Why does a man want a specific woman?

Women and men are different: by their nature, by their perception of the world, by their life goals and priorities. And although at first glance the needs of a man and a woman in relationships and love are very similar, you probably guess that here too there are fundamental differences between us. Do you want to know which ones? Today I will help you get answers to questions that have probably repeatedly arisen in your head: “How to understand a man?”, “How to recognize a man’s attitude towards himself?”, “How to understand a man’s behavior?”

The psychology of male behavior does not depend on nationality, zodiac sign or place of residence. The way of thinking may be influenced by upbringing or the mentality of the country, but the natural needs of men are the same. Just like with women: she can be a businesswoman, hold a leadership position, but at the same time she wants to be loved. She has a natural need to be protected, to feel safe next to a man, to be surrounded by male care.

In this article I will tell you 5 golden truths that will help you understand a man. Having figured out how the male “mechanism” works, the psychology of relationships with a man will become a little easier for you.

Read to the end and you will find out:

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I have prepared a detailed and thorough video for you, from which you will learn the whole truth about men. And you will begin to understand them a little better.

It sounds paradoxical, but men also want relationships, they want a family. I understand that some will now say: “What kind of nonsense are you talking about, Yaroslav? I dated a man and he bluntly said that he did not want a serious relationship.” In fact, for some reason he simply does not want a relationship with a specific woman, but he cannot voice this reason out loud. This does not mean that all men avoid relationships.

They want a relationship, they need it, they don’t feel complete without a relationship. Yes, a man experiences this not so anxiously. For example, there is a huge difference between the behavior and feelings of a 35-year-old woman and a 35-year-old man who is not in a relationship! This is easy to explain from the point of view of natural functions: a woman gives birth to children, she has this subconscious need. And the older she gets, the more difficult it is to achieve this. There are medical contraindications that can complicate the process.

You may think: “Here is a man, he is 40 years old, successful, rich, he has many fans. If he wanted a relationship, he would have gotten married a long time ago!” It’s not a fact that if he’s not in a relationship, he doesn’t want it.

Believe me, I communicate with many men, successful and unsuccessful. And if you think that such men go, “I’m handsome, I’m cool, why do I need a relationship at all?”, you’re wrong. They also cry and worry, they just don’t show it as clearly as women.

Let me give you one more argument: every day in your city, country, world, so many weddings take place! What, women marry each other? If men didn't have relationship needs, they wouldn't waste time, wouldn't go on dates, wouldn't get married, wouldn't raise children. They would simply satisfy their need for sex, use the services of women of the appropriate profession, and would not waste their time and energy on dating.

Inaccessibility

Often guys are attracted to proud, unapproachable girls. Usually such young ladies have a beautiful appearance, take care of themselves, and wear expensive perfumes. They proudly walk past the man, demonstrating with all their appearance their own superiority and mystery, which attracts like a magnet.

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The desire to conquer an unapproachable woman is caused by the hunter's instinct. The more difficult it is to achieve the goal, the stronger the passion flares up. But if a lady decides to let the conqueror into her personal space, his ardor most likely fades away. After all, the main goal was to attract attention and achieve it, so there is no point in continuing.

Gestures of a man in love

Few men can express their feelings in words. It is much easier for them to express their feelings and emotions with the help of gestures and actions.

How to understand that a man loves you? Very often, men in love express their love with gestures.

One of the forms of showing love is kissing. Women need kisses more than men. For them, a kiss is a sign of tenderness, sympathy, gratitude and other feelings. If a man kisses you often, it shows that he loves you.

Men get tired of long conversations. He can listen attentively only if the topic is interesting to him and if the dialogue is led by the woman he loves.

Every man in love is so overwhelmed with feelings that he cannot restrain them even among his acquaintances and friends. He tries to unobtrusively touch his beloved, hug her, straighten her curl, take her hand.

He can give gifts and make surprises for no reason. And this speaks of his love and affection, that he thinks about you and wants to please you.

The fact that a man loves you can be understood without words by his attitude towards you, how he surrounds you with care, attention and tenderness.

What are the behavioral characteristics of a man who deserves a woman’s respect: psychology

Features of the behavior of a man who deserves the respect of a woman
But which of this entire set of signs above deserves respect from a woman? What are the behavioral characteristics of a man who deserves a woman’s respect, according to psychology? Several points can be highlighted:

A man strives to develop a relationship himself, and does not expect his chosen one to do it

Of course, it is naive to think that if a woman herself does not show signs of sympathy, then a man will continue to pursue her in every possible way. You cannot enter a closed door with a barn lock on it. But at the same time, it is the man, according to women, who should take the most important and responsible steps in a relationship. It so happened historically that it was he who should propose marriage to his chosen one, and not vice versa.

He must prove his attitude through his actions, not just words.

This second point, one might say, flows smoothly from the first. After all, it is by his actions that one can determine whether a man has the qualities that a woman so wants to see in him. It’s just that words can only create such an illusion for a while, but long-term relationships will be based precisely on actions.

The young guy always thinks about his development

After all, it is ladies who have always been the incentive for the most important achievements in a man’s life. With such a person, life is not only interesting, but also very reliable.

He tries to surround the woman with care

It’s not for nothing that they say that a woman marries, that is, a man. Not in front of him, not somewhere to the side, but behind him. That is, a man is a wall that protects from all adversity. He must be able to make decisions and take responsibility, try to solve problems that arise, and not be petty and greedy. After all, when you love a person, you always try to do something nice for him, and absolutely disinterestedly; money in this case does not matter.

A guy shouldn't be flighty and do everything anyhow

Another very important point is thoroughness. At all times, a woman has valued a thorough man, all of whose actions, be it a small repair or the choice of expensive household appliances, are done well and carefully thought out. This is a very significant indicator for future relationships or family life. Thus, a man’s behavior can tell a lot about the woman he likes. Of course, there is love at first sight, but much more often love grows from a feeling of respect for each other.

Life values

Usually, one is attracted to a woman who has similar character traits and outlook on life. A couple who knows how to trust, sympathize with each other, show openness and support in difficult life situations has a greater chance of building a strong relationship. Falsity, lies, mistrust quickly “kill” any union.

What do men want?

Do you know what men really want in bed? A woman who will enjoy herself with minimal energy consumption. Roughly speaking, he stuck it in once, and she already had an orgasm three times. Few people may admit this, but it is a fact. Regardless of whether it is Pavlik or Alpha, they want the same thing.

Only by seeing your reaction can a man understand that everything is normal. And the phrase “I feel good with you” is simply inaccessible to them. Your attitude towards a man is measured not by words, “I like everything, don’t pay attention,” but by the number of orgasms.

Therefore, always remember - a man calls a woman passionate either if she constantly experiences orgasm during sex with him, or when a man begins to be more important than just a sex partner.

Test of Jealousy

In the modern world, girls often find it difficult to understand their feelings. Therefore, the vast majority of representatives of the fair sex rely on the “Am I in love test”.

Jealousy has always shown the true attitude towards a person. If in the presence of another lady with whom a man is having a casual conversation, you experience the most unpleasant feelings, then the test has been passed successfully.

A girl in love strives to intercept a man's attention in any way. Even stupid questions and funny behavior are used

If you experience burning jealousy, then with almost 100% probability we can say that you are in love.

Key signs that this is true

If a man says that he has wanted you for a long time, this does not confirm that he has deep feelings. Sometimes guys can deceive girls with their behavior in order to take possession of them for the next night.

In order not to encounter an unpleasant situation and not hurt yourself, it is important to learn to understand the main signs that indicate feelings.

Body language: signaling poses

Men rarely say: “I want you,” most often they show it through their behavior. Body language never lies, which is why you should focus on signs of excitement.

In psychology, there are several signs that confirm that a boyfriend is sexually attracted to a lady:

thumb behind the belt;
hands in pockets and thumbs out;
positions his hands so that his thumbs point toward his thighs, as if hinting at his hidden desires;
touches his tie or hair to try to look better;
draws her friend's attention to expensive things - watches, glasses, cufflinks.

Pay attention to your boyfriend's behavior. If you consider such actions in him, then you can be sure that he has sexual desire.

Reading lips

Lips are a sensitive area that can seduce, attract attention, and make you fall in love with yourself. From them you can understand that the man is excited. When a guy constantly touches his lips, it means he wants you. Also, during a conversation, he can peer into your lips, mentally merging with you in a kiss.

Brave guys deliberately create situations to touch a girl’s lips. For example, they accidentally shift the kiss to the cheek, trying to get closer to the lips. An increased interest in a girl is indicated by the gesture with which a young man removes a crumb from her mouth or wipes away a drop of juice.

Hypersexual behavior

If a man is unable to hide his sexual attraction to his partner, she will definitely find out about it from his behavior. Guys are ruled by libido, so animal desires and dreams of passionate sex with a beautiful girl will always be present in them.

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Young people do not hide their desire to take possession of their beloved, they show it even in front of strangers. They try to touch the girl’s body whenever possible and invite her to their home. Any hints will be conscious and, without further ado, will show the woman that her partner wants sex with her.

Eyes never lie

A man's eyes reveal his increased interest in sexual games. If a guy likes you, he will constantly stop his gaze on your chest, hips, and examine other advantages of your figure. This happens unconsciously, so hiding such behavior can sometimes be extremely difficult.

An intimate date is a direct hint

If a boyfriend makes an intimate date, then this is a hint of rapprochement. Don't believe that he is just a romantic and wants to please you.

Guys always try just for something. If they do not immediately receive the necessary attention and mutual feedback, it is foolish to count on it a second time. Such signs show attraction to a woman. If you see in a man only the need to master you, you don’t even have to ask him about his feelings. Guys who really want to continue communicating with girls after getting closer behave more secretly, cautiously, and romantically. By succumbing to such love spells, you always give reason to think that you, too, are only interested in sexual intimacy.

Evolutionary differences between the sexes

Initially, nature laid down, over millions of years, different purposes for women and men, and it is pointless to fight what evolution has given us. It is necessary to understand and accept the differences between men and women. Here are a few sharp corners, knowing which a woman can understand a man’s psychology and competently and painlessly solve any problem in a relationship:

1. Reaction to stress. When faced with a problem, a man thinks about it, becomes silent, focused, and inattentive to others. A woman, having found herself in trouble, will certainly rush to talk about it, to talk, as she is overwhelmed with emotions.

2. Motivation. A man must be sure that he is the best earner and the well-being of the family depends on his success; the main driving force is “I am first.” A woman is devoid of such strong ambitions; the approval of a friend or partner is enough for her to move on.

3. The word is one, but the meaning is different. We do not have telepathic abilities, so the true meaning of spoken words is often perceived completely incorrectly by us.

4. Family expectations. It is important for a man to maintain the status of a successful person by satisfying his sexual desire. For a woman, family is a guarantee that children will grow up and pass on the genome to future generations.

5. Love. If you conduct a simple experiment between spouses and ask them the question: “How do you understand that your husband/wife loves you,” you will get different answers (if people are honest). A man will focus on sex, a woman will focus on caring for the family. There is no injustice or contradiction here. We have evolved this way and social laws affect us only indirectly.

6. Expression of feelings. A man is concrete by nature. If he chooses a gift, he focuses on the price, then, in proud silence, he hands over the diamond and is surprised if he could not impress with its size. A woman can be touched by a teddy bear if the gift is associated with kisses, gentle words and caresses.

Signs he wants you

There is one clear “indicator” in men who never lies about their master’s desires.

It is located below the waist...

The state of the “indicator” can be judged by its characteristic increase in content in the fly area.

But if there is no visual or tactile access to this indicator, you should pay attention to other signals. Let's look at other signs of a man's attraction to a woman.

Special treatment

He is constantly nearby, listens attentively and strives with all his appearance to show that he is not indifferent to what you are talking about.

Even if he doesn't care that your Yorkie is depressed because of a bad haircut, he will still empathize with the problem.

Because he wants you and hopes that he will soon experience an orgasm as a reward for his suffering. Or maybe not even one.

Gestures

Pay attention to his gestures. If a man wants a woman, when communicating with her his hands will always be in the pelvic area.

Thus, the man seems to be trying to keep his penis in check, which stubbornly strives to seize the initiative into its own...let there be hands.

Voice

A minute ago he almost switched to ultrasound when he was proving to Mishka that Shakhtar was better than Dynamo, and as soon as he turned to you, his voice became gentle and slightly hoarse.

A man's voice contains his strength.

Sight

During the conversation, he looks at your lips, neck, legs. This is not at all because he is interested in the color of lipstick or the fabric from which the skirt is made.

He already imagines how he will shower this body with kisses and penetrate into the most intimate places.

And if his gaze is “registered” in the area of your neckline, there is nothing to guess - he clearly wants sex. The push-up did its job!

Hands

He constantly finds reasons to touch the girl. His hands are drawn to her waist, wrist or knees.

A more obvious sign is a playful slap on the butt.

But decent men rarely resort to this method. Especially if they are hoping for something more than just sex.

Thirst for achievements and atypical behavior

Since ancient times, men have been trying to attract the woman they like with some kind of feat. Take down the mammoth, win the tournament, score maximum points in “Tanks”.

If a man really wants a woman, he will try to make her notice his achievements.

Wanting to attract attention, he may look inadequate.

Therefore, know that stupid jokes and a strange initiative from a man who has never been the life of the party is not a temporary insanity.

This is a natural desire to accomplish a feat and win the heart (and not only) of the woman you like.

Young guy's behavior

Young age is the main obstacle for those who want to hide their emotions. All of them are visible to the naked eye. And the most striking symptom is a change in behavioral reactions.

The young man feels embarrassed in the presence of a girl, his face turns red, he looks down. The awkwardness grows as their gazes intersect. It gives away the play of hormones and the timbre of the voice, which can sometimes break. Another signal of sympathy is confused and nervous speech, long pauses, and the inability to choose the right words and topics for conversation. The guy doesn't want to seem stupid and tries to think through every word before he says it.

Physiologists say that a rapid pulse, dilated pupils, profuse sweat, and trembling of excitement when touching a passion indicate an increase in the level of hormones, which is typical for many young men at the time of communication with their lovers.

Impulsive attacks towards interlocutors are not uncommon. This is how the younger generation attracts the attention of the fair sex, declaring their masculinity, courage, and determination. Youthful maximalism is also expressed in categoricalness, inability to adequately perceive criticism, and attempts to test the strength of others. Often, aggression and increased conflict during this period are due to the characteristics of demonstrative behavior and the desire to “work for the public.”

The actions of a young man in love are controlled by fears and instincts. For example, due to the fear of being rejected, it is very difficult for him to take the initiative at the time of acquaintance: worrying about rejection will negatively affect his self-esteem. And the instinct of competition explains the “strange” behavior of a young man in love where his passion is present: he tries in every possible way to protect her from their attention and prove that he is better than others. A natural feeling of jealousy makes him see each of them as his rival.

On a subconscious level, one of the main tasks of a young man in love is the spread of genetic material. This is how psychologists explain the polygamy of the stronger sex. To transfer as much seed material as possible, a man sends signals to several potential partners at once. The development of relationships usually occurs with the girl who gave the greatest number of reciprocal impulses.

An immature youth, due to his inexperience, often mistakes sympathy and sexual desire for a real feeling. Even if love comes, he does not know how to behave correctly: he is jealous, does not take into account the girl’s opinion, tries to control everything, manipulates her. If a young man in love behaves too intrusively and acts like a not entirely adequate person, psychologists advise explaining to him that this interferes with the development of the relationship. If there is no behavior correction on his part, the girl should stop meeting with him.

Changes in appearance

If a man wants a woman, then he is well aware that appearance plays a very big role in this. He simply must be attractive so that his companion will be fascinated by him and rush into his arms. Therefore, guys begin to actively adjust their image.

As a rule, the partner’s task is to bring his appearance in accordance with the girl’s ideal. His shoulders are straightened, his stomach is pulled in, his posture is straight. With these signs he is trying to show his importance. This behavior is inherent in the nature of men.

They always come to dates in fresh and ironed shirts, from which there is a pleasant aroma of cologne. The skin is always clean shaven and soft. Changes in appearance should be a signal to a girl that a man is not breathing smoothly towards her.

We must remember one thing - we are different

The world of women is a world of words, emotions, relationships. A man’s possessions are actions, difficult decisions, analysis of the situation. Ideally, the stronger sex has:

high self-esteem and dominance;
less sensitivity and anxiety;
self-control;
strong will;
craving for change and experimentation.

However, men also have weaknesses, they are less stress-resistant, which is why they need intimacy with an intelligent and understanding girlfriend.

A man is an experimenter, which is why everything that women use is owed to men. They invent and design something that did not exist before, while a woman likes to use a ready-made thing.

Therefore, when your husband is interested in technical models, repairs a car, assembles a motorcycle, or invents an engine for a boat, you should not “cut” him. This is his essence, is it really so difficult to understand and accept? Dear ladies, hobbies bring families together. It is clear that you will not help in creating a new car, but you will be able to ride it!