How to ask a man for money or gifts without getting rejected?

06.09.201604.07.2017 Nadezhda Plotnikova 23 comments

Not all girls agree to heaven in a temporary home with a loved one. Some enterprising representatives of the fairer sex want to meet a wealthy and generous gentleman who can solve all their financial problems: give gifts, give money for expensive things.

However, the problem is that such men are often wary of any attacks on their hefty wallets.

In this case, young ladies will have to try hard to scam a man out of money. But how can this be done gracefully, unnoticed by a man and with the maximum return from oneself? Very important question!

Should you ask a man for money?

Any man, regardless of status - boyfriend, lover, husband - must provide his beloved with everything necessary. It is quite natural to receive money or gifts from a man.

It is very important to choose the moment when you decide to ask for money

Not every man will often give expensive things or give cash on his own initiative. It is important for a woman to be able to properly promote him for money: with hints, cunning, and direct requests. How - read on.

Dating websites

“As long as fools live in the world, we can live by deception” is not just a line from a children’s song, but a harsh reality. Scammers use social networks, trading platforms, and dating sites. A list of popular methods has been compiled:

1. “Can you put money on the Internet, and I’ll give you cash when we meet?” Complicated version of divorce. An attacker can spend weeks or even months ingratiating himself with the victim's trust. On the day of the long-awaited meeting, on the way to the house of the chosen one or chosen one, a request is received to pay for some service. After all, it’s still on the way. Everything except the account into which the money goes is a lie. The phone number is unavailable and the address is incorrect.
2. Express divorce. One of the leaders in the rating. The basis is a request for help in any emergency situation: the death of a cat/hamster, illness of a mother/sister/great-niece. A real gentleman cannot refuse a little financial help to an attractive girl. In fact, behind the graceful forms and sweet smile, a two-meter hairy criminal may be hiding.
3. “How about nude photos?” Preliminary preparation - the attacker asks the target about close friends, relatives, and colleagues. After flirting comes a more intimate stage. The exchange of candid photographs is offered. Having received the pictures, the guy changes the tone of the conversation and threatens to send erotic content to everyone he knows if he does not receive a monetary reward.
4. “I’m selling the photo.” For a fee, a woman (less often a man) offers to send a video or photo archive with perky pictures.
5. The foreigner promises to send an original and very valuable gift by mail. All that remains is to pay the customs fee. Afterwards – blacklisting.

The list is completed by an epic scheme called “Anti-cinema for two.” One of the newest methods. The chosen one invites her gentleman to watch a movie in an intimate setting. She knows a great atmospheric place. A few thousand rubles per session on the big screen for two is acceptable, the victim thinks. The result is that the funds are sent directly to the scammers. There is no place with that name.

How to promote a man with money: advice from a psychologist

It is very important to choose the moment when you decide to ask for money.

The gentleman must be:

• in good spirits;
• calm;
• full;
• relaxed;
• mentally “disconnected” from work issues.

It is easy for a woman to help her boyfriend achieve this state. For example, after a working day, wait for him with a delicious dinner. During the meal, it is important to let the man talk. To do this, you should ask how his day was.

In the evening you can give him a small massage. Once the emotions have been spilled out, you should move on to the request.

Method of promoting a man 1: Give a hint

To begin with, you can try to simply hint to the man about what you need.

To begin with, you can simply try to hint to the man about what you need.

This can be done virtually without words. There are several ways:

1. On a social network, send a link to the item you like. Write that you want to buy it and are waiting for his advice. A normal man will either order the item himself or give money to buy it.
2. Write down on a piece of paper a list of the things you would like to receive by a certain date. Accidentally leave a piece of paper in a visible place. If your boyfriend didn't notice the piece of paper right away, ask him about it under the pretext that you can't find it. When he finds it, he will read it, willingly or unwillingly. At a minimum, he will buy one thing, and at a maximum, he will give money to buy all things.
3. Dreamily talk about what you want: “Darling, how I would like a new phone! I saw an interesting model in the store. We could take photos together in excellent quality!” The main thing is to indicate that the purchase will be useful to him. If the man does not respond, repeat what you said a few days later.

Method of promoting a man 2: Push him to envy

Share your impressions of the day with your gentleman. Be sure to tell them that you met your friend on the street. She was going to the beauty salon. Her husband (lover) gave her money for the procedures.

Prepayment

An interlocutor from the network may suggest meeting in a completely plausible place: a restaurant, cinema or hotel. However, not everything is simple here either. It turns out that a table in a restaurant or a hotel room must be booked in advance on the website and only with prepayment. The scammer herself sends the link. As soon as the man places an order and the money is debited from his account, the date is canceled: the friend stops contacting him.

What to do: do not agree to advance payment. Offer your meeting place, similar to the one chosen by the girl. The swindler will also disappear, but she will be able to keep her money.

How to trick a man into giving gifts: advice from a psychologist

Take a young man with you on a shopping trip
In order for a man to happily give you gifts and willingly give you money, you must adhere to some rules of divorce:

1. Give him a small but nice gift yourself. For example, knit a scarf. Justify the gift as a sign of caring for the man. After such an act, he will definitely want to thank you.
2. Be sure to walk with your boyfriend past shop windows before holidays: birthday, March 8, New Year, Valentine's Day or relationship anniversary. Hint to him about the gifts you want to receive from him.
3. Invite your man to go shopping or to a restaurant on his pay day.
4. On your birthday , talk about what other gifts you would like to receive additionally.
5. Always proudly tell third parties about a man's gifts in his presence. He needs to hear your words and other people's reactions.
6. Admire a man's success and give him little surprises. In return, he will also want to give something.

Why doesn't a man give gifts to his beloved?

There is a category of men who do not give gifts to the woman they love at all, or who give them only on major holidays.

There are different reasons for this behavior:

• peculiarities of upbringing (in his family, the father does not give gifts to the mother);
• greed;
• lack of confidence in the future of the relationship;
• bitter experience (if a man spent a lot of money and energy on his previous passion, and she used him and then abandoned him);
• a blow to pride (if he previously gave something that caused bewilderment, disappointment or laughter);
• not knowing what to give a woman, fear of making a mistake;
• poor memory for dates and significant events.

Important! A generous, well-mannered man will always give small gifts and surprises.

We voice the request correctly

Of course, every man (with the exception of notorious misers) will be happy to support his beloved, be a noble knight for her and wrap her in furs. However, all this is possible if the girl correctly, without demands and hysterics, addresses this delicate issue to her chosen one.

Method number 1. Personal request

This is an ideal way to ask for gifts from men. Firstly, you will be able to clearly explain the need for financial “infusions”, and secondly, to be honest, this way he will have fewer reasons to refuse you. What should you keep in mind?

1. Choose the right time to talk. If your lover’s day is not going well (conflicts at work, just hungry), the chance of hearing a negative answer increases sharply.
2. Voice your request confidently, without awkward movements or a trembling voice. In any case, you are not asking for alms!
3. Men love specifics, so your phrase about “what a beautiful dress that actress is wearing over there” is unlikely to be considered a request for money. Try to explain clearly, but without unnecessary details, why this money is needed.
4. Give arguments that will interest your lover. For example, colorfully describe how wonderful you will look at an upcoming corporate party after purchasing a dress and going to a beauty salon.
5. Be sure to thank the guy after your request is granted. And do it very dignified - for example, confidently state that you would not expect anything different from a generous, caring and real man with whom you are very lucky. The main thing is to praise sincerely.

Method number 2. Written message

You can be creative and ask for money, for example, in a letter. However, here you need to behave much more carefully, since a direct text in which there will be a demand for a certain amount can anger your lover. You risk getting a lecture about the difficulty of getting cash and your extravagance.

Using a magnet, stick a picture of a gorgeous set of underwear and a small text on the refrigerator: “If the best guy in the world helps with the finances, this beauty will be on me at night.” It's a rare man who can resist such a promise.

Hints are not the best option, but if the guy understands you well, send him a photo of your bare feet on social networks, then a photo of cute shoes, and at the end - your own sad face. This hint cannot be misunderstood.

How to ask money from a man or guy?

To ask for money, you need special tricks:

1. It is important to create a special mood before asking, so that the gentleman is ready to listen and understand you. A direct request will have no effect.
2. Start asking for small amounts of money so as not to immediately scare off your suitor. This way you will also check for greed. A generous gentleman will definitely support you and give you a larger amount.
3. Give the man time to make a decision. Don't put pressure on him.
4. Realistically assess the guy's capabilities. Don't demand the impossible from him.
5. Be sure to thank the man for the money you received.

Blackmail photos and videos (without police)

In the midst of a heated correspondence, the interlocutor suggests taking a step forward - exchanging nudes or virtualizing in a video chat. You are an ardent supporter of the initiative. And soon you get acquainted with the classic blackmail - “either transfer XXXX money, or all your contacts from social networks will have our correspondence, photos and videos.”

To avoid getting caught, do not indicate your real first and last name, and when taking photos or videos, place the camera so that your face or interior details cannot be recognized. If you were careless and you are being blackmailed, then do not pay the scammers. Be sure to contact the police. For blackmail for the purpose of extortion, the offender faces from 4 to 8 years. Report this, because often attackers are not particularly literate, and knowledge of responsibility can cool their ardor.

This does not mean that online dating is evil. Just remember to be careful. You can also meet people offline. Read our tips on how to overcome dating fears

and communicate without beating around the bush.

What mistakes should you not make?

Usually married lovers are the most generous with money and gifts.
To successfully deceive a man with money, you absolutely cannot:

• raise your voice;
• give an ultimatum;
• blackmail;
• humiliate his dignity;
• enter into the image of a victim who needs means to survive (to evoke pity);
• abuse requests;
• forget to thank for any gift.

Response gestures

As communication progresses, you can practice reciprocal gestures in the form of asking for a date or looking for tickets to various events. Occasionally take the initiative and show that this relationship is valuable to you. There's nothing wrong with paying for your cocktail. He will definitely appreciate the gesture, but will not allow you to spend money on larger purchases.

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