If a man disappears without an explanation of how to behave

There are categories of men whose behavior defies logic and explanation. Women are especially frightened by the sudden disappearance of young people. Moreover, it does not matter at what stage their relationship develops - at the dating stage, they have been dating for a couple of months or have been married for many years. Such actions confuse a woman, forcing her to be at a loss, engage in soul-searching, and find ridiculous excuses and serious accusations. Why and where do men disappear? Who is to blame for this and what should not be done? Male psychology will help you understand these exciting issues.

The main reasons for the sudden disappearance of a man

Each woman reacts to the sudden disappearance of a man in her own way: some look for reasons in themselves, trying to get to the truth, others are more categorical in this matter, considering such actions cowardly and irresponsible. And there are women who simply exhale and wait for their husband to come to his senses and come back, not considering it necessary to understand such situations.

But these are all blind games! To give an assessment or reaction to what is happening, you first need to understand male psychology. Therefore, everything is in order: a man disappears without reason or explanation, what does this mean?

Is this a problem

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Communication plays a huge role for a person. Thanks to him, he develops as a person, gains knowledge, and acquires skills.

The emergence and development of the psyche, the formation of certain human behavior is directly related to his communication. Communication is one of the factors of effective human activity.

From the point of view of Galina Mikhailovna Andreeva, a Soviet and Russian psychologist, Doctor of Philosophy, the communication model includes:

communication, which involves the exchange of information;
interactive interaction between individuals, when there is an exchange of actions in which the personal characteristics of those communicating are manifested;
perception and cognition of a partner to build interpersonal relationships.

At the dating stage

This is how the man tried to get your phone number! So insistent on a date! Everything was quite romantic, easy, that in the end it even became a shame! Wait to take it personally, there is an explanation for everything:

If a man disappears after taking your phone number:

I simply lost it, didn’t save it, mixed up the number, got my phone stolen;
burned out (at that time he had a rush of euphoria, but by the evening it passed);
I just wanted to raise my self-esteem by adding another number to my collection list;
he already has a girlfriend;
disappeared because he considered you an easily accessible lady, since you quickly give out your number;
he just didn’t like your tone/manner of communication/manicure (everyone has their own cockroaches), and backing down was already awkward;
personal problems (accident, someone’s death, illness, moving).

What to do in such situations? Absolutely nothing! If you didn’t save your number, believe me, the man will find a way out of the situation to find you. If something serious happened, he will definitely explain himself later if he remembers you. And if everything else - live calmly, throw the unnecessary things out of your head!

If a guy disappears without explanation after the first date:

The sympathy that is needed for the development of relationships never arose. For this, appearance alone is not enough—outlook on life, similarity of interests, hobbies, and goals are important. In this case, do not despair. It’s better to immediately understand that you are not on the right path than to get buried in conflicts or misunderstandings later.
The woman was too pushy and had actually already decided on their wedding date. They don’t just disappear from such individuals, they run away at breakneck speed!
The guy dates several girls at once. And, accordingly, he will stay with the one who turns out to be closer, prettier, and dearer to him. Do not be upset under any circumstances - be glad that dishonest people have bypassed your life!
Does not seek commitment. It happens: you are pretty, you speak smoothly, everything is to his taste, but he doesn’t want to continue yet. Maybe the man just got out of a previous relationship and needs to breathe out. Or maybe he's just afraid. Give him a couple of weeks - if he still doesn’t call, then there will be someone else.
The man felt that he had already won you over, so he became bored. There are types for whom dates are trophies, steps where they need to feel like winners. They disappear especially often if the first date ends in sex.
He is completely overwhelmed at work or personal life. And since you are not yet in such a close relationship to put you as a priority, he may simply spin out, postponing your communication. BUT! If you really hooked him, he would remember you!
After the dialogue with you, the man realized that he simply would not be attracted to you. Neither morally nor financially.
He disappeared because he made peace with his former flame. It may happen that your short communication coincided with their breakup, but they decided to get back together. Whether it happened on purpose or just this way, you shouldn’t worry about it anymore.
Something happened to him or his family/friends. This is unlikely, but it cannot be ruled out. If you are really worried about this, look at his social networks - if life there is full of bright pictures and statuses, you can calm down.
After the date, a holiday is coming. Yes, such men exist. They disappear so as not to give gifts, but after that they will definitely make themselves known. And whether you need such happiness or not - decide for yourself!

Even in the initial stages of a relationship, as you can see, there are enough reasons to make you wonder! So relax and let everything take its course. Experience his loss quietly, with dignity, without imposition or humiliation.

Dear girls, remember the most important rule: if a man disappears after the first date, it’s not your problem, but HIS. After a short period of time, there is a chance you won’t even remember it, so move on with a firm gait!

How to behave if a man disappears?

It’s unpleasant when they abandon you and don’t even explain it. I want to find the offender, hit him lightly on the head with a cast-iron frying pan and cry into my pillow for a long time to sad songs. However, this behavior will not bring you any benefit. The correct instructions are completely different:

Reflect on the situation and identify the reason for the man’s departure. You must clearly understand for yourself why he left. Awareness will be useful to you for three reasons. Firstly, you will find for yourself the answer to the question: “Why did the man suddenly stop communicating with me?” Secondly, you will understand whether it was your fault in what happened. If you turn out to be wrong, you can still change everything by taking the initiative and apologizing. Thirdly, every trouble in life is a good lesson for the future. Having analyzed the incident in detail, you will learn this lesson with an A plus. And now you will be more attentive to the choice of men and will not step on the same rake.
Leave the man alone. You can call him and find out the reason for the disappearance. But if he reacts aggressively to an attempt to communicate or ignores it completely, you should not continue. Your boyfriend has made his decision, and most likely it is final. Don't think you'll starve him out. Yes, the man acted ugly, but let it remain on his conscience. Console yourself with the fact that the boomerang effect will sooner or later overtake him, and the former boyfriend will be responsible for all your tears.
Take your mind off bad thoughts. Sitting at home within four walls and looking at photos together will not improve your condition. It's easy to get depressed if you don't work on yourself. Allow yourself to cry to your heart's content to throw out all the negativity, and then listen to your desires. Give yourself pleasant moments. Maybe you have long dreamed of watching a movie or eating cake at night? Did you want to buy yourself a new handbag or necklace, but were saving money for a gift for your loved one? It's time to take your mind off bad thoughts and make your desires come true. Don't sit at home, go for walks, chat with friends, play sports, go hiking and to exhibitions. Don't let yourself get depressed. Life is too short to waste it worrying about unworthy men!

Don't lose hope for the best. You will definitely find happiness in love, it’s just that the time has not come yet. Now try to get the unpleasant episode out of your head and enjoy the temporary freedom.

At the beginning of a serious relationship, when the couple does not yet live in the same territory

Your relationship is filled with romance - you wish each other good night, know your parents, plan a future together, meet mutual friends on weekends... And the man suddenly disappears without explanation.

What could be on his mind?

It seems to him that the relationship has nowhere else to develop. Everything is a dead end, the end. It’s logical, but the development is obvious - wedding, family, children. But no! We don't want to take responsibility!
The woman has become predictable and boring. By the way, this happens quite often, so women's magazines shout from all sides about how important it is not to lose yourself.
Doubts his feelings. Here the man disappears for about a week - during this time he fully comes to the realization of how dear you are to him.
Usual manipulations. A man does such tricks in order to teach his chosen one a lesson.
It seems to a man that you are not suitable for him or that the relationship is not developing according to the scenario that he has drawn for himself. Why didn't I understand earlier? He understood everything before, he simply delayed the decision, giving some imaginary chance to both of you. Then I got tired and saw that after all, no – you are completely different people.
It seems to a man that disappearing in silence is the act of a real male, for whom words are superfluous. Girls need to immediately adopt this trait, otherwise this will become the norm in later life.
He likes this adrenaline, passion, your angry look, stormy reconciliatory sex. Give your man more emotions, attend extreme sports, join role-playing games.

When a man leaves a seemingly happy relationship, step aside. The most you can do is write an SMS: “Hi, I’m worried, are you okay?” That's it, continue to live your life, without self-flagellation and feverish analyzes of your behavior.

A woman who has “too much” in a relationship

A man should always be half-starved of emotions. This does not mean that you cannot say an extra kind word to your partner - no, it is enough not to overfeed him with your care, attention and guardianship. In such a relationship, it’s even difficult to breathe, and the man moves away just to exhale.

In this case, the woman in the relationship takes up all the space. And this begins to irritate the man and even cause aggression. Why? Because a man wants to see in his chosen one not only a mother and a housewife. He wants to see in her a woman who believes in him and that he can take care of himself and cope with everything.

If you are already starting to notice such excesses, you are taking too much care of your man, pay attention to this. There should be no oversaturation in a relationship.

When a man disappears without explanation in a marriage

Men, while married, disappear without explanation quite rarely, fortunately. But still, if everything was quiet and peaceful, according to the wife, and the husband suddenly left, slamming the door, there are clearly some serious problems!

What can make a man silently run away from his family?

The man has big troubles that do not concern his family. Yes, this is unfair to the spouse, because it is not her fault, but the fact remains a fact.
Another woman appeared. It hurts terribly when a man disappears in silence, giving preference to his rival. What is this - weakness, lack of upbringing or avoidance of responsibility to your wife? It’s hard to say, someone else’s soul is in the dark!
Crisis in family relationships. Every family experiences a period of “stagnation,” when spouses are overcome by misunderstanding, indifference, and everyday conflicts develop into one big drama. Then everything results in the man leaving the family for a few days to rest and recuperate. And it doesn’t matter where: a hotel, a garage, a friend, parents - the main thing is to escape.
Disappearance as a way to resolve conflict situations. Manipulative behavior takes place if the woman herself allows it. A man gets used to the fact that he can disappear in difficult situations and appear only when all the problems settle down on their own. And the wife will bear this in silence, because she will not want to start a new scandal, which will again end in leaving.
The husband is tired of his wife's quarrelsome nature. Constant reproaches, sarcasm in the voice, conversations in a raised voice. A man begins to feel that he is being ignored, disrespected, and used, so sooner or later his patience comes to an end.
Introverted man. It’s neither his nor your fault, he’s just the kind of person he is. From time to time he needs to be alone with his thoughts.

In fact, psychologists note that a man cannot simply run away from a harmonious, happy relationship without saying a word. The wife knows exactly the origins of the roots that caused the escape. I knew before, but I took the position of “my house is on the edge, I don’t know anything.” It is impossible to avoid problems, they will not resolve on their own, and the pose of an ostrich, which presses its head to the ground in any possible danger, sooner or later leads to the fact that someone simply loses their nerve.

A prosperous family requires work, effort, and frankness!

Devaluation in relationships

Usually a man makes the following request: “I work hard, I try for my family, but I don’t hear words of recognition and gratitude in response. My woman used to give me some compliments, but now she has stopped praising me and thanking me for what I am. She takes everything for granted.”

This is devaluation. A man stops receiving admiration, gratitude, he does not feel like a hero. A woman’s daily life, work, and raising children take up a lot of energy, and she sometimes forgets to express her emotions. Although often just one smile is enough and the partner understands: “She is smiling - that means she is happy, I did everything right.”

He looks at her as if in a mirror, and if a dissatisfied face or total depreciation is reflected there, the man loses motivation, the meaning to move on. It moves somewhere to the side, stops acting, and the process of braking begins.

For a man, a woman is a great meaning for which it is worth moving, achieving results and being successful. I understand that, reading this article, you may say: “What should I admire anyway? My man lies on the couch all day and does nothing for me.” This is a signal that you are transmitting something wrong to the man; he does not have the energy to achieve.

I’m not saying that only the woman is to blame, she didn’t give something, but men are so correct. No. Men have their own stories and problems, which they usually deal with themselves. I am talking specifically about female manifestations, because we accompany men.

A woman’s task is to give a man the resource that will allow him to be happy around him and not make him want to step aside and distance himself.

Why is it easier for men to disappear without explanation?

Really, is it really so difficult to look into the eyes and find the right words for your woman? It turns out yes!

Why?

A man disappears because he is afraid of accusations. Naturally, stones will fly towards the one who initiated the rupture. To accept these stones, you must have courage, strength, and inner core. That's the whole point.
Doesn't want an explanation. It’s too difficult to prove your point of view, debate, swear. It’s easier, simpler, faster to leave in English.
He was not taught to make decisions and be responsible for them. Such men are morally weak, they lack prudence, will, and determination.
For a man, it seems that everything is already clear, without words. It doesn’t matter that it’s actually illogical, everything is crystal clear in his head!
He disappears silently, thus avoiding scandals. Especially if his passion is distinguished by his temper or complex character. Men are very afraid of hysterics, screaming, breaking dishes, etc.

The most important and banal reason is fear. It is he who motivates a man to disappear for a month, to block a number, to avoid a woman, to avert his eyes when meeting. This behavior is alien to the fair sex. As it turns out, in this regard they are more responsible!

Signs of reluctance to communicate on the part of a man

Analyze the situation as soon as you notice that the man’s behavior and his attitude towards you have changed. Here are a few “symptoms” that will help you understand your partner’s behavior and understand that he doesn’t want to communicate anymore:

the man avoids any touching;
does not answer calls or return calls, ignores messages and comes up with reasons why he cannot meet;

flirts with other women in your presence, carries on correspondence, and quite frankly, without being embarrassed by you and not considering it something indecent;
does not explain why he came late, was late, or, God forbid, did not show up at all;
is rude, shows aggression or indifference;
in response to your requests to explain what is happening, he says that you have fooled yourself;
does not use the word “we” when discussing plans;
you noticed that a lot of offensive jokes or words are said to you;
intimate relationships became cool.

As soon as you feel that problems have appeared in the relationship, do not brush them aside and do not blindly believe the man that the matter is only in your rich imagination. If suddenly your partner is offended and does not want to communicate, this is the first “call” that the couple is not doing well. Usually, if a man values his woman, he doesn't pout with her. A strong and self-sufficient person does not accumulate resentment, but engages in dialogue and tries to understand the situation. Insecure and weak people get offended.

Typical female mistakes

Are you desperate, angry, worried, crying, ready to kill him? Wait, don't do anything stupid.

The man disappeared without any explanation as to how to behave:

tear up his phone, bombard his text messages, no matter what their nature;
guard at the entrance or work;
pester his loved ones and relatives with calls and meetings;
when meeting, humiliate yourself, apologize for all your (and not your) sins;
threaten, blackmail;
lose yourself, completely change to please a man;
criticize or hysterically prove what pain the man caused with his vile act;
pursue him, offer at least innocent friendship (why you need it is unclear);
persuade him to meet periodically without obligations (you are digging a hole for yourself).

If you are in a serious relationship and are worried about the sudden disappearance of your chosen one, just call his mother or a mutual friend to find out if everything is okay with him. Complaining, harassing with requests, distributing control instructions for further actions is prohibited!

If you know that you have seriously offended a man, when you meet, apologize correctly and sincerely, without drama or other nonsense.

If people are married and a woman sees that her husband is having troubles at work, she needs to move away a little. Know how to feel your husband, empathize with him, but do it silently. A man is not leaving YOU, he just needs to step away in order to immerse himself in another area of his life. Accept it.

The best thing a woman can do in a situation where a man suddenly leaves without explanation is to do nothing! If you impose yourself, you run the risk of pushing him away forever!

Two outcomes

As a result, the situation can develop in two ways. This leads to two natural outcomes:

The girl does not want to let her partner go, putting pressure on him. He feels the loss of himself as an individual next to his partner and dissolves in the relationship. The guy feels discomfort, so he subconsciously leaves the woman in order to regain his own “I”. He needs to be alone for some time, even if there are no thoughts of separation or divorce. Without understanding this, the girl herself ruins the relationship. Constant calls and thirst for explanations only push your partner away. The likelihood of him returning becomes less likely. There is no need to talk about a situation where the guy initially did not plan for further development of the relationship, but the girl thinks differently, since self-humiliation cannot solve the problem.
If the man disappeared, but appeared after the woman’s call, then all is not lost. He is open to conversation, that is, he has not yet decided on his feelings. The further situation develops according to the partner’s scenario and depends on how competent her behavior is. There is no need to give in to the impulse to take revenge on him, to fall in love with him again and trample him. It’s better to analyze your attitude towards a man, think about what attracts you in him: appearance, status, personal qualities, or all at once. If it turns out that there are no feelings, and the girl is driven only by excitement, then you should refuse to continue the romance. But when you have feelings, you don’t need to immediately rush into his arms. It is important here to make it clear to the man that such behavior is not the norm. But there is no need to reproach him for anything, since this is another crisis that both of them successfully survived.

If a man has disappeared without explanation (stopped communicating or showing up on the doorstep), you should think about it and analyze the situation. There can be many reasons. First, you should try to find out the reason directly from him. But if he ignores the question, there is no need to be persistent and aggressive. Waiting will be the best tactic.

Subtleties of communication with a man

Every man primarily sees a woman’s appearance and evaluates her behavior. He cannot see whether she has a rich inner world, whether she is well-read, smart, or well versed in poetry and prose. But a man can “read” a woman’s mood and guess whether the dialogue will be interesting or boring.

Will she be able to appreciate his joke, or will he feel ashamed as a result of her reaction? By looking at a woman, a man can imagine whether a conversation with her will be fun and relaxed, or whether as a result of communication he will feel that he owes her something.

If all the men you have tried to communicate with do not maintain a conversation with you, then most likely the problem is with you.

Barriers to communication

Despite the desire to communicate, people sometimes have difficulty communicating with individuals. These difficulties in the psychology of communication are called barriers; they cause emotional discomfort, worries, and the inability to achieve the task.

The most common barriers:

when the interlocutors speak the same language, but put their own meaning into the words and simply do not understand each other (semantic barrier);
if each of the interlocutors is content with their own logic and cannot argue their thoughts and ideas (logical barrier);
a personal characteristic of the interlocutor that irritates the interlocutor, manifested in behavior, for example, sniffing, smacking during a conversation;

Barriers arise if people with different motives and goals, differing moral and moral attitudes, enter into communication.

It happens that you easily communicate with colleagues, and with girlfriends, and with relatives, but when communicating with the opposite sex, it’s as if someone has jinxed you. It seems that you are both pretty and intelligent, but you don’t see much interest from guys.

That's why men don't meet you

He just up and disappeared

Women's excuses: maybe he died or went to the hospital?

Man's truth: maybe, but most likely he decided to leave you. And he didn't have the courage to tell you honestly about it. Info 100%. The one hundred percent of male respondents who "disappeared" from a woman's sight said they were fully aware that they had done something terrible, and no amount of phone calls or late conversations would make them change their mind.