Flirt with a girl by correspondence example phrases

Flirting is the first manifestation of sympathy, which suggests interest in a person. Many people, feeling even the strongest sympathy, are afraid to directly talk about their feelings.

Thoughts that prevent you from giving in to your emotions are usually quite typical for everyone:

What if I get rejected?
What exactly should I say? Would this phrase be appropriate?
What if she doesn't like me at all?
How to feel confident and not look funny?
How to choose the right phrases to flirt with a girl?

What should you never do? Example of unsuccessful flirting

Although there is nothing complicated about how to flirt over text, many guys make a number of mistakes at first. The most common of them is exaggeration of one’s own capabilities, income and merits. Not everyone can avoid the temptation to embellish reality. And a lie does not always remain without consequences.

Try to relax

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For some people, sending flirty messages online turns into a real exam and test of strength. You might know that feeling of re-writing and then double-checking a five-word message ten times before you send it. If you find yourself in a similar situation, try to relax. The person on the other side of the screen is unlikely to make fun of you if you miss a comma or misspell the word “hello,” because dating apps are designed for easy communication. And if they rudely point out your mistake, then this is an excellent indicator that you are not on the same path with this person.

Basic rules of correspondence

When corresponding with your interlocutor, avoid typical mistakes that can easily alienate a girl in the very first messages.

Don't lie and pretend to be someone you're not if you're hoping for a personal meeting.
Check your messages for spelling.
Don't overdo it with emoticons, use them in moderation.
Don't overdo it with compliments. Girls make contact much easier with men who act a little arrogantly.
Using swear words is not the best way to flirt. You can allow obscene language only if the girl uses it herself.
Don't write a lot. Brevity is the soul of wit.
Remember that a sense of humor is one of the names of sexuality.
Address the person you are talking to by name. It will be much more pleasant for her than if you call her Cutie, Beauty, Kitten and other diminutive words.
Don't be intrusive. Stop the conversation at the most interesting point, disappear unexpectedly from the network - intrigue your interlocutor. Make it clear that you have a busy life, and your pastime is not limited to waiting online for your chosen one.
Be interested in her life. Remember the facts that she mentions and return to them from time to time in correspondence - then the girl will feel your sincere interest.

Errors

When starting to communicate with a nice person via the Internet, many guys want to seem more brutal, more experienced and make a lot of mistakes. We list the most common of them:

The first message is written banally, like everyone else. Phrases: “Hello!”, “Let’s get to know each other!”, “How are you?”, “What are you doing?” cause women to be rejected, and they ignore SMS.
For dating on VK, WhatsApp and other social networks, they use fake pages and someone else’s ava. Starting a conversation with a lie is in itself absurd. And girls are very sensitive to deception. Even if you manage to intrigue a stranger now, nothing good awaits you in the future.
They talk sadly about past love relationships, exes, failures in life. It’s definitely not worth causing tears of pity from a stranger during the first conversation; your task is to hook the lady, to interest her in an original way, to arouse feelings of sympathy in her.
They write too long, flowery letters without a clear meaning. This is how you can communicate with an old friend, girlfriend, mother, but not with a girl you are supposed to like. There is no need to quote poets, talk tediously about trifles, or answer questions at length. Otherwise, it seems that you are a narcissistic macho, looking for an object for recognition of his beauty or intelligence.
They use slang that is completely incomprehensible to the interlocutor. It’s good if you have a common circle of acquaintances and similar interests, then special words and jargon will be clear in the dialogue. And if not. Then the girl will be confused, she will have to ask again what you mean. This makes it difficult to get to know each other and get used to each other.
They become familiar without permission, become familiar, and forget to say hello. Respect the boundaries between being off-hand and being intimate. You shouldn’t address an almost unknown girl as “Kisulya, Lapulya, Irishka, Marinochka” until the lady gives permission. A sharp reduction in distance frightens young people and pushes them away.
They write SMS with emoticons. Emotional faces are a great invention, but don't go to extremes. For love correspondence, words and hints are much more important. A real compliment will make a much more impression on a lady than 10 kisses and 5 braces.
They get bored with messages and impose themselves on you. End communication if the girl clearly refuses to meet you or does not respond to SMS for several days.
They don’t know what to write to a girl on VK and use standard phrases. Learn to flirt, get acquainted, practice more on Tinder, on Mamba. Then it will be interesting to correspond with you.
Hints of intimacy, virtual, invitation to a real meeting in the first correspondence. Be careful with compliments. “Your breasts are so big, wow!” — decent girls respond to such an enthusiastic message by blocking the interlocutor’s account.
Mat in speech. Girls don't like poorly educated, uncultured guys. Your messages should be beautiful and pleasant to read.
Grammatical and spelling errors in SMS. Illiteracy is easy to hide during oral conversation, but in correspondence 2 and 3 in the Russian language at school become visible to everyone. Brush up on your humanitarian knowledge, it will be useful not only in correspondence with beauties.

Nonverbal ways of flirting

In addition to verbal and virtual flirting, there is also non-verbal flirting. Many psychologists consider this method of attracting female attention to be the most advantageous and effective. The human body has its own language. If a guy learns to understand it and communicate correctly in it, he will be able to win the heart of the most capricious and selective girl. What does body language include and how to learn to flirt with a girl using non-verbal methods?

Smile.
Sight.
Gestures.
Facial expressions.
Touching.

Guys should remember that a smile is a powerful tool that can help facilitate the process of winning the lady of your heart. This is an important component of smart and successful flirting. The smile should be light, natural and relaxed. A guy should pay attention to the girl's response. Does she smile back at him? Is her smile sincere? The girl’s natural smile is the result of the fact that she let his emotions pass through her and accepted them.

Use emoji

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Emojis and emoticons open up endless scope for unobtrusive flirting, and if you still doubt your eloquence, then sometimes it’s enough just to add an appropriate picture to the text to clarify your intentions. The classic version is the emoji with a monkey closing its eyes. It will let the other person know that you might be a little nervous and embarrassed about sending this message. The next option is an emoji with two eyes, which denotes intrigue. He will make even the most ordinary phrase, for example, “I can’t wait to see you again,” more playful. Another option is a smiling purple emoji with horns, which immediately takes your conversation to a new level: “Last night was unforgettable.” Sometimes, with the help of emoji, you can completely replace some words: “You just...” and add a fire emoji at the end. The right emoticon will make your correspondence more sensual, innocent or, conversely, more frank and sexy.

How to flirt in real life

Smart flirting is different from thinly veiled jokes below the belt and is designed to hint to the girl that you are interested in her. To do this, when communicating live with a girl, use a winning combo: body language, delicacy and teasing.

To hint not only with words, but also with body language, do this:

Gesture with your hands. This will make your speech brighter and more expressive, and will cause a more vivid reaction in the girl. Do not clasp your arms over your chest to avoid appearing withdrawn.
Lean towards her, try to be physically closer. Let me feel close. But don’t go too far: don’t violate personal boundaries and don’t deprive them of a sense of security.
Keep your posture. This will give you a more confident appearance, which will help you be more convincing in any behavior with a girl.
Maintain eye contact. Show that you are completely focused on the girl. This way she will listen to you more attentively, and her gaze also conveys emotions well.
Smile. This will show that you are cheerful, friendly and in a good mood. Just what you need to play convincingly even for the most discerning girl.

Tactfulness means attention to the girl and her reactions. The ability and willingness to stop if she doesn’t like something, and to try on all the remarks on herself in order to avoid offense and not to say something too caustic. And also - pay attention to the girl and show that she is special.

Teasing is that same causticity and understatement, ambiguity. When you leave a girl a little confused: she seemed to have noticed the hint, but wasn’t she imagining it? Compliments bordering on trolling are also a typical type of teasing.

Flirting with a stranger

Flirting with a stranger is dangerous because you don’t know her reactions. But this is not a girl you know and care about, which means losing her because of a mistake is not so scary. You won't know if you like flirting with strangers until you try.

We show examples of phrases so that you understand how to act:

Does Megan Fox know that she will never look as cool as you do in this dress?
Oh, what a gentle creature. Will it not release the thorns if you touch it?
Good morning to the most charming girl in Arkhangelsk!
Girl, you should be more careful... Dress in such a way that there will be accidents on the roads you pass by!
Do you know the easiest way to impress a guy who fell in love at first sight?
Girl, help: there is not enough light in my life. Walk with me for about 15 minutes - you’re all glowing, you don’t mind.
Would you like to have some coffee? You do not want? Well that's right! Let's go straight to the restaurant on a date.

Flirting with a girl you like

You should be careful with a girl you like. But you can also add courage - she knows you and can trust you, and not be afraid of unexpected playful phrases. Here it is important to think about what to say when meeting a girl. If you know that you are not a master at giving compliments right away, think over your first remark in advance.

Today you look as if you are going to conquer the Gazprom directorate.
Aren't you afraid of angering the goddesses with such an appearance?
As long as I’ve known you, I couldn’t even imagine that you could look so feminine.
Today is obviously the most beautiful day in the entire history of our acquaintance.
These are curls! If you sold your soul to the devil for them, it was worth it!
You look so amazing today - all you need to complete the package is a gorgeous guy. Can help.
Do you know what the coolest guys and girls do on Friday nights? Don't make plans for the next one, and I'll show you.

Gestures, facial expressions, body posture 3

Researchers have proven that a number of components influence the overall impression we make. Of these, only 7% is what a person says; 38% - the way it was pronounced; 55% - relates to body language. The right gestures and facial expressions will work in your favor. In this regard, here are some recommendations.

Pay attention to your posture. Straighten your back. Pull your stomach in, spread your shoulders. This will create an impressive appearance - which means that on a biological level she will recognize you as a more competitive male.
Use open poses. Don't cross your arms and legs. On an unconscious level, the lady will regard this as readiness and openness to communication.
Keep your chin slightly up; Also direct your gaze above the horizon line. This will create a confident appearance.
Smile. There is no need, of course, to do this continuously, like a madman. But still, a moderate smile will help you create the impression of a successful and satisfied person with life. Try to keep the corners of your mouth raised rather than down throughout the conversation. This way, facial expressions will signal the pleasure of communication. Drooping corners of the lips, on the contrary, indicate sadness and boredom.
Gestures should be moderate. Don't wave your arms like a windmill; Don’t constantly smooth your hair with compulsive movements. Move slowly even if you are nervous. You can carefully straighten your tie - for some reason, many women really like this gesture.

Look into the eyes. Yes, it actually works. Researchers from the USA conducted an interesting experiment. It involved 2 groups of young college students of different sexes, 48 people each. The subjects in one of the groups did not avoid eye contact while talking with each other. Others were told to focus not on the eyes, but on the hands of their counterparts. It turned out that in the end, in the first group, mutual sympathy arose in 54%, and in the second - in only 3% of the subjects.

By the way, you should also not look at the floor, ceiling, or stare at your phone too often. This will show that you are either bored with her; or you are not confident in yourself.

Remember the “three second rule”. In practice it works like this. You looked at her. Smile sweetly, and then immediately look away. Wait a couple more moments and look at her again. So, this time, if the girl catches your eye, then look into her eyes again - but now without a smile.
After these manipulations, take a break and do something else. Contact has arisen between you, so you don’t have to worry - she’s waiting for attention to be paid to her again. It's okay: waiting in this case is only beneficial.

Touching. The main thing is to remember: no one says to immediately feel all her charms. It should be a light touch, done as if by chance. Once upon a time, a researcher from France N. Gueguen conducted an experiment. In it, 20 participants had to meet each other on the street and ask passing beauties for phone numbers. Half of the subjects inadvertently touched the girls. It turned out that these lucky ones were much more likely to be able to get a phone number from a stranger.

Copying behavior. She often looks into the eyes - try to do the same; if the lady only occasionally glances at you, do not look at her closely. If she leans back on the chair and relaxes, also spread out like a jellyfish on the sofa.
When flirting with women, shaking hands is also acceptable. But don't shake her little hand like crazy. This gesture should be confident, but not very long. If she gives you her hand with her palm down, this is a sure signal that you need to kiss her.
Don't fidget, tap on the table, bite your nails, chew a pencil, walk back and forth, scratch your head, put napkins in a glass, and so on. If it is absolutely necessary, and nervousness overcomes you, it is better to clasp your hands together or put them in your pockets. Take 2-3 deep breaths and exhales. Remember something pleasant from your biography. This will help you relax.

Rules for flirting with girls on the road

The life of young people is full of interesting and exciting events: travel with friends, memorable trips with beautiful girls, road romance and adventure. If you know how to flirt correctly with the fair sex, you can turn an ordinary trip or vacation with girls into something unforgettable and exciting. How to flirt with girls on the road, while traveling and relaxing with them? Below are examples of questions that can be asked to girls in order to attract their attention and win them over, as well as ready-made phrases that can be used to win the hearts of beautiful ladies.

Forbidden words and vulgar expressions.	The best phrases for flirting with girls on the road.
Did you know that a car is the best place to make love?	Girls, can you hear how hard my heart is beating? This is his overdose of female beauty. But I'm ready to die admiring you.
Why are you sad, beauties, don't worry. I have a spacious bed at my dacha. We'll fit everything in, so you can relax. If, of course, you can.	There seems to be something wrong with my car. He goes crazy from the company of such beautiful girls. At least the engine didn't stall from overexcitation.
Girls, how do you feel about experiments? For example, on the road.	This wind goes well with the smell of your perfume and hair.
Your beauty makes my weak points even weaker.	There are no stars visible in the sky today. But I know who can replace them. Girls, maybe you will smile and illuminate our cheerful company with your light?
It's a sin not to do mischief with such girls.	My cat is thinking about me now and is jealous. He's not as lucky as me.
Have you ever thought about doing this in a group?	How nice it is to know that the king of the roads has so many charming favorites.

Road flirting, like any other, does not tolerate vulgarity and cheekiness. This is a surefire way to ruin your holiday with girls and push them away. But, on the other hand, flirting on a trip or on the road does not require maximum concentration from a guy and following any strict rules. Light, relaxed communication with playful notes, communication that does not necessarily have to be continued, is quite appropriate in this case.

How to flirt with a girl for a guy

Turn up the music. She's kind of like you. As cool and airy as you.
Girls, maybe you're hungry? Who wants to try what? Our menu is varied. For an appetizer, I suggest choosing a languid, masculine look, and for dessert, 50 fresh kisses of my own preparation, enough for everyone.
Baby, it looks like you're blushing. How about we stop and you can get some fresh air? Not otherwise, I have this effect on you.
Oh, you liar. She didn’t tell me that you know how to light a fire in nature. Personally, you have already lit a fire in my heart.
Madam, you are shooting so hard with your eyes that now I will bleed from these wounds, die, and you will have an accident.
Your most beautiful place is dirty.
Are you feeling cold? Do you want me to hug you and warm you?
It's starting to rain. How do you feel about kissing in the rain? Personally, I’m all for it with both hands.
Could you blink your fluffy eyelashes, it's stuffy here in the car?
You are all so bright and graceful, like little sea fish. And I am kind and good, like a dolphin. Who wants to swim with a dolphin?

A cheerful youth company can consist not only of a guy and a girl, but also of several guys and representatives of the fair sex. Therefore, you should flirt with this fact in mind. After all, young people often want to make a lasting impression on the entire female half. The examples given above will help you do this.

Pickup phrases from films and TV series6

(When she's late) “It's okay, you were worth waiting for. And I don’t just mean today,” – TV series “Friends.”
“You need to be kissed. Often. And it has to be someone who knows how to do it." - Gone with the Wind.
“You know I don’t bite. If this is not required,” “Charade.”
“On the one hand, it’s very difficult for a man to talk to someone who looks like you. But on the other hand, is this your problem? – “Removal Rules: Hitch Method.”
“You make me want to be better,” “It doesn’t get any better.”
“You know they say we only use 10% of our brains? I think we use 10% of our hearts." - "Wedding Crashers."
“I hear voices too. Voices tell me: “If you don’t kiss her now, you’re just a fool,” “You won’t take her with you.”
“I may be an outlaw, but you are the one who steals my heart,” Thelma and Louise.
"I want you. Entirely. Forever. You and me. Every day,” – “Memory Diary.”

“Why don’t you come see me sometime?” - “She treated him dishonestly.”
“I want to buy you food, I want to buy you a corn dog, I want to buy you anything,” “Kids.”
“Oh, do you like my name? You should have heard my phone number!” - series "Friends".
“I am hopeless, clumsy, and desperate for love,” Friends.
“We need to get you out of those wet clothes and straight to a dry martini,” Beer Boom.
“What is such a nice girl doing in a place like this?” - “You only live twice.”
“I crossed the oceans of time to find you,” Dracula.
“You are everything I wanted without even knowing it,” “If you hurry, you’ll make people laugh.”
“You know, it's dangerous for you to be here in the frozen food section. You can melt everything here,” “My Blue Paradise.”
"I love you. You complete me." - Jerry Maguire.
“I would like you to come home with me. You're very sweet, and I'm very good in bed, believe me." - "Leaving Las Vegas."
“Now it seems to me that all I have ever done in my life is the road to here, to you,” - “Bridges of Madison County.”
“Let's go to a place where we will be alone. Oh, it seems there’s no one on that sofa over there,” “To the West.”

“Is it a cannon shot or is my heart pounding?” - “Casablanca”.
“What I'm trying to say in such a clumsy way is that I like you. Just the way it is” - “Bridget Jones's Diary”.
“I know what I want because it’s in my hands right now. You,” “PS I love you.”
“Are you following me? That would be great,” “Party King.”
“I can’t help the fact that you look like my future girlfriend,” - “Rules of Picking: The Hitch Method.”
“Your eyes are beautiful. You know it? You should never close them. Even at night,” “Infidel.”
“Can I use your phone? I need to call God and tell him that one of his angels is missing." - "Formula of Love for Married Persons."
“So... Do you like cheese?” - “She is a man.”
“Do you mind if I get drunk with you?” - “Red Dust.”
“You are more beautiful than me,” “A little pregnant.”

What attracts girls in communication?

How to learn to flirt with a girl by correspondence? What to talk to her about? When to write messages? Should I use emoticons? What topics to choose to start a dialogue? These and many other questions concern almost all young men who spend most of their time at the computer. In fact, the ability to flirt with a girl by correspondence is not much different from that which allows you to build live communication with the fair sex.

The conversation should not be stressful, cause discomfort or psychological inconvenience. Therefore, serious or specific topics should be avoided. Of course, communication should bring positive emotions.

Girls like guys who sensitively capture the mood of their interlocutors, who can both make them laugh and show sympathy and tact. Of course, we shouldn’t forget about compliments.

Accordingly, girls are attracted to communication by the presence of understanding on the part of the guy or the illusion of this. That is, in order to make a girl like you, you need to joke, be interested in her mood, tell funny news and, in general, bring positivity and variety into her life. But at the same time, you need to be sensitive to her worries and sorrows, be able to sympathize and console.

Go for bolder messages

Once you feel that an emotional connection has been established between you and you are no longer trembling before pressing the “send” button, you can move on to more daring flirting. “I hope your day is as wonderful as you are” is a funny message that will not only restart the conversation, but will also give you a compliment, and a compliment is always a good idea. Don’t be afraid to be funny: “It’s a very hot day today. As hot as you."

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How to write to a girl to make her fall in love with you?

There is no need to reinvent the wheel here. Place your bet on original and someone-invented first phrases. here is to make an impression. Try to hook women's instincts and evoke positive emotions. You must stand out from the entire number of applicants who sit on the Internet for days, dreaming of finding at least a temporary partner.

Intrigue

A game of intrigue will help solve the problem of what to Take advantage of women's natural curiosity. Arouse unprecedented interest literally from the first phrase. For example: “Hello! I learned something interesting about you...” Rest assured, the answer will not take long to arrive. There is also a whole series of attractive phrases: “Do you know what exactly attracted me to you?” or “Your face is very familiar to me. Where could we have seen each other before?

Provocation

Provocation is something that will help you get the desired answer, but the main thing here is not to cross the line of rudeness or indecency. After all, it’s a rare person who can refrain from responding when a question with a provocative note is thrown at him. If you are thinking about what to write to a girl, then you can use ready-made options: “I would like to ask you a question of an intimate nature?” Rest assured that the young lady is already interested and is waiting for the next message. Continue: “Are you by any chance working as a photographer? We need specialist advice." The question will follow: “What is intimate here?” Without hesitation, we answer: “After all, the field of activity is a personal matter.”

Congratulations! You were able to get her attention from the very beginning of communication!

Directive style

When puzzling over what to write to a girl, remember the favorite trick of pick-up artists. Quite often they use a dominant communication style. This method almost always works with those who are in search of a real man. Superiority helps to hide the lack of communication with the weaker sex and even some complexes. The directive style involves demonstrating confidence and strong character. As a rule, such suitors do not ask permission for any action, but simply warn the chosen one about their intentions:

"Hello Beautiful! We're going on a date tomorrow. I will inform you about the meeting place and time a little later. Don't forget to leave your phone number."
"You are a very beautiful girl! Don't plan anything for tomorrow. Let’s meet in a more convenient place for communication.”

Once you've chosen a directive communication style, don't forget to check your profile for photos of yourself as a "dominant male."

What to write to a girl in the area of compliments?

Do you have any doubts about what to write to a girl? Write compliments! As they say, anyone appreciates praise. Just try to avoid platitudes. Flattering words are jewelry work. It requires taste and sophistication.

Replace the phrase “You look good” with “Your wonderful style.”
“I drowned in your eyes” can be rephrased to “Your gaze must have driven so many men crazy.”
“I’m ready to become one of the annoying fans who thinks you’re a very beautiful girl.”

You can come up with compliments by studying the lady’s profile and photograph: “You have such an elegant neck” or “Dresses fit so well on your slender figure.”

Learn to give personalized compliments rather than using templates. This will help win the heart of even the most unapproachable beauty.

Advice from psychologists

Some tips from psychologists to help you avoid making mistakes in communication:

Dominate. It’s nice for a woman to feel a man’s strength, to sometimes be led. Develop your inner leader.
First you need to make friends with a girl, become close to her mentally, and identify common interests.
Don't delay correspondence. Ask for a phone number quickly. You can flirt via SMS for 1-2 weeks, then try to transform the relationship into a closer one. Make a call. Immediately invite the lady on a date, for a walk.
Organize the first walk on the street, do not invite the lady home or to the country, to the countryside with friends, even as a joke.
When meeting in person, entertain the girl, try to please her, make a good impression.
Happy holidays. Give a small gift with a postcard via delivery if you know the girl's address. Such a tackle will be appreciated with the highest score, although a woman may flirt and allegedly refuse gifts and congratulations.
SMS texts should be casual and unusual. Attract attention with correctly formulated compliments and your erudition.

According to young people, hitting on a girl online is much easier than on the street, in real life. Think in advance what to write to the girl you really like, how and what you will talk about. React to refusal calmly. Perhaps your true love is not online yet, but is just about to register an account.

What can ruin a successful flirtation?

It often happens that the correspondence that follows a successful acquaintance gradually fades away. People start leaving messages less often, and then stop communicating altogether. Why is this happening?

Flirting is easy and fun communication that implies mutual interest of the parties. His “worst enemies” are boredom, lack of sincerity, and artificial phrases. This should not be forgotten when considering options for what to talk to a girl about and how to do it.

What should we not forget?

Flirting in correspondence with a girl saves a young man from many of the hassles that courtship requires in everyday life. For example, he does not have to spend money on bouquets of flowers, cinema tickets, or visits to cafes.

However, the lack of real communication does not mean that you should forget about gallantry. You need to start your daily correspondence with a girl you already know in absentia not with the banal expression “Hello, how are you?”, but with a wish for good morning, a bouquet of flowers and a cup of coffee. Of course, the bouquet and coffee are emoticons or pictures found on the Internet. After this message, there is no need to immerse yourself in correspondence; you should mind your own business. A girl whose morning begins with flowers and a cup of coffee “in bed,” even if it’s fake, will look forward to the evening and will happily begin to communicate with a young man on any topic.

Exercise

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Flirting is a skill like giving a presentation or cooking paella, and it's a skill that can be honed if you're not afraid to practice. Dating apps are an ideal starting point in this regard, so don’t be afraid to make mistakes and write stupid things - over time you will feel more confident and free and understand that flirting is just about cute nonsense that you say to each other from the bottom of your heart .