How to love a man correctly or the rules of love of a wise woman

Category: Love

In this article I will reveal the secrets of men's perception of love. Using simple and practical tips, you can improve family relationships and show your lover his importance and value. You will learn how to properly express your feelings in a language that a man can understand and what not to practice in a relationship. As a result, you will have confidence that you are showing love to your man correctly. And that your relationship is developing in the right direction.

Be confident, love yourself

Don't confuse self-love with selfishness, otherwise the result will not be what you expected. If a woman does not love herself, it is unlikely that a man will be able to love her.

But it often happens that women stop loving themselves, because there are children and a man nearby who come first.

Loving yourself is the main quality of a healthy personality. Therefore, devote enough time to self-development, beauty and positive emotions. Try to find time to relax and have fun.

How good is your husband? Or it's time to look for a new one.

To understand why attraction to your husband is decreasing, you need to identify the reasons why you stopped considering your husband the best. Take a piece of paper and write down on it in a column what you don’t like about your husband. For example:

My husband is not handsome enough;
Earns little;
Likes to criticize me;
He devotes little time to the child. And so on

Now take another piece of paper and write on it, also in a column, all the positive aspects of your husband.

As soon as you remember and write down everything, put both lists in front of you, compare them, and think about whether it’s worth looking for a better husband. Just think carefully, weighing all the pros and cons. Write down your solution in two or three sentences.

Turn off mommy

Men become very attached to their mothers. Therefore, we are very happy about the care of our woman, who is similar to a mother’s. But this is one of the main mistakes of a woman - becoming a mother for a man, surrounding him with care and not giving him independence.

A man needs a beloved, he already has a mother. Yes, caring is always good. But you'd rather love your partner more than constantly worry about him.

Practical steps to real feeling

A loving person wants to make his partner happy. True love is impossible without the following components:

Respect
. Men and women want to be valued and respected for their personal qualities and interests. Sarcasm and cruel jokes about a partner’s shortcomings gradually destroy relationships.
5 ways to increase respect in your family
1. Be careful about your partner’s needs. 2. Accept the psychological and physiological characteristics of a person. 3. Share interests, hobbies, loved ones. 4. Try to understand someone else's point of view. 5. Make decisions that are important for the family together.
Attention and care
. Caring manifests itself differently for men and women. Men will highly appreciate: a delicious dinner, a clean and tidy house, a massage, and the opportunity to be alone in difficult times.
Women need emotional support, kind words, protection in a dangerous situation. Constantly showing signs of attention (kisses, compliments, touches) is the best way to express love for a woman.
Selfless actions
. Love differs from a transaction in the desire to bring joy to a loved one, without expecting anything in return.
A man gives a ring to his beloved to make her happy, and not with the expectation of passionate sex, in gratitude for the gift.

Praise and sincere compliments
. Psychologists believe that men and women need to be praised differently.

Correct compliments:

To a man	To a woman
High assessment of personal qualities and character traits.	Praise appearance, body features. A woman dreams of being attractive to her lover; she will be delighted by truthful compliments that celebrate her beauty.
Expressing gratitude for care and protection.	A woman wants to be chosen, to be singled out among all others. She will be pleased with the words: “You are the most tender,” “You are my only,” “You are the most graceful.” The main thing is that she knows that she is valued more than others.
A man will not forget a woman who is sensitive to his work, skills, and abilities. You need to praise him more often for the results of his work and achievements.	Representatives of the fair sex constantly strive to attract attention. By positively noting her new clothes, hairstyle, manicure, the man satisfies her main need.

Support in difficult times
. True love is tested by difficult life circumstances. One who has sincere feelings will show care and support, even when the whole world has turned its back on his loved one.

For reference!

Love requires knowledge about the character traits and needs of the partner. Men and women have their own understanding of love, a happy family, and relationships. It is important to learn to speak the same “love language” in order to achieve mutual understanding.

Always be feminine

Women's sophistication physically and psychologically always attracts men, so work on yourself. Be interested in different areas, develop your personality.

If you are involved in a scandal and want to use strong language, replace it with strict speech that does not contain profanity.

Take care of your natural beauty. Avoid wearing bright cosmetics and experimenting with hair coloring. Everything should be in moderation.

Be confident in your attractiveness and grace. A woman should exude sexuality, but not show it off.

Remember every minute what the purpose of your relationship with a man is.

For normal people, the goal of a relationship is to provide maximum comfort for a long time, that is, to make yourself and your partner happy. So repeat this to yourself every time you want to teach, treat, criticize your man, take it out on him during PMS, be violently jealous, inquire about his leisure time, express an opinion about his friends, argue about politics, religion and the color of his pants.

Is your rightness or interest in a particular situation worth the peace and joy that you deprive your partner of?

Keep in mind: approximately two-thirds of the sources of conflict are described by the scheme “the woman came up with a problem out of the blue and inflated the man’s lack of response to it to the scale of a tragedy.”

Praise him!

If he is not worthy of praise and does everything crookedly, what the hell are you doing next to this loser? Leave, don't prolong each other's agony. Don’t be a grumpy mother, a strict boss, a capricious daughter for him - take only positive components from all these hypostases: constant but unobtrusive care, interest in his growth, admiration for his toughness.

Many in childhood heard the expression “over-praise - spoil”, but this is a myth; it is impossible to over-praise an adult sane person, he has a self-esteem bar. And praising does not mean flattering, it means looking at him with the desire to see the good.

Praise is pleasant for everyone; if you don’t take it into service, there will be smarter people with whom he will prefer to communicate.

Short comic confessions

Easy and cute phrases:

You laugh contagiously.
You have beautiful eyebrows.
I'm crazy about your voice.
You don't wake me up in the morning and let me sleep.
It's warm to sleep next to you.
You don't snore.
You are strong and help me carry my purse.
You smell nice.
You can watch the movie silently.
You don't knock with your spoon when you stir sugar in your tea.
I can call you at three o'clock in the morning.
You send me funny pictures.
You squeeze my hand tighter as we cross the road.
You give me a bigger piece of cake.
You're secretly tracking my GPS location.

A guy with whom a relationship is just beginning will like compliments. They don't have to be serious. You can remember any pleasant traits of your significant other and write about them.

Don't humiliate him or make trouble in public

Showdowns in public places are taboo, because the public image of respectability and reliability is much more important for a man than for a woman, who, under the current social system, can still afford to be a beautiful, frivolous fool.

When the “other half”, the most trusted person, begins to undermine a man’s authority in front of his friends, colleagues or the crowd in the subway, it is perceived as a knife in the back. This is often forgiven, but never forgotten. Making a man lose face is one of a woman's biggest strategic miscalculations in a relationship. This will come back to haunt you, no doubt about it.

So wait until you get home with your claims, at the same time cool down and think about them.

List of classic romantic phrases for your loved one

Offers that will suit any couple:

You are the most beautiful in the world.
Your smile warms my soul.
It's nice to be with you.
You have a great sense of humor.
Because you're cute.
I forget everything with you.
You are my muse.
I'm ready to do anything for you.
You are always by my side.
You understand me like no one else.
You know what I love most.
You give great moments.
Life with you is unforgettable.
I want to fly when you're near.
You're proud of me.

Classic declarations of love can be diluted with light ones that evoke a smile of tenderness. They are also suitable for relationships at any stage.

Support his endeavors, even the most idiotic ones

When he takes away your wedding rings to play the slot machines a little more, that's one thing. But when he is interested in ice fishing, playing the trombone, cross-stitching, biathlon, collecting garden gnomes, and selling his own adjika over the Internet - that’s completely different. The desire to meet new initiatives with hostility is inherent in the nature of every person, because any system strives to maintain balance, but here you will have to be smarter than nature.

Start from a realistic assessment of the maximum possible damage to you personally and to the well-being of your family. Do you feel sorry for a couple of thousand dollars for the happiness of your loved one with Pisces, and after that you are surprised how fiercely he hates your trips to shoe stores? Well, the gnomes have cluttered up the hallway and two loggias, and is this really so terrible?

And again: if you don’t appreciate and support, someone else will, and at that moment you will move away.

Signs of emerging reciprocity

How can you understand that all your efforts have a positive result? A feeling of love in such a situation most often arises gradually, and it is not always possible to immediately understand that indifference to this person is a thing of the past. You should listen to yourself carefully, because the first positive emotions arise almost imperceptibly at first.

Feeling of comfort and lightness

The first manifestation of falling in love can be a feeling of comfort and ease next to your partner. You are interested in being together, you have many common hobbies. You don't get bored spending leisure time together. There is no tension in communication; you can discuss almost all topics without embarrassment, without fear of misunderstanding.

Sadness at parting

Also an important sign of emerging feelings is sadness during parting and separation. You want to spend more time together, so when forced to spend time alone, melancholy comes over you.

You think about what you would do together at this time, where you would go or go. Alone, these activities seem uninteresting.

Desire to call or write

As a continuation of these thoughts, a strong desire arises to call or write to your chosen one. In the same way, I really want to receive a message from him with pleasant and gentle words, hear his voice or see him via video call. Fortunately, modern means of communication easily provide this opportunity.

Worry about your partner

When tender feelings arise, a desire appears to take care of the partner, worry about his condition, find out about the state of his affairs. If he is haunted by failures, then you too worry and cannot find a place for yourself. If everything is fine with him, then you have joy in your soul.

Desire to provide help or support

After you have found out how your partner spends his time, what he is interested in, what makes him happy and what upsets him, you are happy to notice any little things where your help and support is needed.

Attentiveness

You are ready to show any, even the smallest, signs of attention. You are happy to congratulate him on the holidays, choose gifts for him, give him advice when he needs it.

Respect

As mentioned above, respect is an important sign of a serious relationship. If you feel respect for your partner, this says a lot. Even if there are no bright emotions, it is this feeling that can become the key to a further happy relationship.

As a matter of fact, even where there is intense love and no respect, there is a very high risk of the relationship breaking up.

The most stunning look is for him, not for a meeting of classmates

The syndrome of a victorious hunter losing interest in the game he has caught is no less common in women than in men. The fact that you got him into cohabitation or tied the knot does not mean that now he is forever in love with you. Yes, it’s vulgar, mean and banal, but about half of my male patients complained about facts of a girl’s neglect of her appearance after the relationship had become stable.

If he fell in love with a physicist with gray hair, a brown checkered vest and worn-out boots, he knew what he was getting into.

But since in your wedding photos you are a blonde in curls and roses, and now you are a cropped woman in a comfortable jumpsuit, then don’t blame me if they stop perceiving you as an attractive female. Moreover, when at corporate events you put on makeup and buy a new dress, and at home you walk around a la naturel in the same delicate pastel things (which the male eye perceives as faded and asexual). It's very simple, but women don't stop making this mistake. You are not obligated to be loved for who you are (moreover, you are not obligated to be loved a priori at all).

Templates to help express gratitude for care and love

Phrases for confessing to a man:

I love you because you are a delicious kisser.
You hug me when I fall asleep.
Cooking the most delicious breakfast in the world.
You make me smile every day.
Don't get angry when I get offended.
You come to make peace first, even when I’m wrong.
You promise that we will always be together.
You keep your promises.
You close the tube of toothpaste.
You always kiss me when you leave for work.
I'm willing to tolerate my mood swings.
You speak well of my culinary skills.
Don't complain about me to your friends.
Laugh at my jokes.
Walking my dog.
You make my life better.
You hold an umbrella over me.
Bring me oranges when I'm sick.
Let me take care of you.
Cover yourself with a blanket at night.
You say nice compliments.
Charging my phone.
Come shopping with me.
You dream about children.
You don't allow fast food.
You sing in the shower.
Do you know how much sugar I like in my coffee?
Your T-shirts are very comfortable.
You give me chocolate instead of flowers.
You save the last piece of pizza for me.

Life together is not always like honey. Disagreements also occur in the relationships of married couples. To strengthen love, you can add touching confessions about overcoming difficulties to “100 Reasons.”

He is the main one. And period

Seriously, this is so convenient. The main problem of feminists is trying to, figuratively speaking, unload the cars when they can dance instead. Whether by evolution, social attitudes or upbringing in most families, a man is raised to be a problem solver, leader, captain, and so on. This does not humiliate you in any way unless you decide that you want to be humiliated.

One girl perceives the offered hand as she gets off the bus as gallantry, the other as a hint of her inability to jump over a puddle due to the physical weakness of her short legs. It is clear which of them enjoys communication with the opposite sex, and which suffers from the oppression of chauvinists.

And it’s up to you to decide which girl to be.

Give him the joy of being strong, acting, thinking and playing first violin.
Let the man lead and the dance will work.

Even if he is not always right, you can then quietly correct the situation: even when in fact you do the lion’s share, if you love your partner, it will not be difficult to imitate the picture “you are my hero, I am just in the wings.” Carry out your will to power in other places. For example, with gays. They do not care.

Talk about important things directly, without hints

Men understand hints, but more often these are hints from other men or those hints that are beneficial for them to understand. It is not customary for them (with the possible exception of the Japanese) to talk about the essence of the matter in Aesopian language.

When your husband wants to sell a batch of motorcycles to a client, he says: “We have a well-known brand, the warranty period is average in the market, and for wholesale we will discount you 7%,” and not: “The autumn leaf has withered on the lonely elm that grew on the sad hill , and it’s time to harness the iron horse to intelligent creatures and quickly run to the south from these places.”

Therefore, state it simply, but not globally, not “tell me straight, you stopped loving me, right?”, but “I’m tired of collecting your worms for ice fishing all over the house, this is not what my mother raised me for, hire a housekeeper.”

Don't put him at the center of your universe and don't demand that he put you at the center of his.

I don't mean sincere concern for each other's needs or depth of love, but demands for attention to small things. Half-hour conversations on the phone five times a day about nothing irritate almost any man. Psychological dependence on his opinion flatters him, but also irritates him.

Therefore, do not try to officially devote your life to him, this is very frightening, and reproaches for inattention, coupled with meaningless emotional manifestations, will very quickly tire him, and you will be left crying and exclaiming “ungrateful, I gave him all of myself.”

Let's be honest: you don't even need all of you. And it’s even more reasonable for him to offer only the most delicious parts.

How to love a man and create a long-lasting relationship.

Method 1 – Be understanding

Respect his independence.

Loving a man does not mean trying to do everything and everything with him. In fact, if you really want to love a man, then you should show your love by allowing him to do things without you from time to time. If he likes to read in his study or practice his carpentry skills in the garage, you don't have to check on him every two seconds and ask him what he's doing or if he needs anything. Of course, sharing your interests with your loved one is wonderful, but it is equally important to take into account the fact that he would like to do something of his own from time to time.

If you really want to love a man, then you must be able to determine when he actually wants to be alone. Leaving him alone when he really needs it is a way of showing him your true love.

Give him “man time.”

If he's going to hang out with guys, let him do it. While he shouldn't go out drinking with friends every night and leave you at home, every now and then a man needs to relax and spend time in the company of other men. There's nothing wrong with that, just like there's nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with your girlfriends.

What can you write to your husband with whom you have lived for many years?

Phrases if you have lived together for many years:

Your smile still warms my soul.
All these years you have been a reliable person.
Your love is as strong as it was many years ago.
You don't become boring.
We still have a lot to talk about.
I need you even more.
My mime meter goes off scale when I see you sleeping.
Your things are still scattered all over the place, but I'm not angry anymore.
You bring me tea when I'm too lazy to get up from the couch.
And you carefully fluff your pillow before going to bed.
You get cute when I can’t park like a human being.
Bring me some aspirin after the party.
Still don't regret our marriage.
You strive to make our life easier.
Trying to make soup (was it soup?)
You pour more wine for me than for yourself.
You listen to me chatter.
You meet me from work in the rain.
You don't hide your money stashes well.
“You don’t notice” if I empty them.
Do you remember important dates for us?
You quickly forget about quarrels.
He was with me when it was hard for me.
You make my life bright.
Because you love me too.

Whatever the reasons, humorous or touching, they must come from the heart and be intended specifically for this person. Therefore, it is strongly recommended not to buy ready-made sets of universal phrases.

It’s better to make a gift with your own hands, choosing really catchy confessions.

You can pack 100 reasons into a jar, which can be decorated using any technique. Decoupage, painting or simple decoration with ribbons looks impressive.

You can use a box or chest as a container. You can easily buy it in the gift department, but you can also make it yourself. For this you will need craft paper, glue and imagination.

"I love"

I love your name.
I love your last name.
I love your looks.
I love your eyes.
I love your lips.
I love your shoulders.
I love your hands.
I like your smile.
I love it when you write to me.
I love when you smile.
I love putting a smile on your face.
I love writing you nonsense.
I love it when you are with me.
I love it when you worry about me.
I love it when you send me to bed.
I love it when you take care of my health.
I love your sweet mercies.
I love it when you miss me.
I love missing you.
I love to smile from your messages.
I love writing you lines from songs.
I love waiting for you.
I love it when I dream about you.
I love being crazy about you.
I love writing about you.
I love talking about you.
I love everything about you.