How to meet a girl? The Ultimate Guide to Dating for Any Situation

Reasons why men don't know how to meet people

It seems that for a normal man, approaching a cool girl is like hitting the asphalt. But this is where the stupid thing happens, which they later greatly regret. What's wrong with men?

6 reasons why it’s so difficult for us to meet girls in real life

1. Thinking. We are slaves to our thinking and limiting beliefs. The thoughts swarming in our heads: “You should meet women only when you have money / have a cool car / have a gorgeous body ...” - these are the very limiting beliefs or, more simply put, excuses. They make us avoid action and keep us stuck. To change your thinking, you need to take action. It is by acting that you will see that all your limiting beliefs are just profanation.
2. No experience. Everything is scary to do for the first time. Even having sex for the first time is scary, but what if something goes wrong? But this is not a reason to refuse sex. Same with dating. It's scary because it's unknown. So get started and find out it's easy.
3. External. When we look cool, we’re knee-deep in the sea, and our confidence goes through the roof. Our appearance and style can both reinforce self-confidence and give courage, and vice versa. Therefore, it is important to keep your body in order and look stylish, neat, and dignified.
   

   Interesting fact about clothes.

   Professor Andrew Elliot says:

   We found that women view men in red as being of higher status and more likely to earn more money.

   And it is this judgment of high status that leads to attraction and arousal of interest.

4. Weak internal state. A woman feels strength or weakness, confidence or fear, pressure or doubt. And if inside you are trembling and feeling like a little boy, no external props can cover up these feelings.
5. Weak communication skills. Many men do not know how to communicate competently and interestingly. They don’t know how to build a dialogue, what to talk about and how. And then the acquaintance comes to a dead end after the very first word “hello”.
6. There is no sequence of actions on how to meet girls and how to bring communication to a logical penetration. Suppose you made a pretentious approach to her? How to get the treasured phone numbers? How to arrange a follow-up meeting? Where to meet? Things to do? Without a clear algorithm of actions, you feel like a blind kitten.

However, women need a man nearby, not a boy. The one who doesn’t fall asleep at the slightest danger and always knows where to take his lady. These qualities seem to us to be self-evident, but in fact, girls cannot find such men during the day.

The logic is this. Are you taking the initiative? You can be relied on, you are responsible. You will always come to the rescue if necessary, and will not stick your head in the sand. Girls feel that such a man can surprise and please just like that, and not for anal and deep blowjob.

Conclusion

• It doesn't matter what you say to a girl. It is important to take yourself by the balls and take action.
• You can't predict the situation. Be prepared to be kicked out. Don't be afraid of it and take it calmly. A girl may have thousands of reasons for this that are not related to you: the hamster has died, she’s just in a bad mood, PMS, a bad grade in school, etc., etc.
• It is important that you act and develop. When, after a month, if you have done the approaches, you look back, you will understand what step forward you have taken. This is a reason for pride and additional self-confidence: “I did it!”

Good luck!

Fear of rejection: where it comes from and what to do about it

All men are afraid to approach girls. And the more beautiful the young lady in front of us, the stronger the fear. Fear is normal, it helps us survive. But it is worth separating: rational fear and irrational fear.

Fear of rejection is completely irrational and it is extremely important to rationalize it.

1. Write down in writing why you are so afraid to hit on a girl. For the life of me, you can clearly formulate the reason. Let me help: she may refuse. And what?
2. Then write out what will happen when you take your balls in your hands and meet her. For example, there will be a date, emotions, sex. Cool, right?
3. And finish it all off with an analysis of what will happen if you don’t approach her. There will be no date, no emotions, no sex. And there will also be severe self-disappointment.

Now look at everything you wrote and admit to yourself: is it better to come up and get high or get scared and be left alone?

Mistakes when meeting a girl

5 main mistakes men make when meeting a girl:

Eyes to eyes

It is very important for girls that a man can look them straight in the eyes. This shows confidence.

When you approach a girl you like and look at the people passing by or at the beautiful sausage on the counter, this is an expression of disrespect. That is, you obviously do not respect her.

And you shouldn't stare at her cleavage, but I agree, it's still worth a sneak peek.

Just look into her eyes. I’ll tell you a secret so you can see her reaction to your advances.

No interest

Dating is a game. You have to make it a one-goal game—hers. Of course, it is important for a girl to know that you are not a maniac, crazy or homeless.

But your main goal is to find out more information about her. Ask questions, give compliments and don’t interrupt.

Inability to read a woman's signs

A woman gives many signals when you try to seduce her.

So remember, when she giggles stupidly and wants to cuddle up to your mighty shoulder, you are doing everything right.

Act immediately: touch her arm or shoulder. And at the peak of interest, offer to move to a cozy cafe or take a number.

Anxiety, tightness, stiffness

When you're nervous, all this shit is easy to tell by your sudden movements and stupid facial expression.

You're just meeting a girl. Your future and the safety of humanity do not depend on this meeting.

Show your confidence. This will get her attention. Believe me, now girls rarely see truly confident men.

Lack of flirting

You must be able to flirt. Girls cannot live without it; they even flirt with potato sellers at the market.

And by that I mean showing confidence and speaking well. Sometimes one phrase can bring you many victories.

But remember that the line between flirting and obscenity is extremely thin. Having crossed it once, you don’t even have to try to correct the situation.

For example, how to meet a girl in a store or supermarket? Ask her: “What are you planning to cook for dinner? What if it was dinner for the two of us?” It's cute and flirty, the girl won't mind joining the game.

How to meet a girl on the street

This is the most difficult way of dating. You just have absolutely nothing in common, which means there will be nothing to cling to.

This does not mean that no one else meets people on the street; I will say more that this method also has its advantages. You can choose absolutely any girl. You know, any one at all!

You are unlikely to meet 90% of them in a restaurant or nightclub. And there’s a lot of work to be done here, the main thing is to remove the embarrassment. It doesn’t matter if she’s running to school or working, you can hit on her.

By the way, I have cool instructions on how to meet a saleswoman. Don't slow down and practice your confidence.

Be sure to make eye contact with the girl, don’t be afraid to look into her eyes.

Dr Claire Conway, author of the American Attraction Study, says:

When asked to think about attractiveness, most people think of physical characteristics such as healthy skin, symmetrical facial features, or a strong chin.

However, our research suggests that prolonged eye-to-eye gaze is at least as important, and perhaps even more important, than external characteristics.

5 steps to the perfect meeting on the street

1. Exterior. Whatever one may say, people are greeted by their clothes.

You don’t pay attention to “so-so” girls, so why should they fall for you if you look a little better than Quasimodo? It is in order for a girl to PAY attention to you and not immediately send you a damn look, that you should work on your appearance.

This applies to clothing style, hairstyle, and muscles, which are noticeable to girls even under a down jacket. Believe me, when you like yourself in the reflection of the mirror, you will become much less afraid of rejection.

2. How to approach a girl without scaring her?

Nobody likes it when passers-by on the street violate our personal boundaries. For productive dating, you need not to scare the girl and not cause unpleasant feelings in your direction.

To do this, she must see you before you say “Hello.” At the same time, your body should not get in her way. It’s you who needs to get to know each other, so in the first minutes of communication, adapt to her pace. And approach from the side or front.

3. Where do we start?

Another advantage of meeting people on the street is that the girl definitely doesn’t expect people to hit on her. Of course, if she is not some kind of nymphomaniac or completely magical. But you should be extremely careful with these.

So it’s worth starting with non-verbal communication: wink, smile, dance the mating dance of the black grouse. She should see that she's interested in you, but you're normal!

It's not so important what you say, it's how you do it that matters. Remember, you have 5-7 minutes to make a first impression. So don't be stupid.

4. How to win her with words?

And now you can talk to her. It is very important what comes out of your mouth first. Remember, girls who are approached on the street always want to know

• Why did you approach her?
• Who are you?

If you come up trumps and answer her unspoken questions, she will be more likely to make contact. For example:

“I was walking and couldn’t pass by such a beautiful girl.”

Don't torment her with your fables. Remember, she's not relaxing in the club, she's heading somewhere. So you have attracted attention, then briefly say what you want from her, throw in a couple of compliments and now, you are already talking about high things.

According to a study conducted in China, women prefer men who use metaphorical language to give a compliment.

They claim that compliments like “Your eyes sparkle like the morning dew” or “Your smile turns me into a naughty boy” are received better than literal expressions like “Your lips are so sexy.” This is because using metaphorical language requires more intelligence than more obvious compliments.

Remember, the golden rule: to attract a girl’s attention and leave her at the peak of her interest in you, you only need 5-7 minutes. Then you will start to stress her out, and not all girls have the willpower to tell the guy they like that it’s time to call it a day, but she won’t mind continuing the conversation on an official date.

5. How to end the acquaintance?

You can just take a number and never call again with a sense of accomplishment. Of course, if your plans do not include sex. So be sure to specify your plans: “I want to meet for coffee. Let's exchange contacts."

It is common for girls to speak in hints; a man must immediately indicate his position. Alternatively, you can immediately arrange a date or take a number and make the next meeting in a more relaxed atmosphere. And don’t forget to challenge, because the cherished numbers may not coincide with reality.

3 tips on how to immediately interest a woman

• Communicate with her as if you already know each other, but without fanaticism. Without familiarity and rudeness, but address him on a first-name basis.
• Never apologize for wanting to meet someone. For what? Essentially, you're expressing your admiration for her. Even if the girl is with friends or wearing headphones, your tackles will be on topic. You are the main one in your communication, because you are a man!
• Don't ask for a number. This is “Well, give me your phone number. Well, why are you so angry?” It will only be annoying. Girls need pumped-up men next to them, but these guys just take what they want. But remember, women love impudence from a man, but in moderation. Understand? Everywhere and in everything you need to feel the edge.

Clothes should reflect your personality

And if you put it in simple language, then “Dress normally, dude.”

Still from the sketch show “Give Youth”

1. If you're a slacker

, but put on
an expensive business suit
to specifically make some impression, then you are doomed to shame and failure. Don't underestimate girls: the gap between your real personality and the image you're trying to create will surface within a few minutes of conversation.

2. Leave these romantic stories about how you can’t judge a person’s personality by his appearance for the lower grades of a church school. In reality, if you go out into the street in a dirty shirt/jacket/pants, then you are either lazy or unkempt, and you are most likely unkempt in everything.

3. Million dollar secret: a woman most of the time looks at her shoes. So, if you have any money, it's better to buy a new pair.

How to meet a girl on the subway, bus, at a bus stop or by car

In terms of difficulty, dating in transport is in second place. Not only does she rush somewhere, she also throws her up on bumps.

How to meet a girl on a bus or subway?

The main thing is to remain confident and calm. The girls clearly read the wimps who are about to piss themselves from fear, so gather all your confidence in your fist and go ahead!

Make room for her

This is a great opportunity to make acquaintances. You will prove yourself like a normal man. And this will be the first action in her direction. And then try to start a conversation in any way:

• Where are you going?
• Are you going out soon?
• Listen, cool perfume. It suits you very well.

Question or request

How to meet a girl on the subway or bus if she is wearing headphones? Even easier than near a store on the street. She's definitely not in a hurry, unless the next stop is hers. Your task is to quickly interest her. Then the treasured number will definitely be in your phone.

To get a girl to take off her headphones, you need to carefully attract her attention. When she looks at you, use a gesture or words to ask her to take them off. By the way, you can say whatever you want at this moment, just quietly. “Great ass!” and show her to take off her earphone. This way you will relax, and she will pay attention to you.

And let your imagination fly. You can ask what's playing in her headphones, for example. Just don't forget to check when it stops. By the way, if she’s going out right now, it’s best to go out with her and get a phone number. The next train will arrive in a couple of minutes, and you are unlikely to meet this beauty.

If she reads, ask what kind of book it is and if she likes it. If she’s just looking thoughtfully into the distance, you can ask what she’s dreaming about. You can start a dialogue with anything. For example, ask her to pass on the fare, and then start a dialogue word by word.

How to meet a girl at a bus stop without her mistaking you for a crazy person?

A situational acquaintance or a compliment is ideal for stopping. Ask: “What bus are you waiting for?”, “Where are you going?” But don't forget to make eye contact first.

When you look into each other's eyes, it's easier for you to understand whether she wants to get to know each other or whether it's better not to get close to this time bomb. To do this, wink, smile, wave. She will answer you in kind or just smile sweetly.

If you have chosen an inadequate lady, it is at this stage that you will easily understand it. In response to your smile, she will twist her face or roll her eyes, the most cheerful ones may snap back: “What are you staring at?” Here, I think, everything is clear.

Be careful with compliments. Look:

In the first case, you give a compliment not to the girl, but to the dress. “Go crazy, cool patterns,” it sounds something like this. And the second option is aimed specifically at the girl. It’s as if he’s saying: oh, you have a great figure and great taste, baby!

If you start a conversation, don't forget to be a gentleman: help her get on the bus, especially when she's wearing heels. Even if it’s not on your way, but you didn’t have time to take contacts, drive with her a couple of stops, the girl will appreciate it and you’ll bring the acquaintance to its logical conclusion.

Rules of conversation when meeting a girl:

1. Louder than usual. At the bus stop and in transport it is noisy enough for the girl to be able to make out your mumbles. And even if she hears you, most likely she won’t attach any importance.
2. Smile. You don’t have a plan to dismember her somewhere in the alley? Then show your openness.
3. Broadcast positivity. You can't fart cheerfully with a sad ass, as they say. But here it is also important to keep the line: a positive man, but not a clown on vacation.
4. Gesture within your torso. This way you will show your relaxedness. When your hands are stuck to your pockets, it only indicates tightness.
5. Speak confidently and clearly.

How to meet a girl at a bus stop if you are in a car?

Many people have had this situation when you drive past a stop and there is a beautiful girl standing there or you see a beauty walking along the sidewalk. You can fix your eggs and drive by or get acquainted. It's up to you to choose.

Mistakes when making such acquaintance:

• Trying to block her path with your car. You will show your disrespect and create an emergency situation.
• Drive slowly next to you and yell: “Hey, baby! Let's get acquainted?". Man, no self-respecting girl will get into a car with a strange guy if he acts like an asshole.

If you like a young lady, park and get out of the car. And then start a conversation. It’s very cool in this case to explain what you’re doing here:

I was driving a car on business, I saw you, I couldn’t pass by! I had to park, I couldn’t miss such a beauty!

The fact that you parked the car, got out, and caught up with her is already a compliment for the girl.

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• Test the waters

Say what you would like to do, and then ask the girl what she thinks about it. If she is interested, offer her time together.

For example: “They say this cafe will finally open this weekend. Would you like to go there?

• Cheek brings success

Be direct. Say that you would like to go somewhere with the girl and offer a couple of options to choose from.

• Special

She should feel special on a date with you. A date is your chance to impress her. Envelop her with care and attention.

Put your phone aside, ask her questions and listen carefully, give her compliments.

• Second date

At the end of the date, say that you had a good time with her. Offer to meet again. You can say this in person at the end of the date or in a message.

• Keep in touch

Communicate in person and on social networks. This will help you establish contact, get to know each other better and strengthen your connection.

• We're all official

Tell your girl that you enjoy spending time with her. Invite her to meet.

It’s better to dot all the i’s so that no one has any doubt that you are really dating, and not just spending time with each other out of boredom.

You don’t want her to say to you in a couple of weeks, “You’re so good, I wish I had a guy like you!”?

How to meet a girl in an establishment

Meeting someone in an establishment has its own huge advantage: you immediately weed out girls who are lower in rank than you. But this does not mean that meeting people in an establishment is becoming easier. How to make a move without looking like an idiot?

Meeting people at a bar: drinking or getting drunk?

All people go to a bar for certain reasons:

• Mentally relax. For some, two glasses of wine are enough, for others, they need to get drunk on cabbage soup. Such people often go in groups to discuss problems at the same time.
• Cheerful companies. They come to the bar to have fun with alcohol, loud conversations and jokes for 300.
• Evening eat. Where is it easier to snag your partner for the night? Where there is alcohol. The cocktail loosens the tongue and liberates. And there is no telling what a one-night stand can develop into.
• Support Group. These are groups of girls who want to pick up men, but at the same time remain “yanitakaya”. More precisely, they are ready to be removed.

Men are often overwhelmed by the desire to fuck someone in a bar, right in the toilet. They approach every girl, trying to catch the eye of at least someone. This is the wrong position. So, not a single woman will spread her legs.

It is important to take into account the nuances that meeting a girl in a bar is different from meeting a girl in a club. However, you can use some of the tricks from this article both here and there.

How to meet a girl in a bar?

• Stick to timing. Ideal time for dating: from 19 to 21 hours to chat and do something serious and after midnight for one-night stand.
• A thoughtful image is the key to success. You need to stand out from the crowd, so draw attention to yourself with interesting accessories. If you prefer a suit, wear a stylish watch. For a simpler style, you can opt for bracelets or other accessories. The main thing is not to overdo it so as not to look like a rooster.
• Don’t rush at your prey right away, look around. Choose the girl you like the most, attract her attention and only then make advances.

How to meet a girl in a cafe or restaurant?

Mostly people go to cafes not to meet people, but to eat. But what prevents you from finding a girl for yourself there? By visiting expensive establishments, you automatically weed out low-ranking girls. And half of high-status women also wouldn’t mind meeting each other in a place where rich men gather.

So, you've seen the one you want to meet. Watch her. If she is sitting on a laptop, this is a difficult option. It’s precisely she who came to eat, to work, and you and your tackles will only irritate her. At most, you can try sending her a treat through the waiter. If she pays attention to you after that, you can approach.

Look around

Take a closer look at the leisurely girls. They slowly devour Caesar, look at the guests of the establishment, and think about lofty things. Such a woman is definitely inclined to communicate, so don’t be stupid.

• Proceed as usual: make eye contact, wink as you pass by, touch your hand. She should pay attention to you. Just remember the fine line between confidence and vulgarity, no bullshit.
• Her response indicates that you have been given the green light. Take a chair and sit down. You are in charge of the conversation, so no bastard apologies or mumbling. If something is wrong, she will report it. Be moderately arrogant. Girls love such guys very much. You can check with the waiter about her drink and send the same one, or add a cake to her cup of tea. You shouldn't order a girl wine in the middle of the day if she drinks tea. The gesture, of course, will be appreciated, but the woman may be driving.
• Remember 5-7 minutes. This is enough to warm up her interest in you and take your number. But you can continue communication, then this can be considered a first date. And there is already a different timing.