Girls for the most part are creatures different from each other.
there are no uniform rules on how to enjoy success with women, how to date a girl You will have to find your own approach to each of the ladies.
And yet, you shouldn’t get upset and stop reading this article, because there are a number of secrets that will significantly increase your chances of establishing a personal life.
Of course, they won’t have an effect on all girls without exception, but on many they can easily.
What does it mean to date a guy?
Nowadays, the word “dating” can well describe a serious relationship with a young man. Now you have become a couple, taking your communication to a new level. Subsequently, such a relationship can lead to a marriage proposal, and then to a wedding. For now, you are just enjoying each other's company. Now the young man does not need to win the favor of his beloved girl - by agreeing to a relationship, she makes it clear to the guy that he is the only one for her. However, the couple needs to not allow each other to lose interest in the ongoing romance.
Spending time together
Couples who meet visit cinemas, cafes and other establishments together. It is quite natural for people in love to spend a lot of time in each other's company.
Mutual friends
Gradually, a couple in love begins to have a common company - the girl meets her chosen one’s friends, and he becomes part of her usual social circle. In addition, as a rule, after some time, lovers introduce each other to their family.
Joint plans
A dating couple most often does not live one day at a time, but makes far-reaching plans for a life together or at least for the next vacation.
Taking care of him
In addition, dating a guy means caring for him, and accepting his care yourself. Lovers delight each other with pleasant surprises, gifts and attentive relationships.
Intimacy
If a guy and a girl are adults, then their relationship is not limited to conversations in cafes and meetings with friends. Of course, when people start dating, they gradually become intimate with each other. Each couple determines for themselves individually how to quickly move to a new stage of their romance.
Trying to find a guy on the Internet3
High school girls should never try to find a guy on the Internet. Online dating sites and even communication on social networks provide an environment for perverts and scoundrels and they cannot always be recognized from their photos. Too many teenage girls have been harassed and victimized while trying to find a boyfriend online.
It's best to leave online dating to those who have enough life experience to spot problems and avoid them. Colleges, universities, high schools and other educational institutions provide many opportunities to meet a guy. You just need to develop self-confidence, plus being able to carry on a conversation is a really important life skill.
How to behave with a guy you like
What a normal girl should be like in a guy's mind
Appearance
It is foolish to deny that men love with their eyes, and, of course, appearance is of considerable importance to them. You may not have a “doll” face and a luxurious figure, but if you are not lazy in taking care of yourself and stick to a style that suits you best, then the guy you like will probably pay attention to you.
In general, young people like different girls, and it’s impossible to please everyone - for example, some are delighted with blondes, while others like brunettes. The main thing is that you look harmonious and do not try to match an image that does not suit you at all.
Character of the chosen one
In this case, too, opinions differ - some like girls with an explosive temperament, while others prefer modest ones. Be that as it may, most young guys still do not want their beloved to turn out to be a hysterical person, and have an extremely negative attitude towards scenes in public.
Sports girl
Many guys pay attention to athletic girls, and it is likely that your chosen one is no exception. Sign up for classes at the gym, take up dynamic dancing, pay attention to any sports section. Surely, the young man will be very proud of you! In addition, hobbies of this kind will have a very beneficial effect on your appearance.
How to talk to an older guy
You must stand out from your peers, be more serious and purposeful. You should not try to win over a guy who is older - just hinting at him that you like him is enough. However, the main initiative must come from him.
Forget about whims - this way you will only once again remind each other of the difference that exists between you. Also try to avoid jokes about age - he may find them completely unpleasant.
You shouldn’t impose your own tastes on a man, believing that everything he likes is “already a thing of the past.” On the contrary, show interest in his hobbies, and you will probably be able to discover many interesting songs and projects for yourself.
How to communicate with a young guy
First of all, you should not hide your age, somehow embarrassed by it or afraid that it will scare away a potential boyfriend. Couples in which the woman is older than her lover have long ceased to be rare. Previously, no one was surprised if a girl went out in public with a man almost twice her age, but now similar trends are emerging on the part of guys - more and more often they like girls who are older than them.
Your age should be your main advantage. Don't try to behave exactly the same way you behaved when you were the age of your chosen one. If you think this will make you closer, then you are seriously mistaken. Surely, the guy chose you because he expects appropriate behavior from you. In his understanding, the chosen one, who is older than his peers, is most likely calmer, more balanced and wiser.
Don't be boring. Don't go to the other extreme. Communicate with your lover at ease, but do not turn into his “mommy”. Remember that first of all you are a woman for whom a man should be responsible. Don’t take the initiative only on yourself in relationships; let your chosen one reveal himself from new sides.
Moreover, understand that, most likely, he chose a girl for himself not at all based on her age - he just liked you. Don't worry about being older than your lover and don't pass that worry on to him.
Move to intimacy smoothly.
Even if she is burning with open desire almost from the first meeting, she still wants courtship. Delaying things in this case, of course, is also not a particularly good idea. But moving to a new stage too quickly is no less dangerous. Why?
- At first she will be happy, because she herself wanted intimacy.
- Later it will seem to her that there is a lot of sex in the relationship, but too little romance.
- She will begin to wait for the guy HIMSELF to telepathically guess about her desire for tenderness and platonic relationships. Perhaps hints will be used, as subtle as the difference between the shades of her foundations.
- The guy, naturally, will not guess anything. Maximum - he will notice an increase in her refusals in bed.
- The situation is heating up. Hysterics, quarrels, scandals. "You do not love me". Parting.
Why does this lead to breakup in many cases? Because the man does not understand the sudden change in her behavior. At first she is passionate and insatiable, and after a couple of months she suddenly wanted to become different. But it was that first version that he liked.
In fact, there was no change in the girl, she initially wanted affection, beautiful courtship. However, she decided to play the role of a bed fight guru in order to attract the guy’s attention.
It’s better to immediately provide her with flirting, compliments and the entire candy-bouquet period so that she has time to get enough of it. Only after this will it be possible to smoothly move on to intimacy, not forgetting to periodically provide her with evidence in favor of the fact “we not only have sex, but also love.”
How to behave correctly with her is already clear . It remains to find out what mistakes are recommended to be avoided. Ideally, this information would be written down in the army regulations and passed down from generation to generation through fathers' cuffs, forever inscribed in the DNA.
However, nothing in the world is perfect. Therefore, to learn about what you should not do in relationships with girls, you will have to read the following sections. They describe mistakes that it is highly desirable to avoid.
How to start dating a guy
If you started dating a young man, then you have to do everything possible to prevent this relationship from being interrupted. To do this, in principle, it is enough to remain the same as you were when the chosen one paid close attention to you. Surely, after that you tried to demonstrate only your best qualities, and if you think that now you can behave differently, then you are mistaken.
Many guys, even having already started dating a girl, continue to look closely at her, so it will not be very good if your behavior will be significantly different from what you demonstrated at the courtship stage. Here are some general recommendations that you should follow at the initial stage of a romantic relationship.
Don't be intrusive
Perhaps you have been ready for this relationship for a long time, and it has been developing very actively in your thoughts. You have already imagined meeting each other’s families, starting your own family, having children, expanding your living space. It is unlikely that a young man will be happy if you describe all these prospects in front of him. Remember that everything has its time, and such grandiose plans should not be made alone. Despite the fact that you have already planned your future for several years in advance, your chosen one may only begin to realize that some time ago he stopped being free.
Don't relax, always be interesting
Don't assume that just because a guy asked you to date, you can now completely relax. Surely, a young man will be incredibly surprised if overnight you suddenly turn from an active and cheerful girl into a homebody prone to melancholy. It can also upset a guy if a girl who attracted him with her modesty and shyness suddenly turns out to be a cheeky party girl.
Such situations once again prove that you don’t need to try on completely atypical images for yourself when trying to attract a young man, because sooner or later the truth will come out anyway, and this can result in sad consequences for a recently started romance.
General leisure
If you started dating a guy, you should realize that now, most likely, you will have to organize joint leisure time. Accept invitations for a date from your lover with enthusiasm, and do not forget to take the initiative yourself. Don't forget that now you are not at the courtship stage - now you are trying together to build a fulfilling and happy relationship.
Why does fear arise?2
- Popularity of the chosen one (“They probably call her out every day. Why did I decide that she would even want to talk to me?”).
- Low self-esteem (“She’s a beauty, and the last time I worked on my abs was in physical education in 8th grade”).
- Previous failures in love affairs (“I’ll embarrass myself again”).
- Fear of being ridiculed (“What if she starts discussing my “tackle” with everyone she knows?”).
- Uncertainty about personal feelings (“What if she falls in love with me, and I’m disappointed in her in a week?”).
These fears need to be fought, which is actually quite exciting. The main thing is to know what key points you need to pay attention to.
Rules for first dates
First time with a guy, how to behave
If you have a first date planned, then try not to be late, adding excitement not only to the young man, but also to yourself. Think in advance about what clothes you will wear. Make sure that the items are in perfect condition and do not require washing, ironing or minor repairs. It will not be very good if, before going out, you realize that there is some defect on the chosen garment. Your task is to be confident this evening, and hasty preparations will do little to help this.
Also decide on the location of the first date. It is not advisable to invite a guy home or go to visit him yourself. This type of date may involve intimacy, and if you are not ready to take your romance to the next level so quickly, choose a walk in the park or an evening in a cozy cafe.
What to talk about with a guy when you're out for a walk
Support the topics he touches on. Ask counter questions, show that you are interested in being in his company. If he asks you any questions, answer in detail, without skimping on emotions. If the guy is silent, then you can also provoke some topics of conversation - about sports, favorite foods, favorite places to hang out, interesting films and much more.
Try to behave naturally and at ease - there is no need to laugh inappropriately for no reason or reason. If you see that the interlocutor is not very willing to support the topic you set, it is best to change it to another. To avoid awkward pauses, before the date, decide for yourself what questions you would like to clarify.
How to behave correctly to get a guy to like you
Be sweet and charming. Let the young man know that you like him. Show concern for him, flirt with him, be interested in his opinion. It is important that the young man feels significant next to you. Undoubtedly, this feeling will cause warm emotions in him, and he will again and again look for a meeting with you.
How to communicate with a guy who loves you
There are two options here, and they depend on whether you have reciprocal feelings for the young man. If you understand that you also love him, but do not yet dare to say about it, then at least show the young man your affection.
If you do not have reciprocal sympathy for the guy, then try to behave delicately towards him. Explain to him that you are very flattered by his attention, and you did not expect such feelings from him, but, unfortunately, your heart is occupied or you are not yet ready for a relationship. Don’t force the guy to live with empty hopes - immediately indicate that you do not reciprocate his feelings.
How to be alone with a guy and what to do next
If you are left alone with your boyfriend, then such a situation is very conducive to more frank communication. If earlier your dates took place in crowded places, then wanting privacy, you can invite him to your home for a romantic dinner. Please note that a guy can interpret such an invitation in his own way - for him it will be something akin to a “green light” that allows him to behave more actively, seducing you. If you are not yet ready for intimacy with your boyfriend, then it is advisable to avoid such solitude.
However, if you are still alone, behave simply and naturally - get rid of possible tension in advance that could be transferred to your chosen one. You can invite your loved one to watch an interesting movie together or just have a heart-to-heart talk over dinner and a glass of wine. Solitude presupposes a romantic mood, so if you decide to invite a young man to your home, do not refuse your lover hugs and kisses, because the situation is more than conducive to such behavior.
How to kiss a guy to make him fall in love
With a kiss, you can really awaken some pretty strong emotions in your lover. A simple kiss on the lips will probably excite him, but you will achieve a much greater effect if you “combine” your kisses. So, you are left alone, how to kiss a guy so that he remembers it for a long time?
Try to start with this area, which is incredibly sensitive. While talking or watching a movie, put your head on the guy's shoulder, then move your lips to his neck and kiss it. Note that we are talking about the area just below the ears. Such kisses can be combined with light, barely noticeable bites. You can accompany your actions with a joke that your boyfriend smells so amazing that you are ready to “eat” him.
After this, you can move on to a passionate kiss on the lips. Note that the palate is a rather sensitive area, so the guy will experience a very pleasant sensation if you run your tongue across the palate a couple of times.
How to behave in a relationship with a guy when you're dating him
How to behave at a guy's house
It can be quite telling for a guy how you behave in his home. He may not like it if, as soon as you cross the threshold, you start shaking dust off the shelves or watering flowers that, in your opinion, have long needed it. Surely, you believe that in this way you demonstrate to the young man your thriftiness, but note that in fact you are a guest, and such behavior is more than strange for a guest. In addition, the young man may decide that you are encroaching on his territory. When you come to visit your lover, do not see yourself as if you are the mistress here - just relax in the company of your loved one.
How to behave when visiting a man
It is noteworthy that when we are talking about a mature man and not a young guy, the tactics of behavior can be completely opposite. The habits of an adult have long been formed, and if you see some obvious shortcomings in a man’s house that clearly require female intervention, then most likely, it really can’t be done without your help.
If you wish, you can offer your chosen one to cook him a delicious dinner or hang curtains in the living room. Most likely, he will perceive this not as an encroachment on his territory, but as concern. However, even in this case, you need to know when to stop - you should not argue out loud that you urgently need to move in with him so that the house will finally be in order. Such proposals must come from a man.
How to behave in the company of him or your friends
If you want to introduce a guy to your friends, do everything possible to make him as comfortable as possible. To make getting to know each other easier, you can go to an escape room, bowling alley, or something like that with your friends and loved one. The acquaintance will take place more smoothly over some common cause. You can also introduce your lover to the company gradually, inviting one person at a time to the cinema or cafe with you - this way, over time, he will get to know all your friends without any stress.
If you have to meet his friends, then follow a few simple rules:
- Don't try to make a positive impression on his entire group by telling dirty jokes, laughing loudly, and trying to be the center of attention. You may think that this is an attempt to become “part of the group,” but in reality, some of the young man’s friends may consider you an ordinary upstart. Your task is to behave in a friendly and rather modest manner - maintain a dialogue, show interest in your interlocutor, but do not forget about the standards of decency. Do not allow the young man to feel uncomfortable with your behavior.
- Don't be arrogant by showing that this company is honored to meet a girl like you. This kind of behavior can be very off-putting.
- Don't flirt with your crush's friends. You may decide that in this way you are just establishing contact with the guy’s company and are not doing anything reprehensible - you are just trying to please the guys. Subsequently, such behavior may not show you in the best light.
- Be more of a listener than a storyteller - don’t try to “pull the blanket” over yourself by becoming the main star of the evening.
Preparing for the first step
To ask a girl to date, you need to have courage. You will have to work hard, make an effort, and have the desire to build a trusting alliance. In order to marry successfully in the future, you will need to act consistently. It would be correct to first set priorities, accumulate positive energy, and create the appropriate atmosphere.
The first step sets the tone for the courtship process and creates the preconditions for building a serious relationship. It always makes sense to strive to build unlimited trust.
Hobbies and preferences
The beginning of acquaintance, as a rule, coincides with the moment when young people get to know each other. This is an interesting and exciting time, giving additional worries and joys. They have to find out each other's interests and needs and draw conclusions. In order not to get lost in guesses and assumptions, you need to strive to be attentive, communicate more and not be afraid to get to know each other. The ability to share joy is the greatest gift that can be learned. You need to find out as early as possible what a girl’s hobbies are and take into account her preferences.
Appreciate individuality, then relationships will work out much better. It is reasonable to try to praise hobbies, encourage in every possible way, and help your companion feel at the height of the situation.
Frequent pleasant communication
You need to want to create a serious relationship yourself. They will not appear on their own, without due effort on the part and a reasonable approach to what is happening. The ability to draw conclusions will also help you understand what is really happening. You shouldn't expect a girl to take everything upon herself, and the guy won't have to make an effort. Even if communication occurs at a distance, it fills the soul with positivity, helps to form new hopes and joyful impressions.
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Correspondence often inspires, creates romance in the heart, and gives a deep sense of inner satisfaction. Live interaction is better, however, otherwise it is still possible to maintain a pleasant impression.
Compliments and flirting
Relationships cannot develop if there is no flirting and advances. The girl expects compliments, advances and pleasant statements addressed to her from the guy. It would be unreasonable to ask her to be only a friend who is not trying to make a strong impression.
Flirting is necessary for the formation of understanding, reverent and respectful attitude towards each other. This is natural behavior for a couple in love. Relationships are built according to the direction they take. Attachment will appear later, will be the result of the efforts made. If a girl begins to reciprocate, then happiness will not take long to arrive. Romance should be present at all stages of relationship development.
What you need to do to move in with a guy to live together
It happens that ordinary dates are no longer enough for a girl to feel happy. If you understand that there are simply not enough meetings anymore or it is difficult for you to find time for dates in your busy schedule, then, of course, it makes sense to push the young man to the idea of living together.
If you live alone, then periodically invite your boyfriend to your home for dinner several times a week. After this, of course, it makes sense for him to stay overnight with you. Create a cozy atmosphere in your apartment that he will want to return to again and again. After a month, you can start a conversation about how you practically live together, and whether it’s time for you to move in together.
When visiting a guy, offer him your help in cooking or cleaning. He should get used to your direct participation in his life. Over time, it is also appropriate to start a conversation about living together.
If you don’t have the opportunity to demonstrate your housewife skills to your loved one, and yet your relationship has lasted for more than six months, then start pushing your chosen one to the idea of living together, telling you how you usually miss him, and how you miss him when parting with him. If no hints help, then it makes sense to ask the young man directly what he thinks about the prospect of living together.
How to propose in verse
As a thread follows a needle, As waves rush behind a steamboat, So I would like to be with you, And to be always, not in passing.
A cherry blossom petal flies, catching up with another, to continue the journey together.
Love will pour out like a bright starfall, Be with me, my treasure! Air is not air, water is not water, I can only breathe next to you always.
So I thought it would be nice to invite you to meet me! And even though we have only recently known each other, I want more than to be friends
I don’t dare to sing a serenade I’m under your windows, but still, you have to take my word that in the rest, I’m good to everyone.
I am laconic from excitement, Today I decide to tell you - Hurry up and accept the offer to become my girlfriend.
How to behave with a man
Rules of conduct with your ex
As a rule, after breaking up, many couples either try to maintain the appearance of friendly relations, or say goodbye to each other with a scandal. Another option can be called ideal - when meeting with your ex-lover, behave absolutely neutrally. There is no point in showing increased interest in his affairs and sharing your own successes, just as there is no point in demonstratively turning away. It is enough to greet him with a nod. If he does not enter into dialogue with you, then you should not impose yourself on him.
Perhaps we can call an exception the case when a man inflicted a strong and unfair insult on you during a breakup. Then you are free not to greet your offender, passing by as if you had not noticed him. It is much more difficult if your meeting takes place in some company, then you will involuntarily have to observe the standards of decency in public and say hello to your ex.
However, if you have a child together, then, of course, demonstrating indifference is inappropriate in any case - periodically you need to discuss the affairs of your child. However, if the breakup was difficult, it is not at all necessary to go beyond topics about the child.
What is not acceptable behavior with a man older than you?
One of the main rules is not to try to provoke jealousy in a man who is much older than you. Surely, he is already haunted by thoughts that you might be interested in a guy who is closer to you in age, and unnecessary worries about this will be completely useless.
If you have chosen an older man as your life partner, then try to match him. Perhaps he works a lot and prefers a relaxing holiday in a cozy atmosphere, then it will not be very good if you periodically disappear into nightclubs or behave frivolously.
If he is younger than you, don't think about the age difference
Do not focus your and his attention on the topic of age. Evaluate a young man according to completely different criteria: does he have a need to take care of you or is he looking for someone to take care of him; Are you interested in each other's company? does public opinion matter to him? what are his plans for the future?
Little tricks for developing relationships
Perhaps your relationship has long been frozen at one stage, and you understand that each of your dates is little different from the previous one. So how do you grow a relationship if you've been dating for a while?
Meeting friends
This can be quite a significant step; gradually you will form a common company, which will bring you even closer.
Meeting the parents
This step is even more serious, and often causes a lot of exciting emotions in both the guy and the girl. If the chosen one has decided to take this action, then there is practically no doubt that he is very determined towards you.
Cohabitation
Some guys bypass this stage, moving straight to a marriage proposal, but most young people still want to check their compatibility in everyday life with their beloved girl, and in general - to get used to the new status. For a man, living together is almost the same as an official marriage, so you can be sure that if he asked you to live together, he sees you as a potential spouse.
Traveling together
Traveling to other cities and countries not only gives new experiences, but also allows you to get to know each other from new sides.
Talking about the future
Ask the young man how he sees his future, whether he has any unrealized plans. Based on his answers, you can easily determine whether he sees you in his future or is not even thinking about it yet.
How to understand that everything is already serious?
It’s good when nascent sympathy has a happy ending. But in life, not everything happens the way we want. Unjustified expectations bring mental pain. Therefore, it is better to know in advance whether the meetings will turn into something more. But how long will it take before this becomes clear?
Many people want to know at what point a relationship becomes serious - after a week, a month, a year of dating? There is no clear answer. After all, situations are completely different, just like the participants in the novel. Some have been dating for a couple of weeks, but already approach the relationship with all responsibility, while for others, even a year is not enough to get their heads together. It doesn't matter how long you've been together. There are signs that indicate that a relationship is developing favorably:
- They often communicate with you not only in person, but also call and write SMS;
- are interested in your health and state of affairs;
- help solve sudden problems;
- look after and show care;
- introduce you to friends and relatives;
- at least they hint at a future together and make plans.
If most of these points are met, then most likely you have moved on to a serious relationship and are dating a reliable person. How soon can we judge this? Everything is individual: some begin to behave appropriately from the first days of acquaintance, others look closely for a long time and are in no hurry to open their cards. Whether it is your partner or not - in the end your heart will tell you.
How to behave during a breakup
Unrequited love
The expression that “you can’t be nice by force” has long been known. If a young man does not have the feelings for you that you would like, then there is probably no point in thinking that this can change. Don't try to gain sympathy from your lover by declaring that you don't want to live without him or that you feel bad about the breakup. It's more like a normal manipulation. Instead of such statements, accept with dignity his desire to break off the relationship. Thank you for all the pleasant things you had and wish you all the best. Now you need to pull yourself together, not pursue your ex and put all your efforts into restoring your mental balance.
Your feelings have cooled down - admit it to him
Honestly admit to the guy that you no longer feel the emotions for him that you had before. You can work together to try to improve your relationship. But it is also possible that the guy will consider himself offended by such words and will not want to do anything. In this case, you really have to continue your life without him.
It’s better to let go if he fell in love with someone else or hasn’t stopped loving his ex.
If he honestly admitted this to you before he cheated, then try to accept his words and not make a scene. No one is immune from such an outcome. Ask the man if there is a chance to change the situation; if the answer is negative, then try to get out of this relationship with dignity, simply by cutting the person out of your life. If you try to set things up against his will, you may end up becoming a participant in a love triangle.
Admit honestly that you fell in love with another person
In this case, you should show at least a little respect for the person who was close to you some time ago, and not start a new romantic relationship behind his back. Honestly tell your ex-chosen one that you are confused in your feelings, but you don’t want to lie to him - another person now lives in your thoughts and heart. Ask the man for forgiveness for this situation.
Point out that you did not plan this, but you realize that you are unable to cope with your feelings. By the way, such statements should be made if you are one hundred percent sure that you want to leave for another person and no longer love your current boyfriend.
What not to do during a breakup
No matter how the situation turns out, there are things that cannot be done, even if you were not the culprit of the breakup. Firstly, do not try to annoy your ex-lover by bothering him with threatening calls or trying to “open the eyes” of his new beloved. Secondly, do not try to denigrate him in front of your friends - he may have behaved dishonestly towards you, but this does not mean that he is a bad friend. Thirdly, do not try to win his relatives over to your side, do not incite an unnecessary “war”.
The best thing you can do under the current circumstances is to try to forget your former chosen one and avoid talking about him in every possible way. Accept that now your life will proceed without him, but many amazing events will certainly happen in it if you still manage to mentally let go of the past relationship.
Take risks5
The important thing here is to protect yourself. It's pointless to take risks for a guy when you're still young. There is a risk that more problems will arise due to unwise decisions. You need to know what is right and what is wrong, what troubles look like and not make stupid mistakes.
- Not getting drunk is not a way to look more mature.
- Don't take drugs, it's harmful.
- Don't show your cleavage, it's not that attractive.
- Don't mess with a loser, it won't change him.
