Man is a social being, but not everyone and not always want to talk to people. If you avoid public places, new acquaintances, and try to spend time alone as much as possible, then this article is for you. Here you will find out why you don’t want to communicate with people and what to do about it.
Causes
If you have no desire to communicate with people , then it’s worth understanding the reasons, let’s look at the most common ones.
- Constriction
There are many shy people who are simply embarrassed to communicate with people, especially strangers. They are not confident in themselves, so they are afraid that they will not like them, they are afraid of criticism and comments.
- Unpleasant interlocutors
If there are no people around you whose intelligence and life principles are close to yours, then it is not surprising that you have no desire to communicate with people. Few people enjoy communicating with a person with completely different views on life.
- Burnout
If you have to communicate a lot with people at work, sooner or later this leads to emotional burnout.
- Introversion
Introverts are people who gain energy not from communicating with other people, but from being alone. They feel comfortable alone and have no need for communication. They are interested in thinking, dreaming, and their own inner world comes first.
- Lack of social skills
Since childhood, we develop social skills when we begin to communicate with other people. But, if at an early age there were problems with socialization, then with a high probability they will continue into adulthood. And even if you are a confident and interesting person, you may simply not be able to carry on a conversation.
Human behavior
If everything is in order with his appearance, the person is well-groomed and neat, but those around him still avoid him, then the reason may be in his behavior.
For example, inappropriate jokes . A sense of humor is always good, but jokes must be funny and timely. People around, afraid of offending a person, may not tell him about his inappropriate humor, and will simply stop communicating with him. If you like to joke, then think about whether others like your jokes? Humor should not be vulgar, offensive, obscene, or affect the appearance and personal qualities of people. If you don’t know a person well, then it is better to avoid jokes when communicating with him.
People can be put off when a person talks about themselves too much . If a person constantly talks only about himself, then others may perceive him as an egoist.
Communication ethics allows you to talk about yourself, but only when asked about it
You should not tell others too personal or even intimate information about yourself, as this can cause embarrassment.
When communicating, avoid making inappropriate jokes and talking a lot about yourself
What else could turn others off?
- Imposing your opinion . Every person has the right to express their point of view, but it cannot be imposed. This is especially true for religion and politics - it is better not to touch on these topics in communication at all. In a dialogue, you should not discuss only those topics that are interesting to you: the issues being discussed may not be of interest to your interlocutor. Always try to talk about topics that are interesting to others.
- Discussing other people . Under no circumstances should you gossip or discuss other people behind their back. If a person is known as a gossip, then few people will want to communicate with him. You should not interfere in other people's affairs and give advice to others unless you are asked to do so.
- Inability to carry on a conversation . Not all people know how to clearly formulate their thoughts. The use of unnecessary words, excessive talkativeness, or, on the contrary, monosyllabic answers from which little can be understood can irritate your interlocutors.
Others are repulsed by the imposition of their opinions
What to do
If you don’t understand why you don’t want to communicate with people and leave the house , then you should understand whether you have apathy and depression. If, in addition to the lack of desire to communicate, you have no desire to do anything at all, then it is worth taking action. This condition can lead to real depression and suicidal thoughts.
If you have never been a sociable person, and you are comfortable being alone, then you should not try to change yourself. You probably have close people with whom you sometimes communicate, and if you feel so comfortable, then you shouldn’t make a problem out of it.
Also, don't worry if you don't want to interact with certain people. This is absolutely normal, and if you are unpleasant or not interested in a person, then you have every right not to communicate with him. If you don't want to communicate with relatives , then you need to know how to behave . It is problematic to completely cut off communication with loved ones, but it is worth minimizing it.
If you avoid communication, but this interferes with your life, and you would like to communicate and meet people, then it is worth taking action. If you realize that it is difficult for you to communicate with people, and you are hampered by embarrassment or lack of social skills, then you need to work on yourself.
The most important thing is practice. You must not miss the opportunity to communicate with someone. It must be remembered that to develop any skill, practice is necessary. At first it will be difficult for you, you will experience anxiety and fear, but over time you will become more and more confident in yourself.
You also need to become an interesting conversationalist in order to feel calmer and more confident. You need to read books, watch films, expand your horizons. This will help you carry on any conversation.
Depression
I don’t want to communicate with anyone... To figure out what the cause of this condition is, you can ask a psychologist for help or try to figure out the situation on your own. To do this, you need to answer a number of questions related to depression and consider its symptoms.
