Every person has their own fears. There is nothing shameful or reprehensible in this. It is with this reaction that we express our unwillingness to face some frightening situation. Being afraid of something is not at all a sign of weakness, as is commonly believed in society. If people were more tolerant of each other, there would be fewer crippled destinies. Being sensitive, perceptive and non-judgmental is actually a great art. It is important to know how to remove fear so as not to accumulate negative feelings. Only with such knowledge can you fully protect yourself from various negative manifestations. We must not just try to get rid of fear, but work well with this feeling.
Acknowledging the feeling
This is the first place to start. When we try in every possible way to get away from our own emotions, we drive negativity deep inside. As a result, irritation and self-doubt accumulate, and numerous complexes grow. This happens very often with people of different social status. If you don't work on a problem, it won't solve itself. You need to learn to meet your feelings halfway, to reveal them. Only in this case can we talk about full self-realization. There is an opinion that only a strong person knows how to admit his weaknesses. After all, when we reject the presence of worries, they become larger and gradually take over our subconscious. The sooner you can recognize the fact that a certain fear really exists, the greater the chances become to try to regain your peace of mind.
Why does this technique work?
The mind is always open to suggestions and can control them. When you quiet your mind and relax, thoughts begin to sink deep into the subconscious. While your mind is receptive to ideas, a home self-hypnosis session can have a powerful effect on thought patterns and beliefs.
Thus, a person sows positive seeds (thoughts) into the subconscious, where they grow and multiply. As a result, a person becomes balanced, serene, calm and self-confident.
Self confidence
It must be accumulated constantly if you want to be able to achieve your goals. When there is faith in one's own strength, fear decreases. It really works, you just need to believe in yourself and your own prospects. Self-confidence opens doors where previously there were only walls. The individual realizes that he is now able to overcome obstacles, despite the doubts that arise. Only in this case can you really set yourself achievable goals and strive to achieve them. The more confident we are in ourselves, the more we succeed. There is no need to allow fears to settle in your mind and begin to control it. You can very quickly get used to the feeling of your own helplessness, and then it will be very difficult to believe in your own prospects again. For this reason, you should never lose faith in yourself. The more inner strength we accumulate within ourselves, the easier it becomes for us to cope with difficulties. It is very important to learn not to give up at the slightest failure. A strong person is not one who never makes mistakes, but one who discovers the existence of internal reserves in himself. It is such people who go through numerous trials with dignity.
Fear of failure
From time to time, students from our university come to see me and suffer from so-called suggestive amnesia (memory loss caused by fear) during an exam. I listen to the eternal complaint (teachers are also familiar with this problem): “As soon as the exam is over, the answer immediately comes to mind. During the exam, I can’t remember anything.” In all my patients, I established a fear of failing the exam. Fear is the immediate cause of temporary memory loss. For example, I knew one medical student who was considered the most gifted in his course, and yet in oral and written examinations he was not able to answer even the simplest questions. I explained to him the immediate cause of his failures. Long before the exam, he was preoccupied with this; his expectation of bad things, caused by fear, each time developed into a long-term state of downright irresistible fear.
And every thought that gives rise to such a strong feeling is carried out by the subconscious. The young man's subconscious apparently took his panic fear before the exam as a requirement to cause failure - and that's exactly what it did. Therefore, on the day of the exam, the student was in a state that psychologists call suggestive amnesia.
To be honest
Many people have the habit of hiding their own weaknesses from themselves. This approach to life might seem funny and ridiculous if it were not so widespread. The formed habit of telling the truth will help remove fear and anxiety. You need to take this as a rule, literally cultivate it in yourself. First of all, you need to learn not to lie to yourself. Only then can you learn to be frank in front of other people. You should not be afraid to admit your mistakes. There's nothing wrong with that. Besides, they always teach us something. After all, this is how the ability to discover the available internal resources in oneself is formed. To be frank means to be open and not to withdraw into oneself at the first sign of failure. It should be noted that frankness is the greatest gift that few can boast of. The majority is still inclined to try to justify their actions with something, to look for those to blame on the side. Few, unfortunately, have the courage to be able to look inside themselves and draw certain conclusions.
He fired himself
A good friend of mine, a trustee of one large enterprise, told me how at one time he lived for about three years in a state of fear that he might be fired. No matter what he did, he always thought about possible failures. His fears were completely unfounded and were only the result of a sick imagination. However, his unusually vivid fantasy dramatized the situation for so long until he, afraid of losing his place, became nervous and unsure of himself. In the end, he was actually asked to resign from his position.
But, in fact, he fired himself. His long-term negative ideas and self-hypnosis caused a corresponding reaction from the subconscious. It was on this basis that he really began to make mistakes and make wrong decisions, which ultimately made his work as a trustee impossible. He would never have lost his place if he had immediately concentrated his thoughts on the desired pictures, contrasting with the pictures caused by fear.
Live through the situation
How often do people choose to avoid responsibility instead of taking active action? Living the situation means not giving up, not running away from your own fear, but meeting it halfway. If something really scares you, you need to find out the reasons for what is happening, so that you can then let it go forever. The feeling of fear is insidious because it subjugates the personality and makes one begin to doubt existing opportunities and prospects. To free yourself from negative emotions, sometimes you need very little: deal with the situation in a timely manner and not shy away from responsibility. What we allow to be soon ceases to influence our lives. It's all about releasing emotions. As soon as they stop destroying us from the inside, they lose their power and can no longer harm us.
Man's Greatest Enemy
Fear has been called man's greatest enemy. It is often the cause of failure, illness and tense relationships between people. Millions of people are afraid of the past and the future, old age, mental illness and death. Moreover, fear is only the content and consequence of your thoughts: you are afraid of your own thoughts!
A little boy is paralyzed by fear at the thought that the “brownie” is lying under his bed and wants to take him with him. As soon as his father turns on the light and explains to him that he invented the danger for himself, his fear disappears. This fear could not be stronger and more real if the “brownie” really existed and came to his home. But, having learned the truth, the boy is freed from fear: what he is afraid of does not exist.
Most human fears are devoid of any basis and are simply the fruit of a sick imagination.
Taking responsibility
The point is that it is important to realize how much fear affects your life. It is necessary to understand that every action taken has its consequences. Every day we unconsciously make decisions, even if we are completely unaware of it. If you have given up something important because of overwhelming fear, you should not be surprised that what you want has not yet come into your life. There is a huge relationship between what we allow ourselves to have and what we get as a result. If you believe that you are unworthy of something, then what you want will not come into your life. Feelings of anxiety and fear can be overcome if you take responsibility for the events that occur. As a rule, everything is perceived simpler and easier if there is a strong confidence within that you are doing the right thing. No matter what difficulties accompany you, there is a conviction inside that they are all surmountable. It is this conviction that allows you to move on and make certain plans.
He blessed the elevator
I knew the director of a large enterprise who could not overcome his fear of the elevator. Every morning he usually walked up to the fifth floor to his office. But one day he began to fight his fear. Several times a day and again before going to bed, he thought about how good the elevator was, and at the same time uttered the following formulation: “The elevator in my office building is a wonderful thing. The idea of its creation belongs to a higher mind. This is a blessing and happiness for all our employees. He does a great job for us. He too is subject to divine law. Like everyone else, I use it and it makes me happy. I feel the flow of life, love and understanding in my soul. I see myself standing in the elevator, slightly leaning my back, and many of our employees are standing next to me, I talk to them and they answer me warmly and joyfully. This is a wonderful feeling of liberation from fear, conviction and self-confidence. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this."
He repeated this prayer for about ten days to overcome his fear of the narrow space of the elevator, on the eleventh day he entered the elevator along with a group of his employees and felt completely freed from his fear.
Art therapy
A method that has become popular in recent years. With its help, you can really release accumulated emotions and unload emotionally. Feelings do not need to be kept locked up, you need to talk about them and constantly reflect on what is happening. Art therapy is an opportunity to look at the situation from the outside. By the way, it is perfect for correcting children's behavior. The fact is that a child aged 4-5 years is most susceptible to the influence of fear. Children are often afraid of big dogs, the dark, and various fairy-tale characters such as Baba Yaga. Such “scares” are quite natural, but they must be dealt with correctly. You can remove fear from a child through regular art therapy sessions. The child has the opportunity to draw his own individual “monster”, which can influence him for a long time. Sometimes it is enough to conduct several sessions for the problem to be completely resolved. When there is nothing left to disturb from the inside, external manifestations will disappear. In special situations, complex therapy is required. Series of classes are very effective when the fear is quite stable.
Mandala coloring
This method is widely used in resolving many conflict situations. Instead of sorting things out or focusing on the source of fear, you can spend your time productively. This is a kind of meditation that needs to be done regularly. Coloring a mandala not only prevents the accumulation of stress, but also helps to free yourself from everyday unpleasant experiences. You can devote a lot of time to this activity, even several hours. If you can, spend at least 20-30 minutes a day. This will be quite enough to free yourself from disturbing experiences. Coloring a mandala can be turned into an everyday ritual that will help relax the emotional sphere. In modern reality, such relaxation therapy cannot be superfluous. By coloring mandalas, there is a high chance that you will begin to realize the reasons for your daily actions and actions.
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Meditation
An effective method that, unfortunately, is overlooked by many. The thing is that people have little faith in this practice, even before they start using it. This is in vain, because it can give a large charge of positive energy and motivate qualitative changes. The art of meditation needs to be learned. Of course, you won’t be able to master it right away, because to do this you need to be an open person and try to live according to your inner nature. Most people are unable to achieve a state of relaxation because they are too focused on solving everyday problems. Numerous problems often make it impossible to relax and feel the joy of life. Correctly performed meditation normalizes blood pressure, teaches you to keep emotions under control, not to get upset over little things, and evens out the entire sphere of feelings. This practice must be mastered gradually. It may not work right away, but it will definitely bring benefits in the long run. It is only important not to stop there, but be sure to practice meditation day by day.
Results
Techniques of meditation with the subconscious, overcoming rhinestones cannot work without concentration, theory and practice, but it is this that will allow you to set the psychological mood and energy of thought, the power that brings results.
Each of us is accustomed to living in harmony with our beloved, but here’s how to achieve this by attracting her into your life - practice meditation to control the subconscious and overcome your fears. For a beginner, mastering this practice, like other meditation techniques, can be difficult.
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Working with a psychologist
This is an option that you should never forget about. If you cannot cope with the problem on your own, then you need to seek help. This must be done in a timely manner, before the matter becomes complicated by numerous difficulties. The more we drag out a situation, the more difficult it becomes to resolve it later. Working with a psychologist is aimed at restoring mental balance and developing a holistic, open view of the world. Sometimes some elaborations are painful. A person’s physical and mental condition may deteriorate. The fact is that these things are inextricably linked. When painful situations begin to rise from the depths of the subconscious, there is a high probability that everything around will seem unpleasant and completely alien. You need to be patient. The situation is not changing quickly. You must understand that improvements will definitely come if you act wisely and consistently.
Thus, it is imperative to fight fear. If you don’t do this, it will fill your consciousness and subjugate it imperceptibly to its will. For any achievement, it is necessary that a person first cope with his inner fear. When a problem significantly complicates your life, do not hesitate to ask for help. A consultation with psychologist Irakli Pozharisky will help you understand the reasons for what is happening and make the right decision.
A step-by-step method for getting rid of fears
Let's consider an action plan to free yourself from any type of fear, be it a fear of heights or a fear of embarrassing yourself in front of someone.
- First you need to call fear by name, formulate it, define it. Write down on a piece of paper all the fears that you remember. After numbering your phobias, their importance will become much less. If they can be numbered, then they can be controlled.
- The next step is to select the most terrible ones from all the listed phobias and highlight them.
- Now you need to describe each of your fears separately, in detail. Don't forget to indicate your emotional attitude towards fear. For example, you are afraid to speak in public because you experienced an unpleasant experience in this regard - shame. Everything needs to be described in great detail. As you describe your fear, you will begin to gain control over it (after all, it can be explored).
- Now describe the problem associated with the fear of accidents. Let's say you died and you don't care anymore. Or you ended up in the hospital. We need to understand that our fears originate in the instinct of self-preservation. Therefore, when you work through all the scary situations in detail, you will no longer have anything to fear.
- Realize that you are not a victim of fears: they are given in the name of preserving life. If you reconsider your attitude towards phobias, you will behave much more confidently and calmly.
Fears teach us to be more careful, circumspect and attentive. These are our teachers. Write down on a piece of paper what your phobias have taught you and thank you for the useful information.
