Take it and like it: what you need to be
“I want the guy to like me,” the desire is simple and understandable. Take it and like it, win a man. Any girl can do this by upgrading herself on several points.
watch yourself
Let's agree that unshaven armpits, cellulite and other attributes of natural beauty are for a narrow circle of connoisseurs. The vast majority of guys like clean hair, smooth legs and light makeup - mascara will open up the eyes, balm will make the lips more sensual, and highlighter will hide signs of fatigue. A couple of times a week – physical activity to keep the body in good shape.
Have your own style
Well-groomed people won't get you very far. Everyone is running around the salons. You have to stand out from the crowd of “well-groomed” people, but what usually makes you stand out is charisma – your own style, your own point of view, an aura of mystery. How to develop charisma in yourself? Learn to dream (and read), get out of the captivity of prejudices, start an unusual hobby. Coupled with courage and responsibility, this will make you charismatic like Joan of Arc.
Be optimistic
There is nothing more asexual and unattractive than a dissatisfied face, whining and complaints, guys are sure. They, who have shouldered the concern of survival in the name of procreation, after a tiresome hunt for money and fame, want to bury themselves in something warm, soft and positive. A smile on your face is more valuable than professional makeup.
Turn on the "hostess"
No one has canceled the strong connection between a man’s stomach and heart. If you don’t know what to do, if you really like a guy, invite him to dinner. You can’t help but like a steak cooked by your own hands and a shirt ironed the next morning (check the degree of doneness of the steak).
Inspire
A girl who knows how to listen, appreciate and praise is worth her weight in gold. Guys need the boost of pleasant and inspiring words no less than sex. Have you heard that behind every great man there is a great woman? Women muses are not just liked. They become a necessity of life, and this is an order of magnitude more than just being liked by someone.
Flirt
For a snack - a simple and accessible technique with which you can attract the attention of any man without exception. This is flirting, that is, a wide package of verbal and non-verbal means of seduction (compliments, stroking hair, open mouth). You like flirting girls instantly - you can’t go against nature.
In principle, this is enough to please a guy and even make him fall in love. A well-groomed, smiling and flirting girl cannot help but like her. Unlike the one we'll talk about below.
How to behave: 5 tips from psychologists
Having an attractive appearance gives you credit for male affection, which is very easy to waste. If interested strangers quickly cool down on you after meeting you, it means you don’t know how to behave correctly. Take our advice on how to turn from a simpleton into a real heartbreaker.
Exude optimism
Eternally dissatisfied ladies with an arrogant face evoke an instinctive desire to stay away from them. Friendly, sociable and cheerful people, on the contrary, attract like a magnet. Smile, enjoy yourself and life, then many people will want to become part of your world.
Show sympathy and interest
Unobtrusively let the guy know that you like him. This can be done with a glance, a smile, or light flirting. Just don't overdo it - don't pounce on him with kisses and hugs.
During communication, shift the focus from your loved one and turn your mind's eye to the guy. Ask questions, listen with passion and attention, and be sincerely surprised. Such simple things, but the effect will be simply stunning.
Don't burden yourself
All girls know that if a guy is in love, he will gladly pay for his beloved and help her. But for some reason many people confuse cause and effect and extract investments from guys who don’t care about them. Remember, dear ones, if a man doesn’t have sympathy for you yet, your gaping hungry mouth will not give it a chance to arise.
Don’t ask for favors and try to pay for your leisure time yourself. If the guy liked you, seeing your independence and self-sufficiency, he will be enchanted even more. Just don’t refuse the gifts you’ve already bought - thank them warmly and compensate them with something, at least symbolically.
Live an active and interesting life
Passionate people have incredible charisma and charm. And if you also achieve some results in your hobby, then you are guaranteed an army of fans.
You can also approach the guy you like through his interests. Find out what he does in his free time, what music he listens to, what films he likes and slowly expand your horizons. This is perhaps the easiest way to make a person fall in love with you.
Be confident in yourself
Self-doubt comes from wanting to appear to be someone you are not. Too much energy goes into making a good impression. Someone else's opinion becomes a measure of your well-being, you constantly doubt, rush about, fuss.
There is a way out of this vicious circle - to become the person you are trying so hard to pretend to be. If you want to appear smarter - read books, try to look like an athlete by taking pictures with a basketball - it’s better to spend this time on real training. Yes, it requires effort and time, but the effect will be real, not fake.
He won’t like it: you don’t need to be what you are
Guys sometimes fall in love with grimz, bitches, fools and ugly girls, yes. In principle, you can live with the hashtag #love me any # and not worry about anything. Just in case, I’ll tell you what women’s “highlights” men can’t stand.
Infancy
The opinion that childish girls make guys want to take care of them should be classified as a myth. Irresponsible, lisping young ladies, at best, make you smile. Condescending, of course. The trend has long been for caring, purposeful and independent women who are both galloping horses and burning huts. And yet, turning on a little girl and wanting to hold him periodically is worth it in order to stimulate his masculinity.
Mismanagement
No one forces you to cook at the haute cuisine level, but you simply have to cook scrambled eggs, wipe off the dust and throw things in the washing machine. On the other hand, history knows many examples when Mary-artisans (who sew cross-stitch and bake pies) remain outside of male attention, and slobs are surrounded by a crowd of admirers. But today we are discussing the question of how to please a guy with a high probability, and not as an exception.
Brain blow
Women's favorite pastime, “blowout the brain,” tops the TOP of negative female traits among guys. If a guy doesn’t meet your expectations or doesn’t fulfill your desires (didn’t call, didn’t give you a gift, drank too much) – this is not a reason to start a large-scale, protracted and debilitating scandal. Cut to the chase - a guy may have things that are more important than you, as well as his own opinion on any matter.
Boring sex
A boring sex life is a 99% chance of making a guy stop liking him. Boring sex destroys couples who have eaten a ton of salt and gone through fire and water. Boring sex will destroy nascent feelings in the bud. Remember - initiative in this matter is not only not punishable, but is encouraged and even rewarded.
Bad manners
A bad girl can be turned on in bed. In a restaurant, eat steak with a knife and fork. When speaking, do not interrupt, but listen. Use a handkerchief when you sneeze. Cover your mouth with your hand when you yawn. Don't pick your nose. Don't swear. Be a well-mannered girl, because the vast majority of guys still like ladies, and not unbridled, vulgar or femme fatales.
War paint
A special case of bad manners is “war paint”. Leave dark lipstick, bright eye shadow, a “mask” of foundation and powder for meeting with friends. They will definitely appreciate it, unlike guys who appreciate it for being natural. By the way, what we girls call highlighter is usually mistaken by guys for “sweating.” And they are ready to put up with the imperfections of our skin so as not to get their shirts dirty on the “plaster.”
Share your secret
The study Personalistic Self-Disclosure and Attraction: Basis for Relationships or Scarce Resource, published by the American Sociological Association, shows that disclosures signal trust and willingness to enter into a relationship. If a person does not talk about himself, then he broadcasts the exact opposite.
Hence the conclusion: to establish a connection with someone, you need to open up.
This should be done gradually. First, share some superficial information: where you are from, what family you grew up in, what kind of music you like to listen to. Then move on to more personal topics: what goals do you set for yourself, what influenced your development. Just be careful not to tell your whole life story at the first meeting.
Web flirting: how to please a pen pal
Let's move on to the issue of seduction in virtuality, when effective means of seduction - gaze, smile, manners - are not available for use. Let's talk about what you need to do to get a guy to like you via correspondence on VK, on a dating site and any other web portal.
Can words be more effective than scarlet lipstick or a juicy steak? After all, in the beginning there was just the word. How do “grandmothers” spell their teeth? Or do selling texts sell? Words, both spoken and written, evoke an emotional response, and emotions are exactly what we need.
What should you write to the guy you like in order to draw attention to yourself and immerse you in a whirlpool of experiences and feelings? Here are some fundamental rules for effective correspondence.
In a positive way
Do you remember about the optimism that guys need so much? So write in a positive way, and don’t discuss issues of the financial crisis (worldwide and personal) and mental tedium (“life has no meaning”).
For diversity!
Not only sex, but also correspondence should not be dull. Change the topic (but don’t jump like a flea from topic to topic), talk about different things (pleasant ones, of course), express your point of view. In general, create the image of a girl with a broad outlook. Fortunately, you can always turn to Google for help - learn something new and share the news (“They say the Higgs boson will destroy the Universe!”).
"Selling" yourself
In text - sell. Unobtrusively highlight your strengths. The key word is unobtrusive. Not directly - “a Komsomol member, an athlete and just a beauty,” but by chance - “I was doing yoga in the park and witnessed such a scene.” Or – “I think about you even when I’m in the gym.”
Light is not a wedge
Don't put him at the center of your life. Even if this happened (he became the center of your universe), do not bring him into the picture. Create the image of a girl with various hobbies. “I’m sorry that I can’t give you as much time as I would like. But I’m just torn – work, fitness, helping homeless animals. And I can’t help but communicate with you - you are unique and interesting!” I assure you that you will look unique and interesting.
Before you send
What is written with a pen cannot be cut out with an axe. Once you hit the “send” button, there is no turning back. All mistakes, bad jokes and taboo vocabulary will remain forever in history. First, think. Then write. Reread it and only then send it.
This is enough to attract a guy's attention to your extraordinary persona online. By the way, correspondence is the ideal means of helping in a situation when the guy you like is not paying attention. Find his social media account and hunt him in chat, impressing him with his intelligence (thanks, Google) and well-rounded personality.
How to look to impress a guy at first sight
Female beauty is a weapon that has destroyed many men. Both literally and figuratively. Absolutely every girl has the potential to become more beautiful than she is now - if only she had the desire. Let's figure out what makes up that very external attractiveness and how to upgrade it.
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Health is the basis of beauty
Throw all the numbers out of your head. If beauty could be so easily measured using a ruler, a demo sample of an ideal girl would long ago have taken its place of honor in the Chamber of Weights and Measures in Paris.
Health is the foundation on which attractiveness rests. It is useless to work on your style, take makeup lessons and fry in the solarium while you have a gap on this point.
What does a girl who is healthy in all respects look like? She is fit, not too thin or overweight, she has a regal posture, healthy skin, shiny hair and even white teeth. This is the ideal you should strive for.
Take the first step today - give up sweets. They negatively affect three components of beauty at once - figure, skin and teeth.
Don't be a slob
A neat girl with average appearance will give odds to the most beautiful slob. Make sure your clothes are always clean, fresh, and well ironed. Underwear is no exception, even if no one but you sees it.
Dedicate at least 2 hours a day to personal hygiene and self-care: hair removal, manicure, pedicure - that’s all. The result will not be long in coming - you will not only look better, but also gain self-confidence.
Dress stylishly
With the help of clothes you can either emphasize your advantages or disfigure yourself. I'll tell you about 4 principles in choosing an outfit.
- Relevance. You should not dress up in a short sundress if you are going to get a job. Or flaunt a transparent blouse at your 10-year-old sister’s birthday party.
- Adequacy. The things you wear should match your age, social status, and figure. Ignoring this rule will make you not only ugly, but also comical.
- Modernity. Take the time to study which clothing styles are in fashion today and which are already outdated. Outdated things make you old.
- Restraint. Don't try to attract attention with an abundance of jewelry and colorful clothes. Otherwise, the gypsies on the streets will begin to mistake you for one of their own.
Advice: if you doubt your ability to select clothes, use the services of a professional stylist. Or take a style course yourself.
To make it a little easier for you, I have compiled a hit parade of things that men hate:
- leggings;
- baggy trousers and dresses;
- T-shirts with children's designs;
- jeans with huge holes;
- shapeless jackets;
- shiny tights.
Get rid of these things, and you will be closer to your cherished goal. And then you can gradually develop a sense of style and good taste. The ubiquitous Instagram will help you.
Know when to stop your makeup
Men love naturalness, so refrain from bright camouflage. A little lip gloss, blush and highlighter will make your face look fresher and younger. If you use foundation, make sure that there are no marks left on your clothes.
To bite or not: how to understand that a guy likes you
Will tell about the results of the impact pickup...
- Sight . Any guy will tell you that looking into the eyes of a girl you like is a real challenge. If he looks shy, looks away, or can’t look away, he’s hooked.
- Initiative . A guy persistently initiates communication for two reasons - either he needs something from you, or he really likes you. If you have nothing to take from you, it means you like it.
- Self-promotion . Obviously, if a guy picks up a guitar or, seeing a horizontal bar, demonstrates the strength of his biceps - he tries in every possible way to show his best sides - he definitely wants to please. Which means he likes you.
- Tactile contact . If he likes you, he will want to be closer to your body. And until it comes to bed, he will come into contact with you in any available way - touching your hand, removing specks from your clothes, or collapsing on you on the sofa when you are sitting at a party.
Do you want to practice the art of liking? Register on any dating portal and collect fans. In general, develop the skill of making people like you in any situation. Remember, right? Take care of yourself, flirt, smile. Good luck!
Stay visible
The more often we see a person, the more we like him. Science confirms this. One study, Proximity and Peership: Bases of Balance in Interpersonal Attraction, asked college residents to rate their attitudes toward their neighbors. It turned out that boys and girls liked those who lived nearby more: in neighboring rooms or on nearby floors.
In ordinary life, this means that if you and a guy visit the same place (university, courses, gym), then you have a better chance of being attracted to him.
If you met by chance, say that you would like to continue communicating. Just don’t chase the person: it will scare away rather than attract.
The most important condition
The famous psychologist Labkovsky claims that in order to please absolutely any person, including a man, a woman must like herself. Often girls misjudge the importance of mental balance and try to externally decorate themselves with all sorts of objects.
This mania goes beyond all limits. More and more women are turning to the services of a plastic surgeon to change part of their body; they remake themselves externally, but remain the same internally. Therefore, in the case of a successful operation, nothing changes in relationships with men except sexual interest.
If guys only assessed a girl’s appearance, then all the beauties with pumped up lips or butts would be happy. But they, like all people on the planet, are looking for their happiness, they are disappointed and experience self-doubt. And even more, because they go under the knife, risking their own lives in the hope of pleasing at least someone.
Another tactic involves unconditional worship of men. The girl agrees to all the conditions of her partner, she tries to please him in everything. She looks at a man like a deity and absorbs his every word. Not the least role in this is played by the popular myths that the conquest of the male sex consists of placing him on the throne, praising him, and taking into account only his interests.
In fact, this approach can destroy any chance of a harmonious, healthy relationship. A woman constantly breaking herself, adapting to someone else, will accumulate anger, resentment, dissatisfaction with herself and will definitely not like her man.
Read more about how to win a man.
How to keep the attention of the man you like
The heat of love has touched each of us at some point. And sometimes we make enormous efforts to please the object of our love, and then we relax. And therein lies the biggest catch. Let's say you've been looking for the man you like for a long time. On the way to your goal, you sacrificed your interests, limited yourself, spent money on a new wardrobe and beauty salons. And here is the long-awaited victory! You have won the heart of a young man, and things are already moving towards the wedding. But suddenly he unexpectedly announces that he wants to break up. You are in shock, you don’t understand what is happening. So what happened? Perhaps your partner has lost interest in you or realized that his feelings are not as strong as he would like.
There can be many reasons for separation. But we must remember that men are first and foremost hunters and conquerors. This is inherent in nature and cannot be changed, but a wise woman can use this trait for her own purposes. Think about your relationship with your lover. Surely you already decided that it was in your pocket and relaxed. But men love novelty in relationships. They like it when a woman is able to surprise even after years of marriage. If the beloved has turned into a boring, insipid homebody, the young man may lose interest in her and decide to break up. You can see what other mistakes you should avoid on the love front here:
When the main reason why men end relationships with their partners is known, a woman needs to remember it and adjust her behavior at the right time. This can be done in the following ways:
- Cruel Games
Imagine yourself in the role of an important person who is always busy and does not have much time for relationships with the opposite sex. Try to get into the role. Find something to do so that your life is truly filled with activities and meetings.
Dose the time you devote to your lover. You can even start a game with him: today you are sweet and caring, and tomorrow you suddenly disappear. After a short time, you appear with an apology and an explanation that you were very busy, so you couldn’t meet.
Another game involves a radical change in mood. One day you are gentle and sweet, the next you are determined and cold-blooded. The young man will be confused by the versatility of your character and will decide that he will definitely never get bored with you.
Be mentally prepared for the fact that psychological games will require serious physical and emotional costs from you. It won't be easy at times. But if you want to please a man not for a couple of months, but for the rest of his life, then you need not to feel sorry for yourself, but to mobilize all your strength and direct it towards achieving your goal.
- Competition
Ask your lover to help you with something, such as moving furniture or picking you up from the store. If he refuses a favor, do not persuade or impose. Agree that he is very busy and say that you will ask a colleague or an institute friend. Then the young man will know that he has competitors. This will make him be more attentive to you.
However, you should not go too far and give a man a reason to suspect you of a double game, be jealous and not trust you. Don't be flirtatious or flirt with other guys. Explain to your partner that you really need a man’s help, that there are things that you cannot cope with on your own, because you are simply not so physically strong.
- Hobbies and interests
A man is not a reason to give up your hobbies and hobbies. Don't limit your life to your partner. Be active, be interested in new knowledge and skills. After all, if you look at your partner, you will see that he did not give up his favorite fishing and going to the stadium with friends for your sake.
Therefore, if you want to please a man, then do not abandon your hobby, but, on the contrary, expand your circle of hobbies. Then the young man will see that his beloved is a self-sufficient person, and will not be afraid that over time you will begin to forbid him to do what he loves.
- Programming the future
This doesn't mean you need to convince your boyfriend that in five years you will have a mortgage and two children. He will most likely run away from such a prospect. In this case, programming means establishing connections between all aspects of a man’s life and you. You must become part of the young person’s everyday life and create common traditions and rituals. For example, make it a habit to visit friends every Friday and play board games. Or cook lunch together on Saturdays. Or on Wednesdays, meet him near the office to sit in a cafe in the evening.
Such traditions teach your partner that you will always be a part of his life. You can also give small souvenirs so that they remind the guy of you.
If you just met and don’t know each other well, tell your boyfriend more often what you like, for example, that you like cappuccino in the morning or dark chocolate rather than milk chocolate. The gentleman will remember your preferences in order to pleasantly surprise and please you on occasion.
