Probably, 30 years ago no one asked the question of sexual arousal in women, because in the USSR there was even “no sex”, and children were found in cabbage or multiplied by budding. Nobody cared what the aunts wanted. They had no right to want to: the country was working at an accelerated pace for the good of the nation. It was considered the norm that before sex a woman excuses herself with a headache and eternal periods, because only a girl of indecent behavior could truly desire intimacy. So was general frigidity really moving with heavy steps across the country?
Of course this is not true. It is not for nothing that nature has endowed a woman with erogenous points throughout her body. And everyone wants to experience voluptuous moments of orgasm. It’s just that there used to be sexual incivility, and what is now considered the norm for two people in bed used to look like a perversion. And, perhaps, if a man did not give the woman the highest pleasure during sex, then she helped herself achieve orgasm. There is nothing to be done - you can’t trample against nature.
And then came emancipation, bold experiments, and, thank God, that nowadays no one has a “headache,” but everyone needs THIS. Let's talk today about how to determine what excites a woman, and what signs can be used to understand that she wants sex with a man.
Features of the female body
Intimacy for girls is not just an act of copulation or a physical need. For a woman, the emotional component of the process is more important, because making love for her is a unity of souls, energies, confirmation of the depth of feelings. It is the emotional side of the issue that comes to the fore and guides the female body during communication with a man.
Women's perception of personal relationships differs from men's. For a woman to start getting excited, it will take effort and the right approach, since arousal increases gradually and lasts much longer than in men.
Often, representatives of the fair sex ignore visual signs of a man’s or guy’s sexuality, preferring touches, warm words and even the smell of their loved one’s body.
Big muscles, a big wallet, a big car, or even a big penis don't excite a girl as much as kind words or gentle touches.
Only by feeling safe, completely trusting a man and knowing about his serious intentions, is a girl ready to move on to the next stage.
In most cases, the sight of a naked male body and genitals is not able to help a woman become aroused to such an extent that a strong sexual desire develops. To arouse sexual desire in a partner before a direct act of intimacy, foreplay in the form of erotic caresses, gentle words or intimate conversation is required.
Remember! Nobody wants to be used or deceived. In a woman’s head, this rule creates a certain block on intimacy.
A man’s task is to make his partner feel safe, secure, cared for and interested.
You should not take a girl on board already on the first date, look for signs of excitement or desire in her. Your assertiveness or active inclination towards physical intimacy will only scare her away and make her seriously think about stopping further communication.
Avoid these mistakes during first meetings:
- Don't try to lighten up the conversation with dirty jokes or anecdotes;
- Don't cross her personal space;
- Don't insist on kissing or intimacy;
- Don't talk about your intimate adventures with other girls or your sexual preferences.
If the purpose of your time together is intimacy, the girl will instantly feel it and stop such a relationship in the bud. Be patient, caring, sincere and real, maintain a balance in communication, looks, touches. Be prepared for the fact that the path to first intimacy can be thorny and full of surprises; be patient and have useful tips and knowledge of female psychology.
Important! Try to create a romantic atmosphere with aromatic candles, pleasant music, flowers, and light alcohol. This will help the girl relax.
Effect of testosterone
It is currently believed that sexual arousal is primarily dependent on the hormone testosterone, but data on this issue are contradictory. Scientists have found that representatives of the stronger sex with equally normal levels of this hormone in the blood can have different levels of libido. Libido refers to sexual arousal or desire. In parallel with this, if the hormone level is low, then in almost all cases this leads to a decrease in libido. That is, a man can ejaculate and have an erection, but he simply will not want sex. For this reason, testosterone replacement therapy for erectile dysfunction in men is not always able to help.
Signs of excitement
Men often wonder how to understand that a girl is excited and ready for sexual intercourse. Knowing the secret techniques that increase arousal, you can build the right strategy to conquer it. It is important to carefully monitor the verbal and non-verbal signals of your loved one’s body and be able to interpret them correctly.
What can turn a girl on:
- Sweet words;
- Gentle stroking;
- Romantic music;
- Sincere conversation;
- Touching;
- The smell of a loved one's body;
- A long and passionate kiss.
Involuntarily and uncontrollably, the girl’s body gives signals to which the man must respond and begin more active actions. It is important to interpret these signals correctly and not force events.
What turns a woman on?
Now let's take a closer look at what makes women aroused. Scientists have long known that among representatives of the fair sex, the left hemisphere is dominant, which is largely responsible for hearing. This is why people often say that women love with their ears. However, it is not the dominant factor in such subtle debates as attraction. That’s why let’s take a closer look at what specific factors influence arousal in the fair sex.
False signs
Sometimes a partner is so determined to move to the active phase of intimacy that he is ready to regard all the woman’s glances and movements as a call for active and immediate action. A man should be careful with his desires and control the intensity of passions, because regarding false signs of arousal as an active call from a woman and forcing events can lead to unexpected consequences and misunderstanding on her part, this is at best.
What may be false signs:
- Looking closely at a partner may not at all indicate a desire for intimacy with him;
- Movements from side to side may indicate a boring conversation or an uncomfortable position;
- If a girl chooses a certain pose, it means that she is comfortable, or in this way she expresses her independence and superiority;
- Sincere conversations are conducted not only for the purpose of intimacy, but with the goal of learning more about each other;
- If the interlocutor willingly talks about sexual relations, this may indicate that she trusts the man, perceives him as an equal and wants to demonstrate her liberation;
- Bright and sexy outfits do not at all indicate the need to take active action. In this way, a woman demonstrates her independence and uniqueness;
- The desire for hugs and kisses does not always lead to sex;
- Playing with a glass, brushing your hair off your shoulder may be a sign of a boring conversation, and not a desire to get closer to a man;
- Physical signs: high pulse, rapid breathing, reddening of the cheeks, the appearance of goosebumps - may not indicate arousal at all.
Don't just strive for physical contact. Remember that the girl herself will hint to you about intimacy or the need to reduce the distance; you don’t need to try, like a diligent student, to check off all the existing signs in a notebook.
Which doctor should I contact if my testicle hurts?
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How to hint at intimacy
Bawdy jokes or anecdotes will not help you in overcoming intimate distance. You should also not pretend to be macho and get carried away by stories (fictional and real) about previous intimate adventures. This way you will only push your partner away and form a negative opinion about yourself.
Here are some tips:
- Be interested in the girl;
- Give compliments;
- Be attentive and careful;
- Whisper sweet words in your ear;
- Gently kiss the neck or ear;
- Look straight into the eyes and speak without words;
- Create the right atmosphere;
- Take care of her comfort;
- Use soft and unobtrusive hints;
- Talk about your feelings;
- Start an intimate correspondence.
Remember that direct proposals to have sex will stun any girl.
Love is a disease
It is also interesting that the World Health Organization has included love in the register of diseases. Experts recognized it as a mental illness several years ago. However, each disease must have its own signs and symptoms. For love they are as follows:
- Severe mood swings.
- Obsessive thoughts about a person.
- Insomnia.
- Self-pity.
- Allergy.
- Increased sense of self-worth.
- Headache.
- Rash acts.
How to increase arousal
A romantic, relaxing atmosphere, pleasant music, candles, flowers, and cute gifts will help the girl get into the right mood and relax. When a girl feels needed, when she feels important and desired, then her emotional satisfaction reaches a certain level.
What will help increase excitement and give the process even more bright colors:
- Relaxing massage, intimate touches. From the gentle and affectionate touches of her beloved, the girl relaxes, her body becomes pliable and more sensitive. Touching brings her almost the same satisfaction as the sexual act itself.
- Properly selected music will also help you relax and create a pleasant, intimate atmosphere. Girls like soft and relaxing rhythms, they awaken certain emotions and promote spiritual intimacy with their partner;
- The smell of your partner plays an important role. Representatives of the stronger sex should pay special attention to the smell. Experts advise not to overdo it with perfume so that the smells of male hormones can be heard. Some smells, such as ginger, saffron, vanilla, chocolate, almonds, can evoke a whole range of emotions in women and influence their level of arousal.
When it comes to using a secret weapon to enhance arousal, you should listen to the girl’s wishes and know about her preferences and prohibitions. For example, some girls do not like massage or cannot stand certain smells, others prefer certain music, do not like certain flowers, or experience excitement from completely unusual things.
It is worth carefully finding out from her about her preferences and desires. Don't ignore your partner's feelings and desires; she should feel your attention and interest. Only this path will lead you to mutual emotional intimacy, and then physical intimacy. Intimate relationships. backed by vivid emotions, they are hundreds of times more pleasant and have a long, spicy aftertaste that you will want to experience again.
Why is ovulation so important for pregnancy planning?
First, let's figure out what ovulation is. This is the moment when the egg leaves the ovary and enters the fallopian tube, after which it becomes available to sperm. The egg lives for approximately 24 hours, and then the fertilization window closes. Thus, during the entire menstrual cycle there is only one day during which a woman can conceive a child.
You may have heard from your friends that they got pregnant on a day when there were no symptoms or signs of ovulation. They are mistaken in their feelings: without a living and accessible egg, fertilization is impossible in principle. But there are nuances. First, sex that will cause pregnancy does not have to happen on the day of ovulation. Sperm that reach the cervix or overcome this barrier remain viable for up to three, sometimes five days. This means they can wait for the egg to "come out of the house." Secondly, the day of ovulation may not occur in the middle of the cycle, but earlier or later due to the individual characteristics of the body, hormonal changes, stress and other reasons.
The reaction of which two organs cannot be imitated?
Having reached a certain stage, it is worth focusing on the reaction of two organs.
An excited woman cannot control the swelling of her nipples: during contact with a man, they become hard with strong sexual desire.
Between her legs it becomes warm and moist, because when aroused, the vagina secretes a special lubricant. Such signals cannot be faked; they are sure signs of desire and readiness for sexual contact.
"The Kiss Hormone"
A very interesting hormone involved in sexual arousal in women and men is the “kissing hormone,” called kisspeptin. This hormone was discovered by scientists quite recently. Those studies that were carried out on mice proved that a chemical signal from females activates certain types of neurons. It was found that the receptors for this hormone are located in the hypothalamus and pituitary gland. As a result of the activation of such receptors, pituitary cells in males begin to rapidly secrete gonadotropic hormones that control sexual behavior, as well as the function of the genital organs. Apparently, this hormone encourages a person to kiss, and also sets in motion a chain of chemical actions that lead to sexual desire in a person.
Some time later, kisspeptin was also discovered in humans. Currently, the possibilities of using this hormone for the treatment of sexual desire disorders in the fair sex are being actively studied. Since pectin can regulate attraction to a partner, sexual intercourse and ovulation, it is likely to be successfully used in the treatment of hypoactive sexual desire disorder in women. Approximately 40% of the fair sex have encountered this condition at least once, and about 10% of women constantly suffer from it.
Caressing the thighs and clitoris
Press her against the wall, grab her tightly by the hips, start kissing, and put her hand into the girl’s panties - this approach will drive women crazy who prefer proactive and strong men.
Classic caresses of the lower part of the girls’ bodies involve stroking the clitoris, pinching it and rubbing it. However, before indulging in this activity, you need to make sure whether it is acceptable for your partner or not. Some young ladies will happily allow you to caress the clitoris with your hand, while others will be categorically against it. Therefore, you should first conduct a small analysis of the girl’s character, her upbringing and worldview, or ask directly.
If caresses of the clitoris take place, then you should start gently and carefully by placing a warm hand between your thighs for a few seconds, and then remove it. Having observed the reaction of your chosen one, you can repeat this action, staying in the treasured place longer. Sexual arousal can be achieved by gentle but confident circular movements and light pinching of the clitoris. Caresses with the tongue and very careful biting of the clitoris are also possible. This must be done very carefully so as not to cause the woman any discomfort or pain.
Orgasm
An erection in men, as well as arousal in women, occurs very quickly and can last for several seconds to several hours. If there is insufficient or sufficient attraction, the erection may also stop before ejaculation. The moment of highest tension should normally coincide with ejaculation. In fact, this is what is called orgasm, which is accompanied by a feeling of sexual satisfaction. Sexual arousal ejaculation lasts for 3 seconds in men, and about 10 seconds in women.
