Women always want to know what feelings a certain man has for her. NLP psychologists say: there is no need to beat around the bush, guess or ask leading questions, just close observation of the behavior and gestures of a potential chosen one is enough...
So, what does the body language of a man in love tell us?
Sight
When talking about the nonverbal behavior of a man in love, the first thing people pay attention to is his eyes. This is a real mirror of feelings and emotions; they reveal the true attitude towards oneself.
How does a man look at you? A representative of the stronger sex in love opens his eyes wide, looking at the object of his affection, as if he wants to examine every part of his beloved. He looks for a long time, studying, appraising, admiringly, starting from the face, sliding further along the perimeter of the whole body. This is done unconsciously - this is how the young man visualizes his actions towards you. But if you shoot your eyes back, your companion will quickly look away. He, of course, hopes for reciprocity, but this gesture promises that he does not want to be exposed so quickly. If the game is repeated again (despite the fact that you have noticed interest in yourself, he secretly looks at you again), be sure that the young man is interested in himself!
In the psychology of communication, there are three types of views: social, power and intimate. A man in love looks at a woman exclusively intimately, looking straight into her eyes, as if wanting to get into her very soul. There he looks for the answer to his innermost questions: “Are you ready to become mine?”, “Do you trust me?”, “Do you agree to move to a new level of communication?”
Pay attention to a man's eyes; some signs automatically indicate that he is in love:
- dilated pupils (indicate sincere sympathy, desire for intimacy, sexual attraction);
- shine (produced by the release of the hormone phenylethylamine, which makes us experience fever-like symptoms in the presence of a nice person);
- change in color (being next to a beloved woman, the eyes become a “pool”, so their color seems darker, more saturated, as if they were covered in a veil).
There is an interesting method in psychology that allows you to identify true sympathy for yourself using a glance. To do this, when communicating with a man, do not miss close eye contact with him for a long time. If a person has a crush on you, his brain will definitely respond to your message. You will notice excitement, embarrassment, a rush of blood to the face, uncontrolled facial expressions, etc. Using this technique, it is impossible to rekindle a guy’s feelings if they don’t exist, but you can discern an existing sympathy!
“Hands on hips, shoulders wider”5
How does a male attract a female? That's right, a show of strength. It's the same with people. Of course, a man will not run to uproot trees and bend radiators, but he must show strength. Your arms, or rather your biceps, will come to the rescue. The man will put his hands in a position where the muscles will be as visible as possible. Either he will cross them over his chest or place them on his hips. But there is one more gesture: thumbs on the belt.
Then the hands are seductively positioned in the genital area, forcing the woman to look precisely at the fly area. This is also natural behavior. Pure instincts, and nothing more. But the character who has his hands behind his back is uninteresting. And here's why: hands behind your back in a lock, a signal that a person needs support, rear.
Most likely, the lady's problem is utter mischief. It's not worth getting involved with someone like that. Although, upon closer acquaintance, it may turn out that the person occupies a leadership position, and bosses have a habit of putting their hands behind their backs, which has nothing to do with nonverbalism.
Facial expressions
Facial expressions closely border on visual contact, so pay close attention to the man’s face when you are in his field of vision. The eyebrows are the first to “give up”! In a calm state, they are unshakable, however, having caught a pretty woman, they begin to fly uncontrollably up and down, displaying their inner experiences. If a man deliberately raises one eyebrow, this gesture demonstrates deep interest in the girl!
Falling in love is clearly indicated by a man’s olfactory organ. Our nose is quite sensitive, so when we are nervous, excited, or emotionally uplifted, we breathe more often, more intensely, and deeper. At the same time, the nostrils flare, as if instead of oxygen, a person in love inhales hot air! At the same time, the lips also treacherously dry out, which is why men in love often have to lick them with their tongues. This gesture speaks of a secret desire to kiss a pretty person. We are accustomed to the fact that only women do this in attempts to seduce a man, but this is a common physiological need in the presence of the object of adoration.
And, of course, a smile! She begins to play on the lips from the first second the beloved woman enters the man’s horizons and does not go away until he sees her. Moreover, it appears involuntarily. A man may notice this and change his facial expression, but over time it treacherously resurfaces. A smile, as a rule, is sincere, wide, and kind.
Please note: if a man starts smiling from the first word you say (even if it’s not addressed to him), this is a gesture of sincere sympathy! So intuitively he wants to seem more attractive to you!
Gestures that speak only of a friendly relationship between a man and a woman
A guy who feels friendly impulses towards a girl, when meeting or saying goodbye, would rather pat her on the shoulder than hug or kiss her on the cheek, because he does not feel the need for more intimate contact.
When exiting a vehicle or in another similar situation, the young man does not give her his hand for support, unless he is really well-mannered and shows similar attention to all representatives of the opposite sex by default.
When walking with a girlfriend, a man often walks ahead at some distance.
Gesticulation
Body language is an expression of feelings. With its help, you can learn not only about sympathy for yourself, but also, in principle, read all the secrets of human consciousness, since every gesture carries its own message.
The first thing that shows increased attention to a girl is the gestures of the hands of a man in love. They are always on the move. If you are discussing something, your companion’s hands actively accompany the conversation, because the guy wants to impress you as much as possible and at least somehow get into the center of your attention. Open palms will often be shown, this is a gesture of frankness: “I am open to you, I trust you, I accept you.” Relaxed hands speak of goodwill, sincerity, and tenderness. But crossed or hidden hands in a pocket scream that the interlocutor has lost interest in what is happening. If a man begins to nervously fidget with something in his hands (car keys, key fob, napkin, phone), he wants to end the meeting as soon as possible.
Follow your companion's fingers; Freud also said that their demonstration reflects sexual overtones. Does he show them, highlight them, expose them? If they are actively involved below the belt (putting thumbs in the belt of trousers, sticking fingers out of pockets, etc.) - a gesture of obvious manifestation of erotic interest, one’s authoritarianism, desire to dominate over a partner.
A man in love, when he sees a woman he is interested in, always takes care of his appearance: straightens his jacket, straightens his collar, tilts his head to look at his shoes, shakes dust off his pants.
Pay attention to the man's legs. To find out if he is in love, look at how he sits and stands in front of you. Firstly, the toes of the shoes will always be facing you, this is a subconscious gesture indicating that the companion is ready to follow the woman. Secondly, look at the other person's ankles. If he is standing, his legs will in most cases be spread wide; if he is sitting, his ankles will be crossed. By the way, if a guy is unsure of himself, in a vertical position he will need support, for this he will begin to push one leg forward. If you are in company, this leg will indicate the one he has feelings for.
Signs of falling in love according to zodiac signs
Depending on their affiliation with a particular zodiac sign, men tend to express sympathy and interest in completely different ways:
- Aries - having caught the love fever, they become extravagant and resemble children. Broad gestures, dashing but meaningless feats, a flurry of emotions betray them completely.
- Taurus are silent about feelings like partisans during interrogation. Acquaintances and colleagues may know that the bull is “in a relationship” no more, while the chosen one herself will still be scratching her head trying to understand whether they are dating or not. The main sign of falling in love is the desire to introduce a girl to her surroundings.
- Geminis become absent-minded and incredibly generous. They are ready to throw all their savings at the feet of their beloved. This sign can hardly be called silent, and under the influence of feelings, the twin talks twice as much, but remains an interesting interlocutor, since he does not talk nonsense.
- Cancer is a sensual, romantic sign, ready to spend all his free time with his chosen one, organizing pleasant surprises for her.
- Leo will bring down a stream of passion and positivity on the girl, trying to demonstrate her best qualities and her own royalty.
- Virgo – clearly catches the line between caring and obsession. Likes to show “everyday” care, preferring actions to words.
- Libra - instantly fills the entire space, but at the same time manages not to choke. They communicate as if the couple have been together for a long time and are actively involved in the girl’s life.
- Scorpio - will break through any walls, seeking favor. He gives in to his feelings 100%, but is demanding in terms of dedication.
- Sagittarius - his cynicism disappears, the motto: “Love is for weaklings” is replaced by an influx of romance.
- Capricorn - loses practicality and common sense, is ready to sacrifice a second job in order to free up time for dating and easily parts with money.
- Aquarius - becomes down-to-earth and responsible, losing its usual lightness.
- Pisces - they look after you beautifully, give compliments, and are not afraid to express true feelings directly.
Men who experience a surge of true love lose their self-control and are more likely to resemble teenagers in love who don’t know what to say or how to approach, rather than experienced ladies’ men.
Body position
To determine whether a man is in love, it is enough to look at the entire pose and the manifestation of individual parts of the body. But here, to clarify, it would be appropriate to take into account the guy’s character and self-esteem.
Confident men with all their gestures and external manifestations say: “Look at me, I am the one you need,” “I am strong, brave, courageous, with me you will feel safe.” Representatives of the stronger sex with high self-esteem always “stretch out” in front of a woman, wanting to appear taller, straighten their shoulders, stick their chest forward, and lift their chin. This is how they try to please the one they are in love with. Psychologists often compare such chosen ones to peacocks, showing off in front of the peahens. The body is always turned towards the beloved, legs are widely spaced. A person who stands firm demonstrates his confidence and determination.
If a guy is not too confident in himself, he will have his own signs by which one can determine whether he is in love. His head will be slightly lowered, his posture will be tense, his shoulders will be tense, and his gestures will be stingy. If you stand opposite each other, the man will not be able to stand calmly and evenly. The legs will dance every now and then, change their point of support, pick the ground, etc.
If a man can show off his figure to his companion, he will do it with great pleasure. He will play with his biceps, expose his torso, show off his abs, wearing a tight T-shirt. He will be happy to help his beloved physically: lift something, move something, catch up with someone, show endurance, etc. Guys who ignore sports will not focus on their appearance, so they suck in their stomach, wear clothes of universal sizes, They prefer quiet leisure to active leisure.
Bent like a bow. Stretch like a string3
A man who is interested in a woman will either bend his shoulders slightly to be ready to instantly begin moving towards the object, or, conversely, straighten them as much as possible to become taller and wider. Again: a demonstration of size and the desire to become much more noticeable among others. In addition, a straight back works like a fuse. It tightens your abs, tightens your stomach, and makes your chest more prominent and wider.
Touch
Tactile contact is perhaps the most straightforward gesture indicating a man’s sympathy for a woman. The desire to touch your partner always speaks of falling in love, since you only want to feel closely a person who is pleasant to you. What can a girl notice? Firstly, the satellite is trying in every possible way to reduce the distance between you. For any reason: come close to better hear your story (show something “important”), sit closer so that there is enough space for others at the table, ask something, etc. His goal is to enter your personal space and simultaneously assess the response to this.
Secondly, pay attention to the guy's hands. A man in love always tries to unobtrusively, gently and easily touch the girl he likes. Remove a speck from your hair, shake a bug off your shoulder, “accidentally” touch it, support your elbow when descending from a slippery porch, put your hand close to yours at a meeting. If you are at the level of friendly relations, you may notice constant body movements in your direction: comic pushes, slapping the cheeks, pinching, hugging, scratching hair.
If there is more than friendship between you, but you don’t know what exactly a man feels for you, focus on his direct touches. He puts your hand tightly in his - a sign of deep affection, holds you by the waist - demonstrates his importance, touches you from behind - he is always ready to protect, console, support.
Please note: if a guy for some reason is in no hurry to touch, he may show his sympathy in a different way. For example, stroking a glass, phone, table surface, etc. with your finger. These gestures mean that he is determined to give your body affection and tenderness, but due to indecision, he is waiting for initiative from his companion. If he touches his own face, hair, neck, he is nervous because he cannot openly show his sympathy.
If you want to test a man's feelings, touch him first and gauge his reaction. The chosen one in love will gladly reciprocate with approval, tenderness. He received the green light, which means he is ready to cross that very line!
Coordinates in space6
A man who has chosen a lady from the crowd will always occupy a certain position in space. During the tracking process, he will try to take the “Back – Wall” position. Then his interlocutors will calmly carry on the conversation, and he will observe. This way it’s more convenient for him to cover the entire space with his gaze and not spin around like a top if his lady suddenly decides to be behind him.
As a man draws conclusions about the attractiveness of an object, a sign that the choice fell on this woman will be constant approaching her. This gives the man a feeling of control, closeness and convenience of capturing the victim, and possessive instincts are triggered. In addition, he needs to expand his zone of influence as much as possible, because other males may also lay claim to the same lady, and if he is somewhere out of sight, then there is a risk of simply going unnoticed.
The big picture8
Well, now, having collected all the pieces of the puzzle into the overall picture, you can see the image of the “conqueror”.
He stands quite relaxed, carries on a conversation with friends, lazily glances at the people around him. As soon as an interesting object looms on the horizon, the man straightens up and fixes his eyes. First, a quick glance, then preening and arranging feathers, then hands on the belt with thumbs, feet shoulder-width apart and, voila, you can smile approvingly and invitingly at this macho: suddenly he is destiny.
Other bright signals that indicate a man is in love
The gestures and facial expressions of a man in love, his eyes and postures are not all that can tell you about the feelings of a representative of the stronger sex. There are also subtle signs in non-verbal behavior that indicate a warm attitude towards a woman.
- A guy in love subconsciously adopts the gestures, body position, breathing rate, and pace of conversation of the girl he likes. If you notice this emotional adjustment, then you are perceived as more than a friend.
- Demonstration of your financial well-being. Show off your wrist with an expensive watch once again, carry a gold-plated pen with you, twirl the latest model phone in your hand, treat your team with expensive delicacies - this whole game is for you if you catch the above-mentioned signals in your direction. This is how males in love behave, saying: “Pay attention to me, you will not be disappointed, I will fulfill your desires.”
- Unusual behavior. Illogical statements, embarrassment, excessive swagger, spontaneity, fussiness, increased activity, etc. If you have known a man for a long time, pay attention to whether he has changed or has always been like this.
- A man in love always tries to impress the lady of his heart with masculine actions, so he often appears before our eyes. What you need? Borrow an umbrella, walk you home late at night, help you climb to the 8th floor, fix the printer, stand up for you with a colleague, listen to you, give good advice? The knight will always be in the right place at the right time!
- The gait becomes more airy, flying, soaring. The pose is open, the head is raised. This is how a man demonstrates natural strength, agility, and grace.
- The voice of a man in love betrays him completely. If he is self-confident, the timbre becomes lower than usual, hoarseness may be present, the pace of speech slows down, the voice sounds more courageous and mature. This speaks of lust. If the companion is unsure of himself, on the contrary, the voice will become beyond his control: the timbre will be higher than the real one, the speech will be confused, fast, monotonous.
