Attraction to a representative of the fair sex can lead to different consequences. It’s great if your companion experiences the same feelings. It is more difficult to act after receiving a refusal.
What to do if a girl doesn't reciprocate? One-sided love can lead to sad consequences.
What to do if a girl doesn't reciprocate
She was waiting for a declaration of love, which always so strongly and pleasantly excites the hearts of young girls, no matter whether their heart reciprocates the declaration or not.
Alexander Kuprin. Moloch
- 1. Watch the first reaction
- 2. How bad is it?
- 3. How not to behave
- 4.Pull yourself together
- 5.Instead of an afterword
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Watch the first reaction
There are two further scenarios for the development of events:
- Try to forget about the lady of your heart and turn your attention to the girls around you.
- Act hard and try to win her sympathy.
Weigh the decision, determine what the chances of success are.
When, in response to the efforts of a young man (an invitation to a cafe, for a walk, etc.), the chosen one does not show mutual interest and sympathy, you must first of all control your own reaction. Naturally, at such moments a person may feel offended.
Guys in most cases are also vulnerable and vulnerable, just like the fairer sex. Negative emotions and experiences bring no less torment to the stronger sex. This is not an indicator of mental weakness, but a common human reaction: sadness and frustration due to failure.
Assess the situation and clarify:
- How indifferent are you to the lady of your heart?
- Where does this attitude come from: is this a consequence of the mistakes and miscalculations of the young man himself, or is it something else?
If there is an offense, the guy should first make amends.
This happens especially often when the young lady previously showed signs of attention, and then, offended, began to move away. Review your behavior, give her time. Discuss controversial issues, find out what exactly you didn’t like, and don’t repeat the mistakes again. Later she will cool down and reconsider her attitude towards the fan.
You should ease the pressure and move away. After a while, the resentment will pass - you can gradually show signs of attention. Further, if you act successfully, everything will work out.
What should a guy do if a girl doesn’t reciprocate?
Is it possible to win a girl if she loves another guy?
In this situation, it all depends on what feelings your competitor has for this girl, and in general, at what stage their relationship is.
Ex-boyfriend
If we are talking about an ex-boyfriend, then your chances are quite high. Perhaps, with mutual feelings, this couple would still be together, but since the girl still feels love for her ex, then he probably has a different attitude towards her, otherwise they would be together. However, even if they make peace, there is a high probability that immediately after this the separation will be final, as, unfortunately, often happens in such cases. Your task is to let the girl get out of the ended relationship and attract her attention. Right now she is most likely very vulnerable and in need of care. If you pay attention to it, it will increase your chances of success.
Her acquaintance, who does not have mutual feelings
The girl did not have any relationship with this young man, but she is in love with him without reciprocity. This situation is somewhat more complicated, but also quite solvable. Since this couple was not in a relationship, the girl probably does not have a complete idea about her chosen one, attributing to him some positive traits and freely painting his image, as often happens with girls in love. If the right opportunity arises, you can point out to her the shortcomings of this “knight” that she may simply not notice. Another good option is to let her know that you are much more interesting than that other guy. If there is no reciprocity in their relationship, then sooner or later her interest will still begin to fade, and then she will probably be able to appreciate you.
Mutual love
This is the most hopeless situation. If they are in love with each other and want to be together, then you are unlikely to be able to break this idyll. Moreover, with your persistence you have a chance to only strengthen their union. The only thing that can really be done in this situation is to collect some bad dirt on your opponent, if there is one, and give the girl the opportunity to choose. However, not every person has serious “skeletons in the closet”, and if we are talking about the past, then perhaps the girl already knows about it, and you will make yourself look stupid. You will have a chance to win this girl if one day she breaks up with her chosen one, but you can wait quite a long time for this, but never get it.
How bad is it?
Dating a girl
When a girl does not reciprocate from the very beginning, she does not develop sympathy for a fan, the best thing he can do is to come to terms with a hopeless situation. To reduce the load, you need to stop focusing on failure.
A common situation is when a girl is perceived purely as a friend. She begins to consult with the young man, tells the young man all his problems and experiences, and actively maintains communication as with a friend. My friend is not interested in intimacy.
We need to act decisively. Make it clear to the lady of your heart that you will continue to communicate with her, advise and help, but count solely on more. Do not put pressure on your chosen one - let her think about what is happening. Perhaps a friend is afraid that if she fails on the “love front”, she will lose a friend or just a loved one.
People mistakenly believe that this is the worst situation. In fact, many happy couples began their relationship with friendship. As you continue to spend time with your friend and communicate, both partners learn a lot about each other.
Friendly communication can flow into strong love: both are already aware of the character traits of their neighbor. On the contrary, couples who begin an affair at first after meeting may learn something about their partner that will later become the reason for the breakup.
If a girl does not want to become the companion of her current friend, there is only one way out - to leave. Further contacts will only bring pain and suffering.
Very often people think that the strongest feeling is love. Of course, love is very powerful, but I wonder: is it the most powerful? I think the strongest feeling is fear. And even when you love someone, there is always a fear that this person does not reciprocate your feelings, or is it just fear in your head and all sorts of things that you think up for yourself. That's why so many of the songs on the album are about how I deal with fear. This is the most powerful feeling for me. Tyler Joseph
It happens that a young man does not correspond to a girl’s ideas about the male ideal. In such situations, a girl can be friendly towards a boy, but she is not ready for a serious relationship with him. The young lady will not change her ideals and will continue to search for her ideal companion.
There are 4 options for further action for the guy:
- Try to get closer to the “ideal”, adapt to it, so that the chosen one finally falls in love.
- Continue to pursue the girl the way you are until she forgets about her past dreams.
- Wait until she becomes desperate to find the perfect guy and turns her attention to the one who is already close.
- Finally, you can try to exclude her from your life by trying to build a relationship with someone else.
Make sure that your companion does not “stuff up her price” and does not have inflated demands.
If a guy is not ready to adapt to the girl’s changing moods and dreams, and does not want to wait, the best thing to do is leave. A serious obstacle is the situation when the chosen one already has a boyfriend who is not indifferent to her. It is difficult and unfair to destroy mutual love. But if the opponent does not pay due attention to the passion, you can play “in contrast”: by demonstrating to the girl your interest and strong intentions. If this is not “fatal” love, she will gradually switch to a new admirer, comparing him with another.
But you can’t be intrusive, otherwise she will begin to perceive the young man as a “backup option” or an object of jealousy towards her current boyfriend. Make it clear that if there is no further development of the relationship, you will leave.
How to tell a girl that I like her?
Reasons why a girl communicates but does not want a relationship
If you actively communicate, go to the cinema, to a cafe and constantly correspond, but the relationship does not have an official status, there may also be reasons for this.
This could be because she:
- has not known you long enough, because everyone has their own pace of rapprochement;
- considers your intentions not serious enough;
- sees some kind of flaw in you, for example, lack of work, bad habits or possessive attitude, etc.;
- has feelings for someone else, but considers you just a good friend.
These signs indicate that the girl is in doubt - she is interested in you, but not so much that she feels in love. In this case, you need to act decisively to quickly transfer the relationship to a different status.
How not to behave
guy in love
Don't make the following mistakes if your date doesn't reciprocate:
- Control yourself and do not publicly show fits of jealousy. Women's tantrums are easier than men's. Seeing this behavior, the girl will completely stop taking the fan seriously.
- Do not respond to her with contempt, indifference, or ignorance. Such behavior will only reveal the vulnerability of the young man, his dependence on the past, which will catch the eye of the girl herself and her environment. As a result, everyone will know about his suffering.
Instead, try to cross paths with the young lady less often.
If you see her, behave naturally, but with restraint. If you previously stopped communicating with your previous girlfriend, but remained on good terms, this will provide a useful experience. When a new companion appears, the guy will no longer make the same mistakes.
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What to do if a girl refuses
The most important thing in this situation is to behave “like a man.” It’s better to silently withdraw from a girl’s life, instead of insulting her, further intruding on her, demanding attention, causing scenes, and the like. The more worthy you behave when parting, the greater your chances of returning this girl in the future. However, even if you do not make such an attempt, a positive impression of you will remain in her memory. You can also try to maintain neutral-friendly relations, and time will put everything in its place.
Pull yourself together
The following psychological attitude will help: “it didn’t work out with her, I’ll find another”, “they knock each other out.”
Many girls like rejected admirers. It’s worth looking around and directing energy in a different direction. But there is no need to rush. You need to give yourself time to move away from vivid experiences. Begin to carefully start new relationships with other girls. Develop new relationships for yourself, do not do this harm to the one who rejected the efforts, do not try to make her jealous.
Next, the young man will have to carefully monitor the girl’s behavior and determine how to proceed:
- If he values her very much and wants to regain her affection, he can try to get closer again. You will have to act carefully and slowly.
- When a young man understands that this person has ceased to be his love interest, there is no need to reciprocate. You shouldn’t act harshly, be rude or hurt a person - continue to communicate, keeping your distance.
Start with a clean slate, but with your other significant other.
As practice shows, in such cases, elementary female pride and jealousy are activated. The former passion will see that the boyfriend has switched his attention and is successfully getting closer to other girls. There is a chance that the lady will be able to overcome such feelings and get in touch again and begin to show attention (carefully, trying not to show excessive interest).
Instead of an afterword
Having decided to reciprocate her feelings, you need to calculate your next steps by playing a chess game.
Try to surprise her, behave unconventionally, periodically changing your behavior pattern. The goal is to maintain the interest of the chosen one, being unobtrusive, gradually getting closer. Please note that many girls are not attracted to guys:
- Too open in front of them, exposing feelings before the romance begins.
- Making it clear that they will be there, waiting for “their time.”
Overly intrusive signs of attention can alienate your companion.
In this case, the intrigue is lost, interest in the young man as a potential partner fades away. Let the girl know that you like her without violating her personal space until the feelings become mutual. Positive emotions and signs of attention should be given “in doses” so that the young lady looks forward to meeting her gentleman and wonders what he will do next.
What do you think should be done if a girl doesn’t reciprocate? Share your personal experience, ask questions. Write in the comments.
· May 18, 2018
We're just friends"
Another option is when a conflict arises on personal grounds between a guy and a girl - when a young lady sees in her gentleman a purely knight, a friend, almost a being of the same sex. She often consults with such a young man, talks about problems, and shares her experiences. Maybe even cry on his chest or kiss him on the cheek, saying goodbye. But hugs, kisses and other caresses, alas, are not included in her plans. What to do? Make it clear: yes, you are ready to become her confessor and adviser. However, we do not intend to limit ourselves purely to this role and only agree to more.
