How to ask for forgiveness correctly: ready-made phrases

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There is no such thing as an ideal relationship. Whether we like it or not, sometimes we make mistakes.

The only way to restore the connection and trust between you and your loved one is to apologize for bad behavior, deception, neglect or misunderstanding

. You can do this by text message, email, card, note, over the phone, or in person.

Here are the best short apology messages to make your significant other forgive you unconditionally.

Beautiful apologies to a girl

My lies may have been the dark clouds, but your forgiveness will be the stars and the sun in our relationship. I beg your pardon.
If you don’t see the tears in my eyes, then I beg you to at least feel the pain in my heart. I am sorry. It's sad that your love so kind was spoiled by my selfish mind.
It's sad that your so selfless love had to deal with all this mess. And now, ironically, my regret and grief are seen as fake. Tell me, what do I need to do to make you believe in the sincerity of my apology? I'm ready to do it.
My dishonest mind made the mistake of lying to you. But my heart and soul are forever devoted to love only for you. Therefore, I ask for your forgiveness.
Before you forgive me, I want you to hug me and put your hand on my heart. Maybe you'll feel it tearing apart. Because my actions caused you pain. But with every blow you will hear the words “excuse me.”
I'm sorry! Let's move from anger or resentment to love and communication, if you are ready to accept my apology. (We recommend reading ways on how you can successfully manage your anger and irritation).
I am ready to apologize to you in front of all my friends and family. And even publish your apology on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Vkontakte. So that everyone knows how sorry I am for offending you.

The ability to surprise

In order to surprise your beloved, it is not at all necessary to put a sombrero on your head, learn to play the guitar and climb on a horse to perform a serenade under the windows of her house. Although this option is practically a win-win.

It is enough to do something that is absolutely not inherent in you. Surprise her by the fact that you, contrary to your principles and character, are ready to ask her for forgiveness in front of everyone. Order an apology inscription on a billboard in front of her office windows, give her an apology message on the air of her favorite radio show. Do what you were previously embarrassed to do due to your “anti-romanticism,” as you think. If you manage to surprise her, you are guaranteed to succeed in getting her forgiveness.

SMS apology to the girl for the offense caused

I'm sorry about what happened. I fully admit that this is only my fault, so I want to do everything to correct my mistake. Because I love you! And the last thing I want to see is you suffering because of me.
I have never forgotten you, but now I apologize for the harm I did to you. I want to light up your smile again where I turned it off. Allow yourself to restore your heart.
I really don't want our story to end in a misunderstanding. Therefore, I am ready to compensate for my apologies not only with words, but also to shower you with kisses. Because I love you too much to lose you.
Life is like a book, where every day is one page, clearly different from the other. Each of us has pages that he would like to tear up and throw away, but this is prohibited! Instead, we can take the pen of the heart and the power of love to begin to write a new chapter together, if you will forgive me.
I know that when you hurt the person you love most, there are hardly words that can correct this mistake. That's why I'm not going to apologize just for the words, but I want to apologize for the facts. Little everyday facts, if you give me the opportunity to apologize to you.
Forgive me for the harm I brought to your heart. I hope you will forgive me and erase from your memory the day when I offended you, even if it is marked with indelible ink. Of course, there is no excuse for my actions, but I will continue to hope for your forgiveness.
I can't forget you, it's too difficult for me. I should hate myself for the evil I did to you, but I hate even more that I don’t know how to write a beautiful apology to the girl I love in my own words. Sorry to write to you about this, but it's true. Please don't hate me, but understand!

Emotionality

The fair sex usually suffers more from disappointment, anger and other strong negative or positive emotions. Do not forget about this in order to preserve tender feelings and not cause even more pain to your loved one. Therefore, if the quarrel really no longer looks harmless and is rapidly turning into a terrible one, it is better to give the girl time and free space until she calms down. Just don’t leave her silently and with a stern look. This can only increase the conflict. Say you want to save the relationship and apologize or talk to her later.

Apologies to a guy in your own words

Are you looking for a beautiful phrase that can express your feelings? Are you thinking about apologizing to your beloved boyfriend or man, but have not yet found the right words? Below you will find examples of such apologies that you can send to your boyfriend.
Since we started dating, you've done everything I've asked of you. As a final favor, please excuse me so that I can now also begin to fulfill your requests.
I cried while I still had tears. Then she sobbed until her head began to throb. And then I screamed until my voice disappeared. I was heartbroken because you turned your back on me and we stopped talking. I am very guilty before you. Please accept my apologies.
Breaking up with you is something that never even crossed my mind. It seems you are adamantly determined to break up with me. Yes, I know that you have the right to do this after the humiliation and insults that you experienced because of my action. But please, let me make it a romantic evening for you. Let me win your heart again to show you how desperately I love you. As I cry for mercy, I ask you to forgive me.
I apologize for the angry messages on your Facebook, emails and all the text messages on your mobile phone sent by me. My jealousy and possessiveness led me into a very unpleasant area. To justify me, try to understand my feelings. What could I do if I have the most handsome guy who other ladies don’t mind taking away? I misinterpreted your behavior with them and that’s why I lost my temper. If you love me, then please forgive me and help my jealousy to end.
It really annoys me when pretty girls try to flirt with you. Since I'm your girlfriend, I can't feel at ease. But I promise that next time I will try not to lose my head and behave more restrained. I will try to learn to trust you, especially when girls will “drool” when they see you. I ask for your leniency and forgiveness.

Reasons for the scandal

In order to understand how to correctly approach the process of reconciliation with a girl after a scandal provoked by you, you should understand the reasons for the upset of your passion. Quite often, only the visible part of those claims that are brought to the fore as a catalyst for a quarrel lies on the surface. But in fact, the roots of the problem may go much deeper, and as a result, the reasons for such a reaction from the woman you love may be completely different from what they seem at first glance. You may initially not even suspect how deeply you hurt and offended her.

How to apologize to a girl if you messed up a lot? First you need to do two things:

analyze what happened, remember all the words said by the girl during the confrontation;
understand the additional hints, fragments of phrases thrown by her - they may contain a much deeper meaning with the true reasons for your lady’s grief.

Apologies to a man in your own words

To you, so kind, generous, beloved and merciful, I cry out in tears for forgiveness. You and only you can certainly forgive me. Please believe my feelings and how bitterly I regret the circumstances that happened. Darling, please excuse me.
I'm very sorry for doubting your honesty. I thought you were deceiving me. After all, for me you are hotter than fire and sweeter than honey and this is my problem. Therefore, when I see other girls hovering around you, I start to feel jealous. But now I promise to try to control my jealousy.
I long to see the smile on your face. I long to be in your arms - that’s my favorite place. I know I did completely wrong things. But please, I beg your forgiveness. Sorry if you can!
I apologize for my craziness the other day. I swear that I didn’t behave this way on purpose, my hormonal changes and mood swings were to blame. Because of them, I annoyed you in every possible way. But I promise that I will fight this because I don’t want to lose you.
Take me back into your arms, holding me tightly to you. Feel my heavy breathing with sadness for having offended you. Look into my eyes, hearing the apology, and hug me with a kiss. Forgive me my love!
I know that because of my character, I am not the girl you deserve. But I promise you that I will never stop trying to become her. Forgive me and forgive me, please. Sorry darling!
I long to rest my head on your strong shoulders again. I'm sorry and I really want you to hug me again. I'm sorry and I hope you can love me again. I'm sorry... I just hope you can make me smile again.
I look ugly when I cry and howl in pain. Now it's in your hands to forgive me and make me look beautiful again. Please, darling, I'm sorry!

Presence effect

How to apologize to a girl in an original way? You can use the tricks of avid romantics and love adventurers: create the effect of presence in her daily life. How to do it?

Over the course of a long relationship or life together, you have probably managed to learn several mandatory “rituals” for her daily pastime.

Does she like morning jogs along the embankment? Leave her some sign that can tell her that you were here today. On the coastal bench near which she does her warm-up, leave the usual box of food for the dabbling ducks, which you sometimes pamper together while jogging together. Memories of you will come flooding back to her, the girl will feel longing for the old days and will probably be touched.

Does she like to drink a cup of coffee without sugar and eat a croissant with raspberry jam during a break from work in the cafe next door to the office? At lunchtime, book her a table with a delicious duet of her favorite foods already prepared. Notify the administrator in advance. She will be pleasantly surprised that you remember her every second and skillfully try to win her back.

Create the effect of presence in her daily life. Such steps will be unobtrusive and will fit quite well into her measured rhythm, giving you the opportunity to reflect on how you are actively trying to apologize to her beautifully.

Where to begin?

Before apologizing, it is important to consider a few things. Otherwise, you can mess things up even if you have the best intentions. There is no point in sorting things out when you are irritated. Wait until you both cool down. And a few more tips:

When figuring out how to ask a girl for forgiveness, in poetry or prose, it is important to be sincere.

A hint of sarcasm is inappropriate, even if you are sure you are right. An expression like: “Sorry, I didn’t think you couldn’t take a joke” can be perceived as mockery. If you are sincere, your eyes and your tone of voice will show it. Even if the offense is not justified, acknowledge that you may have hurt feelings. A sincere apology removes the wall that is built by the offended person. Destroy this wall and you will notice that the girl is no longer in a defensive position, peace has been restored.

Different upbringings need to be taken into account.

What may seem like a funny joke to you may be an insult to someone else. There is no need to beg the feelings of another or make fun of them in any way. If it’s common practice in your family to tease each other and no one gets offended by it, this does not mean that this is the norm for others. Don't demand that people adapt to you and understand your jokes. Over time, this may happen, but for now, apologize and no longer make funny jokes about others.

The emotional background also needs to be taken into account; it is different for each person.

Growing up in the same family, the characters cannot be the same. Some are more emotional, others not so much. You think it’s okay to take your sister’s sweater without permission, but this may annoy her. The result was a scandal. You think that your sister got wound up in vain. Listen to her words, and not to the tone in which it was said. Try to understand what she doesn't like. Understanding will help you come to the right decision. And if you need to ask your sister for forgiveness, then do not hesitate. Understand that she may feel differently than you do.

Finding a solution

The final step in preparing to make amends. When the main cause of the quarrel is clear, it’s time to think about how to fix everything. Try to imagine how the girl felt and what words would help better convey the reason for what happened. The optimal solution will be one that will not allow you or your significant other to experience pain about this anymore. A real man always keeps his word - if you say that this will not happen again, you must do everything so as not to break your promise. The girl will remember your words and will love and respect you even more when the promise remains valid for a long (preferably infinite) time. Otherwise, trust in the couple will be undermined, gradually and painfully bringing separation closer.

Rules: what else is important to consider besides words of forgiveness

Look the person in the eye.
Don't hold back your emotions.
If you want to cry, cry.
Call the person by name.
Be honest and sincere.
Don't try to immediately ask for forgiveness. This may take time.
Put yourself in the shoes of the offended person, understand his feelings.
Accept the person's reaction after your words.

Developing an action plan

Having decided on the reasons for such a sharp reaction to the situation you provoked, which resulted in a scandal, develop a strategic plan of action. Tactical steps must be based on specific reasons and prerequisites for misunderstanding. The entire scheme of reconciliation measures will depend on how much you offended your loved one.

How to apologize to a girl if you messed up a lot? The first priority after finding out the specific cause of the offense is a clear and constructive understanding of how to act correctly. Don’t get too hot, don’t rush to run to her to apologize and knock on the threshold of her house, let the person cool down. Otherwise, you will only aggravate her hostile feelings towards you and, as they say, add fuel to the fire. In the meantime, work on developing a plan to achieve consensus.

Final advice

If you think that the girl was offended just like that, and you are not to blame for anything, try to analyze this situation in more detail, looking at it not only from your side.

Sometimes guys mistakenly think that girls create scandals and whims out of nowhere for the sake of... fun, because this should be a kind of shake-up for the relationship or a way to make a man more flexible.

But, by and large, guys simply see the situation one-sidedly and selfishly, without thinking that in some moments they can really go too far.

Advice

: Never jump to conclusions or make impulsive decisions. Always put yourself in a girl’s shoes - this is the surest way to understand her feelings.

By the way, we even have a special 8-point checklist that will allow you to understand how selfish you are in a relationship. Well, are you ready to find out the whole truth about yourself?

Author: Dmitry Petrosyants

What to do if all attempts are in vain

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You don't need to say pompous speeches to move her. The only reasonable solution is to wait, give her the opportunity to think about what is happening. Sometimes a temporary separation turns out to be stronger than hasty and thoughtless actions.

Send a messenger

There are only two people in a relationship, so sending a third person to apologize for you is unacceptable. Also, don't get into the habit of telling your friends about problems in your personal life. If you trust someone who is more experienced, you can ask him for advice.

The ideal way to apologize: come to visit your loved one with a large bouquet of flowers and repent. It is much more pleasant for a girl to hear an apology from a man in her own words than through memorized phrases from the Internet.

Apologies are never easy, but they are essential in a relationship. Have courage and take responsibility for your actions. Your job is to find a way to be heard.

On the need to admit guilt

A confidential conversation will help prevent the development of a conflict situation. But this is a preventive measure; now it’s too late to think about it. Don’t make hasty decisions without understanding the situation and talking openly.

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Now only constructive dialogue will help. If you offend a girl, you need to admit guilt. Mistakes are not bad, quite the contrary. Thanks to the experience gained, you will not act this way in the future.

Without admitting mistakes, you limit yourself in development. There is a 100% chance that in the future you will repeat your offense and carry the burden of an unresolved problem.