Incredible facts
When you look at the object of your attention, you probably wonder if the feeling is mutual. It would be much easier for you to approach a person knowing that he is also attracted to you.
Psychologists say that there are obvious and almost imperceptible signs of silent attraction that are important not to miss.
In a 2022 study published in the journal Psychological Bulletin
, found that people behave in certain ways when they like someone a lot.
We begin to mirror the other person's behavior, try to start a conversation, want to be physically closer. There are also non-verbal signals: a long gaze into the eyes, subtle touches, as well as a desire to make you laugh.
There are other signs that indicate mutual sympathy or something more.
Non-verbal transmission of information
A verbal form of communication is the transmission of some information using words. And there is also non-verbal transmission of information, which is carried out using facial expressions, gestures, and glances.
Moreover, wordless information can tell so much about the interlocutor that he himself is not aware of it. What's the matter here? The point is that a person does not follow non-verbal messages as strictly as he does words.
People tend to lie and deceive. Some do this for selfish purposes, some are afraid to discover their true essence, and some do not want to reveal their intentions. But nonverbal behavior will help reveal the whole truth about the interlocutor.
Types of nonverbal information:
- Voice intonation
- Facial expression
- Facial expressions
- Gestures
- Body movements
It is especially important to pay attention to this in business circles, as well as when communicating between men and women. After all, a person can speak sweetly, but his behavior will give him away, you just need to “read” him correctly.
By revealing the meaning of each movement, you can find out about a person’s true intentions, and then begin to communicate with him. After the first contact, you may have developed systems for further building communication with a specific interlocutor. Because you already know what to expect from the subject, how to build a conversation with him.
The meaning of physical contact
Most people love touch. When one person gently strokes the skin of another or embraces him, a special hormone is produced in the body. It's called oxytocin. It is also known as the “cuddle hormone.” Entering the bloodstream, this element increases the sensitivity of the skin and promotes a sense of community.
Physical contacts in the form of hugs, affection, pats on the shoulder, real and comic slaps in the face can tell us much more than spoken words. Using nonverbal language, a person can express his sympathy or, conversely, dislike. Physical contacts help attract attention or convey certain emotions. There are also touches between a man and a woman that are associated with professional activities. Such contacts take place during a visit to the doctor or hairdresser, as well as during sports, dancing, etc. In other words, physical contact in a person’s life is quite normal and quite common. But whatever it is, it certainly has an impact on people’s perceptions, which is why it becomes important to understand the meaning that touch carries.
What determines the effectiveness of communication?
The first thing a person pays attention to is clothing. Many womanizers lure the “victim” by dressing with great taste. Today it is difficult to surprise with beautiful clothes, which means you need to pay attention to other non-verbal signs.
It is believed that a woman is more sensitive than the stronger sex, so she is able to notice the smallest details committed by a man when they meet. Therefore, the female half quickly learns from the behavior of her husband about the existence of, for example, a rival. Some people call this ability female intuition.
Even in business negotiations, a lady is more successful than a man. It is she who notices when a partner wants to evade signing, for example, a lucrative contract. This is where she uses her “heavy artillery.” She knows how to decipher hidden signals: postures, gestures, body movements that the interlocutor makes during a conversation.
If a lady wants to interest a particular man for further acquaintance, she will show off her wrists, or rather the smooth skin on them. The hands will be in the gentleman's field of vision. She will definitely shake her hair, even if she has a short haircut. He will adjust something in his clothes, touch his lips, neck, cheeks.
A mesmerizing move is to open the scarf to show off your neck. A bare neck has a flawless effect on the opposite sex.
What does the gentleman do? If he likes a woman, he will straighten his tie or collar, jacket, and smooth his hair. The most outspoken individuals will demonstrate a defiant gesture - they will put their thumbs behind the belt. This is not a demonstration of superiority, on the contrary, a call to pay attention to it.
Embrace
There are touches between a man and a woman (their meaning can be described by the phrase “I more than like you”), when a partner strokes his chosen one on the back. And he does this at the moment of hugging. In this case, we can say that the woman is interesting to the man and evokes strong feelings in him. Most likely, he has nothing against developing further relationships. After all, such gentle touches of a man to a woman are a symbol of strong attraction that can develop into a deep feeling.
Sometimes it happens that a guy hugs his beloved and is in no hurry to part with her. Such touches of a man to a woman and their meaning are also quite understandable to those who are familiar with non-verbal language. In this case, we can say that the guy is very upset. That is why he strokes his chosen one for about a good half a minute. However, he does not intend to talk about his feelings. Based on the psychology of a man touching a woman, a lady may well be offended, realizing that her partner has withdrawn into himself and is only stroking her “automatically.” However, experts recommend not to do this. In such a situation, you should hug the man tightly, trying to distract him from negative thoughts.
Secrets of seduction
To arouse the interest of the opposite sex, a woman must learn some secrets of seduction.
Movement of the hips, licking of lips, slightly open mouth, furtive glance, half-lowered eyelids are the most exciting signs. Looking into the eyes inflames a man less than peeping in his direction and then slowly looking away.
Sexual arousal is produced by tinting the lips, and on both partners.
Leg movement can drive any man crazy:
- Playing with a removed shoe: then put the shoe on, then take it off.
- Crossing the legs with one knee pointing towards the gentleman.
- One leg is crossed over the other. But this gesture can sometimes demonstrate approachability, so be careful.
- Slowly throwing one leg over the other, and then the same slow return to the previous position.
- Stroking your thigh. This gesture shows that the lady is waiting for affection from this particular man. At the same time, she will conduct the conversation in a gentle, cooing voice.
An interested woman will never miss an opportunity to demonstrate enticing gestures. It has been proven that nonverbal signals travel much faster and convey 5 times more information than verbal ones.
A little about body language
Nonverbal communication skills can be used to analyze your interlocutor and lead to more successful negotiations if you deliberately convey confidence and superiority. The ability to understand the meaning of facial expressions and gestures will help you to be known as an insightful and understanding person, capable of empathy. People love when they can be listened to and heard. Understanding body language will help people speaking in front of large audiences: speakers, teachers, politicians. The body language of your interlocutor will also tell you in a difficult situation: if you understand that your opponent is aggressive, you can change your conversation tactics - present your thought softer or more authoritatively.
The concept of “body language” should be distinguished from “gesture language”. The first is unconscious behavior, the involuntary expression of thoughts and emotions. A restrained person knows how to control such behavior. The second is the conscious, purposeful transmission of a message using hand gestures, a conventional sign that has a clear meaning.
If you frequently interact with people from different countries, be aware of national differences in understanding the meaning of gestures. Different gestures can have different meanings: from approval and cordiality to extreme disrespect that will offend the interlocutor. In English-speaking countries, a ring of thumb and index finger (“OK”) means “everything is fine.” However, in Brazil this gesture symbolizes sexual desire, in France - a distrustful attitude towards the words of the interlocutor, and in Turkey and Greece - a hint of the interlocutor's homosexual inclinations. Be careful both with expressing emotions through hand gestures and with the perception of them on yourself.
How to correctly interpret gestures
How do you know if a guy is interested in you? By body language you can learn a lot about a guy’s attitude towards a girl and vice versa. If he hid his hands in his pockets, this indicates strong emotional stress. Try starting a conversation by touching his elbow. Talk to him, find a topic that interests him.
What will hugs tell you? This is strong evidence of interest.
- If this happens from the front directly and strongly, then he considers you as a passion for one evening. A hug from behind when he wraps his arms around his neck will tell you about his serious intentions. He hints in such a way that he will not give you up to anyone, that you are his object of admiration.
- If the man next to you stretches, then this gesture shows indifference. Run, he is not worthy of your attention! But if the gentleman stretches to straighten his shoulders, then he is trying to charm you!
- Open touching demonstrates overt sexual desire.
- Licking your lips or touching them with your hand hints at intimacy.
- Comes too close when talking. This is a gesture of a confident person. With him you will not have any problems, but you need to understand that such people are a little selfish.
Facial expressions and gaze also tell a lot about the interlocutor:
- Smiles to win over a girl or flirts.
- Doesn't look at the interlocutor. He may be head over heels in love, but he doesn’t want her to know about his feelings. This option cannot be rejected - he is married, but he is stunned by the fact that he is very attracted to you.
- They lower their eyes to the floor: either married or modest.
- They look closely at the lips. He wants to kiss them, and in an informal setting.
Patting on the back
Is it worth looking for deep affection when a man touches a woman like this? What does patting a lady on the back mean to a representative of the stronger sex? This gesture is quite common. It means support, friendship and praise. If a man, in a good mood, pats his companion on the back, then he most likely does not even see her as a woman. After all, such a touch usually means “you’re cool,” “well done,” etc. With such non-verbal signals, you can only count on the friendship of a representative of the stronger sex, nothing more.
Seduction techniques
Pay attention to the man and woman talking. They can talk about anything, but their bodies talk about something completely different. It turns out there is a special seduction technique. Having studied this technique, you can direct your relationship in the direction you want.
- It is useful to use mirror techniques , that is, repeat the gestures and poses of the object. This way it is easier to win the sympathy of your interlocutor.
- You should look at the pupils of your chosen one . If during communication his pupils dilate, it means he is already intrigued. But the best proof is a slight tilt of the head towards your person. The person is ready to develop and continue the relationship. A guy can use this technique to seduce the person he likes
- Well, touch . But they should be light, as if random. These are the ones that excite both men and women.
What is sympathy
Sympathy is fascination and an emotionally positive attitude towards a person. It can manifest itself in the form of attention, desire to communicate and recognize the identity of another. Touch also plays an important role, because if you like a person, then you want to touch him all the time, touch him carefully, remove invisible specks of dust, hug him.
Tactile sensations are extremely important in any relationship. They help to quickly establish trusting relationships, because the first feelings a person experiences are the mother’s touch. They give a feeling of security, trust and safety.
Unconscious touches, for example, to one’s own hair or clothes, can also reveal sympathy. The desire to look perfect can indicate interest in another person, a desire to please him.
