- Attention-hungry women
- What does it mean to “pay attention”?
- How often does a woman need attention?
- Let's talk a little about quarrels
- Why do women need a lot of attention?
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Almost every man faces such a problem as a woman’s reproach that he pays little attention to her. In fact, if the reader of the men's magazine masculino.ru does not close his eyes and deny the obvious, then over time he actually begins to pay less attention to the woman. Undoubtedly, there are many excuses here, and quite compelling ones, which should help a man rehabilitate his behavior. But the fact remains: the woman is unhappy, which creates another problem in the relationship.
Many men don’t understand why women make a problem and a tragedy out of such a small thing. In fact, we are talking about a rather important aspect of the relationship, as if a woman stopped sleeping with a man. The problem of lack of sex in relationships is of great concern to men; for women, the problem is just as worrying when men do not pay attention to them. And while each side considers the discontent and indignation of its other half to be petty, the problems only get worse.
So, a woman reproaches a man for paying little attention to her. In fact, this is a problem that needs to be solved, because otherwise there may be not very pleasant consequences, which may include:
- Treason. A woman will simply start dating a man who pays attention to her.
- Parting. Women are ready to break up with men only because they do not pay attention to them.
- Sawing. Many people are familiar with this phenomenon. If you don’t want a woman to nag you, start paying more attention to her.
- Ignoring. Believe me, a woman can also begin to treat you like empty space. If you don’t want a woman to not notice you at all, then listen to her requests.
Attention-hungry women
Someone else's attention to one's person is the desire of every woman. On the one hand, this is quite natural, since every person wants to be in demand, his life is empty and meaningless until he feels that someone needs him. On the other hand, a person who craves attention is highly dependent on the opinions of others about himself. If no one pays attention to him, he gets lost and looks for ways to renew what he has lost in any way. This includes crimes and an extravagant appearance, because this is another opportunity to become the center of attention of people around you.
Why is a woman included in the “attention-hungry” category? The reason is that she is not herself. Please note that not a single star, actress, or even a beautiful girl in your area is what they are, in the pose of photo and video cameras, or in the eyes of other people and fans. If you go to their house unexpectedly, they will appear before you in a completely different form: exhausted, wearing only shorts or with bruises under their eyes. These people live for the sake of others, but at the same time they do not know themselves. They know what other people expect from them, what they say and write about them, but they never express their own opinions about themselves. We can say that these are not individuals, but simply humanoid creatures who only fulfill the wishes of strangers.
Attention is the energy supply for the ego. Dependence on a false personality pushes people to be the center of everyone's attention. His ego is stroked and satisfied when people around him start talking about him, even if these are not entirely good and pleasant things. For many “stars” of cities and countries, it is not the importance of the attention that is paid to them, but simply its very presence, because this tells them that they attract eyes and thoughts. What else could be more beautiful for the human ego?
What does it mean to “pay attention”?
In love relationships, one of the main complaints of partners towards each other is lack of attention. Some of the parties are so busy with themselves and their own affairs that they are not able to devote much time and attention to their other half. However, if you trace the stories of many couples, you will notice that there are people who also receive little attention from their partners, but they are satisfied with it. They do not have the feeling that their partners have forgotten about them. It turns out that in fact the same amount of attention is given, but some feel unwanted, while others feel loved.
In what case is a person satisfied with the attention of his significant other? By “paying attention” it is most often understood that the partners are together in one place, doing something, relaxing, etc. But even here you may not be satisfied, since you can watch TV together and prepare a meal, and then go to bed . That is, the partners were together in the same place and at the same time, but they do not feel that they were given attention. In fact, the partners just sat next to each other while watching TV and spent time together in the kitchen while they prepared food.
People are often dissatisfied with the attention of their loved ones because they don't necessarily need to be close to each other. There is something else hidden underneath the feeling of neediness. In addition to the fact that your partner can be next to you in the same place, there are also such concepts as the direction of energy, turning your attention and openness. It is these three components that can make it so that your partner will not be next to you every day, but you will feel loved and needed by him.
Where does the other person focus their energy? While you sit together and watch TV, your partner's energy is directed towards the TV. You can hug, cuddle with each other. But a person directs all his energy not to hug, kiss and talk to you, but to watch TV. This does not happen when, for example, you are walking together or sitting in a cafe. Your partner talks to you, turns his attention to you, which is why you fill your “need cylinders.” So, while your partner is not directing his energy towards you, he can be with you all the time, but you will still feel like you are missing him.
Paying attention is associated with energy. If your partner is constantly distracted by phone calls, communicating with other people, reading leaflets that are handed out on the street, etc., then you cannot feel that he is with you. Your partner's body is physically next to you, but his thoughts and attention are elsewhere.
It is very important that partners are open to each other. This is not about honesty, although that is also important. The point is that when you communicate, you do not hide anything from each other. Your partner talks about any topic with you, you talk about any topic with your partner. You see that they listen to you, understand you, and communicate with you. Then, when you see that your partner is open to you, he talks about all his affairs for the day, about his feelings and experiences, you feel that he needs you. He wouldn’t open up to other people, but he tells you everything indiscriminately. And for this, your partner does not have to be near you. He can call you or send you a letter, which will be as effective as if he were next to you.
Thus, to be satisfied with a man’s attention means not just to be physically next to him, but also to feel and see that he directs his energy and all his attention to her, and is also so open to her that he does not think about what he wants. tell. This is what allows people to feel needed and not need their beloved partners to be with them around the clock.
Why doesn't a man care?
A woman’s wrong behavior towards her man deprives her of many things, including the man’s care.
Perhaps you don't believe in your man enough. After all, it is the feeling that a woman admires the strength and achievements of a man and believes in him that is the best motivator for the entire male half of humanity.
Be feminine, radiate warmth and sincerely rejoice at the slightest signs of attention from a man.
You can often notice the following mistake in the behavior of women. The girl does not feel enough attention and directly speaks about this to the man. The man, in turn, tries to correct the situation and gives the woman a gift, for example. Instead of gratitude, he hears reproaches from the woman that this is the first gift this year. Finally! or a similar phrase is said by a woman.
As a result, the man realizes that his attempt was unsuccessful, he did not receive gratitude, and the woman continues to suffer.
How often does a woman need attention?
Men resist women's desire to pay them sufficient attention for one reason: it seems to them that they will have to spend a lot of effort and energy on this. In fact, everything can be made simpler. So, your woman wants you to pay more attention to her than usual. What to do?
- When you pay attention to a woman, start seducing her and having sex. This way, you will be interested in spending time with her and having fun. And the woman will feel attention on herself.
- When you pay attention to a woman, discuss with her topics that interest you. There is no need to talk only about what is interesting to your woman. Spend half your time on things that interest you to discuss.
You don't have to spend a lot of time paying attention to a woman. Believe me, an hour a day is enough for a woman to be satisfied with your attention. What should you do for this? Just put aside all your affairs, worries and activities and concentrate only on the woman.
Do you remember how at the beginning of a relationship you and a woman walked, visited different places, just talked, touched, kissed, etc.? Start doing the same now. Just start giving your attention exclusively to the woman. Set aside an hour during which you will not do your own business, but devote it to your woman. You will communicate, walk, do something, etc. Give your woman joy, fun, pleasant emotions and impressions during this time together.
If you do this to a woman every day, then her resentment will go away. Of course, she may not get enough of that amount of attention. However, the fact that you do spend time with her will be enough not to make you a complete scoundrel.
Let her want sex on her own
Men love it when they don’t have to persuade their wives to have sex at night when they themselves want it. But for this to happen, make sure that your wife goes to bed with the confidence that all the household chores have been done, and the children are fed and sleep sweetly.
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Then the lady of your heart will be able to relax in bed
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It also doesn’t hurt to diversify your sex life
by satisfying sexual fantasies, learning new sex techniques, and so on.
By listening to the advice described above and taking them into account, you will know for sure that your family relationships will become very strong. And the wife will not complain that she lacks attention.
Let's talk a little about quarrels
Interesting fact: arguing is a way to attract attention. Marvelous? But psychologists have more than once encountered the fact that quarrels between spouses often arise due to a woman’s desire to attract the attention of a man.
How does this happen? First, the woman asks the man for attention, is dissatisfied, and cries. If all her attempts to get a man to finally spend time with her in a good way remain in vain, then she may intuitively start to make trouble with him. As they say, even a bad attitude is already at least some attention. If a woman does not get hers in an amicable way, then she will quarrel with a man over trifles in order to get at least some attention to her person.
Why do women need a lot of attention?
Many men do not understand why women are so pathologically waiting for attention to their person. But here everything is very simple: attention = love! And here's how it can be explained.
If you remember yourself, dear men, at the beginning of a relationship, then you pay a lot of attention to the women you like. We can say that women bask in your desire to be with them when you first met and want to conquer them.
If a man pays a lot of attention to a woman, she thinks that he is interested in her and loves her. And this is true, since a man runs around and cares only for the woman he is in love with. Herein lies the answer to why women cannot receive less attention over time: if men do not spend time with them, they feel that they have stopped loving them.
Attention = love. At the beginning of a relationship, a woman determines a man’s feelings by how much attention he pays to her. If over time the attention becomes less, then the woman begins to understand that the man is no longer interested in her. And, perhaps, this is also true: over time, a man really loses the interest and passion that he had at the beginning, when he was just getting to know and conquering a woman.
The phenomenon of laziness
I will say openly - unloved women greatly spoiled men. I'm not blaming anyone, I'm just explaining.
When a girl is desperately looking for love, she is ready to do everything herself. Nothing is required from a man. He just sits and enjoys while she flutters around him.
You can't do that with men. They become lazy seals. A man must fight like a lion for the possession of a woman. And don’t pretend to be a padishah on the sofa.
A woman who values herself will not allow him to behave like this. He will either move or go through the forest. But if there is dislike in a woman, then it’s a lost cause. The man will relax all parts of his body and will only favorably accept her advances.
You may ask: why now pretend to be a proud Amazon all the time?
There is no need to portray anyone exactly. But you need to value yourself and not allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
Alexander Buinov sang about “...it’s better in no way, instead of somehow.” I recommend making these words your motto.
