A woman’s tenderness: the best proof of love ⇒ Blog of Yaroslav Samoilov

It is unlikely that anyone can accurately answer what a woman’s tenderness is and what causes it.
Some believe that when a woman is lonely, her tenderness can accumulate. You can also distinguish several types of tenderness, which differ significantly from each other: tenderness for a beloved man, tenderness for a child or a homeless animal, which evokes compassion. Typically, representatives of the fairer sex do not hide their emotions, and tenderness is traditionally highlighted as one of the main feminine qualities. From this article you will learn:

What is meant by the word "tenderness"
What is the difference between male and female tenderness
What should a woman's tenderness be like?
How to cultivate tenderness in yourself
Excess of tenderness - is it good or bad?

What is tenderness

Psychologists say that tenderness is a character trait that makes a person inclined to show affection towards someone, the reason for which is not sexual attraction.

Psychologists began studying the “phenomenon” of tenderness back in the century before last. Russian scientist V.A. Snegirev devoted a number of scientific works to this topic. In them he put forward a number of unusual provisions:

Tenderness is associated with a special pleasant sensation, which reduces a person’s physical and mental activity. However, unlike the state of powerlessness and apathy, tenderness does not interfere with a person’s harmonious existence, but contributes to it.
The triggers of tenderness are spiritual and physical agents. They even out the flow of life. When interacting with them, a person feels calm and harmonious.
If tender feelings have arisen, then in the future they will manifest themselves involuntarily, regardless of the circumstances. Next to the object of tenderness, a person feels as harmonious as possible, so he is able to easily turn a blind eye to the real conditions of communication.

Scientific definitions can help us characterize the phenomenon of tenderness, but they are clearly not enough, since this concept is multifaceted. The ability to experience and show tenderness has been formed in humans for many thousands of years. At the same time, tenderness is perceived by us as one of the most striking manifestations of love. If tenderness disappears, warmth and intimacy leave the relationship along with it.

One of the simplest and most understandable manifestations of a woman’s tenderness is a smile. In fact, a smile is a unique opportunity for human facial expressions that we acquired during evolution. The ability to smile is one of those skills that makes humans strikingly different from animals. By smiling, we can show our kind attitude towards our interlocutor, express respect, friendly support, and, of course, love and tenderness. It is not for nothing that the attention of many poets and artists at all times has been focused on a woman’s smile, which they sang in poetry and tried to capture in portraits.

This is especially evident at the beginning of a relationship. But the happiest couples are those who were able not to lose tenderness for their partner after many years of marriage.

Tenderness is manifested through many actions, including the most insignificant ones, which we perform only in relation to our loved ones. This can be noticed when a man gets out of a vehicle and offers his hand to his companion. And the point here is not that this is how he was taught and this is how it is accepted: he just loves her and wants to show it with every move he makes.

A loving wife also always takes special care of her husband: she brews him delicious coffee while he is getting ready for work, gives him a shirt, straightens his tie. Often, manifestations of tenderness are invisible to prying eyes: two people are just sitting and talking, suddenly their hands seem to accidentally touch, but each of them experiences unique emotions.

How should a woman’s tenderness be expressed?

When we talk about the tenderness of a woman, the image of a “Turgenev girl” appears in our heads: naive, sensitive, affectionate. But not every modern girl feels and behaves this way. It happens that in a relationship with a young man who is interesting and even attractive to her, a woman still does not show this side of her nature. Coldness on the part of the lady naturally repels the man, and communication comes to naught.

The situation will be different with a girl who by nature loves to take care of someone, treats loved ones with attention and knows how to support in difficult times. Such a woman does not have to be beautiful for all men to be attracted to her. Although, of course, in a series of days that are similar to each other, when not everything is so smooth at work, and for some reason household chores are not done by ourselves, it becomes difficult to constantly show tenderness.

As a result, the once affectionate and reverent girl becomes a rude, distant, even aggressive woman. And such behavior can very quickly cause the breakdown of a relationship.

A tender attitude is a constant companion of love for a person. If a woman is in love, she does not need to try to be affectionate, she does not need to think about how to show her feelings - this happens intuitively. And if there are no feelings, tenderness can only be depicted, but it cannot be artificially evoked. Of course, this happens differently for everyone: someone is ready to kiss and hug their loved one for hours, someone behaves more restrained. But there are situations when tenderness fades away, although initially the relationship was built on mutual love.

Most often this happens over time. A married couple is no longer two carefree teenagers in love: people have work, responsibilities, problems. The love boat, as they say, breaks in everyday life. Sometimes a woman’s attitude is a “mirror” of a man’s attitude: he stopped showing attention to her, and she was tired of “playing with one goal.”

If tenderness is not natural for a woman, if it is difficult for her to show her feelings towards her partner, it is worth understanding herself and understanding why this happens. Perhaps tenderness faded into the background due to some conflicts in the family. And if you truly love your spouse, you need to acknowledge your grievances and let them go. But it happens that a girl was simply not taught to be gentle. Children who were not spoiled with affection as children usually build relationships according to the same scenario as adults.

The situation is different if tenderness as a sensation is present, but there are problems with finding ways to express it. For some reason, many women associate tenderness with various cute nicknames, and constantly call a man “baby”, “honey” or “cat”.

However, for men, such addresses are not some kind of significant manifestation of tenderness, especially if all sorts of “cutes” are heard by strangers.

It is important to understand that many representatives of the stronger sex are simply irritated by such lisping. And the worst situation is when “nicknames” replace the person’s name, and you stop pronouncing it. But there is nothing more pleasant than hearing your name from the lips of your beloved woman. If you still want to come up with some kind of affectionate nickname for your boyfriend, that’s not bad, but let it be special, connected to your story.

It’s not easy for everyone to express tenderness in words or talk about their emotions. In this case, use other methods, because feelings can be conveyed by touch and even by glance. Sometimes a warm, sincere hug means more than a hundred words. And the best reflection of a woman’s tenderness towards a man is attention and care.

Try to put yourself in your husband’s shoes and understand what he would like now. For example, after work he would hardly refuse a hot bath and a delicious dinner. Don’t forget to please your man with compliments: just notice what you really like about him, and then the words will be sincere.

Don't expect yourself to be affectionate and caring if you're worried about something at the moment, if you're irritated or angry. First you need to learn how to get rid of negativity. Find your way to deal with negative emotions: meditation helps some, while others prefer to go in for fitness.

If you not only feel a lack of tenderness, but also regularly show aggression towards others, you need to look at yourself from the outside. Do this in a situation where you had a fight with someone close to you, or yelled at your husband or child. Just look at yourself in the mirror. Most likely, you will see something not very attractive: a red face, a wrinkled forehead and an angry expression.

Do you want your family to see you like this? And it’s not even a matter of appearance, it’s just that such situations lead to the fact that family members will not even expect you to behave towards them with affection.

Watch how you move, because a woman’s tenderness is evident in every step. A good wife does not march like a soldier, she walks smoothly and easily. To cultivate natural elegance, you don't need to try to fake it. It’s better to do yoga or dancing in your free time: this will help you learn how to control your body.

Some experts suggest training your ability to express affection on pets or even plush toys. The first option, in principle, can be considered appropriate, since we are talking about at least a living being. As for toys, yes, you can like them, but it’s unlikely that you can show the same tenderness to an object as to a person. It’s better to “practice” in public right away. The more serious your psychological barrier, the longer it will take, but you need to learn step by step to open up to your loved ones.

How to “cultivate” tenderness in yourself

Can you remember how many times during the day you were affectionate? Not a smart, beautiful, active, professional, but rather a gentle woman? How often do you show affection towards your husband, child, family members, close friends? Nowadays, representatives of the fair sex are focused on their careers and solving many serious problems. Therefore, a woman’s tenderness is especially valued, because it has become a real rarity.

But if you can’t remember such a moment, don’t be upset. Tenderness is inherent in some to a greater extent, in others to a lesser extent, but it exists in every person. Even the most reserved and cold people are capable of sincerely loving and caring for others. If you don't show your feelings often enough, most likely you just don't know how to do it.

Such problems do not arise overnight. Usually the reason lies in upbringing, in the fact that a woman grew up in a family where it is not customary to take care of each other, support, hug and kiss. But the ability to be affectionate can be developed if you do it consciously.

Remove internal blocks
Internal blocks are formed in childhood, when the human psyche reacts sensitively to the world around us. The child adopts the model of behavior that his parents show him. Typically, women who do not know how to show affection say that their parents were cold to each other and to them. Internal blocks that prevent people who were disliked in childhood from expressing their feelings are very difficult to overcome. A psychologist will help you cope with this problem. He will determine exactly which moments in your biography led to a “deficit of tenderness” and will help you get rid of the burden of the past.
Look for reasons
Sometimes it's much easier to do something when there is a reason. If you need it even for a kiss or a small gift, look for it or invent it yourself. This way you can put into action the tenderness that you have.

The reason for tenderness can be any action on the part of your partner. Every time he shows concern for you, thank him with a kiss or a nice word.
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Say kind words
For some women, words such as “darling,” “dear,” “beloved” sound terribly unusual, since they rarely say them. Practice pronouncing the necessary epithets in front of the mirror. Then try writing something nice in SMS, and then say it out loud when you are together. It’s good if you have your own “special” words that will help you feel closer to each other.
Try to touch your loved one more often
Think of it as a kind of ritual, for example, associated with your meeting. Any pleasant gesture will be appropriate, be it a kiss or a hug. Try to touch him at any appropriate moment, as if by chance.

Train yourself to walk by the hand, not by the arm. The first option is associated with much greater closeness between people, with the absence of distance.
Practice constantly!
A woman’s tenderness is a complex, deep feeling that must be sincere. You cannot, at the snap of your fingers, begin to show the emotions that you are used to keeping within yourself, throw away all your barriers and open up to another person. Therefore, all techniques that help you become more affectionate must be used regularly. It will be difficult at first, but over time you will become more open.

Exciting touches

After or during kissing, use touching the female body. Start the love game slowly, there is no need to rush now. Your goal is to bring the girl bliss. How to touch a woman correctly to excite her:

Carefully, but at the same time passionately touch her erogenous zones with your fingertips: this way you will prepare the girl for further continuation.
When the lady is slightly warmed up, you can increase your touch, squeezing and stroking her arms, shoulders, chest and buttocks.
Keep an eye on the girl: does she have a response to your advances in the form of goosebumps or, on the contrary, is it unpleasant for her.
Don't hurt her unless she asks for it.
Intersperse touching with kisses.
Use sweet words or vulgarities to describe your arousal.
You can touch the girl not only with your hands, but also with other parts of the body: hug her with your legs, rub your aroused genital organ, press your whole body.
Don't be shy, there is no room for shyness in sex.
If you want to perform some unusual action for your couple, it is better to ask permission from your partner.

Separately, it is worth answering the question of how to properly caress a woman’s breasts. This is a special part of a girl’s body, so act persistently, but as carefully as possible. The most sensitive part of the breast is the nipples. Touch them with your tongue, lips and fingers to create a storm of emotions. Try to caress the woman’s breasts as gently as possible and you will soon hear the passionate moans of your chosen one.

How to tell a man about your tender feelings for him

Once in a relationship between a man and a woman, the time comes when it is necessary to openly talk about your feelings. And you can make this moment truly special for both of you. To do this, you need to prepare an original confession that will help you express everything that is in your soul. You can do it like this:

Start with small nice gifts. These could be cute but practical souvenirs, sweets or other little things. If a person cares about you, be sure that he will notice and appreciate any manifestation of tenderness on your part. Then you can include a note with your recognition in one of these gifts.
A man will be pleased to receive a card that you made yourself. Imagine: a woman’s love and tenderness for a man will be proven by a photo on a postcard, fabric, jewelry.

Feelings are especially clearly manifested through gifts made with your own hands. Write about your feelings in a postcard, and your partner will not remain indifferent.
You can also confess your love on the radio. If you know exactly when your chosen one listens to the radio and what programs he likes, you can order a romantic composition for him or call him live to tell him about your love. You can even record a song for him yourself using amateur equipment or in a recording studio.
The atmosphere of the evening city is conducive to romance. Take a few candles with you, arrange them in the shape of a heart and light them - this way you can show your loved one all the warmth of your feelings for him. You can also write a confession in the snow or on the asphalt.
If you want to surprise your lover with a romantic gesture, make a confession poster and then hang it in front of his window. Just remember that to place such structures on houses you need permission from the residents.
A woman’s tenderness and love does not always need material expression. Often the most sincere and warm words are those spoken without preparation, on the spur of the moment. If you feel that the moment has come when confession would be appropriate, just look your man in the eyes and say: “I love you!”

Development of relationships between men and women

The development of relationships between a man and a woman should provide both partners with joy and happiness, which will subsequently become the foundation of a strong and happy family. Relationships between a man and a woman are divided into: partnership, domestic, matriarchal, patriarchal, inspiring.

Partnership relationships are built on equal rights between both partners. They are characterized by a calm atmosphere in the family, the ability to agree among themselves and come to the optimal solution to eliminate the existing problem. In such relationships, a man and a woman show increased activity, activity, and initiative. There is a certain agreement between the husband and wife for the distribution of household and family responsibilities. In such relationships there is no common family budget. Over time, such relationships can turn into purely material needs.
Domestic relationships represent a close connection between a man and a woman, in which love comes first, and everyday affairs and everyday problems come in the background. In such relationships, career, success, self-improvement, and implementation of plans are not the main aspects of this union. People in such relationships are sensual and emotional natures. In the absence of personal hobbies, activities, and responsibilities, partners may experience melancholy and everyday difficulties over time.
Matriarchal relationships are characterized by the dominance of a woman who is a purposeful, strong and active person. The spouse in such a relationship has a gentle and patient character, strives to make his own career, prefers home comfort and a calm atmosphere in the family. The wife is responsible for solving complex problems and tasks. However, if a woman strives to create a strong and happy family, she will do everything possible to ensure that her husband becomes the leader in their union.
A patriarchal relationship is a male-dominated union. The husband in such a relationship is the head of the family, and the wife creates home comfort. The man makes important decisions, the wife carries out his instructions and devotes enough time to family members.
An empowering relationship represents the empowering position of a woman who becomes her man's muse and inspiration. For such a wife, the husband will do everything possible so that she is happy and does not need anything. A woman, as a rule, in such relationships is a capricious and demanding person.

How to revive former tenderness in a relationship

When people just get married, they are usually overwhelmed by a feeling of all-consuming love for each other, and do not even think that any problems may arise in their relationship. But over time, problems arise for almost everyone, and it is extremely difficult to avoid this. After all, dreams of children, home improvement and warm family evenings are one thing, but in reality, living together is associated with a huge number of difficulties. Because of this, tenderness fades into the background, and one day the two discover that they are no longer as close as before. How to fix this situation?

First of all, do not think that your love is dead and cannot be awakened. A woman’s tenderness can “fall asleep” due to the constant bustle, in which there is no time to show emotions. Just sit down and remember how good you had with your loved one. In fact, your relationship can still be the same if you remember your feelings and find the time and opportunity to express them. Consider whether your behavior has changed recently. It is quite possible that not only you, but also your partner suddenly began to miss affection from you.
Don't expect your husband to magically behave the way you want. Talk to him, express your desires openly.

When you both understand what your mistakes were, it will be easier to correct your behavior.
The most basic advice is to mentally return to the beginning of your relationship, remember how often you showed your tenderness with words, touches and actions. Try to revive it: start spending time together, try to touch your loved one more often, tell him something pleasant, and reduce the negativity to zero.

Erotic massage

Massage is a great way to relax a woman before sex. Even if you don’t know anything about it, you can master simple techniques of this kind of skill to give a girl pleasure. How to do a massage correctly:

Prepare the surface - for an amateur massage, a flat mattress is enough.
Position your chosen one so that you both feel comfortable.
Use a pre-prepared massage oil with some enchanting scent: vanilla, patchouli, lavender are great.
Lubricate your partner's skin and begin to perform warming movements.
Everyone reacts differently to the force of pressure: gradually select the force that will be optimal for your girl.
Massage your shoulders, then move to the area between the shoulder blades - there are sensitive points there, then go down to the buttocks and legs.
Don’t end the massage too quickly, but don’t rush it either: remember that your main goal is to warm up and relax the woman well before sex, and not to ensure she sleeps soundly at the end of the session.

A massage will be a wonderful help for great sex between you. This procedure is a kind of care, so the woman will definitely appreciate it and give herself to you with the greatest possible passion.

What is the difference between male and female tenderness

Some ladies are sure that both men and women show their tenderness in the same way. They know from themselves what a woman’s tenderness is and how it is expressed, and they expect the same actions from their partner. But a man behaving like a woman is more of a deviation than the norm. You need to understand that representatives of the stronger sex are accustomed to showing their feelings in a completely different way.

If we are talking about traditional relationships, then in them the man acts as the leader, and the woman follows him. A man sets goals and achieves them, he takes responsibility for his family and provides for it. A woman is more involved in the house, raising children, while she relies on the intelligence and strength of her man and believes in the correctness of his decisions.

In this situation, a woman’s tenderness lies in creating in the family a psychological climate that is pleasant for everyone, a pleasant and warm atmosphere. When a man comes home, with her affection and love she helps him forget about the problems that he has to solve outside the home, and does not create new ones. A woman should be loving and faithful so that a man does not have to worry about her leaving for someone else.

As for a man’s tenderness, it is based on his strength and self-sufficiency. He becomes the protector of his family, he does everything so that his relatives do not need anything, and solves most of the problems himself.

If a conflict arises in a family, a man must take a responsible approach to finding the cause of the quarrels and eradicating it. So the husband is responsible for the well-being of his family.

A woman shows her love through words and touch, thereby showing affection for her partner. Men are usually not so inclined to verbally express feelings, but they are always ready to help their beloved and protect her.

Naturally, both husband and wife should show their tenderness to each other in bed. Sexual behavior also has its own specifics, but as for tenderness, it must be present in any case.

It often happens that a woman cannot wait for kind words from a man and concludes that “he does not love her.” But in essence, this only means that a man does not show love with words the way a woman does, which is quite natural.

The reason for this inability to understand and accept male behavior may be that in childhood the woman did not see an example of a harmonious family, where a man and a woman show tenderness in their characteristic manner. We can talk about being raised in an incomplete family, or in a family with a distorted understanding of male and female roles, where the mother is very strict, demanding and constantly tries to dominate, and the father is softer, trying in every possible way to avoid conflicts.

Remember: for a man, the main manifestation of love is not a word, but a deed. And the “measure” of a man’s tenderness should not be considered the number of sweet words addressed to you, but what he does for your general well-being. A loving man boldly takes on new things, sets serious goals and achieves them, and all this for the sake of the happiness and peace of mind of his loved ones.

Naturally, a man draws this strength precisely from a warm relationship with a woman who believes him and has no doubt that he can handle everything.

Often a man wants to show his reverent attitude towards a woman, but does not know how. He doesn’t want to destroy his courageous image with some baby talk or overly vanilla confessions. However, women will agree that if a person is not masculine in life, then such short manifestations of weakness will only decorate him.

It’s another matter if a man is passive, does not want to work for the good of the family and shifts all responsibility onto the shoulders of his companion. In this case, there is no need to worry about the loss of masculinity; it is out of the question at all. At the same time, no matter how much such a person sings about his love, since he does not show it in practice, the woman will not feel happy.

The hottest women's areas

Before caressing a woman, you need to determine her erogenous zones. Each girl has an individual sensitivity to certain points of contact, but most often ladies react to caresses in the following areas:

Lips. It’s not for nothing that kissing is such a turn-on, because there are hundreds of nerve endings on the surface of the lips. Passionate, gentle touches of fingers, lips or tongue to this area during foreplay can drive you crazy. Therefore, do not ignore your lips and dwell on them as much as possible when arousing your partner. The touch of chapped and chapped lips gives a very unpleasant sensation. Treat them in frost and wind with a hygiene product sold in any pharmacy. This procedure will not make you less masculine, but no woman will be able to forget your kisses.
Ears. Women's ears are used for stimulation in two ways: they say all sorts of vulgar endearments in them or caress them with their lips and tongue. You can combine these procedures or alternate them. Do you want to drive a woman crazy? Lightly bite her on the earlobe and continue the path of kisses, covering her neck with them.
Neck. The thin skin of this area responds easily to kisses and gentle touches. Throw her locks back and run your fingertips from her earlobes to her collarbones. Kisses on the neck can turn on any woman.
Hair. Mostly men love long women's hair as an attribute of attractiveness. During lovemaking, be sure to stroke the girl on them, and for the sake of a passionate experiment, you can clench them into a fist and pull them towards you. This act of dominance excites many women.
Shoulders. Tension accumulates in this area during the day, so use a proven means of relaxation: give your loved one a massage. After you have thoroughly stretched your muscles, start kissing her shoulders to excite her. This area may not be the most sensitive, but you shouldn’t neglect it during foreplay.
Breast. All men love the exciting sight of beautiful female breasts. This part of the body reacts to caresses as sharply as possible. To excite your partner and sometimes even bring her to orgasm, caress the woman's breasts as gently as possible during foreplay.
Stomach. Soft stroking of this area causes true bliss in girls, and it is very easy to excite a partner by touching the belly. Kissing in this place is no less exciting than kissing on the lips or neck.
Hips. Touching the thighs gives a woman unreal pleasure. The inner part of the thigh is a more tender zone, only tenderness is appropriate here, and the outer surface allows male passion to run wild. Spanking, a strong grip and biting are all quite appropriate during intimacy.
Buttocks. These curves have driven more than one man crazy. The buttocks area gives room for imagination, as it is sensitive to both tenderness and manifestations of voluptuous rudeness. Kisses and pats are just a small part of the variety that you can give your partner in bed using her sweet buns.
Intimate area. The female womb is framed by the labia and clitoris, which crave pleasure. You can win a lady without touching these places; it’s better to leave them for dessert. How to caress a woman's pussy: gently or more persistently? Try both options and monitor the reaction.
Fingers and toes. Licking fingers is a real fetish for many girls. Try to please a lady like this, she will be delighted. After all, there are thousands of nerve endings on the fingertips.

It seems that a woman consists almost entirely of erogenous zones. And this is true, but only when she feels relaxed and calm with her man. Give her love and protection, then the girl will respond with a violent reaction to your caresses in bed.

How to teach a man to be gentle

A woman’s tenderness does not imply that a person should respond in kind to every manifestation of affection. But at the same time, any girl also wants to feel special attention at least occasionally. And here a problem arises: men do not see the need to express their feelings; they consider it “unmanly”. Wives are often offended by this behavior of their husbands, but do not even try to change the situation. Below are tips on how to “teach” your loved one to show affection.

Give reasons for your request
Your partner must understand that you really need tenderness on his part. Explain that his support helps you to be more confident, your mood improves, etc. Help him see the connection between how open he is in expressing his feelings and how close the relationship is between you.

Emphasize the health benefits of touch. A person's psychological state becomes much more stable when he regularly receives the necessary dose of physical contact. This even reduces the likelihood of a heart attack. And it doesn’t matter whether we are talking about a man or a woman, and how old this person is: everyone always needs touch.
Instruct the man in detail what to do.
Voice your desire. If you want him to take your hand or stroke your head, say so directly. It may seem that then there will be no romance in this action. But if a woman’s tenderness is her nature, then for men it is a kind of skill that you can develop in this way. In addition, not every man intuitively understands what kind of gesture on his part will be appropriate at the moment.
Don't forget about reciprocity
Try to behave the way you want your husband to behave. Learn to celebrate his merits, do not forget about gentle touches, try to be attentive and delve into his problems, and do not focus on his mistakes. So to speak, teach him tenderness by your example.

The natural reaction to your tenderness will be smiles and hugs. This way you will “infect” your partner with your sensitivity.
Do not skimp on praise
Every time your man decides to show his feelings and performs some kind of romantic act, you should notice it and appreciate his efforts. Focus on how even the slightest manifestations of attention please you. For example, say that his nice SMS was the only thing that lifted your spirits during a hard day at work. Having received flowers as a gift, do not even jokingly assume that in this way your husband is apologizing for an offense that is still unknown to you. Thank him for the gift, allow yourself to sincerely rejoice. So a man will understand that manifestations of tenderness do not make him weak: on the contrary, he acts as a patron who tries to brighten up the life of his beloved woman by all available means.

Excess tenderness - is it good or bad?

Thanks to the feeling of tenderness, a woman can truly get closer to her lover and stop feeling lonely. But tenderness can be both strength and weakness.

Any person has a limit when constant attention and affection towards him ceases to be perceived positively. An overabundance of tenderness forces a person to pull away in order to be alone with himself for a little while.

At this moment we are no longer talking about tenderness, but about some completely different feeling. After all, tenderness presupposes a response, tenderness is expected and accepted with gratitude. If a woman puts the desire to express her own feelings above the personal boundaries of her partner, there is more love for herself than love for him. You should never deprive your loved one of personal space, otherwise your feelings will only irritate him.

This “violent” tenderness can be compared to the way people treat animals. They are touched by the sight of a defenseless creature, hug it to themselves and pass it from hand to hand. At the same time, hardly anyone thinks that the animal also has feelings and desires that it cannot express.

In such a situation, a person relies only on his own feelings, believing that if he feels good, then his partner also does not experience any negativity. In fact, the feelings of two people do not always coincide.

Remember that a woman’s tenderness is the ability to feel her partner, responding to his caresses, and to be in harmony with each other.

Thank you for reading this article to the end.

Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.
More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.
My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!

When tenderness becomes too much

Tenderness makes it possible to get beyond the boundaries of the soul and leave behind your own loneliness. Here lies not only incredible strength, but also the weakness of this feeling.

If a woman’s tenderness and care are shown in excess, this will cause irritation, a feeling of annoyance and even anger in a man.

This happens when a feeling is manifested for the sake of the feeling itself, when it is important for a woman to express her emotions, and the partner’s response is ignored.

Tenderness without fusion is an experience of two. At this time, we feel our partner, responding to all his movements. And it’s bad if the response is dismissal.

Perhaps something similar happened in your childhood, when your mother forced you to hug and kiss your unloved grandmother, who at that time embraced you in her tenacious embrace, ignoring the child’s hostility.