What to talk about with a guy: TOP-150 topics for conversation

A lively, active conversation is the best way to arouse interest in a man, which helps you learn more about him and open up better yourself. Alas, not all girls are endowed with the gift of speech. Sometimes you really want to talk, but you just don’t know how to interest your interlocutor. Some have difficulty making contact due to complexes and fears, while others simply lack communication skills.

The main rule of an interesting conversation is smooth maneuvering between relevant topics. Long pauses should not occur, because they cause a feeling of awkwardness in both. We offer a list of universal conversation topics that will help if you don't know what to talk about with a guy.

By correspondence on VKontakte

What to talk about with a guy by correspondence? VKontakte is the most popular social network in Russia. Almost everyone on this site has an account, and some have more than one. Most online dating happens here, and not through special services where lonely hearts gather. Do you like a man's profile, but don't know what to write to him?

Corresponding on the Internet is much easier than communicating in person. Messaging is a great platform for testing communication if you are too shy to meet men, and the best option for maintaining a long-distance relationship.

You can write about anything online. When a person does not see the face of the interlocutor, it is easier for him to open up. If a girl is not used to answering quickly, then the Internet gives her time to think about her answer, since messaging is a time-consuming process.

Here is a list of twenty questions that you can ask both guys you know and those with whom you are corresponding for the first time. They are suitable not only for communication via social networks, but also for regular conversation via SMS.

What he does or what he plans to become.
What are his favorite hobbies and interests?
What films does he prefer to watch?
What genre of music does he like and what bands does he like?
Does he like to cook? If yes, what are your favorite dishes?
What cities or countries did he visit? Where did he like it the most and why?
How does he imagine himself in ten years?
What is he dreaming about now?
What is his most vivid memory from childhood?
How does he feel about pets and did he have any favorite pets as a child?
What does he prefer: dancing in a noisy club or hiking, river rafting, picnic in nature.
Does he like books? If so, which ones?
Does he have friends? What do they like to do together?
Does he have a sister or brother? What kind of relationship do they have?
Has he served in the army or is he just planning to?
How does he feel about sports?
Does he like trips out of town?
What is most important to him in life.
If he could go to any corner of the world, where would he go?
Have there been any serious relationships in his life and does he communicate with his exes?

It is best to ask questions in the order in which they appear. Gradually, the person will open up in the conversation, so each question becomes a little more frank.

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During a telephone conversation, the girl should radiate charm, interest and gentleness. She, like a true psychologist, captures the timbre of the guy’s voice and adapts to his wave. It is important to catch the thread of the conversation and maintain it. Some rules will help you avoid making mistakes during dialogue:

I really want to blurt out everything that’s not on my mind! But that's what girlfriends are for. You need to behave differently with a guy. Let him talk more, and the young lady listens, assents, and continues to pursue the topic. The man will understand that he is interesting to his interlocutor. It is important to be able to listen.
A person always really likes to hear his name. Let the girls take note of this and do not hesitate to call their partner by name.

There is no need to jump from one topic to another. Load a man with ladies' talk that is absolutely not interesting to the stronger sex.
Long pauses, awkward silences and vague hints add a feeling of awkwardness during a telephone conversation. Such delays must be avoided.

By phone

Talking on the phone is the second stage of dating, which can be called training before real live communication. Building a dialogue with a stranger is always difficult. What can you talk to him about if you barely know each other? To avoid awkward pauses, we recommend that you try texting first. Only when messages can no longer satisfy your desire to communicate should you move on to telephone conversations.

After a banal “hello”, you can ask a couple of universal questions from the list:

How was his day today?
Has he heard about the recent event. If so, how does he feel about it?
What does he plan to do this weekend?
Which celebrity does he like best and why?
How he would act in a given situation.
Does his family have any interesting customs or traditions?
Does he plan to go on vacation this year?
What subjects at school did he like best?
Does he have childhood friends? Do they still maintain a relationship?
How does it relieve accumulated stress?
What goals has he set for himself for the next few years?
Does he have any idols? Why does he want to look up to these people?
What is his favorite time of year?
How does he feel about loneliness?
There were serious relationships in his life and how he experienced breakups.
What he dreamed about when he was a boy.
What kind of relationship does he have with his friends?
If he had more free time, what would he spend it on?
Can he swim? If yes, how did you learn it?
How often does his whole family get together for the holidays?

Live the moment

· Ask her to describe in detail everything she sees right now.
· Talk about mutual friends, find out if you have connections.
· Offer a game in which each of you takes turns adding one word until it forms a coherent sentence.
· Ask her to describe her appearance, such as eye color, face shape, hair length.
· Ask her to describe her day as if she were telling a fairy tale.
· If she had to start her life in a completely new city, where would she go and what would she do?

On a walk

Starting a conversation while walking is both easier and more difficult than communicating on the phone or through social networks. A girl may simply feel shy when she is next to a guy.

The advantages of such communication are that you can see how the interlocutor reacts to a particular question. This will allow you to quickly adapt to him and choose the right direction for the conversation.

While you are walking, you have a unique opportunity to show that you are a smart interlocutor who knows how to listen. In a short walk you can learn a lot about a guy’s past and find out his plans for the future. Don't miss this chance.

Topics to talk to a guy while walking around the city:

Does he like his chosen profession?
Where would he like to go?
Can he call himself a romantic?
What he was like as a child.
The family's negative attitude toward his choice of girlfriend may influence his opinion.
He knows how to give in in an argument.
He forgives misdeeds and quarrels or never compromises.
How he feels about women who take the initiative.
How he copes with difficulties.
I wish he could fix something in his life.
He often gets involved in conflicts.
Were there any real enemies or rivals in his life?
He believes that the ends justify the means.
What attracts him to people?
What dreams does he plan to turn into reality in the near future?
What did he spend the first money he earned on?
What does he dream of doing?
What does he mean by the word love?
Does he believe in love at first sight?
I could live with one person my whole life.

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Girls often make terrible mistakes when talking to a man on a mobile phone. Such oversights can turn a guy away from a young lady. Don't do stupid things like this:

Passing the phone to a friend, pranking a guy, speaking in a changed voice. The guy will think that his partner has not matured enough to have conversations and other relationships.
Expressing complaints and grievances is the lot of a grumpy wife with ten years of marriage. The guy didn’t call on time, forgot to wish him a happy birthday, didn’t notice the romantic message - the young lady was pouting and desperately screaming into the phone. This behavior turns men off. Capricious princesses are good in moderation.
The second option for an offended lady is to ignore the call. She won’t pick up the phone, and he will immediately guess what he was wrong about. It is not right. The guy will get excited, freak out, and eventually stop bothering the girl with his attention.

On the first date

A first date is an exciting event, because it is during a live dialogue that a person decides whether to continue communication. Relationships can end before they even begin. A first date is like walking through a minefield. Any careless phrase, vulgarity or joke can ruin the atmosphere and create awkwardness in the conversation.

It is better to start a conversation from afar, and it is better to move on to more personal topics gradually. No one will bare their soul to a stranger, so do not try to extract information from him using pincers.

Topics for conversation with a guy:

What is his relationship with his family?
What attracts him to you?
What qualities does he value in girls, and what character traits does he not like?
He often gives advice to others.
Where does he like to go on weekends?
Where was he born and how did he spend his childhood?
I would like to become a celebrity.
What brings him happiness.
Does he believe in astrology?
What does he think about love?
What talents does he have?
He had significant achievements in school.
Does he like sports?
What would he do if he found himself in a woman's body?
Where would he go if he became invisible?
Does he justify white lies?
How do you feel about people who don’t know how to lose?
Where does he dream to go on vacation?
Which country does he love most and why?
If he were offered to take up any activity he liked, what would he choose?

The last minutes before parting will tell you whether the date went well or not. If a guy without vulgarities expresses a desire to kiss you, it means he is interested in you. All that remains is to prepare topics for conversation on the second date.

First meeting

In order for the first date to go off with a bang, you should prepare not only externally, but also choose the right topics for dialogue. When you first meet, you should talk about abstract topics. This will show that you are interested in the girl as a person.

Examples of topics:

Funny stories or incidents from life. Non-boring topics always attract girls, so they feel more confident.
Professional employment. This will make it easier to find common ground and avoid getting into an awkward situation.
Personal hobbies. Everything is clear here - how to spend your personal time.
Close people. Relatives, friends, this is the world in which she lives. This topic can fill the pauses.
Future plans. Goals and aspirations are a broad topic of conversation.

Universal topics for conversation with a guy

If you really want to talk to the guy you like, but don’t know where to start, we offer a large list of universal topics that your interlocutor will definitely not get bored with:

What he loves to do in his free time.
When was the last time he was in the cinema?
What films, TV series and programs he prefers and what actors he likes.
Does he watch any podcasts?
What social networks do you prefer to communicate on?
How he gets girls interested.
He will choose a relaxing or active holiday.
Which makes him sad.
How he relaxes after severe stress.
Does he like to sing?
How often does he go to dances?
Who is his favorite author?
Which bands did he attend?
Where was his first date?
Who was his first love?
What kind of relationships did he have with his classmates?
What childhood memory would he call his worst?
What does he fear most?
If life after death is in his opinion.
Whom will he choose: a cat, a dog or his own version (ferret, hamster, dwarf dog).
Is it possible for men to cry?
Has he ever fallen in love with a friend's girlfriend?
He visited museums or art galleries.
Which historical figure would he like to talk to?
Has he ever been to karaoke?
What was the most curious situation that happened in his life?
How often does he get into adventures?
What action in his life does he consider the craziest?
How he treats children.
What would he do if he found himself on a desert island?
He would choose exact sciences or humanities.
He considers himself an owl or early bird.
What place on earth would he call paradise?
Does he have innate talent?
Does he have a terrible secret?
How often does he replay the most embarrassing moments of his life?
When was the last time he rested in nature?
Does he like games? If so, which ones?
How often does he return to the past?
Where does he see himself in the future?
What goals are on his agenda?
Has he ever flown on an airplane? If yes, what sensations did you experience during the process?
Does he have any bad habits? How he fights them.
Whom could he call an authority for himself?
He keeps some things from his childhood.
Where he had his first kiss.
How does he feel about betrayal?
If there was a time machine, what time would he go to?
What are his food preferences?
Which book/film/game universe would he go to if the opportunity arose?
Which superpower would he choose?
What actions make him proud?
What summer of his life was the happiest and why.
Which planet would he go to in search of extraterrestrial life?
What was the longest relationship in his life?
What brings him joy.
Does he consider himself a happy person? If not, what is he missing?
Does he believe in mysticism?
What genre of films does he like best?
When was the last time he walked in the park?
Which place does his warmest memories associate with?
What does he want to achieve in this life?
Does he like his job?
When he first realized that he had become an adult.
Do difficulties scare him?
What does he think about blind dates?
Has he ever woken up in a completely unfamiliar place?
Does he believe in psychic abilities?
Where would he like to spend his old age?
He would want to live forever if such a possibility existed.

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Fishing is a great hobby. In ancient times, primitive men fed themselves by hunting animals and sea creatures. Currently, fishing is considered a sport or recreational activity. Men gather in company, make fires, set up tents, and arrange fishing gear. When talking about a guy’s hobbies, you can ask the following questions:

How often do you go fishing?
Where are the hot spots?
What's the biggest catch you've made?

In the end, you can reveal a desire to accompany your sweetheart on your next fishing trip.

What you can't talk about

During a conversation, you should try to avoid sensitive topics. When a person does not want to talk about something, there is no need to force him, although sometimes the temptation to find out some secret pushes a girl to take wrong actions. The guy will open up as you get closer. You also can’t put pressure on your interlocutor.

Try to avoid discussing political and religious views, financial issues. If your opinions differ, this may lead to an argument or conflict. You won't want to talk anymore.

Try to avoid direct questions. If a guy says he knows English, don't force him to immediately translate your favorite band's latest hit.

Events of the day

A neutral topic of conversation is to discuss how your day was. Surely, you will be able to tell each other a lot of interesting things:

Did you have a good day at work?
What made you smile today?
How do you like the weather today?
Are you still full of energy or are you waiting for the weekend to come?
Did your boss praise your project?
What's your mood today?
What did you do at work during your lunch break?
How are you planning to spend the evening?
Are you very tired from your work/study?
What are your plans for tomorrow?

Psychologist's advice

When communication is just starting, follow the simple advice of psychologists:

Try to talk freely, because feeling constrained interferes with open dialogue.
Let's talk to the guy, but don't forget to talk about yourself.
Lighten the mood with jokes.
Don't get distracted while talking.
Try to understand your interlocutor.
Be attentive to his words.
During your interlocutor's monologues, gently interrupt him with insignificant phrases so that he understands that he is being listened to.
Don't try to give advice unless asked.
Learn to put an end to the conversation. Endless conversations are exhausting. Such communication does not bring pleasure.

Now you have 150 topics in stock that you can talk about with a guy by correspondence, by phone or live. It is not necessary to use all the points. Select only those that you think will be most interesting to your interlocutor. Don't forget about yourself. When a girl always takes the initiative and goes out of her way to liven up communication, but does not feel any return, it is better not to waste your time on this guy. The situation here is the same as with a serious relationship - both must give their all.

The right atmosphere

A successful telephone dialogue begins from the first minute. It is advisable that partners agree on a call in advance. Then no one will be busy or rushing about business. You should not call your boyfriend very late or too early, or distract him while working or studying. If you can’t wait to hear your sweetheart’s voice, then a message is sent in advance about an offer to talk. When making a phone call, it is important to remember the following:

Do not chew or yawn during a conversation.
You should not conduct a dialogue in a sleepy, tired voice. It is better to agree with the guy for another time.
It is tedious to overuse words, complain about health, loneliness, unhappy fate and disgusting neighbors, it is strictly prohibited! The guy will decide that “next to him” is a boring, lonely, unhappy and grumpy person with a suitcase of illnesses. He is not a housing office employee to listen to complaints.

What to do if you run out of topics?

If you run out of topics to talk about, it’s easy to revive the dialogue. Just use your imagination. How to do it?

Look around. The world around us can present a lot of new topics for discussion.
Talk to him about his hobbies. A passionate person can talk about this almost endlessly.
Ask him to talk about his family (about relationships with parents, about brothers or sisters, about family traditions).
Share your childhood memories with each other.
Think together about unusual, mystical phenomena in life.

It might be useful: the ABCs of communication on dating sites.

Food

If you are looking for a topic for a light and casual conversation, then start a conversation about food. In this vein we can discuss:

What's your favorite dish?
Do you eat at home more often or in a cafe?
What dish would you never eat?
Do you cook well?
Do you think a girl must know how to cook?
Do you prefer simple food or gourmet dishes?
Does your family have a tradition of preparing certain dishes for any holiday?
What cafe would you recommend me to go to?
Which nationality's cuisine do you find more attractive?
What's your favorite thing to eat for breakfast?

Original ways to meet a guy HERE.

Topics that should not be discussed

At the initial stage of dating, when you are just taking a closer look at each other, you should avoid topics that are too personal, uncomfortable and slippery.

Past relationships

Don't ask a guy about his former passions and try not to talk about yours. One careless word and you can seriously ruin your impression of yourself. If your chosen one has pinned you to the wall with his curiosity, say that you met all your exes out of love, they were all good people, but your paths diverged. When asked about the quantity, remain embarrassedly silent.

Diseases

Do not talk about your illnesses - past and present, let it remain a medical secret. Thoughts about your stomach ulcer can completely kill all attraction to you.

Financial difficulties

Guys shy away from mercantile and greedy girls like fire. As soon as you mention a lack of money, they will immediately regard it as a hint. Therefore, keep quiet about mortgages and car loans. And don’t ask him – it’s tactless.

Achievements and victories

It’s always nice to talk about personal achievements, victories and successes. In addition, conversations on this topic will allow you to get to know the guy better:

Have you managed to become the best in your educational or professional activities?
Do you have any cups or medals for participating in sports competitions?
What grade did you get for your thesis/course project?
Did it take you a long time to get to your position?
Do you want to continue growing your career?
Could you speak in front of a large audience of people?
Have you taken part in any creative competitions?
Could you organize the event yourself?
Is it important to you to be the best at work?
Have you achieved everything you dreamed of?

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