensive words were said by a woman, it is worth apologizing during dinner and saying that it was said in a fit of anger.

Control4

Self-control is an important thing in relationships, which can help avoid many conflict situations. You can even say that a woman who has learned all the basics of self-control is a wise woman. After all, ladies are more emotional and quick-tempered, so it is most likely to hear unpleasant things from their lips during a conflict.

This does not, of course, negate the fact that there are also hysterical personalities among men, but that’s not the point now. A woman needs to learn to cope with her impulses of hatred and try to reduce the ardor in the period after the conflict. Therefore, you should not approach your partner after a quarrel if demons are still naughty inside.

You should sit down, turn on calm music, take a comfortable position, close your eyes and relax. You need to stay in this state for 20-30 minutes; during the meditation period, there should be no resentment or negative thoughts in your head. Only good. After maximum relaxation, you can go to the man and try to start a dialogue. The main thing is to hold on and not give in to negative thoughts. Otherwise, the conflict may escalate into a new quarrel with memories of past events, reproaches, and rude statements. Who needs such a result? That's right, no one.

Silence5

All people want support, especially during difficult periods, for example, after a quarrel with a loved one. At such moments you want warmth, support and pleasant words. Therefore, we often go to friends, comrades, parents and talk in detail about what happened. Psychologists say that this can turn against us, so you need to keep all the details of the quarrels to yourself.

Yes, of course, seeing all people as enemies is wrong and stupid. But no one talks about the enemy side. After all, even excessive care from relatives can become a negative aspect in relation to quarreling partners. And one more thing, we all know that there are as many opinions as there are people. Therefore, when telling someone about the situation that happened, we automatically sign ourselves up for criticism, because they may not agree with our point of view. For example, call your partner and support his position, which will only reduce the likelihood of a calm reconciliation.

The same goes for parents. What do loving parents want? Of course, so that the children make peace at any cost. Even if conflicts remain unresolved, even if all grievances lurk in the soul - as long as there are no quarrels. Therefore, they will strive with all their hearts to resolve the quarrel. But just because the spouses demonstratively make peace and kiss each other, the problem will not disappear.

Therefore, it is important to remain silent, and not to show by your appearance at work, visiting friends and parents that something is wrong in the family. If you need help, you should go to a specialist who will work on a specific situation and resolve the conflict.

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