Become his friend
If love at first sight does not come, do not despair! After meeting a pleasant young man, feelings on his part do not always flare up instantly. To help them awaken, you must first become his friend.
Becoming friends with a guy does not mean entering the friend zone. Being there is usually attributed to those who have no chance of counting on anything more than friendship. But it is friendship that is the first bridge on the path to winning his heart.
Spend time alone or in a small group, sharing important little things in life. If appropriate, you should give advice in difficult times or “give a vest.” The ability to listen will bring you closer, and this may allow a man to look at communication from a different perspective.
Love magic and prayers
Many girls despair and decide to resort to the power of magic, hoping that it can help them in love affairs. If you have tried all the available ways to influence a guy, but he still hasn’t paid attention to you, then, of course, you may be attracted to one of the following conspiracies.
Conspiracy to get a guy to ask you out on a date
For this ritual you will need a photo of your lover. Now you can easily get a photo by going to the page of the object of your sympathy on a social network. After printing its image, get down to business. Place the photograph on a flat surface and light a candle next to it.
Look at the appearance of your chosen one through the flame of a candle and say the following words:
“I, the Servant of God (my own name), call on the Servant of God (the guy’s name) to come to my house on the threshold and find my heart here. So that his thoughts call to me, so that his heart speaks about me, so that his feet obediently carry me to me. When he comes to me, he won’t knock, but will come right in. Yes, let everything be as I said. Amen."
In general, there are many similar conspiracies on the Internet, and if you believe in the power of such rituals, then you can use one of them.
Conspiracy for reciprocity and love of a man
There is a lot of information on this topic. One very remarkable ritual is popular among some women. First you need to buy an apple, cut it and take out the core, in its place you should put a small piece of paper. On this small piece you need to write the name of your lover and draw a heart pierced by an arrow. After this, connect the two halves of the fruit (the paper should remain inside it). Place the apple in the sun (on a windowsill, on a balcony, etc.). Now all you have to do is wait. According to experienced conspirators, as the fruit changes, the chosen one will increasingly be overcome by thoughts of you.
Periodically approach the apple and say the following words:
“As my apple will dry, so the Servant of God (boyfriend’s name) will dry for me, the Servant of God (your name).”
Prayers for the return of a loved one
Some women sincerely believe in the power of prayer, thanks to which you can return your lover. The Internet is replete with such conspiracies, and you can easily find the one that appeals to you the most.
However, many are skeptical about such methods of returning relationships and finding personal happiness. As a rule, in order to keep your loved one close, you first need to work on yourself and your relationship.
Give only positive emotions
Everyone has problems in life. But some girls are too fond of loading their friends with them. Not all men are ready to help for any reason. And no one likes to listen to endless whining about a bad life.
Instead of regularly appearing before your gentleman with a dissatisfied expression on your face, you should give your loved one positive emotions as often as possible. Humor in a relationship brings people together no less than sex.
Guys love funny girls. With them, they are not averse to spending time in the company of friends at a noisy party or watching a movie alone. Just don’t try to “trick” a man: they hate it when girls surpass them in “male” areas. And in terms of humor, representatives of the stronger sex are usually recognized as the soul of the company.
For coins
You can force a guy to propose to you with the help of coins. They are placed on a table covered with a tablecloth and covered with salt. They stir the coins in the salt and say:
The coins are taken to the temple and distributed to the poor people sitting on the porch. Each coin is placed individually in the palm of the person asking, and they whisper: “This is payment.”
Remain a mystery
For a man to be interested in a relationship with a woman, she must appear before him in the form of a mysterious beauty. We are talking about small secrets that should not be disclosed to your chosen one even after the third glass of wine.
Does your guy like the way you drive? Let him think that at one time he had to hire a private instructor, and not steal his father’s old Lada during his stormy youth.
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Does a man admire knowledge in areas that are interesting only to him? Of course, it's all about having a broad outlook. And this has nothing to do with the fact that before the meeting you “accidentally” spent 2 hours studying his page on social networks.
If you want to arouse interest, you should not try to appear in an image that is fundamentally different from reality. In the end, the secret will be revealed, and disappointment from the discrepancy between the “picture” and real life can scare away the chosen one forever.
Stage three: control shot
So, the main work has been done. The young man not only became interested in you, but also communicates, shows signs of attention, and shows in every possible way that he wants to start a relationship. Now you need to understand what to do so that the guy realizes he cares and admits it not only to himself, but also to those around him.
Find out everything about his mother
Ask about the nature of your relationship with your mother. No matter what, this woman is the standard by which evaluation is made. If there is mutual understanding between the son and mother, act in an identical way; if there is discord, do the opposite. For example, if a guy talks about the ability to cook deliciously, which he likes in his mother, try to surprise him with her culinary skills.
The main thing is to remain sincere, that is, you cannot contradict your own feelings. Otherwise, relationships that have gone further will collapse at lightning speed due to lies.
Sudden disappearance
If communication has grown into a constant exchange of messages and calls at the initiative of the young man, then the guy is probably used to it. The climax has arrived. Disappear for a short period of time, one or two days will be enough. Read messages, but don't reply. Ignore calls or speak briefly as if you are busy. And after such an unexpected action, go back and pretend that nothing happened.
After the young man’s questions, briefly answer that there were important things to do and casually hint that such an interest could only arise from a guy with whom you are building a relationship. And he is a loyal friend, so you don’t understand the complaints against him.
The act will most likely cause some distance for one or two days - a normal reaction of realizing how deeply the girl has penetrated into the heart. This time is needed to understand that the situation needs to change.
Then there will come a period of active action on the male side. And the woman will be left with gratitude to accept courtship and enjoy the moment.
Be confident in your own abilities
The times when the tremulous sight of a stranger losing consciousness at the mere glance of a gentleman aroused the admiration of men are long gone. Nowadays guys are more interested in strong, confident girls.
A woman's confidence should be expressed in herself. An upright posture, a smart appearance, a thoughtful image with her head held high can distinguish not the most attractive woman from the crowd of girls who are fussing and looking at their feet.
Whatever a girl starts, she must show the guy that success awaits her. Let it be a less than perfect cake, a slightly crooked dress, or a smeared manicure. The main thing is to present everything with a sense of accomplishment and obvious pleasure from the process.
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But you shouldn’t praise yourself and your achievements too much, otherwise the effect will be the opposite. Men cannot stand arrogant people, even if they look like top models.
Act on your own
If the initiative comes from a girl, this means that she does not intend to wait any longer. But such determination can lead to the most unexpected results - the guy will refuse the girl, motivating his decision with implausible explanations.
Meanwhile, his motives are simple and clear - a man does not want to give a woman the right to manage his life and make important decisions for him. Taking the first step, the girl seems to accuse him of helplessness, which can hurt a man’s pride. Therefore, if a girl cares about a person, she will take other, more careful actions.
Don't become his shadow
Sometimes you can hear a strange phrase from guys who were previously crazy about their chosen one: “We broke up because she lost herself in the relationship.” Alas, dissolving in your own partner and his life, contrary to your dreams, is the fate of many women. But this path will never lead to success in winning the sympathy of a guy.
Yes, it’s nice if he loves football, and you can visit the stadium together. But if such trips bring absolutely no pleasure, such communication can be called a one-sided game. Men also notice if a girl tries with all her might to feign sympathy or interest in his hobby. And this may turn them off.
It's nice to have common interests, develop and communicate on related topics. But there is nothing wrong with paying attention to any yoga 2 times a week, and not to the fitness center where the young man goes. A guy will appreciate the interest of a girl who is also interested in something new and unexplored for him. And it is likely that he will want to do yoga a couple of times instead of doing another set in the gym.
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How to interest a person
Before you start taking any active actions, you need to make sure that the guy is really interested in you . There are the following signs by which mutual sympathy can be determined:
if, while walking in a group, you constantly catch a guy’s eye on you, then perhaps he likes you;- tries to talk specifically with you: he is constantly interested in your life and tries to cheer you up;
- rejoices at every chance meeting.
If it seems to you that the guy considers you only a friend, then do not be upset. In any case, this makes it possible to get to know the person better. And if after this your love does not disappear, then you can confess your feelings or try to cause jealousy.
If you are absolutely sure that the young man loves you, then try to kiss him, and then he himself will move on to active actions.
Don't read his personal messages
The temptation to find out who your lover has been texting for 20 minutes during a date is very great. But the guy is unlikely to appreciate the girl’s desire to take possession of his mobile phone password, even if only temporarily.
The ability to value everyone's personal space is extremely important in a relationship. Especially if the girl only pretends to become more than just a friend. You cannot get into correspondence, photos, emails and other personal files unless the man himself suggested it or personally showed what his social networks are hiding.
Of course, there is a risk that a guy can date 2 or more girls at the same time. Or he simply regularly sends sharp jokes to his childhood friend, who is not averse to fooling around with his new passion. Or it may turn out that the chosen one is simply very attached to his mother. Therefore, every step is conveyed in correspondence via SMS.
In the process of direct communication, all each other’s secrets become more accessible. And what the man tried to hide may turn out to be a harmless hobby that he still did not want to reveal.
There's nothing worse than meeting his gaze while trying to unlock your phone while he's in the shower. Such an act will, at best, lead to resentment on the part of the man. And it can serve as a break in communication even in a friendly format.
How to answer? ↑
And now you've finally got your time. The guy asks you to meet. And what should I answer him? How can you avoid making yourself appear insincere, funny, or intrusive?
- There is no need to prepare an answer in advance; most likely it will not be suitable for the current situation, or you will completely forget everything you wanted to say when you hear your cherished statement.
- You may not answer him directly “yes” or “come on.” Be a little flirty, but so that the guy understands that your answer is positive.
- You can hug him or invite him for a walk.
Here are some recommendations on how to behave in order for a guy to ask you out. And this is not a complete list of female tricks that will help you quietly win the heart of any guy.
Give thanks for any action
Recognition is important for everyone. Men especially appreciate it when a girl admires their achievements. It is not necessary to require the gentleman to set a world record or jump with a parachute. It’s enough to say “thank you” and give him a sweet kiss on the cheek if he helped you carry heavy bags from the store or gave you a ride to work in the morning.
There is no point in praising something that is not at all related to his merits. Too obvious flattery is inappropriate and can cause doubts like: “I wonder what she wants from me if she sucks up like that?”
Then it will be difficult to prove that such manifestations of gratitude are an example of obvious sympathy. A man will look for a catch in every compliment. Or he will even begin to react negatively to any kind word addressed to him.
Learn to listen
The ability to hear a person will be useful to you more than once in your future life. A guy who is of interest to you not only as a friend should always feel female support. Listen and empathize, try to help, but do it sincerely, without hypocrisy or falsehood.
Your task is to achieve openness on his part, to help him feel confident and calm in your company. Only under such conditions will a man be able to trust and open up to a girl, talk about his feelings and invite her to date.
Be attractive to other men
Jealousy is a dangerous but effective catalyst for many relationships. Guys don't like to miss out on what others like. Therefore, getting a girl who is attractive to the men he knows may soon become the goal of the chosen one.
To do this, it is enough to always monitor your appearance, be cheerful and friendly. You can’t give hope to everyone, but you shouldn’t pretend to be a snow queen either. A little flirting in a company where there is an object of adoration in the person of a guy is the best way to interest. You should gradually pay more attention to his person. This will allow you to get closer and strengthen your acquaintance.
A guy may regard constant equal communication with all the men of the evening as frivolous behavior. Therefore, you need to slightly distinguish him from the crowd, but not show too obvious signs of interest.
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Become indispensable to him
Guys love praise and flattery, often veiled ones. Praise the guy for his actions and achievements, and often emphasize the fact that you also share his interests.
To do this, it is not at all necessary to sign up for an extreme sports section, or to become interested in biology and physics - just talk about what attracts you to it.
But moderation is important everywhere, so don’t admire your loved one every minute, don’t look at the object of your adoration as an idol.
Although men always enjoy female attention, they cannot stand idealization. Sooner or later, any person begins to be strained by the situation when they try to “fashion” an ideal out of him, which he actually is not. Guys run away from such relationships quickly and without looking back.
Intrigue
Like any energy, the energy of love is formed by a difference in potential. To intrigue and remain interesting, you need to alternate between “plus” and “minus”. Let me explain: they gave a compliment (they gave a “plus”, attracted attention) - disappear from sight (this will be a “minus” and will create tension). When you have achieved your goal, the man called for dinner, agree on your terms. Thank you sincerely, but say that you can only allocate two hours for the meeting from 18 to 20. This will make you unavailable, and therefore more desirable.
Dress feminine
The outfit should emphasize your assets: beautiful hips, high breasts, long legs. Don’t confuse sexuality with vulgarity: I talked in detail about what clothes to choose for dating and first meetings in the article “How a girl should dress on a first date if she wants a serious relationship.” Try adding a bright accent to your look: an unusual scarf, a stylish detail. This way you will attract additional attention to yourself and give the guy a reason to approach you, give you a compliment, and start a conversation.
