A lot has changed in the modern world, and this applies not only to technology, but to all areas of our lives. And this is the case when I am glad of the unchangeable. He and She are still looking for each other, although both have changed their ideas about themselves and the world around them.
So much so that the fear of rejection came back to life. This is how it was in the old days: a man rejected by a woman could find himself outside the community, and this almost always meant certain death. Now everything is not so deadly, but fear remains. And just come up and ask if you like it or not. Then how do you know that a girl likes you?
There are many ways to understand this:
- non-verbal;
- verbal;
- behavioral;
- actions on social networks.
The most important thing is to take your eyes off your own navel and look around. But if you don't have much experience with girls, these tips will help.
How can a girl show sympathy?
Often, the transfer of information occurs on a subconscious level.
People are able to interact with each other, communicating with each other not only through words.
Words convey only 10% of information, the remaining 90% comes from:
- body language, gestures and facial expressions – 60%;
- voice intonation and sound – 30%.
Often, the transfer of information occurs on a subconscious level , less often - deliberately. To avoid misunderstandings, you should learn “body language” in order to recognize signs of sympathy on the part of a girl.
Often a guy perceives female behavior incorrectly. It happens that sympathy manifests itself in expressed dissatisfaction with the object of attention.
This is a kind of trick, uncontrollable by the woman herself , which should be accepted with a smile. A positive reaction demonstrates interest in the other person. But if a girl reacts negatively to any of your actions, it means she doesn’t like you.
Tactile signals
Non-verbal gestures of sympathy in women are difficult to control: usually the girl does not notice that she begins to look closely at you, wrapping her hair around her finger and imagining you together. Although sometimes a girl deliberately attracts attention to herself by reading women's magazines with advice on how to seduce a man. In any case, these signs are in your favor:
- The girl is looking for an excuse to touch you: adjusting your clothes or looking at an accessory on your body. She may “accidentally” touch your hand, shoulder, knee, back.
- She gently and gently strokes oblong objects like bottles and glasses with her hand, looking at you. Often this is an unconscious gesture that the girl can hardly control. But to you, this is a clear sign that the woman is interested.
- A woman is fiddling with a pendant, her jewelry. The girl also straightens her hair behind her ear and wraps a curl around her finger. And you catch her looking at you.
- She strokes herself: shoulders, neck, face, as if inviting her to join in the caresses. At the same time, he may look at you a little invitingly, tenderly, with hope. More likely, on her part it’s not just interest, but attraction.
- The girl will straighten her dress in the chest area, hips, maybe pull up her tights or stockings, while looking at you playfully. Well, this is not even a sign, but a direct guide to action and attack!
Verbal and non-verbal signs of female sympathy
Scientists, psychologists, and seduction specialists cannot describe all the signs sent by a woman who shows sympathy. There is only an average list that will help to decipher the behavior of the opposite sex at the initial stage.
Nonverbal signs
By turning to body language, you can unravel the sympathy or antipathy of your interlocutor.
By turning to body language, you can unravel the sympathy or antipathy of your interlocutor at the moment of communication.
It is enough to have 5 signals from the list to draw the right conclusions and choose a strategy for further action:
- Asymmetry in the pose (the girl leans on one leg, putting her hip line forward).
- Half-open mouth (upper teeth visible).
- Games with lips (biting, licking, smiling).
- Constant contact with your own hair (straightening, twisting strands, throwing back).
- Dilated pupils.
- Expression of facial interest (raised eyebrows, frequent blinking).
- Copying the body movements of the interlocutor.
- Increased gesticulation.
- Unreasonable laughter, inappropriate words.
- Bare shoulder, neck, wrist.
How to understand during a date that your interlocutor likes you?
Of course, the fact that the girl went on a date with you in itself speaks of some sympathy on her part. But not every meeting with a girl automatically becomes a date.
If you invite a girl to a meeting, then for this meeting to become a date, you still need to try. The girl herself will tell you whether everything is going well with her hidden signals. It is from them that you can understand that a girl likes you.
1) The palm is a weather vane.
You can always understand from a woman's palms what's what - they, like a weather vane, can tell you whether a fair wind is blowing for you with this girl. If she is attracted to you, the girl's palms will open and look at you with the inner side.
Perhaps they will even tremble, as if saying “come closer.” But if she doesn't care about you, she can rest her chin with her knuckles facing out, or clench her fists.
2) Close contact.
The girl will be closer to you than is usually allowed by decency.
3) Invasion of personal space.
She will move her arm, leg or any object closer to you, getting into your “personal space”.
4) Accidental touch.
By touching you, even very quickly, the girl gives you a signal to which you definitely need to respond warmly. Do not under any circumstances show that this was unexpected or surprising for you.
5) Tilt.
In case she cannot approach or move in your direction, the girl will lean towards you. She may be doing this to help her hear you better in a noisy room, which isn't always a hidden sexual signal, but at least she wants to hear you. While playing with these signals, the girl can either move closer to you or move further away. In both cases, do the same thing in this game that she does.
6) Childishly stupid behavior.
If a girl likes you, then the girl in her often wakes up. She will behave energetically and openly with you. Her actions will be filled with some sweet and cheerful stupidity.
7) Mirroring.
She may begin to copy your movements and freeze in the same poses. Thus, the girl will show that she is tuned in to the same wavelength as you, but this can also happen to her unconsciously. You can also use mirroring to make the girl feel more comfortable with you, but don’t overdo it.
(Also read how to ask a girl out on a date).
Showing feminine sympathy in conversation and behavior at work
Propping her head with her hand, the woman demonstratively exposes her neck
. If the object of sympathy is a colleague, the girl constantly tries to attract attention by dropping a heavy pile of documents, calling to fix the computer, showing false sadness.
If a man is late at work, then the lady is also in no hurry to go home. And the pose is unintentionally directed towards the target. Supporting her head with her hand, the woman defiantly exposes her neck.
Female sympathy: pitfalls
Some women deliberately feign sympathy in order to get what they want from a man (help, attention, gifts, etc.). Guys attracted by imaginary “love” are not always able to distinguish lies from truth. It is recommended to evaluate the girl's behavior.
She is faking if:
- She disappears for a long time as soon as her problem is solved (the computer is fixed, the shelf is nailed down).
- He refuses to walk in the park, but gladly agrees to go to an expensive restaurant.
- In the presence of other people, she flirts recklessly with you, but as soon as you are left alone, she suddenly cools off.
Special cases
It should be noted that it is good when everyone is free, potentially suitable for each other in terms of status, worldview and other aspects of life. But it also happens differently. Female signs of attention come not only from lonely young girls, but also from women with whom we have completely different types of relationships.
- If you notice that a married girl shows signs of attention, that’s also not bad. The main thing is to think about how to deal with this and whether it can somehow be used in a positive and safe way. In this case, you will probably like sex with an experienced and adult, and perhaps also someone who is yearning for intimacy. But consider all the potential consequences if your spouse finds out. Make sure this doesn't happen. And don't promise anything. Then your time together will be pleasant and non-committal.
- If your ex-girlfriend shows signs of attention to you again, then this is also a reason to think about it. It is likely that she has rethought something or wants to use you in her plans. Perhaps just teach her a lesson if you abandoned her. Let me draw your attention to the fact that within the framework of social networks, modern girls can do inappropriate things when breaking up. So be prepared for such signs of attention.
- Another option is attention from a colleague at work. Here, as in the case of a married girl, it is worth assessing all the risks, pros and cons. In large, serious companies such relationships are usually not welcome. You should also remember that if something goes wrong and you break up, she may subsequently scheme against you, which will affect your career. There are cases when people get married due to such sympathy... It is possible. But it’s better to think it over and weigh it in advance.
- If a girl who doesn’t like you shows signs of attention to you, don’t be fooled by provocations, ignore her as if you don’t understand or see anything. Don't laugh at her or talk about this situation to others. This way you can hush up the situation and bring it to naught much faster.
How to intentionally make a girl like you?
Most representatives of the stronger sex are afraid of rejection. Therefore, it is easier to awaken a woman’s sympathy, and then proceed with further actions. There is no need to be shy and talk boringly about topics close to you.
You should also give up assertiveness and not shower your interlocutor with inappropriate compliments.
It is better to choose the tactics of a cheerful, easy-to-communicate man who can support any conversation. It is worth studying the hobbies of the object of sympathy and masterfully using this information during communication.
By correspondence
The lion's share of communication takes place in instant messengers. The attitude of the interlocutor here can be determined only by what he considers necessary to write, what emoticons he puts, and whether he is willing to make contact.
Initiates communication herself
Whether a woman will write first if she is interested in a man depends on her character. Some will not start correspondence even if they are deeply in love and in a state of alcoholic intoxication.
Replies quickly
Quick responses indicate increased interest or lack of other activities. If a woman always answers quickly, then you can hope for special sympathy on her part.
Writes in detail
A sign of sympathy is also detailed answers, a desire to convey to the interlocutor more information on an issue that interests him. Constant monosyllabic answers indicate disinterest in communication.
Gives compliments
A woman will give compliments and praise for any “achievement.” Whatever you boast about, be it the ability to make coffee or repair a car, everything is perceived with delight in the context of “if I had such a husband, I would be happy.”
One way or another, the correspondence will be reduced to personal topics. It is important for a woman to make it clear to a man that she is open to closer communication than friendly communication.
How to keep a girl's interest in you?
Getting a girl interested is the beginning of the journey.
Getting a girl interested is the beginning of the journey. But maintaining a woman's interest is much more difficult.
Working on relationships requires constant effort, and if you know what the foundation is based on, it is much easier to follow the right path:
- do not forget about physical contact: touching and hugging are a component of relationships;
- talk about feelings and emotions;
- solve her problems;
- be attentive and caring;
- trust;
- spend enough time together.
Manifestation of female sympathy: advice from psychologists
Psychologists who study the sphere of relationships recommend not relying entirely on the list of signs of female sympathy, but taking them as a basis, supplementing them with their own conclusions and observations.
It is important to understand that all people are different and judging all women according to the same template is incorrect.
Advice from psychologists:
- The best way to find out if a girl is really interested in you is to take the first step. Invite her to the cinema or cafe. If she refused at first, citing lack of free time, try again in a few days. Constant refusal means lack of feelings.
- Think about whether it is beneficial for a girl to communicate with you? Maybe you selflessly help her with her work or constantly give her rides. Try one day to refuse her help under a valid excuse. See if her attitude towards you changes.
- Don't discuss your doubts with friends or colleagues. They may have their own selfish goals. As a result, you risk finding yourself in a stupid situation.
