Adequate self-esteem

Adequate self-esteem is the correspondence of one’s own opinion about oneself, a realistic assessment of one’s capabilities and skills in the context of the requirements of the situation, the real picture of what is happening and the expectations of other people. Two variants of distortion occur: when a person thinks that he can easily cope with plans and the result does not correspond, and when he predicts failure, although he can easily do what is necessary. The level of self-evaluation and its adequacy is revealed by the feasibility of plans, as one of the main criteria.

Adequate self-esteem of a person is not only a set of internal beliefs, but has confirmation from specialists in the chosen field. Those. a person can form any image of himself and evaluate himself in accordance with internal processes, childhood attitudes, if this coincides with the opinion of the majority of authorities in the situation, then self-esteem can be considered adequate.

Factors influencing the formation of self-esteem

Inadequate self-esteem is always bad; it creates discomfort and problems for both the person himself and his environment. But can an individual be blamed for having a wrong self-image? Under the influence of what is self-esteem formed?

Social factors

The foundations of self-esteem are laid in childhood, from the moment when the baby becomes aware of his “I” and begins to compare himself with other children and adults. But in preschool, and even at primary school age, children cannot yet adequately analyze their qualities and their behavior, therefore the evaluative sphere is formed entirely under the influence of adults. Remember how V. Mayakovsky wrote: “The little son came to his father, and the little one asked: “What is good?” And what is bad?

Therefore, it is the wrong actions of adults that give impetus to the formation of inadequate self-esteem. Here are some of them:

unfair or excessive punishments;
unreasonable and too frequent praise;
constant comparison of the child with other children to show his weaknesses, inability, disobedience;
the position of a “king” in the family or a favorite at school;
emphasizing and focusing the child’s attention on his failures and mistakes.

Child psychologists believe that, in general, praise and encouragement are more beneficial, while constant reprimands and punishments are harmful. The fact is that we experience negative emotions more strongly than positive ones. And unpleasant sensations are stored in memory longer and have a stronger impact on our behavior. This happened in the process of evolution.

The opinions of people around us have a great influence on the formation of self-esteem and of an adult, especially when it comes to socially significant people whose opinions are important to us

Personal factors

The formation of self-esteem is also influenced by a person’s individual characteristics, the uniqueness of emotions, temperament, and character.

People with a sensitive psyche worry more about their failures and about the assessments of others than those who are less emotional.

A person whose melancholic traits predominate tends to get upset even over a minor random remark and remember it for a long time.
A phlegmatic person may not even pay attention to the remark.
Closed, unsociable introverts worry less about the assessments of others than sociable extroverts. On the other hand, extroverts, due to their tendency to demonstrate behavior, often suffer from inflated self-esteem. But people who avoid people and prefer solitude often consider themselves superior to others and despise those around them who are unworthy of communicating with them.

That is, individual personality characteristics certainly influence the formation of self-esteem, but its vector is determined primarily by the social environment. There is another important factor related to a person’s assessment of his own “I”.

Level of aspiration

We all strive for something in life, we set goals for ourselves. And these goals are different: some want to earn money for a new apartment, some want to create their own thriving company, and for others a trip to the sea is the ultimate dream. The degree of complexity, difficulty of a goal or task that a person defines for himself is the level of his aspirations.

Just like self-esteem, the level of aspirations can be adequate or inadequate. Adequate is one where goals correspond to human capabilities. If a school graduate with poor knowledge and low Unified State Exam grades decides to apply to a prestigious metropolitan university, then he clearly has an inadequate, inflated level of aspirations. And when a good student refuses to enroll in a higher education institution because he is afraid of failure, then his level of aspiration is too low. Both are bad.

The level of aspirations is formed under the influence of successes and failures that accompany a person on the path of life, and, in turn, affects the formation of self-esteem. After all, an athlete, constantly setting a bar for himself that he cannot jump over, will very quickly become disappointed in his abilities and in the ability to achieve success. And a low level of aspirations does not contribute to the development of self-esteem and self-confidence.

But psychologists still believe that a low level is worse than a high level and has a bad effect on the formation of personality and its position in society. It makes a person a socially passive loser who does not strive for success.

Effective methods to increase self-esteem

The most important step on the path to self-improvement is to recognize that there is a problem. Often a person disguises it behind other feelings and deliberately avoids resolving the issue. As soon as awareness comes, you can safely move on to the following methods of increasing self-confidence:

Keep a diary of achievements. This step does not require any serious financial or time expenditure. It's simple: at the end of each day, take 10-15 minutes to write down your small and big victories that happened to you today. Maybe you read a book or finally got up an hour earlier than usual? You can always find a reason to praise. This will help you develop a positive mindset every day and focus your vision on personal success. It is important to re-read your notes daily.
Change your environment. Evaluate those with whom you communicate most often. If there are negative people in your circle, refuse to interact with them. More often you are in the company of positive and successful people who are confident and have a positive attitude towards you.
Play sports. The best way to distract yourself and clear your thoughts of negativity is physical exercise. In addition, if low self-esteem is associated with external data, sports will help you get in shape. By the way, during sports, our body produces the hormone of happiness - dopamine.
Give up self-criticism and soul-searching. You won’t be able to increase your self-esteem if you constantly scold yourself for something or constantly express dissatisfaction with your appearance and abilities. Praise yourself more often and think positive thoughts.
Avoid comparisons. Each of you is a unique person with your own individual set of qualities, strengths and weaknesses. Remember that there will always be those who have achieved greater results than you. In this case, it is worth taking an example from them, and not engaging in self-flagellation. Better yet, compare yourself today with yourself yesterday, and track your growth by recording your achievements in the diary we talked about above.
Listen and say affirmations. Affirmation is a positive judgment that creates the right psychological attitude. These are our statements and beliefs, thoughts, feelings and desires that we want to have right now. It is important to formulate affirmations in the present tense. For example: “I have a prestigious and highly paid job”, “I am beautiful and healthy”, “I am a happy person”.
Get out of your comfort zone. Yes, many people have heard about this method, but not everyone decides to do it, because it’s so comfortable and safe to be in your “shell.” Face your problem. Do you feel insecure when you are in a new company? Visit crowded places and events more often and be the first to start a conversation. Our online program “Best Communication Techniques” will be an excellent assistant for you, where you will learn how to interact more effectively with people thanks to interesting communication techniques. You just have to take a step and you will understand that everything is not as scary as it seemed at first glance.
Attend trainings. There are many different training activities aimed at increasing self-esteem and gaining self-confidence, so all you have to do is choose the one that’s right for you. If you are not yet ready to take the training, watch a movie or read a book on a current topic.
Forgive yourself. Uncertainty is often a consequence of feeling guilty about oneself. None of us are immune from mistakes, and it is important to be able to forgive ourselves for them. Write yourself a note and tell in it about your feelings, emotions, thoughts, problems, failures, and be sure to forgive yourself in writing for everything for which you feel guilty.
Meditate. Meditation helps you completely relax physically and let go of your thoughts. There are many different techniques aimed at getting rid of self-resentment and achieving peace.

Self-confidence is not an innate quality, but rather formed in the process of life. Your main task on the path to healthy self-esteem is to love yourself, learn to believe in your own strength, which is only possible through daily work on yourself and your thoughts.

Do what you love, do not deny yourself small and big joys, always think about the good and then everything will work out!

Good luck!

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Decoding your results

The Budassi self-esteem test is good because it gives a detailed transcript. You don't just find out it's low (for example). But you also receive detailed recommendations. Here's the transcript:

R from -1 to +1 - this means that your idea of your real self and ideal is extremely fuzzy, and the connection between these two indicators is extremely weak, perhaps you have anxiety;
R from +0.38 to +1 – the relationship is positive and quite stable, and your self-esteem is correct, perhaps a little too high;
From +0.9 to +1 – overestimated and quite inadequate;
From -0.09 to -0.32 – optimal, but low;
From -0.38 to -1 – the connection between the ideal “I” and the “I” in reality is negative, ideas do not coincide with reality, self-esteem is inadequate, clearly underestimated.

Self-esteem is always subjective, you must remember this. Its adequacy is how much your ideas about yourself correspond to the real picture. Inappropriately low or high self-esteem is a clear reason to reconsider your attitude towards yourself.

Definition of self-concept

Self-concept is a person’s stable idea of himself, the image of his own “I”. Typically viewed as our individual perception of our behavior, abilities, and unique characteristics—a mental picture of who you are as a person. For example, the beliefs “I am a good friend” or “I am a good person” are part of overall self-esteem.

Self-concept is more flexible when people are younger and still going through the process of self-discovery and identity formation. As people mature, they develop a better understanding of who they are and what is important to them, and self-esteem becomes more nuanced and organized.

Based on what different psychologists have identified, one can understand what is important in a person’s self-esteem. And you can see many of these positions in modern self-esteem tests. Or you can find a test for a specific area to evaluate it.

According to the book by Richard Crisp and Rhiannon Turner, considered the main researchers of social psychology, the human self consists of 3 parts:

The individual self consists of the attributes and personal characteristics that distinguish us from other people. Examples include introversion or extroversion.
The relational self is defined by our relationships with significant others. For example, brothers and sisters, friends, spouses of some authorities.
The “collective self” reflects our membership in and interaction with social groups. For example, the school class, Russians, Tatars, workers, communists, engineers, rock music lovers, a patriotic circle, the gay community.

Like many other topics in psychology, a number of theorists have proposed different ways of thinking about self-concept.

According to a theory known as social identity theory, self-esteem consists of two key parts: personal identity and social identity.

Personal identity includes the traits and other characteristics that make each person unique. Social identity refers to how we identify with a collective, such as a community, religion, or political movement.

Psychologist Dr. Bruce A. Bracken, a longtime student of self-esteem in adults and children, proposed in 1992 that there are six specific areas related to self-esteem:

Social: ability to interact with others
Competence: ability to meet basic needs
Affect: awareness of emotional states
Physical: Perception of appearance, health, physical condition and appearance.
Academic: success or failure in school
Family: How well a person functions within a family.

Humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers, who for many years was interested in self-actualization, development and self-understanding by a person, believed that all that is needed for the growth and development of the natural potential inherent in a person is only to create the appropriate conditions. Self-esteem itself consists of three parts:

Self-image or how you see yourself. Self-image, including physical attributes, personality traits, and social roles. It does not have to match reality; some people may have an inflated self-image, while others may perceive or exaggerate flaws and weaknesses.
Self-esteem or how much you value yourself. This includes how we compare ourselves to others and how others react to us. When we respond positively, we are more likely to develop positive self-esteem. When we compare ourselves to others and find ourselves lacking in something, it can negatively impact our self-esteem.
Ideal Self or how you would like to be. In many cases, the way we see ourselves and the way we would like to see ourselves are not exactly the same.

Congruence and incongruence

Our ideas about ourselves do not always fully correspond to reality. Or rather, more often than not they do not coincide. People will present themselves completely differently. Carla Rogers called the degree to which a person's self-esteem corresponds to reality congruence. If it does not correspond, it is incongruence. For example, some students may think they are good at school, but their grades may tell a different story.

Rogers says the roots of the disparity go back to childhood. When parents place conditions on their affection for their children (expressing love only if the children “earn it” by behaving in certain ways and meeting their parents' expectations), children begin to distort memories of experiences that make them feel unworthy of their parents. Children who experience love do not feel the need to constantly distort their memories in order to believe that other people will love and accept them for who they are.

Self-esteem can be adequate or not. Adequacy is meeting the requirements of the situation and people's expectations. If people believe that a person can cope with tasks, but he does not believe in his own strength, they speak of low self-esteem. If a person declares unrealistic plans, they speak of his inflated self-esteem. The most important criterion for the adequacy of self-esteem is the feasibility of a person’s plans.

Adequacy of private and specific situational self-esteem

Specific situational self-esteem can be fairly objectively assessed as adequate or, for example, underestimated: if experience shows that a person actually copes with tasks that he internally could not solve for a long time, it means that his self-esteem is objectively underestimated. As a rule, the adequacy of self-esteem is confirmed not only by practice (the results of which can be interpreted in different ways), but also by the opinion of authorities: specialists in the field where a person declares his claims. The adequacy of specific situational self-esteem is usually aligned with experience. See→

How to assess the adequacy of personal self-esteem?

Adequate personal self-esteem - corresponding to real results and facts, the expectations of the reference group of people, not an overestimated or underestimated assessment of one’s capabilities, one’s limitations and one’s place among people (more broadly, one’s place in life). The self-esteem of an immature personality usually depends on the assessments of others, who themselves are not always adequate. The more mature a person is, the more adequate his personal self-esteem is. And vice versa, the more adequate a person’s self-esteem is, the more this indicates his maturity. See→

Inadequate self-esteem as a work task and as a psychotherapeutic problem

Inadequate self-esteem may need to be changed (for example, made more adequate), but a particular person can treat this both as a work task and as a personal, psychotherapeutic problem. He will solve the problem (he defined the context, specified the goal, formed the points of the plan, began to work), more often people worry about the problem. And they turn to psychologists and psychotherapists.

Specific situational self-esteem is more often posed as a work task, personal self-esteem is more often experienced as a personal, psychotherapeutic problem. See Translating a problem into a task

Why do you need to figure out whether your self-esteem is adequate or not?

Determining the adequacy of self-esteem makes it possible to:

give recommendations on increasing or decreasing ambitions and level of aspirations,
speak in general about the greater or lesser personal adequacy of a person.

Unable to accept gifts and attentions

A woman with an underestimated ability does not consider herself worthy of love and does not allow the idea that the opposite sex may have sincere feelings for her. Therefore, she feels “out of place” when they present her with flowers, gifts, or try to get to know her.

Before you diagnose yourself with depression and low self-esteem, make sure you are not surrounded by idiots. (Sigmund Freud)

Compliments are said to praise a woman and focus attention on her merits. But it’s different with an insecure lady. She will take them for flattery, deception or mockery. You don’t have to expect gratitude from her for the nice words. A representative of the fair half of humanity will pretend that she ignored your words or will change the topic of conversation.

What influences the formation of self-esteem

Self-esteem is developed in a person from early childhood.

It matters how parents show their love for their child
. If love is unconditional and does not depend on good behavior, such a child will grow up with normal or high self-esteem. When he understands that he will be loved only for something (put away toys, got an excellent mark, took out the trash), then in adulthood the person will believe that he cannot be loved just like that, and a good attitude must be earned.
The attitude of parents towards the successes and failures of the child plays a big role
. Parents’ value judgments such as “You can handle this”, “Such a smart kid will definitely do it” have a positive role in the formation of self-esteem.

Accordingly, statements in the spirit of: “They don’t ask you”, “You understand a lot”, “Well, as always, you are armless” for many years lay in a person the attitude that he is “bad”, good for nothing, stupid, incompetent, etc.

Self-esteem can decline already in adulthood. For example, a person tries to build a career, works a lot, improves his qualifications, but career growth does not occur. The individual begins to doubt his abilities. If self-esteem was initially normal, the reason for the failure will be found. Low self-esteem can drop even lower.

Women are often deliberately devalued by men with whom they are in intimate relationships. A complex partner deliberately humiliates his wife or girlfriend in order to be able to impose his will on her. The woman begins to be perplexed and analyze what is wrong with her. If her parents instill self-respect and love, then the girl will break up with a toxic partner; if not, she will suffer and prove her need to an unsuitable man.

Study of personality self-esteem

Experts say that the study of self-assessing personality performs three main functions:

developmental function: this function is an impetus for personal development;
protective function: this function ensures both the independence of the individual and relative stability;
regulatory function: this function resolves problems of personal choice.

Psychologists say that every person needs to look inside themselves. This is due to the fact that the solutions to most difficulties lie within the individual. If a person “digs into himself,” then this means that he can get rid of the garbage that is present there. With all this, those things that are necessary and also useful for humans come to the fore. And things that the individual does not need are hidden further away.

Personal self-esteem can form an individual's self-awareness. A person, in the process of his own assessment, also includes an assessment of his properties, qualities, and capabilities. This is done through analysis, self-report, introspection, and comparison of oneself with other people. With people with whom he is in direct contact.

Self-esteem is not the simplest satisfaction of curiosity. A healthy sense of self-esteem, the desire for success, self-improvement - all these are the driving motives. This is due to the fact that human life is a kind of protracted struggle with oneself.

With the help of personality self-assessment, you can view your real “I” and connect it with your own past and future. Personal self-esteem allows a person to look at his own roots of both weaknesses and strengths, as well as to become confident in their objectivity, and learn to acquire adequate models for his own behavior in everyday situations. The individual who was able to know himself automatically turns into an absolutely different individual.

The structure of personality self-assessment has several elements:

emotional element;
cognitive element.

The cognitive element means absolutely everything that an individual has learned about himself from completely different sources of information.

The emotional element implies its attitude to completely different aspects of the personality. This may include the following:

habits;
character;
traits;
behavior.

How is self-esteem formed?

Its foundations are laid in childhood. After infancy, the child begins to understand the essence of comparisons, and self-esteem appears in his system of concepts. Parents should be careful with statements addressed to their son or daughter. Phrases like “Alina is a better student in all subjects” or “but Dima is already learning a second language by the time he is fourteen” do not motivate children.

Rather, such expressions make them hate both Alina and Dima, and sometimes even their parents, who deal a blow to their self-esteem. A child/teenager should not think that he needs to earn the love of loved ones or try to outpace his peers in a contrived race. He needs, first of all, support and faith. On the contrary, praising also does not lead to the formation of an adequate assessment.

Adults who inspire a child to believe that he is the most talented, and that others are no match for him, are doing a disservice. Those raised on praise, even those who have left puberty, are not capable of self-criticism. This prevents them from developing and eradicating their own shortcomings. Some of those who at one time received an “overdose” of compliments and flattery become downtrodden and unsociable in adulthood. This pattern of behavior is the result of a combination of parental actions and harsh reality. Understanding that he is not unique in his own uniqueness leads a person to depression and other mental disorders.

In addition, self-esteem is influenced by a number of other factors, including the environment (classmates, fellow students, work colleagues, relatives), financial situation, and education. Many complexes come from school. Victims of bullying spend a long time coping with their fears and are susceptible to phobias for the rest of their lives. Comparing one’s own financial situation with the income of more successful people greatly affects self-esteem. But self-evaluation is not static; it changes throughout life, the level depends, among other things, on the efforts of its owner.

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Dissatisfaction with yourself and your appearance

Self-esteem is the result of comparison.

Russians are dissatisfied with their appearance:

75% figure;
44% cellulite;
40% body hair;
17% by a certain part of the body (nose, ears, chin, etc.).

72% of women surveyed believe that there is no need for the services of a plastic surgeon.

If you don’t love yourself as you are now, there will always be a reason for grief: your neighbor is slimmer, your colleague has longer legs, your sister has wrinkle-free skin, and so on ad infinitum. The result is a shattered nervous system for the woman and her partner, since he will have to constantly listen to this nonsense.

Dissatisfaction with appearance in most women occurs in childhood, adolescence or after childbirth, when a woman’s physiology undergoes drastic changes. It intensifies with age.

According to sociological surveys, 7 out of 10 women in Russia are dissatisfied with their appearance. Only 7% of women are confident in their beauty. 60% of respondents need compliments, that is, maintaining self-esteem.

Raising self-esteem by adjusting appearance is considered effective by most women. To achieve the goal, modern drugs and cosmetology procedures, fitness, diets, and plastic surgery come to the rescue.

Self-esteem correction

The possibility of changing one's self-esteem towards a more adequate one worries many people. This is especially typical for mature and seemingly accomplished individuals, when a person realizes that an incorrect assessment of his strengths and capabilities prevents him from achieving success and has a negative impact on relationships with others.

Self-esteem can be corrected even independently, although in particularly advanced cases the help of a psychotherapist or psychological consultant is required. But it is easier to increase self-esteem than to reduce inadequately inflated ones. More precisely, there are conditions under which self-esteem decreases, but most often they are unpleasant and even traumatic for a person.

If an individual realized that he had an inadequately inflated self-esteem, it means that he was able to look at himself critically, and therefore, his self-esteem is not so inflated. In any case, he is already on the right track.

There are many tips for increasing self-esteem. But first you should figure out in what area you underestimate yourself. What don't you like most about yourself or what do you need to increase your self-esteem? Write down on a separate sheet in a column the main areas in which a person is realized:

relationships with people;
professional activity (or choice of profession);
appearance;
level of knowledge, intelligence;
hobbies;
family.

You can add something important to you yourself. Now rate your success in these areas on a 10-point scale. If the scores are slightly higher than 5 points, then your self-esteem is within normal limits, but you can improve it

If the scores are slightly higher than 5 points, then your self-esteem is within normal limits, but you can improve it

And if it is significantly below 5, then special attention should be paid to this area

Think about why you think you are unsuccessful in this area? What do you need to feel more confident, begin to respect yourself and even admire yourself? Write down on a separate sheet what you are missing. And start working to eliminate these shortcomings.

As you can see, nothing complicated. And if you would like a “magic pill” or a ready-made recipe, there are none. People are all different, our problems are also different. But you can give some general tips to increase self-esteem:

Stop comparing yourself to others. Remember, every person is unique, not better or worse, just different. And your advantage is that you are different from others. Look around and try to see all the good and bright things. Stop, consolidate this feeling in your head and try not to allow negative thoughts anymore - they attract failures. When starting any business, focus on success; defeat comes to those who wait for it. Smile. A smile is a powerful tool that adjusts our state to positivity.

But it is no less important that it incites the people around us to appreciate us more highly. Write down all your strengths on a piece of paper and re-read them often, especially when you feel insecure and afraid of failure.

Be more open. Don't hesitate to ask people for help and support.

The connection between low self-esteem and self-doubt

To begin with, I will list the main signs of low self-esteem:

Oversensitivity to criticism
Dependence on the opinions of others
Passivity
Indecisiveness, fear of making mistakes
Anxiety
Excessive jealousy
Envy, when you compare yourself to other people unfavorably
Excessive self-criticism
“Delusions of grandeur” are the flip side of low self-esteem (or narcissism, which I wrote about in this article).

A person who has at least a few of the above signs is not self-confident. As a result, he rarely achieves success in his career, personal life, and even everyday trifles.

Therefore, the connection between low self-esteem and self-doubt will be extremely simple: a person is sure that he will not succeed. That is, low self-esteem is a direct cause of insecurity. A person considers himself not educated enough for a successful career, not charming enough to have relationships with the opposite sex, not talented enough to engage in creativity. For every area of life, an insecure character will find his or her “not enough.”

Therefore, in order to become a confident person, you need to start by raising your self-esteem. Below I will tell you how to do this.

Its formation

The sources of its formation in an individual differ for each person. Nevertheless, from all of them, several can be distinguished. Many works by famous scientists have been written on the topic of the sources of its formation, and each scientist adds something of his own, without changing the main ones.

Over the centuries in which the science of psychology existed, the sources of formation changed, and this is the structure we can see now:

Comparison of your ideal self and your real self.
Society's opinion of this individual.
Self-assessment of your own achievements.
Comparing oneself with an idol or an individual who represents perfection for a given individual.

Thus, we can judge that the individual’s value system, in contrast to the value system, begins to form and change over time. But this process begins from a very early age, from about 3 years old, when the child begins to actively study the world around him and his place in it.

The first rethinking of one's own significance usually begins during adolescence and continues throughout its entire duration.

Features of frustration

Frustration is a traumatic mental state that occurs in a person when he cannot do something or thinks that he cannot achieve his own desires and goals.

At the same time, very often the cause of this condition is too high, or, conversely, low self-esteem, as well as inflated claims. In this case, you can solve the problem only by completely getting rid of your complexes, regaining confidence in your abilities and a sober view of the things around you.

In the life of a modern person there is a constant struggle: for a place in the sun, for one’s family, as well as a normal attitude, success at work - such factors can be listed for a very long time. By correctly setting all your priorities in life and goals, and getting rid of difficulties with your own self-esteem, you can gain a new positive character trait - self-esteem.

Private and general level

It is also possible to distinguish between a particular and a general indicator of the development of self-esteem in an individual. Partial claims relate to achieving one’s goal in the field of activity (music, sports, cinema) or in human terms (the need to take the right place in family, friendly or industrial relationships, as well as in the team). The basis of this claim is one’s own self-esteem in a certain area.

Claims can also be general; they will relate immediately to many areas of a person’s life and, above all, to those in which his moral and intellectual manifestations are involved. Such an indicator will be very closely associated with a person’s self-esteem indicator, and will be formed under the influence of subjective experiences of success or failure of one’s goal.

Definition

A woman’s self-esteem is the ability to objectively assess her own abilities, personal qualities, social status and herself as a person. Relationships in society and a woman’s position in the family and at work are determined by the attitude towards one’s own person.

The level of self-esteem ensures the complexity of the goals and objectives that a woman is trying to achieve in life. One strives to take a leadership position, knowing that she can do it. Another has been content with working as a clerk for 20 years, without thinking about anything more. One marries a prince, the other lives with an alcoholic and a brawler, unable to provide for his family, afraid of being left alone.

Self-esteem is one of the basic concepts of psychology. We come across assessments of our abilities more often than we think. Whether we are catching up with a bus leaving a stop, writing an essay at a university, or preparing a new dish for the arrival of guests, first we evaluate our capabilities - the speed of movement, the ability to reveal the topic of the essay, or the ability to cook.

Are you ready to stop thinking about your problem and finally move on to real actions that will help you get rid of your problems once and for all? Then perhaps you will be interested in this article .

Self-analysis in everyday life is a tool for monitoring and measuring behavior patterns.
Inadequate comparison of the image of the “I” located in a person’s thoughts with reality leads to low or high self-esteem, to a neurotic split of personality, but not in the clinical sense. A modern person is a “set of self-presentations,” that is, he wants to please others and flaunts those character traits (often not inherent to him) that, in his opinion, should set him apart from the crowd. Over time, he begins to believe in the invented image, to correspond to it, breaking away from reality. When real goals and tasks are set before him, he finds himself unable to fulfill or solve them. Self-esteem drops.

The concept of “performance self-assessment” refers to a comprehensive assessment of an enterprise by employees in order to identify weaknesses in production, financial or interpersonal terms.

Self-Esteem Functions

The description and content of the functions of personality self-esteem, as a basic concept in psychology, are given in the table.

Functions	Description
Stimulating	Motivates a person to take actions that can increase self-esteem.
Post forecast	Blocks actions that may affect self-esteem.
Regulatory	Ensures that the individual accepts tasks and makes decisions.
Emotional	Allows a person to satisfy needs and enjoy life.
Protective	Forms personality stability.
Controlling	Provides self-control during a person’s performance of tasks and actions.
Developmental	Motivates for self-development and improvement.