Inner personal freedom
The problem of inner freedom is as old as the world. For many centuries, people have been striving to understand their essence, the world, to find freedom and harmony. Why do we often feel like prisoners of life, refuse opportunities, are afraid to decide to change, to go towards new discoveries? Freedom is a life choice; you can live by the rules of others or find your own path, act according to the dictates of your heart.
A free person is distinguished by courage, confidence, a clear position in life, and commands respect. Such people often become leaders, help others understand the world around them, find their calling and values.
Limiters of internal freedom - thoughts, prohibitions, negative attitudes, fear. We often drive ourselves into a “dungeon” on our own due to lack of faith, lack of positive thinking, the presence of complexes, and a negative attitude towards ourselves and the world.
Life is the same for everyone
But still we see a special world,
From the existing obstacles,
The strongest of all are the shackles of the soul. ©
Negative thinking and attitudes distort the picture of life, exaggerate the colors and present everything in gloomy tones. But there is always a way out: discover potential, “learn to fly,” strive upward.
The book “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” by Richard Bach will help you understand and feel inner freedom. The main character is Jonathan the seagull, he strives to learn to fly higher than other birds, but the flock does not support his aspirations, why strive upward, be like everyone else. But faith, burning desire and constant training work wonders. He became free, learned to fly, and later taught wisdom to those who wanted to find freedom.
The book carries a special spirit of freedom, everyone can fly, the main thing is to believe. A person’s inner freedom is the rejection of negative assessments of others, the ability to live by one’s own ideals and goals. It's better to make a mistake than to live a life that isn't yours. It is important to find self-expression: sing, dance, draw, reach your horizons.
The path to freedom is a road of untrodden paths, understanding of one’s own inner world, the ability to live, overcoming fears, complexes, and the opinions of others. A person’s internal freedom and non-freedom depends on the ability to go beyond the usual, think outside the box, creatively, understand the world around him, and feel flight. There lives a “free seagull” in everyone; we often don’t let it into the sky, preferring a bird in our hand.
How difficult it is sometimes to overcome all restrictions and boundaries, to follow the dictates of your heart, to get off the ground, to fly towards your dreams and goals. But anything is possible.
Harmonization of space
Happiness lies in the little things. If you can create a peaceful and cozy atmosphere around you, your chances of finding harmony will increase significantly. The task of your home is to restore energy and mental strength, give protection and warmth. How to harmonize it? It all depends on your individual preferences. You can decorate the rooms with flowers, Vedic attributes or images of water space.
How to become a free person?
- Take responsibility for your own life - a free person does not depend on circumstances and surroundings. Rather, he forms them himself. Does he go his own way, choose what to do, how to act? He clearly understands goals, strives for them, understanding that obstacles are just the wind, it cannot break or interfere. If you blame life and others for difficulties, there will be no progress; it is important to understand your own role, the ability to control and manage events by changing attitudes, thoughts, and actions. How to take responsibility? We can influence life in different ways: minimally - by creating positive thinking, internal attitudes, maximally - by helping with actions, decisions, making life choices.
- Open your inner potential - freedom of self-expression allows you to find hidden talents and learn new things. All restrictions are illusory; boundaries can be expanded indefinitely. Great people were able to go beyond limits, overcome fear - make discoveries, strive to realize their abilities and dreams. Often new ideas are met with misunderstanding from society, and the desire for change does not resonate with relatives and friends. And years later, when a person succeeds in his endeavors, they are proud of him. You should not rely on others, faith must live in the heart. People did not believe in the possibility of flying instruments, that the Earth revolved around the Sun, and were not aware of the possibilities of satellite communications. Life is changing at tremendous speed, we can make our contribution to the development of society, leave a mark on history, science, and creativity. A person becomes free if he follows the call of his heart, strives to realize his abilities, and open up new opportunities. You need to live here and now, realize your full potential, discover inner freedom, forget your fears.
- Filling life with meaning - awareness distinguishes a free person, knows why he lives, strives for his own goals. Understanding personal aspirations and purpose, you can make a free choice: how to live, what to do, and justify your life position. It is important to define your mission and life goals. If you set global true goals, then the achievement will be more interesting. The meaning of life is knowledge, freedom, self-realization, helping people. Everyone is looking for a way to fill their days with meaning and be useful to society. Society would be ideal if everyone lived according to their calling and did their work with soul and love. It is not necessary to change the field of activity; you can fill it with new meaning and meaning. It is not the work that makes the man, but the man the work. A sincere, cheerful and highly developed person can make the lives of others better, regardless of profession (doctor, teacher, psychologist, coach).
- Learning to enjoy life - awareness of freedom is associated with the ability to rejoice, to see the beautiful side of existence. Live in this moment, give up suffering and worries about the past. Eastern sages are always smiling, positive, radiating happiness and peace. One who has experienced life and understands his own role can calmly enjoy the sunset, the singing of birds and the rustling of leaves. The opportunity to live is given once, why use it in vain for suffering, it is better to learn to receive joy. Happy is the one who counts his achievements, not his losses. Give thanks for all the good things and you can achieve more. It is worth noticing the best in yourself - everyone has talents, strengths, achievements. There are many possibilities hidden in a person; you need to believe in yourself, unlock your potential, and fill yourself with the power of thought and action.
- Develop immunity to troubles - gaining inner freedom comes when the outside world cannot influence the state of inner peace and happiness. By giving up negative reactions and thinking, you can build a new life. We often live by circumstances, but inner peace is more important than minor troubles; they are often not worth attention, loss of strength, energy, and worries. A calm and philosophical worldview distinguishes a free person from an ordinary person; a person with inner freedom is ready to calmly accept any situation and endure adversity, because “there is no point in being offended by the weather, it is better to put on a raincoat and take an umbrella.” Events are like a background or screensaver, and their coloring is given by our attitude: thoughts, emotions. It is better to develop a calm and positive attitude, why be offended by something that is beyond our control. By working on ourselves, we change the world. Why let troubles at work, traffic congestion or negative statements affect yourself, your mood, your state? A person becomes free and invulnerable if he does not accept the negativity sent by circumstances and people. Internal defense - ignoring negativity, self-confidence in one’s own actions. Calmness is the highest power, it is not necessary to prove that you are right, it is enough to act in accordance with personal principles and allow others to live their own lives. This is the freedom and strength of the individual.
- Having a calm attitude towards mistakes and failures means that it is not always possible to immediately achieve what you want in life. You often have to fall and get up, some give up, others keep going. Only strong-willed and self-confident individuals are able to work miracles and surprise with their indestructible will and achievements.
Mistakes are normal. The qualifications of a specialist are determined by the presence of damaged equipment and the number of errors. They allow you to gain experience and become wiser.
The winners are those who do not retreat in case of failure and look for ways to come to their dream city. The absence of self-criticism and criticism distinguishes a free person who understands: I have the right to make mistakes, but I may not always be right. This is wisdom and understanding of life. There are no ideal people, but there is an opportunity to become even better, learn new things, develop abilities, and gain knowledge. The wise perceive experience as a teacher, and even in unpleasant situations they see the positive side.
Every failure is a step forward, an invaluable life experience. One day, all the knowledge gained through mistakes will help you create your new reality and achieve your highest aspirations.
So, what should a free person be like? A self-sufficient, self-confident person who accurately understands his life path, aspirations, and has a positive attitude towards life, people, and himself. For him there are no restrictions, no impossible, they act and focus on maximum results.
Internal and external freedom differ in a person’s sense of self. You can actually be free - live in a free country, your own apartment, have the opportunity to choose, but not feel freedom, feel constant pressure from society.
A person’s inner freedom is the result of working on oneself, the ability to understand the world around us, and live in harmony with oneself. It is difficult to change those around you; it is better to change yourself and your perception of life. It is useful to get rid of negativity, internal complexes and limitations that prevent you from taking off, revealing your potential, and living in accordance with your desires, principles, and ideas.
What does it mean to be free? See only one reason for your joys and failures - yourself, give up negative assessments, determine the main goals, go to the necessary results regardless of circumstances, events, assessments. A free person does not torment himself with worries, does not suffer from a guilt complex or imperfection, and accepts himself as he is. Self-esteem is an important character trait, a principle of life.
The level of internal freedom depends on the ability to implement the basic principles. You can strive for self-knowledge, discovery of talents, development, positive thinking, awareness. But lack of immunity to trouble or criticism will negate the positive aspects. Only the presence of all the criteria will allow you to feel calm and freedom; nothing should disturb you, cause anger or annoyance. Calmness is a great strength, and together with perseverance creates invincibility.
Of course, it is difficult to live without emotions, and fears and worries can undermine us from the inside and upset our mental balance. How to find inner harmony? Let's take a closer look at how to find inner freedom, minimize negative emotions, and find balance and tranquility in life.
Make friends with money
Finances are the main source of our stress. It’s bad without them, but when they appear, it becomes a pity to waste them! As a result, people are in constant stress because for some reason they believe that money can bring them happiness. Psychologists deny this misconception, saying that it is the successful and rich people who are most unhappy. And millions, or even billions, do not particularly help them cope with depression.
However, the habit of spending money without thinking is also not very useful. Therefore, it is recommended to write down all the expenses you make during the month. Researchers have found that this technique can reduce costs by a third. Try to save 10% of your income every month. And you should spend money not only on things and food, but also on experiences.
Harmony in human life
Harmony within oneself is the highest art, the ability to generate happiness, to remain calm in difficult situations.
Inner freedom is the awareness of the need to restore order in one’s soul; no one but a person can make him happy and free. Why do we feel a lack of freedom - conditions and way of life, restrictions of society, the opinions of parents and others? A feeling arises: you need to fight for freedom, defend the right to live by your own principles. The result is stress, neuroses, depression, anxiety.
What should I do? Stop proving, just live, everyone has their own truth, it is impossible to be good to everyone. Of course, it is difficult to abstract yourself from family and friends who can dictate their terms, propose or impose a solution to the issue. Politely thank you for your help, explain your choice, and in time they will understand. Often parents try to make their dreams come true with the help of their children, offering their ideals, while each person, an individual, should be able to choose a path in life.
How do people protect their inner freedom? There are several reactions - protest, evidence, counterarguments, refusal to cooperate. Feeling external pressure, the desire to impose an opinion, there is often a desire to challenge one’s position, to prove the opposite, to convince, we often strive to avoid influence, to refuse the help of an annoying salesman or relative.
Over the years, a realization comes: a person takes into account only information that is close to him and understandable. He rejects everything that is against his position in life, so disputes often end unproductively, everyone remains with their own opinion. A free person does not strive to prove his truth to every barking dog, but acts according to his ideals.
Personal harmony is associated with the ability to understand oneself, accept one’s pros and cons, and abandon self-criticism and accusations. We can make mistakes - this is normal, the main thing is to have a basic line of behavior. A confident person rarely doubts for a long time, knows what he is striving for, what brings joy and positive emotions. The barometer of happiness and correctness of actions is our internal state. When we act badly, we feel remorse. Good actions, results, interesting activities evoke enthusiasm and inspiration.
It would seem that everything is simple: you need to live according to your conscience and use your will to achieve your goals and realize your life mission. However, there are also emotions that interfere with happiness and peace of mind. Negative emotions include: resentment, anger, aggression, envy, despair. How can you learn to get out of a negative state and fill yourself with positive energy?
Harmony in the soul and life is impossible without self-regulation, the ability to manage emotions and thoughts. Usually we think that circumstances are the cause of emotions: disappointment, sadness, sadness, anger. But if you look closely, different people react in different ways to similar situations, which means we can choose emotions, a way of reacting. How? Controlling thoughts, directing them in the right direction.
In case of feeling negative emotions, it is worth understanding the reason for their occurrence, why do I think that this situation is worthy of sadness? What do I think about this? You can even write down your thoughts and perform an analysis. Most likely, internal attitudes and a negative attitude prevent you from objectively assessing the situation and seeing advantages and opportunities. It is important not to give in to emotions, but to make a decision - what is useful and what is harmful. Negative emotions undermine peace of mind and cause illness on the physical level (Louise Hay). Therefore, experiencing anger, sadness, and envy is, at a minimum, harmful to health. It is better to cultivate acceptance of life, people, love for yourself and the world around you. Positive emotions give strength, inspiration for new achievements, and a feeling of happiness.
It is difficult to avoid negativity, but it is important to learn how to transform it into other energy. The following algorithm will help:
- Realize the harmfulness of emotions - why do they help or hinder solving the issue? Understand the cause of the occurrence (thoughts preceding the appearance of an emotional reaction).
- Find a refutation of negative thoughts, evidence of their groundlessness, adjust your consciousness to a different wavelength.
- Use “anchors” that improve your mood: music, a walk, communication, humming a song. Everyone has their own ways of influencing mood.
- Feel a neutral state first, and later a positive attitude towards life.
A person’s inner freedom is the ability to maintain a calm state of mind, refuse to take negativity to heart, and not allow external circumstances to disturb peace. Everything is fine, everything is going as it should. You can always find a way out, a solution. Calm, just calm.
Emotions and logical thinking often come into confrontation - it is impossible to worry and think at the same time. It’s better to turn on logic and turn off harmful emotions so that they don’t interfere with your life. Breathing exercises, meditation and yoga are also useful for self-regulation.
Harmony of life and love is the goal and dream of everyone. It often takes years and decades to realize and understand oneself. How to find inner harmony, learn to accept yourself, life, feel freedom?
Do what you like
If you don’t like your job, but there is no way to change it yet, try to find the positives in it. Think about how it allows you to develop. And of course, find a hobby that really brings you pleasure. Even if you can devote very little time to him. Doing what you like is perhaps the secret of happiness. Perhaps one day your hobby will develop into an activity that will generate income. Scientists have long established that true success can only be achieved if you do something that brings you pleasure. Here's how to find harmony with yourself.
Basic principles of a harmonious life:
- We choose our own lives - every day we have many opportunities and roads in front of us, and only we make decisions ourselves: how to act, react, what to say. Taking responsibility for your life makes it possible to feel your strength. A person is stronger than circumstances until they influence him. And positive thoughts and actions help to attract success and achieve what you want.
- The ability to live now, to enjoy life - a free person living in harmony, knows how to live slowly, feeling every moment. It is useful to walk slowly, looking at plants, peering into the distance, and not constantly running, being late for the bus. It is also better to eat food, as in a restaurant, savoring the food, relaxing, enjoying the moment. Life is short, so why not allow yourself more joy? Live it at the highest level. Yes, the speed of life does not always allow you to take breaks, but they are necessary; during breaks between work you can go out, get distracted, look at the world with a fresh look, feel the moment, joy, and forget about worries.
- The method of “switching”, self-regulation - to increase concentration and vital energy, it is useful to remember childhood or youth, the peak of energy, the state of success and joy, health. Immersion in pleasant memories evokes the necessary state of mind, inner mood. Pleasant pictures of the past or music that evokes positive associations also help to switch. (“Key method. Unlock your capabilities” Kh. Aliyev.)
- Refusal of negative attitudes - a harmonious personality does not accumulate complexes or negative attitudes. It is important to learn to find advantages in yourself, use your strengths as much as possible, and find advantages in your weaknesses. Even people with physical disabilities and disabilities can be happy. It all depends on the inner feeling of the world, the ability to see the bright side of events, and the presence of fortitude. Giving up worries about the future and past will help you live in the present and fill your life with meaning. Most experiences are vain and groundless, no one knows the future, and the past is already part of history, bringing only experience and wisdom.
- The ability to love oneself and life - a free and harmonious person accepts himself, understands, is open to the world and life. She does not wait for gifts of fate, the love of others, but she herself brings light and warmth - she knows how to support, understand, share joy and bitterness. Such people radiate love, kindness, attract good circumstances, become the life of the party, best friends.
- A healthy body means a healthy mind - light physical activity increases vigor, improves overall health and mental stability. People who are fond of sports suffer less from stress and anxiety. Sport is a great way to release negative energy, switch to another productive wave, and increase overall energy. Even walking or running significantly improves your health and state of mind.
- Having inner strength is a guarantee of a happy, harmonious life. A person’s inner freedom is the ability to be strong and confident, which does not allow one to succumb to manipulation. A harmonious person lives by his own judgments, does not follow the lead of others, and strives for his own goals. A free person does not impose his ideas, but knows how to resist pressure and is immune to influences and opinions.
- The ability to forgive - a harmonious and free person does not accumulate resentment. For what? There are more important things to do than to be offended by someone and try to sort things out. There is a lot of beautiful and interesting things in the world, there are things to do and goals. Resentment takes away peace and leads to diseases and neuroses. It is important to be able to forgive yourself and others. Everyone has the right to make mistakes. Let go of grudges and move on with your life. Often people who criticize and blame themselves are unhappy and have lost peace.
- Independence - to gain spiritual peace and joy, it is useful to develop your own assessment of life and actions. We often wait for the approval of society, the support of others, but it is more reliable to rely on ourselves, to be able to notice good actions and achievements. Man himself is his own salvation, he can elevate and overthrow his achievements. It is important to notice progress, successes, and mentally rejoice at every step forward. You shouldn’t even expect gratitude, just do good deeds.
- Striving for dreams - for harmony it is important to be able to dream and set goals. Our ideas and aspirations are signals from the subconscious; we can achieve more if we put in the right effort. Most desires can be realized if you put aside fears and prejudices. It is important to learn to believe in yourself and follow your dreams. You can learn to sing, dance or play musical instruments at any age, master a new profession, and open up opportunities. The main thing is to think about how to realize your dreams, where to apply your abilities and talents? Inner freedom of a person is an achievable state that is compared to “reasonable egoism.” A person lives by his own interests and ideas, without harming himself or society. Quite the contrary - it helps, inspires, and is an example for others who have not yet found freedom. We wish everyone to find inner freedom and harmony in life!
Topics: Mental health, Personal growth
Enjoy the moment
Have you noticed that you are constantly in a hurry to get somewhere, often talking and thinking about the future? For some reason, people always think that the future will be better, so their thoughts are mainly in it. However, this is a fundamentally wrong approach. You are in a hurry to live, not noticing that the years are passing, and you are still in a state of waiting for someone: it will be better, more, more necessary. But how can you find peace of mind and harmony within with such a mindset?
Pay attention to how you spend your day. You're probably in a hurry to get somewhere and don't have time to do anything. This is how adults taught you from childhood: they rushed you to kindergarten, to school, and then to work. Try to spend the day paying attention to small details: bright flowers on the table, birds singing, smiles of passers-by, hot coffee. Stay in your moments and try to do whatever you enjoy without rushing. And in unpleasant things, try to find something pleasant. We assure you, it is there!
Thoughts that weigh on us
First of all, in order to find peace in the soul, you need to learn to stop and stop thinking. 99% of our time is spent thinking about everyday problems: what to live on, what to eat, time to do laundry, how to get a raise in salary, whether to change jobs, and so on.
We think about the past and the future. We regret the wrong decision, scold ourselves for imperfect actions, strive for something, motivate, discipline, control.
You won’t be able to find harmony with yourself using this method. On the contrary, psychologists around the world recommend learning to turn off thoughts through meditation or simply immersing yourself in natural sounds.
Even Jesus went into the desert to listen to the voice of the wind and his own breath. In this atmosphere, it is easiest to learn to hear yourself, complete your thoughts about the frailty of existence and find peace in our crazy world.
Love or addiction?
Addiction disguises itself very well as love, and the dependent person often does not realize that in fact the feelings that overwhelm him have nothing in common with love. The cult of love that exists in society has developed a long time ago, and the fear of losing newfound love forces the unfortunate to cherish and cherish his feeling of attachment to a person, so that it does not turn out, as in Kuprin’s “Garnet Bracelet,” that true love, which happens only once in a lifetime, if In general, I’ll be lucky to try it, I passed it by. If you are afraid of confusing love and addiction, we suggest you study the comparative table below.
Signs of love Signs of love addiction You feel good together, but being apart is also good: you continue to enjoy life. The beginning of the relationship was wonderful, but now, being apart, you feel discomfort, as if something important is missing, and you are not entirely comfortable together. You experience predominantly positive emotions: joy, inspiration, self-confidence, peace of mind and harmony. It’s not for nothing that they say that “love gives you wings.” Do you feel like your wings have been clipped?
You are filled with jealousy, fears, anxiety, and are in constant tension. You have retained your inner freedom and have views and tastes that are different from those of your lover. You dream of dissolving into the object of your passion. His views and his assessment of you and your actions are of decisive importance for you. When making decisions, you are driven by the desire to receive praise from him, and not by your own position. You are partners, you are equal. One of you is clearly dominant. You are able to create, success accompanies you. You don't belong to yourself. You are unable to concentrate on anything. Failures haunt you. Conclusion: love is constructive. Conclusion: love addiction is destructive.
If, after analyzing the table, you come to the conclusion that what lives in your soul is not a bright feeling of love, but an addiction that is destroying your soul and your life, you need to figure out where it came from and take measures to get rid of the addiction and find peace of mind. Consulting with a psychotherapist may benefit you in this case. However, you can help yourself if you set such a goal for yourself and concentrate on achieving it.
Tearing off the masks
How often do we hide our essence from prying eyes and ourselves. We try to be like someone, we look back at other people’s successes, in some ways we envy people passing by, sometimes we even get angry and offended. Without a doubt, there are many role models who have achieved unprecedented success and live a different life: bright, devoid of routine and waking up early every day for a job that is not fun.
But why get angry and give up when we have the power to change the course of events? Our life was not given to us in order to remain in the image of a victim and complain about the injustice of fate. It is necessary to act and preferably without delay.
Don't like your hairstyle or wardrobe? Change and reinvent yourself. You should admire your own reflection in the mirror, and not turn around at every random person you meet with the thoughts: “She is so beautiful and well-groomed, why is everything different for me...”
There is no need to suppress feelings and the realization that you do not like to be the way circumstances force you to be. Take off the mask of normality and routine and stop worrying about what other people think of you. Think about it: many of them are worthy of respect and admiration precisely because they once stopped caring about the opinions of others.
Maybe it is at that moment when you unleash your inner beast that you will realize what you want to devote your life to. And as you know, one of the main components of happiness is doing something that brings us pleasure.
Show you care
It is in women's nature at the genetic level to take care of someone. This gives a feeling of demand and fulfillment of the female “I”. Surprisingly, this action has a cumulative effect: the more you show kindness and care, the more people receive it from you, the more positive energy accumulates in you.
Be happy!
What does harmony with oneself mean? In fact, everything is simple, learn one rule: happiness is not acquired, it is the eternal right of absolutely every person from the very first days of life. No environment can make a person happy just because the main source of real happiness is not in others, but in ourselves. The whole difficulty lies in the fact that a person is able to achieve absolutely any state, including harmony with himself, only if he understands that everything depends only on his own choice. It’s not for nothing that they say, if you want to be happy, be it! Happiness is our choice, not the result of some action or process.
Causes of love addiction
Love addiction always has its own reasons. It’s just that a person does not of his own free will choose suffering for himself as a norm of life. Before you begin to fully work on yourself, you need to carefully understand the current situation. To do this, it is recommended to remain honest with yourself.
Bad experience
Negative experiences in the past usually have their consequences. The feeling of spiritual despair does not actually go away; it forces the individual to close himself even more in his own hopelessness. A bad experience becomes the reason that a person begins to become strongly attached to a partner and at the same time expect inevitable betrayal
Sometimes it becomes quite difficult for people to switch their attention and start living in a new way, guided by their individual beliefs. We all unconsciously look back at previous experiences when starting to build certain relationships.
Diffidence
Low self-esteem often becomes the reason for the formation of love addiction. The less we value ourselves, the less others will do the same. Lack of self-confidence forces an individual to seek support in another person. Of course, there is no understanding that one must take responsibility for one’s own actions. Most people are willing to shift their mistakes onto their partner only because it is easier to justify themselves. Self-doubt quite often provokes unhealthy relationships. Thus, a person tries to compensate for his own feelings of inferiority.
