You are a sweet pretty girl who has been dreaming of love and a handsome prince for months. And he’s still not there. Your friends have long since acquired boyfriends, gotten married, and you still sit by the window, sighing sadly. All the girlfriends scattered in pairs, in silence... so stop being sad! It's time to take the situation into your feminine and gentle hands. Stop waiting for the weather by the sea. You can build your own happiness. Don’t wait for Fate to introduce you to a suitable guy, but get to know an interesting person yourself. There are many ways to meet an interesting man. Take one of the options.
Method one: a friend of my friends
The easiest way to meet a guy is to involve your acquaintances, neighbors and girlfriends. Probably one of them has a good free man in mind. Spread the cry among your friends and relatives that you wish to find your soulmate. You will see what a flurry of suitors awaits you. Every friend or aunt through the third generation will begin to propose worthy candidates. Don't turn your nose up and talk to each person presented. Perhaps among the large number of applicants there will be someone who will win your heart.
the main problem
A handsome guy cannot help but attract girls. And if he’s still smart and rich, that’s a dream. But there is a certain difficulty when meeting young people who know their worth: they are quite selective.
Guys who are not deprived of female attention can afford it. They choose the best girls for relationships. You get to know such guys quickly and often. What happens as a result: men's self-esteem skyrockets. They begin to believe that only real princesses can successfully date them. They don't even look at ordinary girls like that.
This does not have a very good effect on creating a family or serious relationships. Men stop appreciating their partners. If something goes wrong, he just looks for another one. It happens that for a handsome guy, a year from the date of acquaintance is a very serious date. Handsome people are fickle. What can you do here?
Method two: dating site and social network2
Dating sites are aimed at enabling lonely hearts to find a life partner. Fill out the form on the websites, don’t forget to “paste” your successful photo. Describe more specifically what kind of relationship you want. Tell us more about yourself. Keep in mind that on such sites there are a huge number of married men seeking sexual adventures. Feel free to discard unwanted candidates. Pay attention to the sincerity and culture of the guys. If a man sends explicit photographs from the first days of your acquaintance and asks for nude photos of you, stop communicating with him immediately. Nothing good will come from such an acquaintance. Be active yourself. It is not hard. You will need to do the following:
- Find the guy you like.
- Study his profile carefully.
- Like a few photos.
- Write an interesting comment on the pictures.
- Write to the owner of the profile first.
There is nothing wrong with the last point. The worst thing that can happen is that the guy will ignore your activity. This is not a global catastrophe. So the guy is not your man. Continue your search further.
Active methods
The time of complete patriarchy has already passed, but total feminism has not yet arrived. However, a woman who takes the initiative in a relationship is now unlikely to be stoned. The list below contains ideas for the first step that any girl can safely implement.
Use cunning
It is not necessary to openly express your interest. You can get acquainted with the help of various kinds of tricks. For example, approach a man in a cafe and say that you lost an argument with a friend and, according to the terms of the bet, you must take his phone number. Or say a joke out loud, then turn around and apologize, saying that you thought you were talking to someone you know.
Of course, this method requires certain acting skills. But a slight adrenaline rush is guaranteed.
Ask for help
You can attract a man's attention in the most innocent way. Alternatively, ask for directions, get something from the top shelf in the store, or simply hold the door.
The main thing is not to become a problem woman who constantly needs the help of a strong man. Not everyone likes the role of father-savior.
Ask a question
Men love attention no less than women. Especially if this attention flatters their outlook and intelligence. Take advantage of this little weakness to win over a guy you don't know well. For example, ask a nice colleague with a professional question or ask a stranger from a language course to explain a grammar rule.
Give a compliment
Everyone enjoys being praised. Men are no exception. At the same time, singing praises of their appearance or masculinity is not at all necessary. You can compliment a stranger's performance at a conference or open mic event. Or approach a cute dog owner in the park and compliment his four-legged friend.
Getting your own dog is also not a bad idea: animals tend to easily bring strangers together.
Openly declare your interest
Tired of playing role-playing games and waiting for weather by the sea? Just tell the person you like that you are interested in him. Another option is to approach a stranger in a cafe and ask if you can sit at their table.
Someone will say that a man wants to be a hunter and he does not need “easy prey.” Someone - that such behavior can frighten and repel. But the question is: do you want to be the prey and be around a man who does not accept women's initiative?
The truth is that men, like women, are different and want different things. But men, like women, are often similar: they are also afraid of being rejected and also dream of a new interesting person appearing in their lives. It’s great if the desire of two lonely people coincides, and it doesn’t really matter who was the first to take a step towards.
Method four: music connected us4
Bars and cafes or other entertainment venues become “meeting places” for single people. You can often visit there with a friend or by yourself. There is no need to go through many different places. Choose one cozy cafe where you feel comfortable and happy. Go there on weekends. Be sociable and friendly. Don’t be shy to start a conversation with strangers and answer questions. But at the same time, do not be an intrusive, boring or frivolous person. Be confident and dignified (not to be confused with arrogance!). Don’t sit through slow dancing alone and politely accept guys’ invitations. As an exception, you can pluck up the courage and invite a single, handsome man who you like. Perhaps the two of you will leave the cafe together.
Where to find normal men?
There are still real men. They still exist, it’s just that not all women know where they are located. Girls are looking for where they can meet a guy for a serious relationship, but they often choose unpromising territory. Don't worry if fortune hasn't smiled on you yet. Now you will find out the places where you can meet cool men:
- Auto repair shop. If you are the happy owner of a personal car, you don’t need to think long about where to meet potential suitors. Well, where else can you meet a guy if not at a car service center? Men are meticulous about their “swallows” and try to change consumables and fix problems on time. Just drive your car to the nearest workshop and look for a handsome young man. Find a reason to talk to him, for example, ask if he is satisfied with the services here. Smile, try to support and prolong the conversation if possible. We hope that the outcome of the conversation will be an exchange of contacts.
- Gym. Find yourself a new hobby, and at the same time a fishing spot with lean men. Listen to yourself and sign up for classes that you like. A Thai boxing section or a gym will not only help you be in ideal physical shape, but will also help you find a sports guy who shares your interests. In such a place you will definitely not meet drunkards and couch potato sloths, so unpromising males will weed out by themselves.
- Street. You shouldn’t discount banal parks and embankments, places intended for cultural recreation, so to speak. During the daytime, it is easy to meet a positive young man here, breathing fresh air. Perhaps he himself went on the hunt for a woman’s heart. The sounds of nature will create the right mood for both of you. Meeting people in such places is pleasant and easy. The streets of any city also served as the place for the first meeting of many couples. The noise of cars is not so romantic. But if a spark runs between you and a handsome man you suddenly meet, the polluted avenue will seem fabulous to you.
- Job. Many girls complain that they don’t know how to meet a guy at work. It's not as difficult as it seems at first glance. If everything is more than good with your young male colleagues, turn on the search mode for a suitable candidate. It’s not for nothing that sparks flare up between employees so often in a work community. Busy everyday life helps people take a closer look at each other, find common ground and common character traits. Ask a nice colleague to help you solve a business issue or find yourself nearby in a difficult situation for him. At the same time, do not forget to be nice and friendly. A good option is to meet during a break if you have lunch in the same cafe or canteen. Find a way to sit down with the guy and try to start a casual conversation.
- Studies. Where to meet guys if you are not yet 22 years old? Of course, in any of the educational institutions where you are now gnawing on the granite of science: at school, technical school or institute. How to successfully meet a boy? Take a closer look at your fellow sufferers and choose the cutest and most interesting one in your opinion. The goal has been found, all that remains is to find an individual approach to the young man.
- Cafe. Single guys often come to cozy restaurants to drink coffee and look at local beauties. Put on your best dress and heels, let your hair down and take a trip to the nearest coffee shop. Sit comfortably by the window, take a favorable angle and wait for a sign of attention from some winking young man.
Having outlined the best places to meet, it’s worth saying where it’s better not to meet guys. Nightclubs and various drinking establishments contain many tipsy men who are ready for anything. But such acquaintances do not always end well. A degree in the blood turns off the mind, which can ruin the impression of a guy forever. And there are plenty of unworthy young people there. To avoid the risk of meeting some rogue, try not to meet people in such places, or at least do it with a couple of girlfriends.
Method five: lonely adventures5
Don't ignore lonely walks. Make it a habit to take a walk in the park or go for a run once a week. A pet can be a great help. You will have the opportunity to talk to dog owners. Don’t be shy about talking to interesting people yourself. Some guys like to spend their free time with a guitar. Come closer to listen to the song performed. Praise the musician. Your praise can serve as an impetus for further acquaintance.
Catch his sympathy
It's easy to tell if a guy likes you if you communicate and see each other often. What signs indicate sympathy?
- He's looking after you. A man always gives you his hand, opens the door, pays for two people in a cafe, offers help, and is interested in all areas of your life.
- Doesn't take his eyes off you. An interested guy keeps you in his sights, even when communicating with other people.
- Trying to be better. Next to you, a guy in love becomes more dignified, straightens his clothes, stretches out, and tries to look more attractive.
- Eye contact. During a conversation, he looks you in the eye, doesn’t turn away, doesn’t pay more attention to his phone than to you.
- Contents of the conversation. When talking to you, he allows for slight flirting and does not miss the opportunity to tease you or give you a compliment. He also shares personal information with you that is usually not intended for outsiders.
- Help. A man in love helps a girl with everything, be it a heavy and uncomfortable bag or just a pen that fell on the floor.
I told you a lot more in this one: How to understand that a man is interested in you.
Method six: love of literature 6
Some guys like girls who are well-read. Take your favorite volume of essays, sit on a bench and read. You will receive only bonuses: reading in the fresh air calms the nervous system, fills you with energy and peace, and helps you make new acquaintances. Go to cultural events alone. Someone from the crowd will definitely pay attention to an interesting person.
Remember: if you listen to music on headphones or plug into your phone while in the park, not a single young man will approach you. He will decide that in this way you are protecting yourself from communicating with strangers.
What to write to the guy you like: set goals
While you're wondering what you can write to a guy, I'll ask you this question: is goal setting an important condition for success? And I’ll answer right away: yes. The destination is the point of arrival. A goal is a clearly formulated desire. Having decided on a goal, you look for (and usually find) means (words) to achieve it. Without a goal, you go somewhere and end up somewhere. Like in the fairy tale about Alice.
- Tell me, please, where should I go from here?
-Where do you want to go? – answered the Cat.
“I don’t care...” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter where you go,” said the Cat.
Don't be Alice. Set transparent goals. Be aware of why you are wasting precious time on dating sites. Are you looking for a partner for what? For example, go to galleries, engage in tantric sex, create a social unit. Each goal has its own style of communication. By the way, what a manner it is to write first. I've probably asked this question a hundred times already.
Method seven: beauty saves you from loneliness7
To attract the attention of the stronger sex, a girl must have a well-groomed and attractive appearance. It is very important. Whatever philosophers say about inner beauty, men first of all pay attention to appearance. Watch yourself. Dress with taste, in accordance with your figure parameters. For self-confidence, play sports. Men are more likely to pay attention to a fit woman than to a blurry “pig”. Don't forget about personal hygiene. Your chances of finding your soulmate are gone if your hair is shiny with grease and your breath smells like sour salad. Take care of these nuances. A confident girl who feels beautiful will definitely gain a crowd of fans.
What should a girl do who wants to meet an unfamiliar guy in the gym or elevator?
Both the elevator and the gym are slightly specific places for dating. But sometimes, the strongest relationships are born in such places. True, this happens by chance. But you can come up with your own scheme for meeting a guy.
In the gym
This dating option has one advantage - people have at least one common interest. This means there will be something to talk about on the first date. It is also worth noting that in this place everyone will look as natural as possible.
- First of all, start studying seriously. If you go to 2-3 classes, then the guy simply will not consider it necessary to pay attention to you as much as girls who just want to get to know each other, a lot come every month. Therefore, start taking care of yourself and your figure - you will put yourself in order and increase your confidence.
- To meet a guy, use a banal scheme - ask for help. Help with some kind of simulator or exercise diagram. Or maybe you don’t have the strength to put on, take off or move something. In general, start from the situation.
- Men are greedy for compliments - appreciate his efforts. By chance, you can also ask for some advice or talk about life on various topics. But no more than 5-10 minutes. And go away to continue studying - leave further actions to the man. After all, he is a hunter!
Meeting in the hall
- If he doesn't ask you out right away, continue to say hello and smile sweetly. Remember to periodically, but not often, ask for help.
- You can “accidentally” overhear his conversation with a friend. And, apologizing, inquire about this or that remedy, drug, or maybe about a certain exercise. After all, you really wanted to try it, but there was no one to ask for advice.
- And if you are not only a sporty and strong girl, but also brave, then simply approach her with an offer to drink a cup of tea, coffee or juice. After all, there is only one life, what else can you wait for or guess.
Elevator as a place to meet people
On the one hand, this is a romantic place for a first meeting, which will become the birth of a new love. But there is a flip side to the coin - only a beautiful and modern metal box, or even better, with glass walls, fits into the picture. If we are talking about the elevator of a multi-story building, which was renovated several centuries ago, then this is not the most fabulous option.
- So, let's remember romantic melodramas. The easiest way is to pretend that you feel bad. Faint or simply feign suffocation. You can lean against the wall, creating the illusion of dizziness. And gracefully slide down the wall onto the floor. There is nothing more touching than a girl needing a man's help.
- You can add even more drama and reality to the film - talk to the elevator operator. True, in this situation you need to know exactly down to the second when he will be in the elevator and will be alone in it! Don't forget to give the elevator operator a gift if he is not your good friend. After your call, which must be made discreetly, the elevator will stop for a while. And now you can play out the picture - “I’m afraid of confined spaces.” It's a cliche melodrama scene, but it really works.
- The second branch of events is simply an acquaintance in the elevator. After all, you will need to stand for an hour or even two. Just prepare outlines of topics for conversation in advance so as not to stand in complete silence from excitement. Or at least find out a little about his interests.
Dating in the elevator
- You can use a slightly simple, but not pretentious method - borrow a phone. Yours sat down, and there was an urgent call. At the end, start a dialogue that you are from the same house and it would be interesting to find out, by the way, which apartment the “neighbor” is from. What is the name and in a similar style. But don’t impose yourself on the young man, ask questions casually and, if the guy makes contact.
- Another slightly extreme method from movies is spilled coffee. Prepare it in advance so as not to burn the poor fellow. Apologize profusely, start wiping the stain with napkins, and offer to help with the laundry.
Method eight: pleasant communication8
There is a popular paradox among girls. They dream of finding a boyfriend, but coldly reject attempts to meet new applicants. Or they talk to them, assuming the importance of the Snow Queen. Believing that a certain detachment and coolness attracts representatives of the stronger sex, girls make a mistake. Guys are drawn to more sociable and cheerful people with whom it is easy and simple to have a conversation. But don’t stoop to the level of a simpleton. Remain a mystery. You should not enthusiastically inform a new acquaintance about personal facts of your life, childhood and plans for the future. Be a little reserved and pleasant in communication. Be interested in the life and hobbies of your new acquaintance. Know how to laugh at a good joke, and don’t forget about your charming smile. The guys are crazy about her.
Results: 5 important rules for interesting and effective correspondence
In the meantime, while you are here and not there, download into the unconscious the basic rules (without rules, nowhere) of interesting and effective correspondence.
Rule 1. The main thing is to start
The first rule of communication on a dating site is to start a conversation. We found out that the problem of what to write to a guy first does not exist. You can indicate your interest with a banal “Hello”, testing the waters to see if your partner makes contact or only likes blondes (when you are a brunette). Or go to a higher level - compliments and immersion.
Rule 2. Be meaningful
Literary talent is an advantage, but without the right stuff, a sense of language is meaningless. Men are a different audience. They don't like beautiful quotes. The important thing is not how, but what to write to a guy to interest him. Be a brilliant communicator. Here's a recipe from Lisa Kirk: "A gossip is someone who talks to you about others, a bore is someone who talks to you about himself, and a brilliant conversationalist is someone who talks to you about you."
Rule 3. Be correct
His ins and outs don't concern you yet. Hold back questions about your financial situation, the number of divorces, and a history of hemorrhoids. At this stage of dating, skeletons in the closet are not considered. You can arrange an interrogation with passion later. For example, before setting off to Mendelssohn's march into a brighter future.
Rule 4. Do not include “half”
As soon as you turn on your “other half”, who is bored, suffers and otherwise demonstrates their inferiority without him - well, it’s gone. Word forms that emphasize your inferiority against the background of its significance, forget like a bad dream (“I miss you,” “I miss you,” “You have become the meaning of my life”). And without esotericism (“Fate itself brought us together”).
Method nine: a bold act9
Moderate initiative helps the fair sex find female happiness. Use a trick to meet a cute guy. While in a cafe with a friend, go up to the “victim” and, smiling, say that you lost your bet with your friend and should ask for his phone number. The guy will be amused by this situation. He will be happy to continue acquaintance if at the moment he does not have a spouse and a couple of children waiting for him at home. If you refuse, smile politely and return to your seat. This situation, in any case, will be an interesting adventure. And if luck smiles on you, a love date awaits you tomorrow.
How to meet a guy if you're shy?
They adopted this trait and went to conquer the guys. They are delighted by a sweet smile, red cheeks and shyly drooping eyelashes. Just don't overdo it! The only thing you need is to have the courage to approach. And then proceed according to the schemes described above.
- You don't even need to talk. You can, for example, bump into a guy and drop papers with drawings or photographs. Let him compliment you and take the initiative.
- You can't even do that. Then slip a note into his jacket pocket. Or ask a passerby to pass such a letter. After all, we are usually shy in front of those who are attractive. And on that business card, include your name and phone number.
Method ten: ask for help10
A simple and easy way to talk to a guy is to ask him for help. Make up any reason. Let's say you get lost and can't find a certain street. Ask the young man to take you to the appointed point. Along the way you will have the opportunity to talk and get to know each other. Don't miss her. But if the guy is gloomy and uncommunicative, don’t insist. Perhaps he has no time for new communication. Look for another candidate.
There are other ways to ask a man for help:
- give a ride;
- push the car;
- get an item from a high store shelf;
- help carry heavy luggage;
- to take you home in the evening from an entertainment establishment;
- hold the doors.
Afterwards, be sure to thank the stranger and smile friendlyly. An interested guy will definitely respond with an offer to meet you.
How to continue flirting and communication?
It’s not enough to please a young man at first sight; you need to be able to carry on a conversation. You can check how suitable you are for each other after the first 10 minutes of meeting each other. If the conversation doesn’t flow at all, you have to force almost every word out of the guy, there are constant pauses and interruptions, this is probably not the person for you. Is it worth making an effort to stir up a man? It's up to you to decide.
What exactly should you talk about with a man? Think for yourself, since it was you who initiated the acquaintance, such is the communication rule. However, you can choose many topics for conversation. Here are just some examples.
- Talk about news, recently read books, watched movies. This way you can maintain a conversation and at the same time evaluate his intellectual level (of course, if you are interested in his erudition).
- Ask what sport he enjoys. Most men are interested in either football or hockey. Even if he turns out to be an exception, you will still learn a lot about him, and information is a weapon!
- Ask about his hobbies, maybe you have something in common. This will undoubtedly bring you even closer. Usually guys are happy to talk about their hobby, especially if it involves a certain risk - skydiving, for example. Talk about your hobbies to keep the conversation going.
Method eleven: office romance11
Turn the heat on your work colleagues. There may be an interesting bachelor among them. Take a closer look at the man and try to talk to him. There are several simple options:
- sit at one table during lunch break;
- ask for a seat on the work bus;
- ask for advice on work issues;
- complain about the lack of a companion and two extra tickets to some movie, and invite a colleague;
- Say hello every morning and briefly inquire about the employee’s affairs once in a while.
Why it’s important to write first: the benefits of initiative
Writing first on dating sites, contrary to the stereotype “the man should make the first step,” is a commercially profitable event. Firstly, there are few girls who “write first”, and the attitude towards them is appropriate - the same reverent attitude as towards rare precious metals. Secondly, you gain the opportunity to choose among EVERYONE, and not among those who wrote to you (admit it, more than 90% of those who wrote are guys of low social demand). Thirdly, this is a useful skill in every sense - to take, and not wait. Once you become skilled at dating sites, you can use them everywhere.
Method twelve: goddess of cooking12
In the film “The Most Charming and Attractive,” Susanochka taught her friend how to approach men. She really gave a lot of practical advice. One of them involved "magical cooking". Pies will help you win a man. Or another delicious dish. Get into the habit of treating your “desired object” to something tasty. Be it a colleague or a young single neighbor. If you hear compliments and enthusiastic praise addressed to you, it means you are halfway to success. Perhaps soon a man will invite you for a cup of coffee. You can take risks and take the initiative. If a guy is interested in you, he will take advantage of the invitation.
Method fourteen: posing for the camera14
Girls love to be photographed. Plus, this is an excellent way to start a conversation with a stranger. Stop your desired subject and ask him to click a couple of frames. Feel free to pose in front of the camera, smile, ask for advice on the best way. Be sure to praise the photos, thank them for their help, and ask where you can contact such a professional photographer next time?
People and setting
- Often interesting, decent-looking men meet on minibuses. It is more difficult to get to know each other in transport, since there are a lot of people around who will hear the entire dialogue. It feels like you are under the lenses of video cameras. The best option is to write a short letter to a handsome guy indicating your phone number and hand it over personally.
- If a rich person does not travel in minibuses, but travels distances on an airplane in business class, you can send him a message with a declaration of love, for example, by email. The main thing is that the letter reaches the addressee, and not his secretary.
- It’s better to meet people in restaurants, cafes, clubs and even sanatoriums, without inventing anything. When people relax, they are relaxed and open. You can approach and offer friendship.
- You should look for a fit man in the following places: a fitness club, a gym or a regular gym, a swimming pool, an ice skating rink. How to attract a guy's attention? First, you can pretend to be a beginner. Let's say, stand on skates in such a way that many young people will want to train you or at least hold you. You also need to be able to “learn.” Try to look sexy and look for opportunities for physical contact: touch the man, fall on top of him, etc.
- You shouldn't get acquainted at work, in the sense of in the office or at the machine. It’s better to wait for your colleague at the end of the day, start a conversation on a professional topic, and then gradually move on to the personal depending on the situation.
In general, you can remember enough dating stories. They all boil down to the above options. The only thing is that you need to look at the specific situation wisely, correctly choosing the most organic way to start a relationship.
