Ivan Vdovin
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Mainly the article will be written for girls. Yes, it happens that people break up. They lived together and separated. Sad or happy? It all depends on the situation. Therefore, we will analyze some cases, both from a positive and negative point of view. In general, what does the psychology of the relationship between a man and a woman depend on after a breakup? Everything depends on the microclimate in their two-way behavior.
What was the relationship like? What did you take from them?
Due to the nature of my profession, I communicated a lot, I would say a lot, with girls. For various reasons, but that doesn't matter. I also talked a lot with girls who were in relationships/married or other types of marriages, but they broke up with men. \
A guide to changing yourself.pdf Subscribe on INSTAGRAM The aftertaste will be what the relationship was like. You know, although I am an optimist, the percentage of successful relationships where people fit and complement each other is very meager. But if such relationships happen, usually there are no separations, unless, of course, something deep is hidden there, but this happens rarely.
So, if your relationship left much to be desired, then the separation will not be pleasant and most likely for life. But if there was a bit of mutual respect, understanding and other joys in the relationship, then there is every chance that you will not leave each other so easily. Whether this is good or bad is up to you to decide.
Reasons for separation
The root cause of a disagreement is not always a lack of feelings. There are a lot of reasons to separate, even with strong love. Although the chances that he will return after a quarrel are greater if a man loves, he is ready to endure a lot just to be close. Based on how the couple separated, one can draw conclusions and subsequently correct mistakes, if only for the sake of not transferring them into a new relationship. This includes the mania for wearing torn things at home, not washing until lunch, and exposing all the bad traits to your loved one. Reluctance to put your partner's feelings above your own, the desire to cause jealousy.
You can also break up due to the presence of a third person. A wife can cheat on her husband to prove her independence, a husband can chase a random beauty. These are mistakes that speak of the inferiority of the individual, the inability to seek happiness nearby. Many subsequently greatly regret the betrayal. And sometimes sincere repentance can be forgiven. You should not give a chance only to sworn womanizers, manipulators who are ready to come to an ex-girlfriend to humiliate themselves for a specific purpose. But after achieving this, they will again go looking for thrills on the side.
What kind of relationships are there?
This is a very serious question; by answering it, we will understand what the relationship will be like after separation.
Read more: Psychology of relationships in marriage
Adult - child
Everyone knows about such relationships. Here a child can be either a girl or a man. Whether a relationship is good or not, it all depends on the situation. If everyone likes the roles, then such relationships can last a long time. But there is always a BUT.
According to psychology, a child is, as a rule, an irresponsible person. Usually the child ends such a relationship because he has found a new parent or toy. This person will easily cheat under any pretext.
The most interesting thing is that many parents will not care about this and will try to re-educate their unlucky child. But here, most likely, a break will occur. The child will quickly fly away to the other parent, and the parent will try to restore the relationship.
Tyrant - victim
Usually this is the most trash. But another question is, why does the victim tolerate the tyrant and not leave immediately? The whole essence of sacrifice comes down to tolerating, blaming, and punishing yourself. This is such a mini branch of hell.
A tyrant will never let go of his victim, and the victim will always provoke the tyrant. If the victim does not understand that she is playing the role of a victim and does not want to leave, she will have a hard time. Live in humiliation and complete submission. And yet, in spite of everything, the victim leaves such a relationship, and there are two ways. Either she completely breaks all contacts and never returns, or the tyrant still has enough of asking for forgiveness with the promise that he will completely correct himself.
The victim believes, returns and everything starts anew. It's a vicious circle. In these relationships, you either break up completely and change your attitude towards life, or you live in suffering.
Friends
Friends are not just friends. And relationships are built like friends. You meet, have sex, have something to talk about, have a lot of fun. But it's not a word about love. You just feel good together.
There are two ways to develop such a relationship, either separation because someone wants a more serious relationship, but the other does not want it. On this basis, the initiator will look for another relationship, a more serious one, and will ultimately confront the partner with the fact that they are breaking up. The most interesting thing is that since the relationship is built on friendship, it is possible to continue meeting for sex out of friendship.
Another scenario is if friendship between partners develops into a serious relationship. But here there are two development paths. Either everything is ok and there will be a good family, since relationships are built on trust and respect, and not just on love.
Or relationships built on friendship will not bear the burden of love. It’s like they were friends, but now responsibility appears. Someone's behavior pattern may be disrupted and this may alienate another
Scenarios of behavior to return your loved one
The choice of the right tactics depends on the reasons for the breakup, so it’s worth starting from them. Even a premonition that the ex will return can deceive if you provoke proceedings in every possible way, insist on continuing communication, or, conversely, look unapproachable.
Left for someone else
The betrayal of a loved one is perceived as a strong blow to pride. The main thing here is to save your own face, not to stoop to revenge or surveillance. A man will return only after feeling that his lost love was better, more reliable. This requires time and decent behavior. It’s better to part ways on a friendly note, express how painful it is, how sad it is to lose him, but show that no one is holding him. Understand that men only want someone who loves herself. Therefore, instead of suffering, take care of yourself, development, and analysis of mistakes. Don't call, don't write, don't look for meetings. Time will pass, he will show up on his own. The main thing is not to show how you suffer, and also not to fall into the arms of other men.
Ate everyday life
A strict definition describes all the symptoms of housewives. If you got dressed and got your nails done just after leaving your home, the man will miss the one he fell in love with. Also, restrictions and deprivation of the opportunity to engage in your favorite hobby often force you to leave and take a break for freedom. Reconsider your attitude towards household chores. Maybe it’s worth saving up for home appliances in order to delegate some of the responsibilities to her, handing over children to grandmothers more often, or taking them to a baby club on weekends. An exhausted wife, no matter how cruel it may sound, scares away even a loving husband. Love yourself, take care of yourself.
Eternally busy
The complete opposite of maternity maids and housewives, a notorious careerist. If at home you are thinking about work, talking only about fulfilling the plan, working part-time at home on weekends, your partner will look for tenderness and care on the side or among friends. Love must come from both, you cannot be married at work. You need to decide what is more important, personal happiness or a high position. Usually these two things are incompatible.
Manipulation
Another factor that destroys a marriage. You cannot force your desires to come true through refusal of sex or other threats. Men immediately recognize the one who only needs money or connections from them. Such a union cannot exist for long. In an alliance there must be dialogue and trust. Maybe you should look for an equal partner, and not someone you can push around. Usually, after a breakup, men return to those who give them warmth and love when they feel important. Be the one who is ready to give them these feelings.
How to forget a loved one in 1 hour
Internal pain after a breakup will not allow you to live in peace. On the contrary, a lot of stress will lead to psychosomatic diseases and insomnia.
The easiest way to get rid of internal pain is to work through the situation with a psychologist so that it goes away forever.
I guarantee that in 90 minutes you will stop worrying about the problem of your past relationships and you will return to a happy life.
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