You can communicate and understand each other through words. But sometimes they are not enough. And then, we touch the person to show our concern, good mood or the most tender feelings. Nonverbal methods of communication help in cases where we really want to express something more - intentionally or unconsciously. Then we most often resort to hugs.
We tell you what we learned about hugging and share a classification that will help you understand the feelings of other people and better understand body language. To become a relationship guru, one article will not be enough, so we recommend that you familiarize yourself with the list of useful books
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You can directly on invme. You can communicate and understand each other through words. But sometimes they are not enough. And then, we touch the person to show our concern, good mood or the most tender feelings
The meaning of hugs
The meaning and benefits of hugs lie not only in the pleasant effect on the emotional background. Scientists have proven and tested: there are benefits for physical health. After all, hugging increases the level of the hormone oxytocin - it is responsible for calm and good mood. In a word, with a little blues, slight sadness and the opportunity, do not hesitate to hug someone instantly to get the necessary portion of joy.
Surely you have heard that psychologists advise hugging several times a day. Then this will be an excellent prevention of anxiety, a great way to cheer up and, in general, will not be superfluous for your relationship with a loved one.
According to the observations of psychologists, it turned out that if a couple hugs several times a day, then it is easier for these guys to find a common language after a quarrel, and, by the way, they quarrel less often.
Intuition most often tells us what any touches or gestures mean, but it also helps us to suspect if there is something insincere in a person’s words.
Thus, we can most often subconsciously determine what role a loved one assigns to us, and what status he ascribes to himself.
But so that there are no misunderstandings left at all, we’ll tell you how to interpret hugs and understand people’s sincere feelings better.
Why do we need hugs?
We melt with love, we shake with hatred, our cheeks burn when we talk to the offender... That is, our body reacts to all emotional reactions, we feel who we are with the help of our body. And each of us strives to create the best living conditions for our body: security, warmth, satisfaction. In order for the body (and the soul too) to feel comfortable, we simply need contact with other people. We want to be hugged by people dear to us, we want to experience their warmth and affection for us.
Body-oriented psychotherapy
There is a large branch of psychology called “body-oriented therapy.” Its founders and successors are confident that most psychological and somatic (bodily) problems can be solved if we allow the body to talk about its problems, because the body “remembers everything”, capturing our feelings, experiences, and negative life experiences. The psychology of the body, experts say, is the shortest road to the unconscious, and therefore to the origins of our problems. By hugging each other, we, without even realizing it, find the surest path to the heart of a person dear to us.
Hugs are pain killers
When we hug each other (naturally, the effect only works with people who are important and dear to us), endorphin is produced in the body - the hormone of happiness and pleasure. Oxytocin is also a calming hormone. After all, with hugs we show a person that you are not alone, I am protecting you. This means we satisfy the most important instinct of survival and safety. In response to this action, pleasure hormones are produced, which have a positive effect on a person’s psychological and physical health.
Hugs teach us to love
If a child is not hugged or touched, he is developmentally delayed, has health problems and does not know how to express his emotions. And this is a direct path to phobias, psychopathy, sociopathy, a tendency to antisocial behavior and pathological inability to live. Therefore, we can say that, thanks to hugs, we not only express our attitude, but also learn to love! If you hug a person who has fallen into depression, it has been proven that their level of cortisol (the stress hormone that makes our body work for wear and tear) decreases, which means that the person feels better.
Hug with one hand - the meaning of a man's hug
Be careful, as this type of hug is ambiguous and can tell a lot. For example, you might find out that:
a) you can definitely rely on your boyfriend,
b) it smells fried - they definitely want intimacy with you.
So, if a man hugs the waist with one hand, then this speaks of sexual attraction. Such hugs are especially indicative at the very beginning of a relationship - now they hardly want anything more from you than sex. By the way, our other material will help you understand how serious your attraction is and its nature (is it physical or is it true love) .
If they hug you, putting a hand on your shoulder, imitating a “wing” with it, then they seem to take you under protection, offering their protection and support. The warmest sign in such an embrace is when the guy puts his shoulder under the head of his chosen one, which literally means “lean on me.”
If a man hugs the waist with one hand, then this speaks of sexual attraction. Such hugs are especially indicative at the very beginning of a relationship - now they hardly want anything more from you than sex
By the neck
By hugging the neck, the guy asserts his own superiority and shows that the woman belongs to him. This gesture is used mainly by strong and powerful men, demonstrating their dominant role in the relationship.
A guy also hugs the neck when he doesn’t know how to express his feelings differently, or considers expressions of tenderness unacceptable for a representative of the stronger sex.
Sometimes the gesture is used by rude people brought up in Spartan conditions or by street kids who are unable or unwilling to show true emotions.
Hug from behind
If a man hugs a girl tightly from behind, then at least he is not indifferent to her, and most likely, he is crazy about his companion. After all, such hugs indicate a readiness to protect, support and protect your chosen one. A person thus denotes his role as a patron. By the way, even body language experts agree with this. An even more eloquent gesture is if the young man crosses his arms over the girl’s chest, as if covering her heart.
If a girl hugs a guy, then this is also a sign of the warmest relationship with the young man - do not be afraid to seem weak, because they are ready to understand and support you in difficult times. We wrote about other signs of a girl’s love here.
"Under the wing"
What types of friendly hugs are there? A hug on one shoulder usually has a friendly meaning. With this gesture, men and women express their readiness to support and help a friend; this gesture is also common between relatives. The elders hug the younger ones in this way, indicating protection from adversity, readiness to be there in difficult times and a desire to take care of them. In addition to “being taken under the wing,” there is also a friendly long hug and pats on the back.
Psychologist Anastasia Davydova claims that even such fleeting contact between two close people can have a positive effect on the psyche, calm and improve mood. The pattern is explained by the fact that tactile contact produces the hormone oxytocin. This is the so-called happiness hormone, which reduces stress levels and increases immunity.
Encouraging hugs: Depositphotos
Face to face hugs
You stand facing each other, your partner's hands are on the back, neck or closer to the waist. At the same time, the distance between the faces is sufficient to maintain eye contact without any problems.
More often, such hugs indicate warm feelings, but sometimes they also indicate that your significant other now needs support and protection, but is probably afraid to tell you about it.
To find out if this is the case, look carefully at your partner's face. Perhaps he is peaceful or obviously happy? Then there is no reason to worry - they want to provide you with warmth and care. But if there is melancholy in the eyes, then the partner himself wants to be supported now. Especially if he doesn’t hug you around the waist, but strokes your back.
To find out if this is the case, look carefully at your partner's face. Perhaps he is peaceful or obviously happy?
Hugs i
Hugs are different: friendly, greeting, farewell, family and love. And if with the first ones everything is clear, then with love ones it’s more complicated. This is especially true for the very first, timid touches.
Surprisingly, men are much worse at hugging techniques than women. Apparently, the problem lies in the very essence of the emotional component of men. Very often, namely on the first date, hugging turns into stupid pawing. This is a fiasco. You can immediately run off into the sunset and never appear on the horizon again. Or you can do everything so that the girl herself will stick, like a stuck fish.
Hugs are an integral part of communication. They are able to make you fall in love and irritate, instill a sense of confidence and provide support, comfort and cheer. In general, this is a universal way to say a lot without words.
Face to face hugs, foreheads touching
At a close distance, we cannot focus our gaze on the face of another person, which is why our attention is focused more “inward” - on intimacy, on spiritual connection and on trying to “feel” the other person. Such contact means a high degree of affection and trust; the person is not afraid to show you his sincere emotions. At the same time, he knows for sure that you will not hide the truth from him.
Such hugs indicate that the partner craves understanding, as he is ready to completely dissolve in you. And your attitude towards him is very important to him.
Why do women hug?
Psychologists say that different sexes have different “goals” in hugs and touches. So, what women like most is that they make you feel loved, give you a feeling of emotional closeness and security. And women also say that hugs heal – both from physical and mental pain; give a feeling of warmth, allow you to share feelings.
View of the Kama Sutra
In the oldest work on physical love, they write about touching: “The first caress is the touching of her body with your hand. If a young man puts his hand on the girl’s shoulder that is closer to him, this caress is called approaching. If a young man puts his hand on the girl’s shoulder, which is further from him, this caress is called a declaration of love. If a young man takes a girl by the hand above the elbow, this is a request to stay with him. If he only touches your hand, it’s a request to be more friendly. If a young man puts his hand on the side of a girl that is farther from him, this caress is called the language of intimacy.”
What are they needed for?
Hugs are different, and they accurately show the attitude of a man towards a woman. A woman's intuition tells her what status he is ready to provide her. She is a friend to him, or his feelings are deep, and he sees her as loved and desired.
Hugs play an important role in relationships. During the courtship period, the guy tries to touch the girl more often, wanting to create the necessary intimacy and show his attitude. When a couple gets married, they may hug less often, but hugs continue to be meaningful to them. Hugs are necessary for both women and men:
- 1. For women, physical contact makes them feel protected and loved.
- 2. For men, show your care and protection and feel more confident.
For both of them, this is a manifestation of love, trust and tenderness.
By holding his beloved close to him, the guy lets the girl into his comfort zone, and she allows him to violate hers. By embracing each other, both receive:
- feeling of euphoria and joy;
- a surge of strength;
- feeling of calm;
- feeling of security and comfort.
Couples who hug often rarely quarrel and make up quickly. It is easier for them to go through difficult periods, and they remain romantic throughout their entire life together.
Hugs and pats
The gesture more often hints at warm friendly or even family feelings, where at least one of the participants is always ready to help the other, listen to him or give advice. There is no romance in such hugs, at least not yet.
If you have a love for a person, do not put an end to your relationship. First of all, friendship is a great start to love. Secondly, this is not an uncompromising rule, like all the interpretations listed in the article. It is possible that the person has something more than friendly feelings for you, but he was unable to hug in another way due to awkwardness.
By the way, don’t be alarmed if your boyfriend hugs you goodbye and when you meet him. When your partner doesn't do this as often as you'd like, it's not a cause for concern—it might just not be his love language .
Well, if you don’t have a hug partner at all, then we urge you not to despair. In the end, loneliness also has its advantages, and there are quite a few of them! We dedicated an entire article to this phenomenon, check out the link and don’t be upset: https://invme.com/ru/blogs/content/plusi-i-minusi-odinochestva
And here
we talked about how to find new acquaintances on invme - in the “About yourself” section you can safely indicate “hugs”, you will definitely find like-minded people!
Friendly claps
Does a man hug you while patting you lightly? On the shoulders or back. Most likely, this is an ordinary friendly hug. This is how men sometimes hug each other.
You are just a friend, a faithful friend or a cheerful interlocutor. Hardly a girlfriend or partner.
He demonstrates with hugs that there is no relationship and no connection between you now.
However, if this type of hug was just a one-time occurrence, then it is too early to despair.
Perhaps at that time he only wanted to provide support or was busy. Try to bide your time and, having improved the moment, hug again.
So, you are in his arms and you are mixed together in a passionate world of feelings and emotions. But, of course, you never thought that you can tell a lot by the way a guy hugs you. It is for this reason that we decided to introduce you to the basic concepts of the meanings of types of hugs and help you get to know your loved one much better and find out what is hidden behind his manner of hugging you this way.
The guy hugs him tightly and hugs him close
The guy hugs you around the waist.
The guy hugs the girl's back from below and presses her very tightly to him.
The meaning of this type of hug suggests that the guy wants not just “hugs and kisses” from you, but also sex. Therefore, such hugs, in which the thighs of both partners are tightly pressed and, as it were, interact with each other, unconditionally indicate his desire to spend the night with you. By the way, the lower your loved one lowers his hands, the more he desires you.
Particular attention should be paid to the moment whether the guy touches your head with his during the hug. If yes, remember, in addition to sexual intimacy, he also needs to experience spiritual intimacy with you. In other words, if your relationship is at the initial stage of its development, he takes you very seriously, but if you have been together for more than one year, know that he is already quite ripe to move on to a more serious relationship.
He snuck up from behind...
The guy comes up from behind and embraces the girl in his passionate embrace.
Even if your gentleman has not yet told you about his feelings, this manner of hugging speaks about it for him. In a word, he is in love with you. Usually in such hugs, the guy’s shoulders, like a warm blanket, “wrap” yours, his legs intertwine, he presses and presses you to him, as if uniting with you. The meaning of this type of hug comes down to one thing: a guy, hugging you from the back, shows his desire to always protect and protect you from all adversity. Plus, in this way he demonstrates his masculinity and strength. In other words, your chosen one is a real knight who will not miss more than one chance to once again remind you of this and show you that next to him you will always be completely safe.
By the way, this type of hug has another explanation, which is due to the fact that if your boyfriend always comes up to you from behind and hugs you, this indicates that he wants the relationship between you to become much closer. First of all, this is due to the fact that your loved one may feel that you are afraid or do not want to let your feelings out and share them with him. That’s why he shuns hugs that put him in a “face to face” position, and thinks that you are not sincere with him.
Massage while hugging.
The guy, hugging the girl, lightly strokes her back with his hands.
This type of hug suggests that your boyfriend feels the most tender and romantic feelings for you. After all, it is the back, due to the fact that it is out of sight, that is the most vulnerable part of the human body. Therefore, all touches in this part of the body are reverent and pleasant. By the way, you shouldn’t be surprised at all if after a certain time his caresses acquire the status of more overt touches. It is always worth remembering that such concepts as massage, touching and sex, which are combined into a single rhythm, as a rule, can greatly turn on the representatives of the stronger sex.
Also, this manner of hugging can also indicate that your gentleman is upset and worried about something, so he wants to relax. And this even despite the fact that he doesn’t want to admit his experiences and hardships to you. But light and relaxing massage movements are one of the best ways to find peace of mind. That is why representatives of the stronger sex, on their subconscious level, during times of stress or tension spontaneously stroke their beloved, giving her a light massage. By the way, if you definitely think that your beloved is upset about something, ask him yourself what’s bothering him, and then offer to give him a relaxing massage yourself. Believe me, your loved one will certainly appreciate your care for him.
With a flood of slam...
The guy, during the hug, lightly pats the girl on the back with his palm.
This manner of hugging has two main meanings. The first of them has the worst interpretation: he has no sympathy for you as a woman. Here you can recall an example of how men greet their friends in such a friendly way. So in this scenario it doesn't look romantic at all. In other words, if your chosen one very often shows his feelings for you in one of these types of hugs, remember that this most likely indicates that your relationship is not forming in the right direction and is unlikely to have a bright and carefree future . The second meaning of this type of hug suggests that if, for example, your boyfriend gives you such a manner of demonstrating his feelings in a public place, he may simply want to show everyone around him that your relationship is not serious at all, and he is free. By the way, if he hugs you in this way when you are alone, the picture here may look like this: he has no passion for you or he is angry with you because of something.
If a guy hugs you tightly
But, of course, one should not draw hasty conclusions. Perhaps such pats are just an exception to the general rules, and not a reason for premature worry. There are a couple more reasons for such a demonstration of feelings. For example, you have to give a congratulatory speech at your friend’s wedding, and your loved one is trying to support you in this way. Well, or your chosen one does not like and is not at all used to demonstrating his feelings publicly so that others are aware of your relationship. So he tries his best to present them as friendly. Or lastly, at the moment your chosen one is puzzled by something and cannot fully show his love for you. So don’t take all the negative implications of this type of hug personally!
And finally, I would like to say that all the meanings of the types of love hugs, first of all, speak about the manner and habit of your loved one, and only then interpret their essence. Therefore, no matter how he shows his feelings by hugging you, just hug him tightly by the butt - and all he can think about at this moment is how to quickly take off your clothes!
