Neurolinguistic programming (or NLP for short) is one of the branches of psychology. This discipline is considered very young, because the first works on it began to be published in the seventies of the last century. NLP methods help many men and women deal with their psychological problems.
In addition, various aspects of neuro-linguistic programming are used in marketing, sales and advertising. Proven communication techniques teach you to influence your interlocutors and even change their attitude towards a certain phenomenon. I have collected for you the best books on NLP that will help everyone understand this issue.
"The Complete NLP Course" by Michael Hall
The book systematically, consistently and comprehensively explains what NLP is and how to competently use the techniques of this famous trend in practical psychology and psychotherapy. Well-structured and professionally organized, featuring a wide range of exercises and methods that promote reliable assimilation of the material, the publication provides the reader with an excellent opportunity to get the best of NLP both to satisfy the first curiosity and to improve their professional qualifications to the level of “NLP Practitioner”. Buy a book!
Steve Andreas "Six Blind Elephants" Understanding yourself and each other"
Steve Andreas "remembers everything", maintains a "common NLP framework" and strives to unify the many applications of NLP with common models. The theme of the book is interconnections, but the areas covered are so vast that it is not always easy to follow the author's progress. Steve Anders collected everything in his work: Self-concept, logical levels, reality strategy, schizophrenia, hypnosis, time frames, reframing, double-binds, meta-programs, submodalities, criteria, perceptual positions, “Pure Language”, congruence and nuances of the therapy process . If you are not afraid of difficulties, check out the methodological breakthrough in NLP.
6. “Tricks of the tongue. Changing Beliefs Using NLP, Robert Dilts
The author of the book argues that certain speech patterns (patterns) are capable of transforming beliefs and perceptions of any situation, radically changing our reactions to it. Over the three decades since their discovery, “language tricks” have earned the right to be called the most effective method of influence and the best means of changing beliefs in the process of communication. Discover new possibilities. With the help of “language tricks” you will learn the main thing - to say the right words at the right time. Buy a book!
NLP. A practical guide to achieving the results you want. D. O'Connor
This book is an extremely informative and useful reference book on neurolinguistic programming. The book contains a large amount of theoretical knowledge, as well as many effective practical techniques for mastering the skills of self-improvement, suggestion, better and deeper understanding of people and communication in general. The information in this book will be very useful for people working in completely different fields: education, law, management, business, sports and others.
“How to manage yourself and others using NLP. A book for beginners”, Anvar Bakirov
From the book you will learn how to inspire trust at first sight, manage your own and other people’s emotions, benefit even from defeats, easily unravel the most advanced conflict situations and lay all these daily victories into the foundation of one big building called LIFE SUCCESS. The publication is distinguished by the effective structure of the material and the ease of its perception, which together shortens the path to the desired result as much as possible. Detailed instructions are ideally complemented by practical examples, and appropriate anecdotes are successfully used as a catalyst. Buy a book!
From frogs to princes. R. Bandler, D. Grinder
This remarkable work is an edited and updated transcript of the introductory lecture of the NLP training that Richard Bandler and John Grinder gave in 1978 over three days. To make it easier and more convenient for the reader to perceive the material presented in the book, most of what the authors said is presented here in the form of simple text. A certain part of the material was also borrowed from tape recordings. This book is recommended for study by psychologists, sociologists, psychotherapists and all those interested in psychology and communication between people.
11. “NLP. Games in which women win”, Anvar Bakirov
The book is a practical guide to making wishes come true. Mostly female. It will certainly be interesting to men, but it was written specifically for women - for those of them who want to feel free and independent, strong and powerful, spectacular and purposeful, sexy and incredibly attractive. For those who want to enjoy life and get pleasure from it. Easily, naturally and with humor, the author of the book will introduce you to the most effective techniques of the modern trend in psychology - neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). Buy a book!
"State of Solved Problems" by Sid Jacobson
Another important book, the contents of which reveal that sometimes attempts to use standard approaches in NLP can fail.
Shows with examples that science is a fairly free and unrestricted field of knowledge, so the application of only established principles may not always be so successful. It allows you to bring closer methods that may seem distant and not entirely clear from specific situations and then use them in practice, guiding you in the right direction. It is convenient because it describes techniques for all areas of life, and not just a narrow area.
15. “NLP technologies. Conversational hypnosis", Anvar Bakirov
An arsenal book: it describes quite serious and powerful techniques that can change both your life and the lives of those with whom fate brings you together. Among other things, I wrote it with a degree of sincerity that shocked me, describing the mechanisms of influence as they are. Remember: these are not toys. You will actually be able to get things out of people that you couldn’t before. You will actually be able to influence them even on the level of their well-being. You will understand how easy it is to induce a trance and how easy it is to instill the ideas and impulses you need. Buy a book!
It's time for a change - Richard Bandler
Have you noticed that when communicating with different people, we adopt their traits and become a little different? Would you like to know why it is very quick and easy to find a common language with one person, but with others it seems almost impossible? And there are also situations when you find yourself in an unfamiliar society, do some things, agree with others, but you don’t know why. So why is this happening?
After this book, you will begin to perceive familiar things in a new way, having grasped for yourself an important meaning, it would seem, in such details that you can not pay attention to. In the book Time for a Change , Richard Bandler talks about the things that we constantly encounter but are not aware of.
NLP for Dummies, Romilla Redi, Kate Burton
The book is focused on the practical application of neuro-linguistic programming in everyday life: it will teach you to better see, hear and feel the world around you, constantly improve yourself, and improve your communication skills with others. With the help of NLP for dummies, you will become the master of your thinking and emotions, you will be able to apply your newly discovered abilities in your professional career and business, in relationships with loved ones, friends, colleagues, to improve your health and physical fitness. The book is addressed to a wide range of readers interested in problems of psychology and who want to improve their lives with the help of NLP.
Gregory Bateson "Angels Are Afraid"
The world takes centuries to solve some problems - remember the problems of Aristotle and Descartes. But new problems turn out to be no simpler than old ones. "Angels Are Afraid" by Gregory Bason is an attempt to identify and characterize some newly emerging issues. The author analyzes the history of human development using his own concept. The originality of the doctrine lies in the description of reference points, passing through which the consciousness of all humanity and each individual changes. People reconsider their attitude towards the world, new knowledge is revealed to them, forcing them to see events in a new way.
The book will be of interest to anyone interested in psychology, philosophy and self-development.
How to learn it
NLP techniques are available to anyone. It won't be difficult to master them. This is evidenced by the main provisions of the doctrine.
There are three main stages of training:
- The standard NLP Practitioner course is preferable if you are interested solely in communication skills and consulting. “NLP Practitioner” is also recommended for beginners. The duration of this course is 21 days. Graduates receive the qualification of NLP practitioner, which indicates mastery of the technique and the ability to apply it when conducting practices for beginners. “NLP Practitioner” is a basic educational course, the training in which is structured according to the principle from simple to complex.
- If you want to deepen your knowledge, work with persuasion and modeling, the NLP Master course will help.
- “NLP Trainer” will teach you how to work with an audience and introduce you to the features of teaching neurolinguistic programming.
Trainings and face-to-face courses last for months, and you have to pay a tidy sum for training. But not everything is so sad. Most techniques can be learned on your own.
To do this, you need to read special books dedicated to NLP and diligently apply the learned techniques in practical activities. The continuous use of acquired knowledge and skills in life will allow you to improve your skills in neurolinguistic programming.
The developers of NLP, while modeling the techniques of famous psychotherapists, applied several laws that these professionals used. All laws are connected into a system of presuppositions - axioms-tools that make the techniques used effective.
Types of modalities of world perception
As mentioned above, a person perceives the environment thanks to three representative systems - hearing, vision or senses (touch, smell and internal sensations). Although the subject simultaneously owns all three types of modality, one of them is leading (representative).
In accordance with the above, there are three types of people:
- An auditory person is a person who focuses most on audio information (sounds, voice intonations, timbre of speech, etc.). In his stories, he more often uses words denoting auditory information: noise, scream, chirp, voice, sounds, quietly, loudly, etc.
- A visual person is a person who primarily perceives everything with their eyes. Analyzing the speech of a visual person, you can notice the frequent repetition of words with a “visual” meaning: bright, clear, colorful, colorful, light, dark, etc.
- Kinesthetic includes all other senses - smell, taste, tactility, internal sensations. Predicate words for such people can be the following: warm, cold, salty, painful, prick, stench, sweet, etc.
Simple Neuro-Linguistic Programming Techniques
The best books on NLP present the simplest methods of guidance to beginners. Common exercises include the following:
- the “Little things in life” technique (presenting a major trouble as small and not worth attention);
- exercise “In 50 years” (imagining in detail an unpleasant situation or personality in 50 years);
- the “Exposed Film” method (presenting unpleasant memories in a lighter image, until over time the picture fades completely).
Lane, Hapke, Howard. Natural Language Processing in Action (2020)
