What does heartbreaking mean?
heartbreaking
tearing, painful, terrible, terrible;
tearing (obsolete) / about screaming: desperate Dictionary of Russian synonyms... ... ... Dictionary of Russian idioms HEARTBREAKING
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HEARTRUNNING
, ah, her; yushch. Terrible, full of despair, suffering.
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How to understand a man's gaze
1. Close look
If you make a positive impression on a man, he will consciously look at you and perhaps smile. As soon as you make eye contact, he may look away due to embarrassment or awkwardness.
Experts in facial expressions and gestures say that when a person looks down, it means instant sympathy. At the same time, if he looks away, it may not be that he likes you.
2. Look and a half
This look is not easy to notice unless you are very discerning. This is a situation where a man looks at you longer than usual and then looks away. Unlike an intentional gaze, which lasts a second, a gaze and a half can last two seconds, but it is barely noticeable.
Generally, men spend more time looking at what they find attractive, whether consciously or unconsciously. This happens when he is thinking about something of his own, but you have interested him in something. This is a clear sign that indicates his intention to talk to you.
3. Double Look
If a man has the courage to maintain eye contact, he may do so again, especially if he was received favorably the first time.
The most interesting thing is that the double glance often occurs subconsciously, and if you ask the person, he may not even remember how many times he looked at you. Either way, if his gaze keeps falling on you, it's a big sign of attraction.
Is it true that the look of a person in love changes?
A man in love becomes straight in his gaze and lingers on the woman longer than usual.
When we fall in love, a powerful hormonal surge occurs in the body. We try with all our might and means to interest the object of our adoration, to capture his attention, thoughts, body, we want to spend every minute next to him. Seeking reciprocity, people in love change their appearance, go on a diet, go to the gym, and take up new hobbies.
At the same time, they observe their passion, note her reaction to her actions. A guy in love directs his gaze towards the girl, watches how she communicates with colleagues/friends, moves, laughs, dances, how her appearance, clothes or manners have changed.
A man in love becomes straight in his gaze, lingers on the woman longer than usual, his eyes seem to shine, “sparkles” flicker in them.
What might the look be like?
If a guy is in love, you can immediately feel it. If your glances often meet, and he does not look away, but continues to look with pleasure, it means that he likes you and is interested in you. However, falling in love (love still needs to be reached) makes a person vulnerable, so a guy in this state may doubt himself, worry about a possible lack of reciprocity on your part, so it doesn’t go beyond views. And the more uncertainty, the more it is reflected in the gaze (well, we remember about the mirror of the soul). Advice: do not look away - your open gaze will give the young man confidence. And it will push you to action.
However, it would be naive to interpret the guy’s gaze as a harbinger of things to come. It is worth remembering that seducers love to look into the eyes, such hardened Don Juans who have lost count of the hearts they have broken. But their gaze can easily give them away: among professional seducers it is cold, insensitive, cunning - girls who do not have problems with self-esteem can easily figure out these guys. Their prey is insecure individuals who, deep down, feel unworthy of good treatment.
Guys who fell in love at first sight often look intently and admiringly, without taking their eyes off for a second. I saw the girl and, as they say, it hit me. He will simply be unable to take his eyes off his dreams. Dilated pupils indicate admiration - this is the body’s reaction to an object that evokes pleasant feelings (provided that the MP has not consumed anything in advance).
If a guy looks intently straight into your eyes, without being embarrassed and without looking away... don’t flatter yourself - if at the same time his eyebrow is slightly raised (giving his gaze coldness and arrogance), this may indicate that he is not interested in you, and in general he misses your company. If you feel coldness and lack of sincere interest, it is better to leave first, maintaining your dignity. It will hurt more later.
The duration of the gaze also matters. If it lasts eight seconds or more (the guy lingers with his gaze on the girl who interests him), then this indicates the strong sympathy of the beholder. A look lasting four to five seconds, on the contrary, clearly and clearly says that he is not interested.
The influence of people with piercing eyes
We often wonder why some people have a strong influence on others. If they are endowed with power, wealth or strength, then everything is clear - they rely on things that are obvious to everyone. But often people listen to the opinions of those on whom absolutely no one and nothing depends on the issue under discussion. Sometimes even those who have the right to make decisions fall under their influence. But if you take a close look at everyone who attracts the attention of others, you will see that they all have one thing in common - a piercing gaze. A person’s eyes are the first thing the interlocutor pays attention to; they inspire trust or hostility, and nothing can change this impression.
A man's gaze
7. Long look
Staring can be conscious or unconscious. At the same time, the man looks at you without interruption for about 5 seconds. If you don't like him, you may find this behavior strange or intrusive.
If the opposite is true, prolonged eye contact is a clear sign of attraction. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that someone is interested in you. This is how men often seduce women.
8. Stare and smile
A man who seduces with his eyes will look at you for a long time, maintain eye-to-eye contact and then smile. He will continue to stare and smile. Such signals indicate that he wants you.
Such intentions are read very clearly, so even a blind person can understand them. This is a rather cheeky look that can be accompanied by a wink. If you are not interested, just ignore him, but if you like the man, you can smile at him. The seducer, as a rule, makes the first move if he sees that he has been given the green light.
A man's view of a woman.
Whatever the relationship in the family, the first experience of communication with a woman for a future man is his relationship with his mother. It is often said that a man chooses a woman who is like his mother, and this is true. But to this observation we need to add one very important detail, which usually goes unnoticed.
The main similarity with his mother that a man looks for in his women concerns not appearance, character and habits, but the feeling of security and peace that he experienced while under maternal care.
The fact is that a young man does not even realize that a woman can be treated differently. In his chosen ones, he is looking only for an improved version of his mother, who will groom, cherish and protect him, and with whom, among other things, he can indulge in sexual pleasures. All, as they say, 33 pleasures. For him there is an equal sign between mother and woman.
This situation can be smoothed out, for example, by the presence of a sister or the personal example of parents who were able to establish real adult relationships with each other. Then the young man can gain a different basic experience and learn to see in a woman not only a mother figure. But such luck does not happen often.
The result of such initial conditions is that relationships with a woman develop according to one general pattern, which is easy to observe among your friends. The most characteristic signs are a man’s subordination to his woman, dependence on her and fear of her dissatisfaction. This manifests itself soon after meeting. And a little later, when the relationship has already settled into a stable groove, another characteristic problem emerges - the loss or significant weakening of sexual interest on the part of a man towards his girlfriend.
A man, not knowing other models of behavior with a woman, unconsciously builds relationships in such a way as to assign maternal functions to her. In order for a woman to provide a man with the desired feeling of peace and security, she must be in a position of seniority for him. And the man himself pushes her to do this - he delegates authority to her, shifts responsibility onto her, transfers to her the right to make decisions and make assessments.
As a result, the man gets exactly what he wanted. The woman takes on the role of the elder and takes into her own hands the further leadership of the man. For her, all this happens just as unconsciously. At first, she likes the fact that the man submits to her desires, and the relationship seems to be developing in the best possible way. But later the woman begins to notice that the role of mother, which she now plays, deprives her of the opportunity to be a woman and requires significant responsibility from her. And the man, sooner or later, realizes that he has lost his freedom and instead of “Love” for his girlfriend, he now feels only fear and discontent.
After this, the relationship simply collapses. Moreover, both the man and the woman cannot understand what happened. The relationship that started out like a fairy tale rotted and collapsed right before our eyes. And since both are completely unaware of what is happening to them, it seems to them that they simply chose the wrong person. Then they say goodbye and look for a new couple, in which, however, exactly the same story is repeated.
Most of our men continue to look for a loving mother in a woman until old age. This hides the lack of inner independence of a man. Instead of learning to cope with his mental burdens on his own, he follows the usual path and looks for a woman on whom he can hang them. At the same time, a man can run a bank or command an army, but when he returns home, he still seeks peace in the arms of his woman - his mother.
Such men hope all their lives to meet a woman who will agree to be both a mother and a lover for them. And they truly fall in love when they see in a woman her willingness to combine these roles. But such relationships have no future - either they soon collapse, or they make a man and a woman completely unhappy creatures attached to each other.
No woman can accept being a mother to her man. No man will ever accept the loss of his freedom in exchange for maternal comfort. They can only take refuge in self-deception, convincing themselves and each other that this is how relationships should be, that true love is what it is, that security and mutual comfort are more important than happiness. And most modern families are saturated with this self-deception.
By leaving these questions to chance, a man inevitably dooms his relationships with women to bitter failure. Continuing to look for a gentle, understanding mother in every woman, a man refuses to grow up and personally deprives himself of the most valuable thing - freedom.
A woman's view of a man. Every woman wants to be weak and at the same time strives to subjugate a man.
The formation of women's views on relationships with the opposite sex occurs differently than men's. A woman adopts to a lesser extent the model of her relationship with her father - she is much more subordinate to the worldview of the women around her.
Attention! Only if the mother has learned to treat her husband with all respect and has found her happiness in calmly accepting the man’s will, then her daughter in her future relationships will be wise enough not to sit on her man’s neck. But this is a rare exception, of which there are perhaps one or two in a thousand. In most cases, one can observe a completely different situation, when the mother and other women close to the girl follow the slave-owning attitude “Man is Created for Woman” and instill it in the child.
For some unknown reason, it has become common to believe that a man should take care of a woman. Just like that, abstractly - every man about every woman. And to this is added the fact that he must take especially diligent care of his wife and mother. This principle is not even discussed - it has long been imprinted in the genetic code of our society. A man owes a woman - this is the foundation of a woman’s view of relationships with the opposite sex.
All means are used. It is very convenient for women to pretend to be the weaker sex, allowing stronger men to take charge of all problems. But at the same time, every woman wants a strong man to fulfill her desires and follow her decisions, and to take responsibility for all the consequences.
Women raise their men to fulfill their desires without complaint, and enthusiastically share with each other the tricks of manipulation. And then, when they come to a psychologist, they also complain about male disobedience and the fact that men (who are assholes) don’t know what women want, and that for some reason everything has to be explained to them. Women's pride in this plane is truly limitless.
Women want to own a man inside and out - his will, his body, his desires and his soul. To own solely and for life, until death do them part. Such a utilitarian approach to a man is not advertised, but it is not hidden either, since it has long become a general norm and no longer hurts the eyes with its absurdity.
Look through women's magazines, watch television shows - it's the same everywhere. It is believed that a woman has the right to receive benefits from men for her beautiful eyes alone. Not even for sex, which would be a little more fair, but simply because a man must be a knight, and a knight must serve a woman.
It is on this basis that girls are raised. And if in the family she does not find a refutation of the general social madness, then she has no choice but to submit to it. And she presents her first boyfriend with a long list of what he owes her for the mere right to be somewhere nearby.
It must be said that a man also enters into a relationship with his own set of ideas about what a woman owes him, but the big problem for men is still in the search for maternal traits. In addition, society initially prepares men to serve women, encouraging pseudo-knightly traits in them. So, young women get men in their hands already in a semi-finished state - all that remains is to warm them up.
Not understanding the absurdity of the current situation, the girl blindly and without any second thought adopts a view of the man as the fulfiller of her desires. Therefore, when the time comes for her first loves, she is already deeply stuck in the general rut of female misconceptions - she expects service and worship from her fans.
In practice it looks simple. It doesn’t all necessarily come down to banal wish fulfillment. Women act more subtly - they strive to remake a man to suit themselves so that he himself understands what and when to do, so that without any further guidance the man himself does what the woman wants. And this education is carried out under the banner of love - “If You Love, Change for My Sake.”
And when a careless man does not want to give in to training, women get offended, throw hysterics, complain to their mothers, press for pity and indiscriminately use all available levers of pressure and manipulation. And this, too, without any ulterior motive, because they are sincerely convinced that this is how they should act, because a disobedient man is just some kind of anomaly that needs to be corrected.
This is how it turns out that in most young couples the woman very soon begins to rule. A man looks for a mother in a woman and puts power into her hands, and the woman with pleasure and enthusiasm takes upon herself to educate and guide the man in realizing her fantasies of a happy family life.
There is no need to tell where such mutual madness leads - just look around. And if among your friends there are couples in which the man really (and not nominally) takes the role of the elder and does not hang his infantilism on the woman, and she, in turn, does not try to run ahead of the locomotive, you are lucky - learn from them.
Cooperation in development. Relationships are like cooperation.
Let's return to the beginning of the story. Relationships are one of the most important areas of human life, but few people think about the fact that relationships need to be learned. It is believed that learning in this matter occurs naturally in communication with peers and through the living example of people around. But the result of such self-education is no good.
Well, if only the first failure in a relationship with the opposite sex would be enough to realize your mistakes and correct your behavior patterns, but this does not happen - usually, men and women continue to walk in circles until old age. Instead of understanding themselves, they are simply looking for another person who will suit them, and in a relationship with whom they will not need to make any effort.
Everyone wants a fairy tale to come to their home. Women in their boudoirs dream of a knight - a savior, not realizing that a normal man will quickly be overwhelmed by their whims and demands. And men organize knightly tournaments and look for a woman who will appreciate their peasant prowess, accept, love and comfort them.
Women do not know or understand men - but they want a man to understand them, and they believe that this will be enough for a normal relationship. Women are not interested in what a man wants, or they are satisfied with simple answers, such as that a man only wants sex. And in the same way, women do not think about what is so good in themselves that the man of their dreams would devote his life to them. This is where selfishness of the highest order lies.
And men are no better - they just don’t understand anything about women, and therefore they are easily manipulated in order to satisfy superficial female whims and snatch a piece of that spiritual warmth that only a mother could give before.
Without thinking about what really drives a woman and what she really wants, a man, in all his simplicity, follows her expressed desires. He does not understand that the woman herself will hate him for his submission. By allowing himself to be manipulated (as if out of love), a man makes a woman unhappy and leads the relationship to a dead end. He acts like a child who needs to behave well in order for his mother to love him.
And as long as relationships are started for pleasure, for shared entertainment, nothing will change. Entertainment must - there is no room for conscious efforts to entertain. Meanwhile, relationships require a lot of internal work—happiness simply doesn’t come for free.
A man needs to purposefully learn to see a woman as a being of the opposite sex, a reflection of his own soul, and not just another incarnation of the mother’s image.
A woman can be a man’s best friend, assistant and inspiration if she is allowed to open up in this direction. That's all there is to it - you need to stop hanging your snot on a woman and find enough firmness in yourself to defend your male freedom and independence.
But you really want to relax and have fun, right? - this is exactly what you need to step over. There are much more pleasures in adult relationships; you just need to give up your childhood habits.
And a woman, in turn, needs to learn to moderate her pride and see in a man not the fulfillment of her desires, not a protector from all troubles and adversities, but an independent person, next to whom it will be interesting to live her life.
If you give a man freedom and respect his right to self-determination, he himself, out of gratitude and reciprocal respect, will fulfill all the woman’s desires. Men, in general, are not bastards - treat them like humans, and they will respond in kind. But a man does not owe a woman anything, and a woman is no weaker than a man to claim any privileges. We are different, but we are equal.
Only if a woman is wise enough to help her man grow up will she get the relationship she never dreamed of. But for this, she herself needs to learn to be a woman - not a mother, not a mistress of the sea, but a woman - a man’s companion. Otherwise, you can wait your whole life for your prince.
Next to us there is always exactly the person we deserve. And if for some reason it seems that we deserve more, then we have probably completely lied to ourselves. A relationship can be a breeding ground for each other, or it can turn into a compost pit where both souls only wither and decay. The choice is yours.
How should a woman behave in this situation?
Women's forums are full of advice on how to behave with men and what to do if you see a clear interest in yourself. But after reading these tips and listening to psychologists, the woman still acts, guided by her feminine nature and intuition. This is the only correct decision, because each person is individual, and not a single psychologist will give universal advice suitable for everyone.
Just respond with the same gaze and feel the atmosphere; your hearts will tell you how to proceed.
Think about what you saw in the eyes of your companion - a happy family life or several meetings? Based on this, it is up to you to decide whether to continue flirting with this man or send him on his way.
If you are absolutely sure of his genuine feelings and the look serves as direct confirmation of this, then it’s up to you to decide. If you are also sure of your feelings for this man and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then go ahead and don’t miss the chance. Well, if you are not on the way, immediately tell your companion about it and save him from empty hopes and illusions.
The look of a man in love
1. Sparkling eyes
It is known that the eyes of the person who likes you sparkle in your presence. If he feels more attracted to you, his eyes will become moist and reflect more light, making them appear shinier.
2. Raised eyebrows
According to experts in body language and facial expressions, a person raises his eyebrows when he sees someone or something he likes. The moment a man notices an interesting woman, his eyebrows rise so he can get the big picture. This micro expression occurs almost imperceptibly, but can tell a lot about a man’s feelings.
3. Long look
A man looks longer into the eyes of the woman he is attracted to. We usually look into someone's eyes for a while and then shift our gaze for a few seconds. However, a man who cares about you will look at you longer than usual.
4. Uneven gaze distribution
If a man feels desire for you, he will try to sneak glances at you. If you are surrounded by other girls, he will give you the lion's share of looks and will look less at others.
The man hopes for reciprocity by capturing your attention. When we look into a person’s eyes for a long time, our body automatically produces hormones that are responsible for attraction.
5. Looks at you after making a joke.
If you notice a man looking at you after making a witty remark or joke, it means he likes you. He wants you to laugh and he expects you to approve of his jokes.
6. Dilated pupils
If a man loves you or has a strong liking for you, his pupils will become wider in your presence. Dilated pupils are one of the surest signs that he likes you.
How to make your eyes piercing?
In the morning, after all daily procedures, you need to stand in front of the mirror and look at the central part of your face in the reflection. Then you should focus on your feelings and sincerely, mentally directing a ray of light into the “third eye,” wish you a good day, success, or achieving some specific results during the day. Then “switch places” with the reflection and mentally accept this ray, expressing your gratitude with a reciprocal glance. To complete the second exercise, you will need a candle; any candle, tea or even a souvenir candle, will do to decorate the cake. It is necessary to look at the candle flame in a quiet, calm atmosphere, mentally exchanging energy with it, and carefully examining the fire. You can start with one minute, gradually increasing the time. These exercises will allow you to develop a piercing gaze and teach you to focus on the flow of outgoing energy to achieve results. The third exercise is aimed at developing the ability to hold your gaze at one point for a long time without blinking. You need to draw a circle with a diameter of about 1 cm on a sheet of A4 paper, fix the sheet at face level and look at this circle from a distance of 2 m. It is important to imagine how energy emanates from the eyes. You cannot blink or look away from the circle for a minute, gradually increasing the time.
How to learn a piercing gaze?
This look is often called “central” because it is important to direct it to the center of the person’s face, the top of the bridge of the nose, where the eyebrows meet and the nose begins. It is here that we have one powerful nerve center that perceives the energy directed at it. This place is called the “third eye” in various spiritual practices. And when the gaze is directed to this point on the interlocutor’s face, mental orders or suggestions of certain emotions and desires will lead to the goal - will cause an appropriate reaction. An important condition is that you need to not just look at the bridge of a person’s nose, but rather fix the magnetic “central gaze”. Of course, not everyone has such a skill; this requires certain skills. To develop them, you need to perform simple exercises every day.
The man looks away
4. Looks and looks away
A man may attract your attention with a mysterious long look, but immediately looks away as soon as he meets your eyes. If you look at him, he perceives it as an invitation, if not, he may consider it a refusal. If your chosen one is shy, he will look away simply because he is nervous.
Sometimes a guy will deliberately look away to make it seem like he's not interested, when in fact, he's protecting his ego. If he keeps looking away during a conversation, it could mean he's embarrassed or avoiding a certain topic. Also remember that avoiding eye contact is one way to ignore a conversation.
Kiss on the first date - a man's view. First date
Is it possible to kiss on the first date? In general, in many countries of the world this is considered bad form among romantic couples. On the other hand, if the date went well, the young man walked the girl home, then why not reward him with a light first kiss. No French kisses, no Egyptian passions, a light touch of lips - that's enough for a first date. Who should go first? A kiss is a mutual desire. People themselves feel that it is worth taking a step forward. It doesn't depend on any one person in a couple. But, if you want to maintain intrigue in the relationship, then you can wait until the second date for the first kiss.
Innate “magic” or acquired skill?
There is a type of person about whom they say: “he has charisma”, “she is so charming”, “he is a born leader” and so on. Some people are certainly lucky to be born with such a gift. A striking example is the memorable face of an unknown girl with a piercing gaze. The photo above leaves a lasting impression on the viewer. But often people specifically work on themselves and make a lot of effort to highlight their strengths and hide their weaknesses. In particular, politicians and famous speakers take acting lessons and improve their diction and posture. They have a special culture of movement; many of them develop a strong, confident handshake and a sincere, endearing smile with the help of special exercises. The same can be said about developing the power of gaze.
