How to behave with a young lover: features of the age difference ⇒ Blog of Yaroslav Samoilov

Meetings constantly occur in our lives.
Sometimes they become fateful. Both men and women who are married may develop hobbies on the side. Difficulties often arise with a significant age difference. How to behave with a young lover so that the relationship brings only joy and satisfaction? Let's talk about this in more detail. From this article you will learn:

Why women look for young lovers
Where to find yourself a young lover
How to Deal with a Young Lover
How to behave with a young lover so that he thinks only about you

In what situations are married ladies looking for a young lover?

Why does a married woman need to find a young lover?

The relationship between spouses changes. A woman turns from an object of inspiration and desire into a housewife, taking care of everyday life, kitchen and children.
There is less and less romance in relationships. Walks, kisses, glances with hints, gifts and dinners for two disappear.
A woman subconsciously feels that her husband is cheating on her.
The husband is a tyrant who constantly bullies his wife, humiliates and in every possible way suppresses the personality of his wife. During protests, assault cannot be ruled out. In such a situation, an affair on the side becomes a salvation.
Intimacy is reduced to a minimum or absent altogether.
Sex has become a monotonous routine, and a man negatively perceives any hints of revitalizing the relationship, introducing brightness and novelty into moments of intimacy.
Spouses have fewer and fewer common interests and topics of conversation; they discuss only everyday issues and the events of the day.
Married relationships are also complicated by a large age difference when the husband is much older.
Family and relationships are maintained only for the sake of children and are maintained on ordinary daily activities.

Benefits of being in a relationship with a younger lover

So, why do married ladies want to have a young lover:

Sex. Passionate, bright and unrestrained. Since a woman reaches the peak of puberty at 35 years old, and a man at 20-25 years old, it results in an enchanting combination of experience and discoveries.
Tender romance. A new opportunity to return to a young romantic age and feel light and desired.
External rejuvenation. A relationship with a young admirer makes a lady look younger, fresher, more carefree and happier.
Self-esteem increases. After routine family and everyday problems, she can feel desired, beautiful, needed and irreplaceable, because this handsome man chose her, and not his peers.
Power of influence and power. Be that as it may, any woman is a mother by nature, and subconsciously she wants to see changes in her lover and her positive influence on him.

Where to find a young lover

Nowadays, more and more adult women look fashionable and stylish. And to stand out from the general background, an open, inviting look is important. Precisely disposable, not evaluative and frightening with far-reaching plans. Communication is easy and unobtrusive, various topics for conversation, common interests. After all, finding a young lover is not so difficult, but to compete with young girls, you have to try hard.

Where can you find your chosen one:

You can search on the Internet, but it’s easy to get scammed.
Mass events, concerts, exhibitions, discos, clubs, places where you can easily find a topic to start dating and conversation.
The most ideal option is on vacation. Everything here contributes to a pleasant pastime and relaxation. Moreover, there is an opportunity to leave this little hobby as a memory later with a clear conscience.

How to start?

Let's say a woman is beautiful, she has a wonderful figure, her skin is in excellent condition, she dresses well and is simply amazing in bed. But if you just sit idly by, you won’t be able to find anyone. No lover, young or old, will appear unexpectedly at the door.

Where to find it:

on dating sites or on social networks, but you need to beware of scammers who want to swindle money and property and leave your lady with nothing, empty-handed;
in public places - you can go to the movies, exhibitions, and entertainment venues more often;
at the resort - in such a relaxed and relaxed atmosphere it is easier to communicate, and you can do whatever you want - after all, you are so far from the places where everyone knows you.

How to behave with a young lover so that he thinks only about you

You can even get to know and interest a young man through curiosity and experimentation. But keeping him close to you and making sure he doesn’t look at young girls is a little more difficult. And what is the easiest and best way to do this, if not freedom? A man must think and realize that he himself makes choices and decisions, although this is not entirely true. But he doesn’t need to guess about it.

Do not create constant scenes of jealousy and do not irritate him with empty whims, do not become hysterical and do not make scandals, like his peers. But it won’t hurt to sometimes attract the attention and admiring glances of other men. He must remember what treasure he got.

How to behave during sex with a young lover? There is no need to hide that the main element that holds relationships of different ages together is intimacy. If you don't date very often, then make these dates filled with passion. The main thing is to avoid boredom, regularity and tightness in relationships.

Sex is one of the main reasons that encourage a man to seek the attention of a mature lady.

Firstly, he expects his partner to direct his actions, to be bolder and more confident than he is. She knows what she wants and what she likes.

Secondly, he hopes that she will be less capricious and uptight than young girls, and will give him valuable experience in understanding women and their sensuality, and will reveal his most intimate secrets.

Thirdly, he believes that in the event of a “failure” in bed due to emotional overstrain, excitement or fatigue, an adult partner will be able to make the situation easier and not as humiliating as it would be with a girl of the same age or a younger girl.

If a woman is worried about how to behave with a young lover, and she is worried about how he will react to the “problem” areas of her body, then during the first intimacy you can create an atmosphere of intimacy and romance with candles and low lighting.

If we talk about how to behave with a young lover after his business trip, then a completely different tactic is needed here. Prepare him a romantic dinner, wrap him with a gift, play, show him how bored you are. And if you have the whole night ahead of you, then his young body will thank him more than once for the meeting.

And some more tips from the field of psychology on how to behave with a young lover in order to maintain a bright flame in the relationship:

you can cancel and reschedule appointments from time to time;
remind you that you still have a lot of other things to do and he is not the “navel” of the earth;
but be sure to tell him about his masculinity, importance to you and the value of your relationship.

If your meetings with a man are frivolous

You should not talk about family and relatives.
It is not recommended to fall in love with this man; the relationship should be easy, no matter how it sounds - “consumer”. This attitude will help avoid pain and unnecessary worries in the event of separation.
Do not give your lover power over you; he should not decide any issues regarding a woman’s personal choice (clothing style, hairstyle and other, more important things).
Do not refuse signs of attention (gifts, invitations to a restaurant, etc.). Having refused a couple of times, you may not see such impulses again.

If you have plans for a future together, you need to be careful.

Final recommendations on how to behave with a young lover to prolong the relationship

All people build relationships differently, but there are still common points. If you have no experience and this young lover is your first, and you do not plan to marry him, then build a relationship without obligations in order to make the moment of separation as easy as possible:

Remember that you only need a relationship as much as you are good at it. Otherwise they have no meaning to you;
you should not talk in detail and often about your life outside of your relationship;
your lover may want to pamper you with gifts - and okay, so be it. If he can afford it, and you enjoy it, then why not;
be sure to remember that you are not together forever, and sooner or later you will have to part, so build relationships without strong and deep affection;
your partner should not make important decisions for you - how to dress, with whom to communicate. You decide everything yourself;
remember that each of you has your own parallel life, so do not create scenes of jealousy and scandals;
the main thing why you are together now is pleasure, romance and novelty of sensations. Maintain this state.

This applies to short-term relationships. It's another matter if you want to continue to see him as a husband. In this situation, it is worth building relationships differently.

Unobtrusively focus attention on your similarities: you like the same dishes and movies, common friends and the same interests, hobbies and activities.
When making purchases and taking any actions, pay attention to your companion’s attitude towards them and take into account his opinion.
Your friends and acquaintances should see you as a couple; communicate only with those who will not constantly remind you of the age difference.
Be restrained and patient in your desire to get married, because your lover must make the decision, otherwise the marriage will be doomed.
A man wants to see himself as desirable, and not to be a means for you to arrange your future. There is no need to make constant hints about marriage.
Enjoy each other, every moment spent together.
You should not overplay your hand on jealousy; this will cause a crack in a young man’s pride, a loss of self-confidence and destroy your dream image.
No matter how long you are together, always take care of yourself, take care of your skin, go to the gym, follow fashion trends and be perfect. And your ardent lover will treasure you like a jewel.

Thank you for reading this article to the end.

Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.
More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.
My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!

The “simplest” advice for women

A woman, as they say, is the weaker sex, but everything rests on her shoulders. Remember: if you don’t love yourself, no one will. There are a million different tips: how to please a man, I’ll give you just a few. You can choose something you need for yourself.

Watch your posture: keep your back straight, don’t slouch, keep your chin high (you can practice: put a book on your head and walk straight).
The most important point: skin and hair must be in order.
You need to wash your hair often, using conditioners to keep your hair soft.
Don't button up your blouse.
Use non-greasy lipstick, men don’t like it when marks remain.
Buy yourself some nice underwear - it will give you confidence.
If you have a full figure, clothes should not be tight, avoid fitted ones.
There may not be a lot of clothes, but they will be of high quality.
As for communication: give your man more compliments, praise his masculine qualities.
Try to remember the little things that he likes - this is also important and flatters a man.
Don’t discuss his girlfriend, or especially his wife, this is bad form.
Don't say anything about your ailments, sores, and so on.
Do not impose your opinion, or do it in a gentle manner.
Relationships should be stress-free, free and beautiful, otherwise why are they needed?